Hasina

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    Sighnomore, you're welcome sis. Abaayo, I'm sorry for your hurt, but like Abdi said, don't let one bad experience hold you back from trying again. I believe everything happens for a reason, always take the good from the bad. Be grateful, that Allah showed you what kind of person is before it went any further. Think of it as Allah protecting your heart and safeguarding it for someone that is worthy of it.

     

    A few years ago, I met a guy and I thought he was the best thing since sliced bread. I admit that I was young and naive, tbh. We made marriage plans, because I was trying to avoid engaging in any sin, but it turns out he was lying to me and he got married to his cousin (albeit with pressure from his family) behind my back and he never had the decency to tell me. I found out from a third party. To say that I was crushed is a huge under-statement. I had trouble trusting men for a loooong time or believing in marriage. Eventually, the wound heals and you do start trusting again, albeit more cautiously than ever. Anyway, to cut a long story short, right now, I'm about to get married to a wonderful Somali man, and I'm truly happy. Things work out in the end with the Grace of Allah. Be positive and forgiving.

     

    Focus on your personal goals, but don't shut the door to finding Mr right' for you.

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    Firstly sis, I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you, I know that women are made to feel inadequate if they aren't married by their 20s. However being married at certain age doesn't mean anything because we all have different journeys in life. Patience pays off in the end. All the best with your studies and inshaAllah you will find a wonderful Somali husband oo ku qalmo. Ameen.

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    No, I didn't watch that show. Are you insinuating that he faked his muslimnimo for 7 years? Maxaad sheegaysaa? If someone says they are muslim, waa muslim.

     

    I responded because you assumed her husband must not be a Muslim because of how she is dressed. Cajiib. So I responded to dispel your assumption. Now you can continue your judgements to your heart's content. So you see, live and let live is not BS.

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    Her husband is a Muslim actually. He wrote a letter in reply to Somalis with your mentality that can't let others live their lives.

     

    Enjoy the read;

    http://sahanjournal.com/hani-jacobson-somali-st-cloud-faceboook/#more-590

     

    The only thing I find strange is that she took his last name. But even that is her decision. Live and let live.

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    When Prophet Lut (AS) offered his daughters, he wasn't referring to his biological daughters as stated by the scholars. He was referring to the women of Sodom, because he was their father too, symbolically. Similar to how, the Prophet Muhammad's wives' (SAW) are the Mothers of the Believers. Why would he say they are purer for you if he was offering them for fornication? He directed the men to what was purer for them and for the society as whole and what is purer than marriage between a man and a woman? However these men were intoxicated by their lust - and it's clear that they weren't interested in purity because they only sought to fulfill their perverted sexual desires.

     

    The Bible's account of Lot's story is disgusting and incorrect. It's in the Bible they say Lot offered his two daughters to the men and said they can do anything to them as long as they leave his guests alone. The Bible also includes other sordid details of Lot's daughters sleeping with their own father. Nauudibillah.

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    Hasina, sometimes being stuck in a rut can be a sign of something more serious, like depression. Describing yourself as being in a dark place and avoiding friends and family is more concerning than simply being bored with your routine, I think. Have you thought about seeing a doctor or trying counseling? How long has this been going on?

     

     

    No, I haven't thought about seeing a doctor or counseling. It's been going on for awhile now sis. Thank you for your advice. :)

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    I'm feeling like this too. I've been avoiding friends and family. I can't remember the last time I went to a social gathering. It's pretty much been work and school. That's it. Even there, I keep my to myself. It's starting to affect my salah and my imaan generally. I'm just in a dark place right now.

  18. Posted

    Salaam all,

     

    I think for some somalis qabiil is of importance, it plays a big role in our lives, whilst Islam took a backseat. Somalis also like some Muslim countries, find it hard to differentiate between culture and religion. I've seen children as young as 5 being thought qabiil, whilst they know nothing about our blessed Prophet's life, which is really shameful. However, most Somalis are Muslims, but the sad truth is most of them are Somali first than Muslim, rather than vice versa.

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    Salaam all,

     

    I think it's because the Muslims of today aren't united, they're fighting each other, killing each other, how is anyone going to take us serious? We have a great Religion, right way of conduct, all the elements we need to transform society, to be the leaders. But unfortunately, we don't use it properly, to aid us, but we use it to destroy us and portray us in a negative way. All Muslims are one body, but we're letting race get in between. However, I think there is still hope, there always is hope, we just need to get our act together, & follow the Prophet (scw) sunnah & Qur'an.

     

    Great topic btw...