Man never marries a premarital sex partner

[Ibtisam]

YOUR price :rolleyes: So how much or what is the max value of a women, :rolleyes:

[Che -Guevara]

You gurls should talke this as a tip, that a man will degrade you after that, that your price will drop down, that you will not be considered wify material.

Why?

 

Doesn't that reflect on you. And why would I wanna sleep with someone that would badmouth later. Your thinking is flawed. Maybe it is just me, but who I choose to sleep with and whatever I say about them after the deed is done says alot about me too.

 

Maybe you are just talking to boys, not so much about men.

[NGONGE]

that your price will drop down, that you will not be considered wify material.

Heh. Will people be saying: Don't marry heblaayo she slept with blue-hefner! Could you believe she'd stoop so low? If you marry her, revise the dowry to reflect her low standards.

 

ps

I think Che is fishing in murky waters.

[Xalimopatra]

"You gurls should talke this as a tip, that a man will degrade you after that, that your price will drop down, that you will not be considered wify material"

 

 

Miskiin...

Who cares about niman.I'm saving myself because of my religion.Do you honestly think most girls care about what men think?We save ourselves because that is what Allah SWT expects of us.Either you do what's right for you and you keep your legs closed before wedlock(male and female) and if you dont then there's bigger fish to fry aka Dealing with Allah SWT on judgement day for crying out loud!To me that is a much more bigger deterrent then what hebel thinks of me.

 

People seriously need to refer back to the religion when it comes to topics like this.Wasakhnimada iska dhaafa walaalyaal and keep your mouths and legs closed for your own dignity PLEASE!

This topic is and embarassment to all those that fear Allah SWT and not man and his mouth....

[Che -Guevara]

NGONGE...Soo taan isla qaraaban jirna before you got hitched....murky water kulaaa. waad ku dhexdaalin jirtay naga qaleey duqa.

 

 

P.S I think this Hefner character just wants to brag about sexual escapade, why else have the nick Hefner..lool

[blue_hefner]

lol, Che-Guev, I wasn't talking about boy in this thread, if you want one that I talked about them go and check "Ladies do not demand more if he's soft"

I am not here to critisize women or disrespect anyone as I have mother, sister, and someone I love, but it's just an opinion based thread. We all have the right to decide our own way, and this is my way. It ain't even like a cheat or hide my secrets. And I dont think it's a problem if I tell someone that I will never marry you if that kinda Dambi (zin) occurs. I'm awere it's dambi, but lets put that aside as Allah is the one to judge. But somalinimo, or u personally was my concern.

[blue_hefner]

Ibtisam, I know you would prefer a Zero Mileage car, rather than the used one, eventhough you're the one that put on all that mileage. It's not fair but comone pple are selfish and care themselves first.

So the price is different as you see.

[blue_hefner]

xalimo, Diinta afkaga maa nooga bixinee,

Listen sis, I know we stay away from dambi for the fear of Allah. But the percentage of pple that do not commit zina are only those Allah fearing, is that what you telling me? come on, lets be real. A lot of pple stay away from it because they don't want to mess with their dignity or sharaf among somalis, and there're so many other reasons not to. That's why Allah awarded those young pple who says NO to zina when they could do for the fear of Allah to be of the 7 pple that will see no sun in the judgement day.

I respect your Taqwa that you wouldn't do it because of Allah but not for pple, but this is to all the pple. and I am sure there's a high percentage of pple save themselves from it for other reasons.

[blue_hefner]

Originally posted by Xalimopatra:

People seriously need to refer back to the religion when it comes to topics like this.Wasakhnimada iska dhaafa walaalyaal and keep your mouths and legs closed for your own dignity PLEASE!

This topic is and embarassment to all those that fear Allah SWT and not man and his mouth....

You need to respect pple as you wish to be respected. What makes this wasakhnimo, while your topic "Suuush" you mentioned if you would ask your married person his past sexual experience. Hypocracy is not appreciated and don't force pple to think the same as you. We all should know our limits. You may disagree with me any idea I bring, but you have no right to label pple Wasakh.

[ScarFace]

Originally posted by blue_hefner:

In Islam it's even ok to see the girl's face and hair if she's your choice to marry.

^^ your not thinkin str8 Its ok to see the girl you want to marry if her parents are there in the same room with you. otherwise you cant talk,socialise or even gaze upon a woman. The only time you can talk to her or even look at her is if her parent are there. She has to covered up all the time hw did you get the notion that you can see her hair"!!!? Please elaborate

[Xalimopatra]

My topic was about the partner you choose to marry and any sexual health related issues that they hide that may harm you in the future.I am talking about someone you are married to or who has asked for your hand in marriage and the all parties are of knowledge into what is happening not some morally bankrupt depiction of 'Girlfriend/Boyfriend' what if we sleep together,what if we dont?balaayo.

 

Am I ranting on this board proclaiming that I would not marry a guy I had sexual intercourse with?Walaal if snything you're the one who seems to be a hypocrite to say you will fornicate with someone and would not marry them.Miyaad ka ficantahay qofka?...Ha this is hilarious.

 

Try and compare this post to mine...I dare you no I beg of you to raise the similarities in our efforts.

 

Waasalaam

My post....

"How far do you think your partner(Husband or future husband)owes you in terms of sharing his past?Do you believe that there is a certain limit when it comes to telling your husband/wife anything from your past?

 

I'm reading Essence magazine and there's a section that is talking about only 78% of males tell their partners any secrets or things they have done in the past.

 

Ok since this is a predominantly Muslim Soomaali forum let me turn it out and change it a little.

 

How far do you think your partner(Husband or future husband)owes you in terms of sharing his past?

Ok now in terms of factors it can be financially,sexually,emotionally,socially ect.

 

I'm mostly intrigued by sexual health/past since the fact that the Aids epidemic is spreading and is no joke.Although it is mostly a taboo topic within our community would you ask your future hubby(or for those already married)have you asked about his sexual health/past?Or for him to be tested?

 

I believe that our weapon is knowledge,in many cases what you dont know CAN and WILL hurt you at some point!

 

What do you think ladies?

[Xalimopatra]

P.s those that do drop off the path and do fornicate are 'weak'.If you 'try' and I say that oh so subtly to remember Allah SWT and our purpose in this life then I'm sure you wont end up in a half baked thing you like to call a relationship with my 'girlfriend/boyfriend'.

 

It's not the impossible to maintain your virginity so please do not try to play the sympathy card.

[blue_hefner]

Walaal if snything you're the one who seems to be a hypocrite to say you will fornicate with someone and would not marry them.Miyaad ka ficantahay qofka?...Ha this is hilarious.

 

Where in my writing, did I mention to fornicate with someone? For God's sake it's hypothetical question. Most of you are answering another question. I am not asking it's dambi or not. It's clearly dambi, you don't need to repeat i again and again. It's question to the guys. Adiga afaarahaas ka bax hadee su'aasha ku quseyn. I am now going to think pple in that category are very concerned.

Relax, I never even thought about doing that with my gf, and I told her that's not good to happen, what is the hypocracy your talking about. I ain' hiding nothing.

[juba]

^^ preach it girl (xaalimopatra)....seriously i was shocked at the audacity of this guy....u do her then u ditch her?? sick

[Xalimopatra]

"To start with me, I wouldnt talk about marriage with someone I had sex with..."

 

And that's not a blatant act of hypocrisy?

 

Riiiight.

 

In closing I'm just gonna say this...either your powers of analysis are weak or you just dont know when to admit you're wrong.

 

 

But I think you're mad 'cause I'm right and you're wrong.

 

Miskiin....

 

I'm done with this thread and with that said.....

I'm out of here folks,Have a good sabti iyo axaad people!

Waa salaam!