Som@li Posted January 14, 2004 BEING TWENTY - SOMETHING They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realising that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realising that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognise is that they are realising that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realising that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realise that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realise that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realise is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends...maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy. "To repeat what others have said requires education; to challenge it requires brains." by-Mary Pettibone Poole . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
N.O.R.F Posted January 14, 2004 BEING TWENTY - SOMETHING ,,,,,,crisis??? i wud like to think of it as grown, life starts to look alot clearer after the clouds of uncertainty and insecurity have cleared. You start realising that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met May i add, that new freinds made are often ppl who are rightious, therefore u appreciate them more. Even though u dont see them as often as previous 'freinds'. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! right now i'm broke! :rolleyes: Send this to your twenty-something friends...maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion. looool, they will prob take it the wrong way neway! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
7_steps_2_Heaven Posted January 14, 2004 xiddig....r u talking about me man? the 1-night-stand thing NUH-HUH that is sooo NOT ME Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkerman Posted January 14, 2004 Mid-20's life crisis. That it does seem like a lot of times with the air of uncertainity constantly hovering over ones head It is changing times, and the uncertainity that accompanies it, that brings some harsh realitys to the surfaces. You do indeed find yourself constantly re-evaluting your position in life from day to day, jumping from Euphorea to Near clinical Depression. It is in times like these that paitence alone is not enough. The seige mentality that develops from the many dilema and choices that circle around our thoughts drive one insane, and to that end am thankfully to Allah that i have my Friends and Family. maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion. Nice piece xiddig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Macalin Posted January 14, 2004 This is defintly from a whiteboys perception. In the true spirit of Geeljirenism....this age is when u have ur own herd of camels and a family and 3kids(having married@16!.lol) @wakuu kaa dee Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SomeAlien Posted January 14, 2004 i was with you up until this point, Originally posted by Xiddig: BEING TWENTY - SOMETHING One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wind talker Posted January 14, 2004 ^^^ Funny, that's the ONLY PART I actually related to. The rest is garbage. Makes being TWENTY-SOMETHING sound so grim. One more thing: Middle Finger in the air 2 all fake a$$ friends! Peace. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dhagax-Tuur Posted January 14, 2004 Asalaama calaykum I dont think that 20 something old muslim/ah who practices Islam would face these so-called dilemmas. All the stuff you mentioned, plus the search for happiness typifies absolute Kuffaar or Kuffaar imitator. If we keep one thing in mind, which is that we have been created for the worship of Allah alone and everything else comes second, you shouldn't be in a dilemma. But, I guess since most of us aren't proper muslims we are in the same circle as the Kuffaars...Subxaanah. P.S. Lakkad, you got it! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Reality Check Posted January 14, 2004 Being 20-something is really not that bad. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SomeAlien Posted January 14, 2004 ^^^ geel-jire, judging by youre response im guessing youre someone who is completely settled, or is pretty much on his way, not that what you said wasnt completely correct but... i dont know how to explain it, i just recently turned 20 and it feels like im in this endless limbo of adolescense and adulthood. environment plays a part, obviously cause i guess if i were in somalia id kind of be thrust into adulthood (raising a family) but i dont think lack of faith does, otherwise we'd all be seriously contemplating suicide instead of trying to fix our situations. also an even larger worry i have is how or who is gonna take care of my parents and when can they successfully "retire". it hurts to be taken care of when at this stage it should be the other way around. i know this life is only temporary, getting as many rewards as possible is the goal but im worried how its gonna end. im worried that i may cause more struggling than is necessary, i may struggle and may not have the strength...i cant NOT worry. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Som@li Posted January 14, 2004 Asalamu Alaykum. thanx u all. i guess being 20+, we all relate to atleast one or two of those crises. Geel-jire, i am pretty sure u face one of these unless u are not from this world.Even our religion told us certain problems people face at this age. i recieved this piece from a friend and wanted to share with u all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gediid Posted January 14, 2004 Dude thats so true of a 20 something white kid growing up in suburbia but definately not for an average Xalimo or Farax living off food stamps, low income home and a several cab drivers in the family............ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iffah Posted January 14, 2004 Lakad, waa runtaa. But I'm sure you can relate to one or two things of what's listed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gediid Posted January 14, 2004 Originally posted by ILHAAM: Lakad, waa runtaa. But I'm sure you can relate to one or two things of what's listed. LOOOOOL Ilaham Lakkad baanad aqoon u laheyn.....How can one relate to an article about 20 something kids when 20 something years ago waxbuu rimin kari lahaa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Macalin Posted January 14, 2004 Originally posted by ILHAAM: Lakad, waa runtaa. But I'm sure you can relate to one or two things of what's listed. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I know Inaa usheegaa aanba rabay ee laakin aaway hee..lol I LOOOOOL Ilaham Lakkad baanad aqoon u laheyn.....How can one relate to an article about 20 something kids when 20 something years ago waxbuu rimin kari lahaa ........... But too late my TWIN here Aaba na qarxiye...xashaaa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
