I just think, personally girls are more naive then man. specially our women somalian women that is. with all do respect, most of the girls, and i don't like to judge are too modernized meaning too cadaan, meaning left ur culture, meaning if we marry u, u won't raise our kids as a somali u would raised the as cadaan. see girls are naive, they watch movies, romantic scene, see a white guy giving a rose to his girlfriend, lidding the candles, taking her to places like paris, and they (our girls) most of them not all of them, say see they are romantic. and automatically jump to conclusion and say Somali men are not romantic, coz they didn't see Somali guys being romantic in a movie so sisters, with all do respect we men, and i am talking on be half of men, want our women to be traditionally keep their culture, and Islam, doesn't mean coz we want them to keep them in the houses but actually. women are the teacher for our kids they have a big role, they are the mothers sent the sons to dugsi quran not the fathers, they keep the tradition, but if she acts like cadaan, and sorry if i used that word, i am not being recist. then we would have disfunctional families like the cadaans do. see our girls don't know that white guys, hit the bottle of the beer with their women, coz he lost a bet, or a game. but u still consider them romantic. therefore inconclusion i think, most of the women are naive, except the salihaat, those who keep their religion adn their iman. u wearing big belt, and showing ur lower stomach doesn't make u, and educated person

muslim sis, it is called games. is games the kafirs are playing on Muslims. so the weaker muslims with weak Iman would believe that and leave his religion, and run after sex,cars and money. then feel stressed out everynight get a tylenol to sleep with. najmah pls sis don't be surprised, if a guy gives u a peace paper about jesus, he is doing his thing, he is giving u dacwah. well this is the stage we are on these days, Muslims stoped giving dacwah, so they are getting dacwah, as if muslim believe a wrong religion. this is the best of the best, cream of the .... so next time don't get mad, give him dacwah back. tell him like u believe jesus but ask him if he believes Muhammad (scw). we believe jesus as a prophet and atleast respect him, why can't u respect our prophet. u don't even see him as a prophet. that is why they always call the prophet, He was a great man, Muhammad was a wise man. see the denial. so give them dacwah next time ok. don't just take the hit, and cry later on ur bed ok.

is funny, coz it looks like all the girls are waiting for the right guy. but when u asked who could be the right guy, they don't know. so as the article posted above says, i think no one could pls women. define the right guy pls, is it imaginary guy. does he live in this world come on girls

opinionated pls, when i say what is the needs of boy/girfriend, i know it used to happen in Somalia, but did ppl were obsest with it, huh, did they always talk about dating, huh, u know how it is the west. so don't just jump in opinionated first clear out things

silent sista, u r right, i still think. that also most of us lost our identitiy as a muslim and a somali person. it seems that what the west does is the coolest thing to do, and what we u used to at back home, is back word. ilbaxnimo ayaa loo maleeyay, in girlfriend ama boyfriend layeesho. waa laga shubay. ilaahay hana soo hanuuniyo anaga dhan. aamiin

Yo guys i just wanted to know, your opinion on this. I notice that most of the Somali ppl, u know our ppl, are sexually frustrated when they come to westren countries, whether in Europe North America or in Australia. it feels like, the way guys and girls are acting now a day, that they never felt this much frustration b4. so i am wondering is it the movies, the romantic movies that girls nowaday watch, or the kind of dressed women wear in these countries are making the guys wild. what is the need for girlfriend and boyfriend, forgot about the religion. i want to know, what is going on. Do we become american already, guys act like 2-pac adn girls act alisia keys, what is going on why most of us r sexually frustrated.

Yacquub man thanks yo, even though i am not married right now, but thanks for the tips. i would try to use it. as a man it is very helpful man, thank u

yeah, Yacquub that is exactly how i felt too long, but u know once u read the first paragraph u just can't stop, i am not much of a reader too but hey the story is amazing so i decided to share it with u guys, sorry if it was long too. u all wlc, all the ppl that thanked me. for this.

no Batuulo, but since u and Muslim sis, couldn't answer it. i would answer it myself the answer is the sahabi's name is Qac Qaac bin amr al-tamiimi or in english, Qa'Qa' bin Amr al_tamiimi that is why i named myself qa'qa' incase u were all wondering about my nick name. He is one of my favourite companions of the prophet (scw). so now u guys ask question

woow is exactly right, that is exactly how i felt after i read this article, amazing, well anyways thanks

Melech Yacov 31/05/2003 When I was born I was given the Hebrew name Melech Yacov. Today I still live in the area in New York where I was born. We were a semi-religious family; we belonged to a Chasidic congregation to which we went every Saturday, but we did not keep all the strict observances required in Chasidic Judaism. For those who don't know, Chasidism is known in the mainstream as "Ultra Orthodox" Judaism. They are called so because of their strict observances of Halacha (Jewish Law) and their following of Jewish mysticism (cabala). They are the strange people that you see walking down the street wearing black suits and hats and letting their beards and sideburns grow long. We were not like that though. My family cooked and used electricity on the Sabbath, and I didn't wear a yarmulke on my head. Moreover I grew up in a secular environment surrounded by non-Jewish schoolmates and friends. For many years I still felt guilty about driving on Saturdays and eating non-kosher food. Although I did not observe all of the rules, I nevertheless felt a strong sense that this was the way that God wanted me to live, and every time I omitted a rule, I was committing sin in the eyes of God. From the earliest days, my mother would read to me the stories of the great Rabbis like Eliezar, the Baal Shem Tov, and the legends from the Haggada (part of the Talmud other than the Halacha) and Torah. All of these stories had the same ethical message which helped me to identify with the Jewish community, and later Israel. The stories showed how Jews were oppressed throughout history, but God always stood by His people until the end. The stories that we Jews were brought up on showed us that miracles always saved the Jews whenever they were in their greatest time of need. The survival of the Jews throughout history, despite all odds, is seen as a miracle in itself. If a person wants to take an objective view on why most Jews have the irrational Zionist stance regarding Israel, then they must understand the way by which we were indoctrinated with these stories as children. That is why the Zionists pretend that they are doing nothing wrong at all. All of the goyim (gentiles) are seen as enemies waiting to attack, and thus they cannot be trusted. The Jewish people have a very strong bond with one another and see each other as the "chosen people" of God. For many years I believed this myself. Although I had a strong sense of identity as a Jew, I could not stand going to Saturday services (shul). I still remember myself as a little boy being forced to go to shul with my father. I remember how dreadfully boring it was for me and how strange everyone looked with their black hats and beards praying in a foreign language. It was like being thrown into a different world away from my friends and the people I knew. This was what I thought I was supposed to be, but I (and my parents) never adopted the Chasidic life like the rest of my family. When I turned 13, I was bar-mitzvahed like every other Jewish boy who becomes a man. I also began putting tefilin (Hebrew amulets) on every morning. I was told that it is dangerous to skip putting it on because it was like an omen and bad things might happen to you. The first day I skipped putting on tefilin my mom's car got stolen! That event encouraged me to wear it for a long time. It was only a little while after my bar-mitzvah that my family stopped going to synagogue altogether. They could not stand the three-and-a-half hours of prayer and felt that getting me bar-mitzvahed was the most important thing. Later on, my father got into a silly quarrel with some congregation members, and we ended up not going at all to services anymore. Then something strange happened: my father was convinced by a friend to accept Jesus into his heart. God willingly my mother did not divorce my father for his conversion to Christianity, but she has kept a silent hatred of it ever since. This was also a period in my early-teen years when I sought to find something to identify with. My father's conversion helped me question my own beliefs. I began asking questions like: What exactly is a Jew anyway? Is Judaism a culture, a nation, or a religion? If it is a nation, then how could Jews be citizens of two nations? If Judaism is a religion, then why are the prayers recited in Hebrew, prayers for Eretz Israel, and observance of "Oriental" rituals? If Judaism was just a culture, then would not a person cease to be a Jew if he stopped speaking Hebrew and practicing Jewish customs? If a Jew was one who observes the commandments of the Torah, then why is Abraham called the first Jew when he lived before the Torah came down to Moses? Incidentally, the Torah doesn't even say he was a Jew; the word Jew comes from the name of one of Jacob's 12 sons, Judah. Jews were not called Jews until the Kingdom of Judah was established after the time of Solomon. Tradition holds that a Jew is someone whose mother was Jewish. So you can still be a Jew if you practice Christianity or atheism. More and more I began to move away from Judaism. There were so many laws and mitzvahs (good deeds) to observe. What is the point of all these different rituals, I began to question. To me they were all man-made. I was fascinated with Native American culture and their bravery in the face of the white settlers who stole their land. The Native Americans had over 250 treaties broken with them, and they were given the worst strips of land that no one wanted. The story of the Native Americans is similar to that of the Palestinians. The first Palestinians were living in Palestine for thousands of years and suddenly Jews replaced them, and the natives are forced into refugee camps in which they still live. I asked my parents how the Palestinians are different from Native Americans, and the only answer I got was "because they want to kill all Jews and drive them into the sea." My understanding of the Palestinian people put me above any of the Jews, their leaders, and Rabbis whom I once viewed as wise men. How could any good Jew deny that Palestinians were killed and forced from their land to make way for Jewish settlements? What justifies this act of ethnic cleansing – the fact that many Jews died in the Holocaust! Or is it because the bible says it’s "our" land? Any book that justifies such a thing would be immoral and hence not of God. When I reached high school, I became interested in philosophy and read many of the great thinkers of the past. I spent time with good friends who read philosophy and who went along with me through the bumpy paths to Truth. One of the philosophers who had an impact on me was the Jewish-born Spinoza. Spinoza was a 17th century Talmudic student who questioned everything he was taught such as the belief in life after death, a belief that is found nowhere in the Torah. In fact many of the early Jews didn't have such a belief. Spinoza was expelled from the Jewish community for his views. I enjoyed reading his views on the Bible, which he said could not be taken literally without a boat-load of contradictions and problems. Then I read two significant books that completely swept away any ounce of sympathy I had left for Judaism. The first book was called "On the Jewish Question" by Abram Leon. Leon was an underground Communist organizer in Belgium during World War II, and later he was caught and died at Aushwitz. His book answered the age-old question: Why did the Jews survive for so long? He gave a superb historical account of the Jews from the age of antiquity to the modern day and shows that their survival was by no means a miracle. In the words of Karl Marx, "It is not in spite of history that the Jews survive but because of it." First, he shows how much of the Jewish community left Israel on their own accord before the destruction of Jerusalem. Then he explains that the Jews were valuable to the kings and nobles of the middle ages because of their status as middle men. Then he shows how during the process of capitalist accumulation the status of Jew finally took a downward turn and they were subsequently persecuted for their usury. The second book that affected me greatly was called "Who Wrote the Bible?" by Elliot Freedman. It takes up the historical task of Spinoza. The book proves that the Torah is actually written by 4 different people. Freedman explains to us that there were 2 different traditional accounts from the Kingdom of Israel and Judah, and that a redactor intertwined them together to get the Bible we have today. Besides reading philosophy with my friends, we also took up many different political causes in our youth. We experimented in everything from Republicanism to Communism. I took up reading all the works of Marx, Lenin, Stalin, Mao and Trotsky. I found in Marxism what I felt was missing in my life. I believed that I had found all the answers to everything and hence felt intellectually superior to everyone. The philosophy bandits (as I like to call us) got together and formed our own little Socialist club. We went to different activist events like protests and labor strikes. After meeting all the different cult groups that surrounded the political left in America we all became disgusted at the way they acted and denied reality. No revolution would be made in a country by this type of people. Fighting for social change cannot win by using methods of the past. Although I gave up the fight for revolution, I became an active pro-Palestinian organizer. This is the one cause about which I was very passionate. We were very small and attacked by the mainstream which gave me a sense of pride. I wanted the world to know that not all Jews are bad people. It shames me to see people whom I once looked up to support the aggressive regime of Israel. The lies coming from Israel are nothing less than holocaust denial. Although I gave up Judaism and looked at this world as the ultimate aim of man, I was never really an atheist. However, I had a strong hatred of all religion and believed that it was a tool of the people in charge to use to keep everyone else in check. When you see the way fundamentalist Christians act in America, doing things like denying science and upholding values of old white men, you can understand why I was skeptical of all religions. The way Jews acted toward Palestinians did not help either. Nevertheless, I still believed in God in the very back of my mind. But with religion gone, I had a big emptiness left in me. I sometimes even wished that I was a religious person because I felt that they lived happier lives. Honestly I do not remember what got me interested in Islam, especially after many years of strong anti-religious feeling. As a child, I remember hearing my mother talk about Islam, and how Muhammad (peace be upon him) worshipped the same God as us, and also how Jews are related to Arabs through Abraham. So in a way I kind of accepted Islam as just another religion that worships God. I have a faint memory of my cousin (a Chasid) who said to me that if a Jew gives up his life as a Jew and lives like a Muslim, he wouldn't be committing any sin! Looking back I am astonished to have heard such a thing. When September 11th happened, there was a surge in anti-Islamic propaganda in the news. From the very beginning, I knew that it was all lies because I already had developed the perspective that everything in the media protects the interests of those who control it. When I saw that the most militant people in attacking Islam were fundamentalist Christians, Islam started looking more attractive to me. I thank God for what I learned in my activist days, because without the knowledge of society and the media, I would have believed all the garbage that I heard about Islam on the television. One day I remember hearing someone talk about scientific facts in the Bible so I wondered if the Qur’an had scientific facts in it. I did an Internet search and I discovered a lot of amazing stuff. I subsequently spent a great deal of time consuming articles on various aspects of Islam. I was surprised of how logically consistent the Qur’an was. As I read the Qur’an, I would compare its moral message to that of what I learned from the Bible and understood how much better it was. Also the Qur’an was not nearly as boring as reading the Bible. It's fun to read. After about 5 months of intense study I said my shahada and officially became Muslim. Unlike my old religion, everything in Islam made sense. All the practices like prayer and Ramadan I understood already. Although I imagined Islam to be like Judaism in which one follows a series of different rules dogmatically, I was wrong. My understanding of the world also matched what Islam taught me – that all religions are basically the same but have been corrupted by man over time. God didn't make a name called Judaism and Christianity and tell people to worship him. God taught the people only Islam; that is submission to Him alone. It is as clear and simple as that. what an impressive story, i hope u guys liked it, coz i definately did like it.

well sister u both tried but both of u guys are wrong, i thought i gave it aways when i said, the sahabi with the deep voice among the sahaba's of the prophet scw. i'll give u guys little bit of time more ok. if u give up tell me,

here are my list 1. Quran 2. Arbaciin, or the forty Hadith 3. riad assalahim 4. men around the prophet 5. chronological history of Islam 6. Commanders of Muslim Army (must read) 7. seerah, any book, (beautiful anyways) 8. imam Ghazaili book, destroyin western philosiphers 9. Ahmed Deedat books 10. Haruun Yahya

my question for the girls is, that who is the companion that saved Khalid bin Walid, in one of the battles. he also was the right hand man of Khalid bin walid, i am looking for the sahabis name.... also he was the guy who swam with Khalid bin Walid to open the gates of Damascus. and there is ayah, that had came down because of him, telling him not to raise his voice when the prophet is talking to..... i hope i didn't gave away

so why do they kiss, thanks for posting this sista

let me put it this way. as we (men) when we see a woman with pants especially we somalian men we think about dating her and fooling around with her, u know like the worm up u do before the game. cause the girl left her hijab left her safe territory. I always wonder when i see women who is showing most of her body, say why r we getting raped, come on hon. You r instigating the men, nowadays they even got this perfumes that women put on, that even when u r not looking the women u will smelled it u would look at her. so it is the nature of men, to treat the women according to her dress, if she is wearing pants and tight shirts well then men would treat her like a piece of meat, and call her names, hey BABY COME HERE, let me do u. but if she is wearing Hijab, men automatically will respect her, and think of her as wivey caliper, she is the game, she is not those worm up girls u know. now i didn't even mention what Islam says about Hijab, sis allah said in his Quran that a woman should wear loose fitting cloth and wear the hijab in proper way. so if u r not wearing a hijab, u r sinning, u automatically saying no to Allah. and not taking his order.

the answer to rahimas question is Abu darr-al ghafari. by the way batuulo didn't get it right, the answer was zain-al-abidin.

Umar bin As, radi-allah-canhu who was the the only son, that survived from Husein's family, when Husein bin ali bin abi talib, was killed in Kerbela on the hands of Yazid's general? what is his name, that son, Ali's grandson.

thank u sis, for the article, and i will try to tell the trueth from now on.

You got it right sista!!! i let u guys ask question

i don't think the last question got answered, this for the bros, the answer is for the last question, the king name is Mansa Musa for Mali. the last companion who died is, i think, anas bin malik. now my question. who was the founder of Sokoto Caliphate?

first it is not good that we point fingers at each other, this guy is into arrange marriage this guys is into dating come on now. anways yeah as some already said, while u like arrange or like getting ur thing ur own, it is up to the person. to me i am not into the arrange marriage thing. i am also not into the western kind of style dating, but with all that said, if the 2 ppl are just speaking, talking on phones, seeing each other and not dating like the western do, u know what i am talking about picking up the girls from her house at 8pm taking her to restaurent then to movies and bring her back home at midnight and at the door getting good night kiss, i am against that. but if u gonna go about ur buiz talking to her in a Islamic manner where no touching and no zinna will happen, or anything that is gonna lead u 2 to zinna is not gonna happen then yeah, go talk to her, in her/his job places or in school where u 2 can't do anything, and call each other at nights then that is good with me. as long as there is no haram thing involved, because i feel some of us use arrange marriage as an excuse and tell the girl why u getting arranged go and explore, so they could get a chance with the girl alone in their cars and god knows what they planning to do. but the arrange marriage the brother is talking about is fine with me. it is not just something i would do. but i wouldn't use dating as an excuse to do zinna too, so if u r gonna talk in respectful way, were no zinna abslutely could take place, then is fine

she is not even worth speaking about her, who cares whatever she is, if she is anti-islam. we know where she'll end up, and who cares if her mom is somali or she is, the pt is that she was a muslim women who thinks she could make money by being anti-islam, that proofs she is ignorent person. what about posting nude at the back of her book, i didn't get it. but is another proof of her level of education, couldn't sell her book, she post topless. uff

mizz unique can't u see ppl are making up, pls don't come here driven by emotions and make stupid remarks. what u mean u should see urself at the mirror, u should check urself too. but anyways we not fighting here, we just puting topics and responds up there if u don't agree, u could say i dissagree but to call names and humiliate the person who has different opinion then u is just plain wrong. so pls as i said already don't say anything driven from your emotions because u mad, or don't let hatred defiate u from the middle path ok.

once again big mom nice story. u post stories that we could benefit from i really thank u for that. aad iyo aad baad ugu mahadsantahay sheekadani oo quruxda badan oo aad noogu soo postgaraysay meesha tanag u feero armaajo abaydiis lol.