Something to Talk About: Causes of a Sexless Marriage

[Jacaylbaro]

When you are living with a person for a long period of time, repetitiveness and boredom set in. This could be one reason why sex starts happening once a week, then once a month, and then once every quarter.

 

For some couples, sex dies with the birth of children. Some women experience sensory overload because of the demands of their little ones. Hormones have a role to play in it too. Or it could be that at the end of the day she is too tired to think of sex. Unfortunately, problems become real when her emotional and physical lethargy continues even after the children have grown up some.

 

Many couples say that the root cause of their sexless marriage is the lack of time. You are both working and you come home dead beat. You do lots of things together, but sex is not one of them.

 

Sometimes, it is easy to take sex and your partner for granted when you can have both on demand! In fact, many couples complain that their super-steamy sex cooled off after marriage.

 

Residual resentment, ego clashes, misunderstandings and extramarital relationships may also lead to the lack of intimacy in marriage.

 

In a nutshell, sexless marriages just do not happen overnight. There is often a root cause that keeps rubbing at your insides for a long time until it leads to the breakdown of intimacy. So, it is wrong to believe that the lack of sex is the cause of marital breakdown. In fact, lack of sex is just a symptom of deeper, unresolved problems from the past.

[Jacaylbaro]

I found this article on the net and find it very interesting topic to discuss among us Somalis. Yes it is kinda tapoo to talk about such issue but one will face it in the real life sooner or later.

 

What is your take in ??

[LayZie G.]

^problem in the bedroom ya j-baro?

 

This thread reminded me about this couple that came to a show called the "view" not long ago. Husband and wife have written a book about their intimacy and I am not sure what the exact title of their book was. It went something like 365days of intimacy/s*x or something.

 

The co-author, the wife decided to award her hubby an entire year of s . e. x on his 40th birthday. It wasn't just intercourse she promised, but real intimacy.(u can buy their book to find out the real results)

 

My advise to you is, try not to think about what your partner is not giving you, but do your best to find intimacy with your partner.

[rudy-Diiriye]

bs if i aint getting none...what the hell am i doing there... time to hit the road and find some action...!! i gotta rock.

[Jacaylbaro]

LayZie G, it is not about me but this is the problem of most of our Somali families. As it is taboo to talk it causes problems and more problems by the day.