^^ I was not in anyway trying to wound my Somali brothers. As always I have said Ethiopions are far more better looking than any other African nation. I have come across countless Somali men and women who object simply because of their Pride. But it's about time Somali men/women learn to accept facts at face value.

which are really pretier, somalis or ethiopians?? [/QB] No competition hands down Ethiopians our men are lagging behind immensely. But then again beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

We do all respect, my uncle once said Somali ppl where-ever they maybe know-how to exaggerate. If they are blessed with something they will exaggerate if anything horrible happens once again they will exaggerate. And this topic my dear friends, is a classical example of what Somali exaggeration is all about. Oppression? Pardon moi? SOMALI woman oppressed, no I must be burying my head under sand socod badne says. But truth be told! Somali woman are far from being oppressed, yes I admit there is the occasional cases but nothing to yell about. I am friends with muslim sisters from all around the globe I have yet come across any muslims that can challenge Somali women for freedom. ModestY-please explain why on earth would you consider the opinion of a Somali man, not a just a Somali man but one that is ignorant of the deen. Allah says ‘wacrid canil jahiliin’ and turn away from the ignorant ones. If to you most Somali men are ignorant of the deen( once again exaggreration) then simply walk away. Never value their opinion brush it off like an irritating fly on your shoulders. Whats so attractive about eating out at a Somali restaurant? Where is youir xishood modesty? How could you possibly eat infront of Somali men? I could never do it. You have nerves girl. I would rather eat take-away. Somali restaurant would be the last place I visit. I noticed Rahima referring to FGM , I guess it’s the never ending Somali women-saga. I have never seen any nationality that divorces the rate Somali ppl do and most of all it’s Somali woman that initiate divorce in the west majority of the time. Somali woman ask for a divorce like the rate they buy a kaneebo dirac . Exaggeration , exaggeration , the probability that Somali woman stay with abusive husbands is perhaps zero unless she is stuck in an awefuk situation with no family or qabil around.

Rokko---So I can safely assume if your wife works you don’t have things undercontrol right? Hint hint dear we live in era where two sources of income is needed to support a Somali house hold not just one. Valenteenah. Sad! So having a job is more pleasing and important to you then having a stable family? Adiga ayaa warhaysid lol Ibtisaam-Cooking and cleaning is NOT I repeat is NOT what makes marriages a living hell. There are many underlying factors that need to be considered and addressed don’t be so quick to jump to hasty conclusions. Faruakh-Walaalkiss you have made valid points and I agree. Laakiin there are many parents that are not educated how are they suppose to educate their children unless they give them to strangers. This not about the ‘west and ‘us’. Amelia-There is so much I want and I guarantee you being stay home mum 24/7 isn’t my ideal future life. I strongly like the idea of balance. I would like to work and yet at the same time I would like to be a mother, be there for my children soforth. Question? Are you saying staying home building a family isn’t contributing to the community? How is that different from having a job? I thought it was the mothers job to raise a harmonious family. Isn’t having a strong family with manners and akhlaaq not contributing to society? Perhaps in the future it will be those children that will change the world. Reality check- majority of Somali men, Socod badne being one would love their women to stay home. No man likes a woman who challenges them for their manhood. Men like a docile wife, one that smiles looks pretty all day looks down etc you get my drift There are however a few that appreciate a strong woman to help out and those good men are what I like call rare species. Fabiana- Noone is arguing. Being a mother hands down is the hardest job. But it’s one thing for something to be hard and it’s another thing for it to be stressing. Stress isn’t necessarily brought about my difficult tasks. It would be wise to know I was reading a research the other day and apparently 47% of woman that work are stressed about their job. Yeah a stay-home mother suffers from depression occasionally but that vanishes eventually.

Finally you found yourself the perfect brother. Handsome young charismatic pious and even a great smile that will make you melt You love him he loves you. Your family loves him , the one you have been searching for all your life . You finally found him ( or he found you whatever the case maybe). Here at your feet is the 'golden man'. Allah blessed him with both akhlaaq and deen. Too good to be true! He thinks you are the girl he has been looking for. Things go smooth no bumps along the way. You both decide this is it, marriage next. He expects nothing form you other than to be a stay home mum. He wishes you stay home and not work , look after him and his children. What would you do? Freak out yell I did not finish a four year degree to be a stay home mum . Or would you kindly keep quite be happy you find a wonderful brother. So sisters my question is how many of you would drop their careers for the golden boy and how many of you will refuse to be a stay home mum. BTW there is nothing wrong with being a stay home mum. No stress carefree life , look pretty all day since you have all the time in the world why not turn to your diin? I mean there are advantages and disadvantages both ways right? So what would you do? if your future spouse demands you will not work full-time or part-time. And out of curiousty how many brothers will demand their wives stay home?

Don't get me wrong it was nice to watch Materazzi run into Zidane's beautiful head, however I think Zidane should have given him much more. I was kinda hoping for a left hook jap followed by upper cut that would have made my day. What do i think of the world terrorist? Nothing pretty much. I have witness the hatered towards muslims long ago. Bush's administrations is just a reminder. Long before I wore the hijab I had so-called school-mates /work-mates repeatly tell me how they despise muslims. I recall how shocked they were when I divulge I was muslimah. Their only answer was "I am sorry it's nothing personal" (Yeah right it's nothing personal). The word terrorist is used by muslims to them it's okay. A freind of mine ( a non-somali non-covered sister) once told me how she caught herself moving far-far away from a muslim man at a bus stop simply because he had a long beard and he was dressed the way a muslim man was suppose to dress. She suspected he was a terrorist about to blow himself into pieces. Bizzare and this is the mentality among us muslims so where do you expect non-muslims to stand?

Thanks ! may allah reward you all ! I am currently busy but I will make sure I make the time to check all the sites recommended. I am so excited , honesita mentioned couple of my favourite speakers Yahya Ibrahim I had the opportunity to attend one of his lectures. Man the canadian accent sounds just like the american. But you have to hear the kiwi accent its just sensational

Originally posted by Legal Crimes: I KNOW! come on seriously....who hangs with Nas and Jay Z on the same night *rolls eyes* The question is who wants to be seen with Ludacris? I can understand if you said I was 'hanging with James Blake nah mean' atleast there is something pleasant about him

I am looking for a wonderful Islamic website( or websites). I am sure there are plenty, but is there any you can suggest to me? I just want to download lectures preferably in English nevertheless I need to brush-up on my Somali. Even Somali will do. But how reliable are these sites? I am just a tad paranoid thats's all. Your help is needed. Thanks in advance!

Akhas! *shakes her head in wiswis, then pukes* :mad: :mad:

What a great way to teach her a lesson mark her for life. Brilliant.

Originally posted by Reality Check: quote:Originally posted by Endeavour: Is there anything in Somalia at the moment that isnt crazy?( apart from the current wadaads) :confused: Including the wadaads. Thats uncalled for! :mad: Sometimes its best if you keep your opinions to yourself.

Ah, disregard the title above, baliis. I ain't no perv Seriously---- who are you trying to kidd yourself or us???? What was the purpose of this topic? I am clueless. Point-less topic no offence whats worse is I bothered to read it. Cajiib! I was kind of hoping it was about Caano-geel. Little did I know the tittle was misleading.

Originally posted by xiinfaniin: A supplemental study involving men from the US city of Baltimore indicated that dietary, ethnic, or socio-economic background could exacerbate the effect age has on sperm. ^^That explains why Somali men’s sperm velocity defies basic physics laws! No wonder as to why the retarding force has no effect on its speed. Even in latter age [seventies and eighties], Somali men generally tend to be productive. Not only are they shooting straight, but with greater accuracy ! So no sperm decline there, in terms of quantity that is. Nin caano geel ku koray iyo mid MacDonald ka dhergay awal baysan isku ragganimo ahayn. But what I am not certain about is if Somali men’s high fertility rate in their late ages is directly proportional to the relatively low quality of their offspring! Unless some one attacks my underlying assumption, I have just posed a worthy question for western researchers! Xiin--A while back I recall reading an article about laptops and male fertility, if my memory surves me right men who use laptops are more likely to be infertile than those who dont. But its not known if the affect is long term or short term. Laptop users such as yourself( I am assuming ) Should be worried.

Is there anything in Somalia at the moment that isnt crazy?( apart from the current wadaads) :confused:

^^ We are not that bad or are we??? We are cool bunch. Although I have heard ( only heard) of some semi-serious situations ( like a pair of dacas flying across the room). Never seen anything over the board.

Miss Lexus--- I unfortunately dont crave for the attention of those that live both in denial and in ignorance. Your comments dont irrate me I just find them ridicilous and pointless. It seems you argue for the sake of arguing. You constantly choose to say things that have no substance nor base. Thankfully I am not in the position of Halimah nor am I in the position of Khadijah. I can rattle on about myself like you have, but then again I am a woman of standards I couldnt possibly stoop to the low level you have. Its amazing how you consider yourself to be an intelligent woman yet you fail to grasp no sister puts herself in a bad situation. Who we end up with is out of our hands. Who knowns what situation you will end up in a couple of years. Rather than Thanking the lord above you choose to make statements like "I will never be in their situation" as if you know what your situation will be! Lexie I suggest its time for you to stop analysing other pupils situation to your liking. You a have a fetish for fabricating things. I wouldn't be suprised if everything you say is load of crap. I dont know why I even bothered with you. Its clear your neurons are not functioning whenever you type. Let me know when you get some maybe then I might think about wasting my precious time on you. Till then *fiiamaanilaah*

ALexus- what is your point I seem to have misunderstood you. What are you trying to say that you hang out with freinds that depress you? are all of your freinds getting married feel left out it seems you are insecure lexie whats the matter? Have your freinds non-stop marriage discussion driven you overboard perhaps even derailed you from your studies? Let it all out Lexie--I would like to here what you are trying to get at. I just never quite understand what you post Alexie you try and act like the big bad girl of SOL. are you middle child ? need attention? Why are you constantly so negative have you got to say anything positive ever???Your generalisation is beyond tolerable dear. Calm down. I dont know lexie it seems you are yearning for somekind of love. You are so obessed with what other women do with their lives. Oh look at this Halimah she has run away with a farah oh look at this khadijah she is bleaching herself oh look at my freind they are obessed with marriage oh look at so-and-so. You never ever look at yourself do you Alexie. I think its about time you mind your business and give somali sisters around the globe a break.! You shouldnt care what purpose they marry for. *SHID*

Umm al_khair ofcourse marriage is the last thing on your mind if you intend to find the perfect man rather than the right man. I think the only thing close to a perfect man is one with good character and one willing to comprimise. As you can see we are living in era were the male species have dramatically declined in number so if you are not willing to be a second or third wife I suggest give up looking for Mr perfect. Start searching for Mr right and if he is a man of morals try and dust him up a bit and shape-him into your 'ideal man'

Originally posted by Valenteenah: quote:Women with age get uglier (hence why we run away from age) whereas men get more attractive LoL...that's a good joke. Who said it was a joke? Have you ever heard of any female at the same age as Richard gere referred to as attractive? LayZieGirl looool my point exactly. Didi Kong; Nothing bothers me and unfortunately I dont have Somali mentality by that I mean I dont see Old age as a Sad thing.

M&M ( my favourite candy)! Women have every Excuse to be sensitive about age but men come on?? Women with age get uglier (hence why we run away from age )whereas men get more attractive so you should be proud to be old M&M as long as you still have your hair and you dont have a double chin and pot of a belly at 35 you will still be attractive to a Halimah. See it is a mans world after all. Men just have the upper hand in all departements. Bloody men! :mad:

Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar : you are such a stubborn man you refuse to take my opinion aboard how about the name Xaaji-Kadeen (for your stubborness) MC Xamarloool A somali man never passes 26(take Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar as an example) nor does a somali sister ever pass 21. I discovered last year I am know older than majority of the Somali community. Oh what a feeling

Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar 26 you must be pulling my leg. 26 translated into af somali is 36 right?? wax la yiraahda age ayaa leenka kaa xiray walaal not me (excuse the broken somali listening to Saynab cige has improved my somali but there is always a room for improvement) My Somali is limited nevertheless your name makes no sense. Maadaama aan ahay walaashaa hunno change the name.Bizzare name. I strongly urge you to change it. Magac wanaagsan raadsa!

Forget about cabayas. I have seen jalbaas that have glitter no joke. I wonder will we have glow in the dark jalbaas too?? The cabayas posted by soo maal are ugly. A freind of mine from Saudiyah bought me a tight fitted cabay designed to show off my curves. Thankfully I only wear it inside my house. I could not possibly allow my mother to die of a heart attack could I ???

MC Xamar( love the name by the way) are you not Somali??? :eek: I have meet about three Kiwis (New Zealanders) that speak Somali. I was so amazed and yet embrassed their somali was better than mine. I was intimated. Ever since then I decided to polish my somali. I have come along way Somali isnt that hard. Ask Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar ( a man with a name like that could teach anyone Somali) I still have no diea what his name means. I just know he is old and is good at somali.