Che -Guevara Posted May 18, 2010 Cashada iyo first attraction leads to the rest unless you wanna arranged marriage but I digress, Back to my point, there's sane love and insane love. The sane love allows to weigh your options and help you do what's in your best interest. The insane love goes like this: She:hooyo aabo ninkaan baa rabaa inaa guursado. Waa nin Muslin ah (this argument is first one you will pull out of the hat first). Parents: maxuu yahey mana isku hubtaa (experience shows parents only see the guy for the first time when the two decide to get married) She: waan jeclahey. Parents:That's all good and everything laakin maxaad kataqaantaa ninkaan. She: waa nin fiican waana jeclahey. Parents: Bal waayahe arintaa haku dagdagin. Ninku reer maleeyahey. She: Reer? (she never met his family either) Parent: haa hadeey aabey iyo hooyo soo malaha ninku She: Haa laakiin inaga fasaxiinaa duunayaa. Parents: baltaa hanoo danbeysee asaga iyo reerkiisa keen. Parents: (it finally comes out) aawe yarkii isla sucod jiirteen. Maxuu ahaa magaciisa Guuled Warfaa. She: Waan kala tagney. Parents: Oo wiilal kale Soomaali soo majiraan. She: Ninkaan baa rabaa Parent: Garanayee laakin qofaan isku dhaqan iyo luuqad baa fiicnaa lahaa. She: Kan baa doonayaa Parent: Waayahey bal ka fiirso horta She: Maxaad iigu diideysiin Parent: Kuuma diideynee laakin ha dagdagin. (shid deteriorates from here onwards) Subxaano calls mom Subxaano: Naa heedhey maxaad gabdhaada arooskeyda nooga qarisey Mom: (astounded) maxaad tiri Subxaano: dee shaleey Masaajidka baa lagu nikaaxiye la,yiri. Waacana xaflad yarbaa laqabanaayaa la yiri. uncomfortable silence and nobody hears from the kid. So what kind love your friend fit into? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted May 18, 2010 Oh my thought on inter-racial marriage Know your interest and have backup plan. Plus never alienate your own folks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nuune Posted May 18, 2010 Ciraaqi yuu ka yahay wiilka, reer Tikriit, mise reer Umm Qasr, soo kala caddee, then I can add my few sunuud in the qandi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SeeKer Posted May 18, 2010 Che, should it matter what love it is? Marriage is sustained by something more than love and will only be long lasting if both parties realize that. Love might help you get through those rough patches but other than that marriage shouldn't be based on such a fickle emotion No wonder our divorce rates are on the increase :cool: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted May 18, 2010 ^It does. One leads to st*pidity, other is more grounded and in touch with reality. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted May 18, 2010 ^lol@ maxa nogu so sheegi weydey..I don't believe thats religiously acceptable. anyhooow I would think shes mature and educated and wouldnt do such thing..qof caqli leh oo mature waxaas kuma dhoco... seeker I agree with you. What does love has to do with anything... salaam Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SeeKer Posted May 18, 2010 Che, again its a fickle emotion sxb. No decision should be based on it :rolleyes: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chocolate and Honey Posted May 18, 2010 Thats a question she should've sought answers to long, long ago like from "hello" on. Marriage is very, very difficult relationship to maintain and nurture. The person you marry is not his own island; he comes with lots of baggage. So if your friend understands him, loves him, and is confident they can last. Then, nothing else matters. But if she has doubts about the cultural differences that might come out later on, then I'd say leave it alone because they will come out and it will be harder. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ducaysane Posted May 18, 2010 If she is 34 years and above, she can go ahead and marry the Iraqi. If she is young lady tell her to wait little bit longer, I am sure prince Somali will come. Raali iga ahaada 34 jirkoow. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Che -Guevara Posted May 18, 2010 Seeker....The love thing should be used as bait to lure the fish but beyond, reason should kick in. Aaliyah..What is religiously not acceptable? Duceysane..Balaayo but interesting rule nonetheless. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SeeKer Posted May 18, 2010 Che, spoken like a true 'man' lol Ducaysane, 34 expired miyaa? I wonder what you think of cougars Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaliyyah Posted May 18, 2010 Che when I said its not religiously acceptable, I was referring to having a marriage without the parents' consent... As for ur other point, I don't believe in arrange marriage all I said was no one needs to fall for sweet talking and equate it to love. Real love only comes after marriage. C & H well put. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ducaysane Posted May 18, 2010 seeker ma nin baa horta mase bilcaan horta? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Blessed Posted May 18, 2010 Safa, Growing up in the same country would give them a common culture to fall back on. I persoally think that marriage is above these considertions. It's about really wanting to be together, understanding each other and being compatible personality wise, everything else is just trimmings... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
