Rahima Posted July 6, 2002 ~ Character of a Muslimah - NO GOSSIP - guards her tongue ~ The alert Muslim woman does not allow herself to be drawn into gossip or to attend gatherings where gossip takes place. She restrains her tongue and refrains from gossiping in general, and avoids backbiting about her friends and sisters in particular. She regards it as her duty to prevent gatherings from sinking to the level of cheap gossip, because gossip is clearly haram according to the words of the Qur'an: ( . . . Nor speak ill of each other behind their back. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay, you would abhor it. But fear Allah, for Allah is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful.) (Qur'an 49:12) The Muslim woman always refrains from indulging in any talk that could lead to gossip. From her understanding of Islam, she knows that it is the tongue that may lead its owner to Hell, as stated in the hadith in which the Prophet (PBUH) warned Mu`adh ibn Jabal. He took hold of his tongue and said, "Restrain this." Mu`adh said, "O Messenger of Allah, will we be held responsible for what we say?" The Prophet (PBUH) said: "May your mother be bereft of you! Is there anything that causes people to be thrown into Hell on their faces (or he said: on their noses) but the harvest of their tongues?" (A sahih hasan hadith narrated by Ibn Majah, 2/1315, Kitab al-fitan.) Gossip is an evil characteristic, which does not befit the Muslim woman who has been guided by Islam. Such a woman refuses to be two-faced, hypocritical or fickle, gossiping about her friends and sisters in their absence, then when she meets them, she smiles warmly and makes a display of friendship. She knows that such fickleness is haram according to Islam, which is based on straightforwardness, honesty and frankness. Such good qualities come naturally to believing men and women, for Islam has made them despise inconsistency, fickleness and hypocrisy. These characteristics are regarded as so loathsome by Islam that the one who possesses them is described as being two-faced, and those who are two-faced, men and women alike, are among the worst of people in the sight of Allah (SWT), as the Prophet (PBUH) said: "You will find among the worst people in the sight of Allah (SWT) on the Day of Judgement, the one who is two-faced, who approaches some people in one way and some in another." (Fath al-Bari, 10/474, Kitab al-adab, bab ma qila fi dhi'l-wajhayn; Sahih Muslim, 16/157, Kitab al-birr wa'l-silah wa'l-adab, bab dhamm dhi'l-wajhayn.) The true Muslim woman is straightforward and consistent, never two-faced. She is always bright and cheerful, and treats all people in the same, noble, manner. She never forgets that the woman who is two-faced is a hypocrite: Islam and hypocrisy do not go together, and the woman who is a hypocrite will be in the lowest level of Hell. Taken from: The IDEAL MUSLIMAH The True Islamic Personality of the Muslim Woman as Defined in the Qur'an and Sunnah Dr. Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi Translated by Nasiruddin Al-Khattab Published by International Islamic Publishing House Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Buubto Posted July 6, 2002 Rahiima_as_Somali thanx sis for remainding us that Gossop is the enemy to our success to Janna. Subhana Laah half of the time we just talk little do we know we r eating our brothers meat. May Allah all direct us to the right path & all the muslims (Amin). Alahuma najeynaa mina naar yaa rab. Thanx again is really good to remaind ourselves may Allah reward u (Amin). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MaandeeQ Posted July 6, 2002 Rahima_as-somali Sis, Jazaakulaahu Kheyrun 4 the reminder. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
_xamdiya_ Posted July 7, 2002 jazzakalahu khayran sis rahimah that was a very good reminder like our sisters siad already, may allah reword u for ur effort as always. thanx again sis wasalaam Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites