Umm al_khair Posted July 28, 2005 Why She Won’t Wear Hijab! a discussion by A.Q. Alidost “I’m so tired†“Tired of what?†“Of all these people judging me.†“Who judged you?†“Like that woman, every time I sit with her, she tells me to wear hijab.†“Oh, hijab and music! The mother of all topics!†“Yeah! I listen to music without hijab…haha!†“Maybe she was just giving you advice.†“I don’t need her advice. I know my religion. Can‘t she mind her own business?†“Maybe you misunderstood. She was just being nice.†“Keeping out of my business, that would be nice...†“But it’s her duty to encourage you do to good.†“Trust me. That was no encouragement. And what do you mean ‘good‘ ?†“Well, wearing hijab, that would be a good thing to do.†“Says who?†“It’s in the Qur’an, isn’t it?†“Yes. She did quote me something.†“She said Surah Nur, and other places of the Qur’an.†“Yes, but it’s not a big sin anyway. Helping people and praying is more important.†“True. But big things start with small things.†“That’s a good point, but what you wear is not important. What’s important is to have a good healthy heart.†“What you wear is not important?†“That’s what I said.†“Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?†“What do you mean?†“You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting.†“So?†“So, your appearance IS important.†“No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion.†“If it’s not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Holy Qur’an?†“You know I can’t follow all that’s in Qur’an.†“You mean God tells you something to do, you disobey and then it’s OK?†“Yes. God is forgiving.†“God is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes.†“Says who?†“Says the same book that tells you to cover.†“But I don’t like hijab, it limits my freedom.†“But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?! What‘s your definition of freedom anyway?†“Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do.†“No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do.†“Look! I’ve seen so many people who don’t wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear hijab and are bad people.†“So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all be alcoholics? You made a ****** point.†“I don’t want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I’m OK the way I am without hijab.†“Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying God.†“You don’t get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!†“So all these people with hijab never get married?!†“Okay! What if I get married and my husband doesn’t like it? And wants me to remove it?†“What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!†“That’s irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime.†“Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?†“But then who would hire me?†“A company that respects people for who they are.†“Not after 9-11†“Yes. After 9-11. Don’t you know about Hanan who just got into med school? And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore a white hijab…ummm…“ “Yasmeen?†“Yes. Yasmeen. She just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE.†“Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?†“Why do you reduce womanhood to high heals and lipstick colors?†“You didn’t answer my question.†“In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying God in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood. But your short sleeves, tight pants…†“That’s called ‘fashion‘, you live in a cave or something? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control women.†“Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab.†“Yes. That’s what it is.†“What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?†“Well, that’s different.†“What difference? The woman who asked you to wear hijab…she was a woman, right?†“Right, but…†“But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations, set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!†“Wait, let me finish, I was saying…†“Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?†“Yes.†“Specifically how?†“By telling women how and what to wear, dummy!†“Doesn’t TV, magazines and movies tell you what to wear, and how to be ‘attractive’?†“Of course, it’s fashion.†“Isn’t that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?†Silence “Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market.†“What do you mean?†“I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products.†“I don’t get it. What does hijab have to do with products.†“It has everything to do with that. Don’t you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men…and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks.†“Like I don’t have to buy hijab? Isn’t hijab a product?†“Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumerism.†“Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB! It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this society ... Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!†“Fine. Say that to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day.†“Fine.†“Fine.†Silence “Shut up and I don’t want to hear more about hijab niqab schmijab Punjab !†Silence. She stared at the mirror, tired of arguing with herself all this time. Successful enough, she managed to shut the voices in her head, with her own opinions triumphant in victory on the matter, and a final modern decision accepted by the society, rejected by the Faith: Yes to curls on the hair, no to hijab. “And he(/she) is indeed a failure who corrupts it [the soul]!†Holy Qur’an, 91/10 Subhana'Allah!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Warrior of Light Posted July 28, 2005 That was a battle, sorry to see she lost to her Nafs. May Allah save Muslims n keep them on His path And enlighten the ignorant ones. Amin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Baashi Posted July 28, 2005 ^Right on the money. Is it me or there are other creative ways to get across the Message than to be combative and be imposing the Message on the target audience. Read this and Bingo the "caariyad" is challenged and reasoned with at the same time. Many thanks Ukhti, I will save this convo for my lil daughter. She will be needing a refined, creative subliminal literature that brings the point home without being combative, dismissive, or preachy. This line of dacwa appeals to me. I enjoyed reading it... Right on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miriam1 Posted July 29, 2005 Amazing read. Exactly the conflict I had with myself and some members of my family with the hijab. I like the Format, it better relates to young people then a a long essay. I will email out to my sisters and cousins. many thanks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Foxy Posted August 4, 2005 Too long to read..... cheers Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lol Posted August 4, 2005 ^^^^ Ur thread of wat to wear and how to match your body shape with the jeans was longer missy Ukhti Subhanna Allah. May Allah show us all the right path. I have defied Hijab for the longest, Alhamdulilaah, Allah has finally shone the light for me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny B Posted August 4, 2005 Two things that are bad about Hijab!! 1: Since it is about the body of a girl/woman, hiding it implies a conviction against boyz/men. it says .. you animal thing , if you see this you´ll want it so bad you may treat me bad . A crime men used to commit in the Hunter/Collector ages. 2:In today´s modern Islam ,The arabic culture and the religion Islam are seperated . Hijab breaks with that seperation. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-Serenity- Posted August 4, 2005 Johnny on Hijab.... Whats the world coming to? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jacpher Posted August 4, 2005 Two things that are bad about Hijab!! Subxaanalaah! Saaxiib Xijaab iyo bad isku meel ma galaanee see camal? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Castro Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by Ducaqabe: quote: Two things that are bad about Hijab!! Subxaanalaah! Saaxiib Xijaab iyo bad isku meel ma galaanee see camal? See camal? Ducaqabe, if xijaab is so good, why don't you wear it? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jacpher Posted August 5, 2005 Fidel, are you pulling my leg? My nick is Ducaqabe not Ducaqabto. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Foxy Posted August 5, 2005 Hibo.....I didnt compare it to see which one of them was longer than the other...good to know some1 is doing the math there.... Good old jeans Goes along way cheers Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Castro Posted August 6, 2005 Originally posted by Foxy-brown: here.... Good old jeans Goes along way Yeah, jeans are HOT! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Endeavour Posted August 7, 2005 Without the hijab i am nobody. Alhamdulilaah my faith comes fist to me and wearing the hijab shows my obedience and submission to my Lord my creator. The hijab for me is an honour and a protection a symbol of true freedom from the hands and eyes of aggressors and molesters. In all truth the hijab perserves the purity of me as a young lady. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miriam1 Posted August 8, 2005 ^ Here Here ! Ps..what is up! with all the strange comments.. talk on how good Jeans are (we all know that they are lovely..and even better with a nice long decent SHIRT :cool: ) ..and if the hijab is good? that one deserves a huge HUH?? :confused: heh goodnight.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
