Bluelicious;781936 wrote:
Don't be a woman that needs a man be a woman that a man needs. Forget about looking for the right man instead focus on being the right woman. If you're the right woman men will be naturally attracted to you and notice you. Be a phenemonal woman one that is hard to be topped by other women. If you're a phenomenal woman it's hard for men not to notice you it's a like a rock that's infront of him that he can't get passed by. Re-evaluate yourself see where it's going wrong and what's the problem and solve it. It could also be that you're not going to the right places to meet the right men. Love and respect youself firstly that's the most important thing that way you come across as a confident woman men don't like insecure, needy and clingy women. How is a man gonna love and respect you if you don't love or respect yourself. Don't tell me you believe in that BS that all good men dissapeared and there is no good man left. Newsflash there are plenty of good men around, the reason why you're not attracting good men is YOU. You're your own worst enemy and you don't even know it you're the one blocking your own success. It could also be that you don't have the qualities that good men are looking for. Good men will never approach you that's a fact because they are nervous, afraid what you're response will be and of being rejected or laughed at it's mostly the bad men and the players who will approach you. So make sure you're a good woman that's approachable who isn't arrogant or rude or treats people around her bad that will only give the guy a positive feedback from you and you will get approached faster and more often. Always have a genuine smile a smile is contagious and will attract men and give them the greenlight that you like them and they can approach you. Don't play hard to get it's gonna work against you and will only make the man confused about you and not even know whether you like him or not and lose interest in you. Be a high value woman a classy woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to let a man know if she likes him. Playing hard to get only disempowers you and makes you a woman of low value it means you can't take action so you're playing the victim. So remember in order for a good man to be attracted and notice you, you need to be a good woman first because good men are looking for good women.
Well put yaa Xaajiyo Blue. This reminds me a book called "The Compound Effect" written by Darren Hardy..... It exactly talks about what you've said - For instance if I want a short, mariin, neither overweight not skinny, intellectual Somali chick. I don't have to go in every gathering place possible rather I've to develop a strategy where I want to be the man such woman wants. Hadday doonayso nin shuluq ah, oo dabaal ah, laakiin yes man ah waa inaan sidaa iska doon doonaa..... Nevertheless, create opportunities don't run after ...
