roobleh Posted April 27, 2007 How to Kiss: Six Steps to Perfect Kiss By Dr. Lovemore 1. Getting Cleared for Takeoff Key Elements: Eye Contact, Facial Expression It’s always best to avoid the ‘ambush’ kiss (although these can be exciting as your relationship progresses). By looking into your partner’s eyes, you will be not only sending the message that you like them and want to be closer to them, but you will be receiving messages as well. A warm, kind smile (even a slight smile is good, it doesn’t have to be BIG) is what you want to see and what you want your partner to see to get the green light. Just as important as the look on his/her face is where he or she is looking. 2. Final Instrument Check Key Elements: Closeness, Alignment, Physical Touch As you move closer to that magical kiss, you don’t want to be leaning forward awkwardly to get there. Not only will moving closer send signals to your partner, but you want your body to be in a comfortable position during the kiss, so you can enjoy every moment of it. You may want to actually touch the person just before the kiss. While a hand lightly on the face is a definite signal of intimacy, even holding hands combined with eye contact and a warm look can get your ‘flight’ confirmed. Just like taxiing onto the runway, you want to make sure you are aligned correctly at this point. 3. Down the Runway (Also known as the point of no return) Key Elements: Relaxed lips, Closed eyes - prepare for your feet to leave the ground! You won’t need the speed of a 747 to get off the ground. Move in slowly, so that you don’t end up embarrassingly banging heads, or lips. During step number two you made sure the two of you were aligned correctly, and now you can close your eyes as you’re just about to make contact. Your lips should be relaxed, not tightly pressed together. You want your partner to have the pleasant experience of feeling your lips softly against theirs, no matter whether you’re a guy or a girl. A First kiss isn’t a time for a guy to prove his strength, or machismo. Your lips should be recently moistened, but not wet. 4. Gaining Momentum Key Elements: Relaxed lips, Head tilt, Breathing As you are moving in, you can part your lips slightly just before contact. Keep your lips relaxed, tension-free jaw, the tongue in the hangar. Remember to keep the head tilted so both of you can still breathe comfortably (through your noses) on contact and as the perfect kiss is held. Prepare to savor every moment ... slowly, gently, easily... 5. We Have Liftoff! Key Elements: A Soft Touch and Gradual Adjustments Now you have first contact. For a first kiss, keep it sweet. Not too long and not wet. Be sure not to pull away too quickly or make any sudden movements. Savor. Savor. Savor. Often, people describe that first kiss in a relationship as falling into a slow motion movie. Enjoy the moment! It’s not critical here whether your upper and lower lip are aligned with theirs, you can be slightly above or below, and in future kisses, you’ll be able to experiment with different ‘flying’ styles! Mmmmmmm. PERFECT. 6. Cruising Altitude! Key Elements: Don’t rush things, Eye contact, Nonverbal messages (and verbal, too) As the Perfect Kiss ends, pull away slowly and make eye contact once again. That satisfied, warm smile will send all sorts of positive signals to your kissing partner. At this point, both of you could be feeling a little ‘light headed,’ rather than airsick. Enjoy the closeness, relax, and you can even finish the kiss with a warm embrace. “Houston, we have a problem" (uh oh) There are many ways that first kiss can go terribly wrong, but most are easily avoided. BEWARE: A. Moving too quickly Be careful not to startle the kissee - watch and wait for the signal to proceed If you aren't sensitive in your kissing, how empathetic and caring can you be about the rest of the realtionship... B. Wet, sloshy, squishy, fishy If you or the kissee need to wipe your lips, or chin, dry after the kiss - well, it wasn't 'perfect' was it? C. Smash-mouth smothering kiss of death Avoid the over-passionate, insensitive kiss that leaves the kissee gasping for air. D. Chapped, Cactus Lips There’s a delicate balance to lip moisture equation. The last thing you want to do is drool on your partner, but you definitely don't want to leave scars with crispy, chafed lips. E. Too much Tongue and Too Much, Too Soon Keep that tongue tucked away until you get the right signals, then apply with caution - later E. Dragon Breath A mint or two, breath saver, gum, spray - anything to get rid of gunk-mouth. F. Weak, Wobbly or Wooden Passionless Pecks The swoop in and bounce out kiss is simply meaningless - unless you want to impart a "let's just sort-of be friends" type of message. G. Smacking, Clacking Loud Kisses The old "clack and smack" kills romance in a flash. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JUSTICE Posted April 27, 2007 Why would you read such a book, and do we need these steps for kissing ?? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zafir Posted April 27, 2007 Kudos, Roobleh. One must be knowledgeable in the art of kissing. Since, kissing is what gives meaning to intimacy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted April 27, 2007 ^^^^^Knowledge is gained through experience Zaf. These books are useless. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roobleh Posted April 27, 2007 zafir, I agree with you 100%. I can't imagine love without kissing! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms DD Posted April 27, 2007 Quite unsettling for blokes to chat about the 'perfect kiss'. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roobleh Posted April 27, 2007 Why would you read such a book, and do we need these steps for kissing ?? justice, I am afraid we need to perfect the art of kissing, since kissing is needed to have a healthy relationship. So, we need to learn more from the experts before we bleed each other from mouth to mouth crushes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roobleh Posted April 27, 2007 eddo cambaro, do not feel left out, you can even kiss with or without the artificial teeth. But, you need to follow the kissing guideline. Just kidding! ps. sorry I lost it, but I still like you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JUSTICE Posted April 27, 2007 What is gona be next then... the art of what????? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Urban Posted April 27, 2007 ..why do you need to be at an airport runway to kiss? :confused: and if Zafir is right about the next episode *'doin it'*.. is it gonna be on rail tracks..? with tunnels and all.. :eek: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted April 27, 2007 Roobleh...do you need manual for everything? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JUSTICE Posted April 27, 2007 ^^^tell him please Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pujah Posted April 27, 2007 Practice makes perfection people, now go on...practice on your palms while I practice on Che- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
