also, the topic was not about our qualities, rather our trouble and i mentioned what our trouble was but my sister and every sister has good qualities. If i saw nothing good in her, i would not seek advice and be worried about her wellbeing. I love her, she is my sister but sometimes teenage sisters are just monsters u may think. you can't imagine how sweet she is markay ruuxaameheeda joogaan. lol.but iam really thinking that her husband may be the cause just like Hunguri mentioned. I see good even in him and i do resent him for how mistreated her but he is aslo my cousin and i care abt him in way. waa nin buufis ku dhacay but all i want to feel for any man who mistreats a young girl/woman is HATE him and i can't hate him apparently.

Originally posted by *Blessed: Hmmm. Could it be that you (Faynuus) is too overbearing and self righteous? I find it hard to believe that you are all perfect and she is so evil. It could be that your sister is a little spoilt, perhaps immature but if you were approaching things probably you wouldn't be having so many problems. Why are you having issues over what you give to relatives? Do you advertise it? How would you feel if your sister focused only on your shortcomings? You didn't write a single positive about her in this thread, is this how you are off line? Why do you feel that you have a right to meddle in her affairs, raising her was your duty as an older sister but it doesn't give you ownership over her. She needs to find her own path, make her own decisions, mistakes.. Or she'll be some little (or big) dhoongo that keeps running back to you with every little problem. I don't mean to be so harsh on you walaalo. I just think that sometimes you need to look within to find solutions to problems. Sisters are one of the sweetest blessings from Allah. I hope you do get over this and enjoy your sisterhood. Insha Allah. Blessed i litrally blamed my selv for every single dispute between us. I thought i was over protective, dominating and an irritating bossy sister, and tried to change my approach, but, it was all the same. Deep inside me i knew, i was not the whole cause of the problem, neither is she. there are two sides to a coin isn't it? but we were very good freinds and we communicated well until she maried. you may think i meddled in her affairs but NO, i didn't, it was our family who contacted me coz they knew the husband was not worth the struggle and thet tought i beeing her good freind would change her mind, i called her and told her it was not a good idea, i still strongly believe it was abig mistake but it was her decision and i respected it from the start but as a sister who herself survived a long distance marriage, i had to tell her what she was getting herself into. guess experiance is the best teacher for her and me now. You also say do you advertise what u do for the family, well may be u do not have a large extended family but families talk and talk alot. you send 100 bucks to someone and it is like gabadhii duca qabtada ahayd baa lacag isoo dirtay.sponsering someone,helping a family member open a certain bussiness, buying cars so they could sustaing themselves and those kind of things never go unnoticed. i wish they would but they dont.i also dont see that as sadaqo rather and obligation. marka walaasheey i have tortured my selv before, what i need now is not some one judging me and i needed a sound advice. i got some wonderful ones from many. but thanks for trying.

i dont know about the chocolate wrap but there are so many spas there all doing one or another kind of wrap! But i knew one that used to be on JAMAL ABDULNASSER street in Sharjah opposite the park and near the corniche, there are also many spas, luxerious ones along the corniche and it is sarroundings. Dubai has many amazing spas, i dont know why u prefer sharjah, may be the cost.

I need a visa, un urgent visa to kenya but i have a travel document so it is a referred visa and i hear it takes along time so is there anyone who knows how this works? i really would like to go there before ramadan ends.

Originally posted by Kool_Kat: Faynuus, lol@guumeys...Naa gabadha ani masaarni bisinkee, intee igu aragtay anoo korsan... Seriously though, what were you doing at the age of 17 Faynuuseey bal noo sheeg? [/QB] aniga i had a crash on a man whom i ended up marrying lator at 19 and we are stil. but i got to admitt, i never thought of marrying at 17, 18 or even at 22 but he convinced me and am glad he did.there is nothing wrong marrying young so longer it is ur choice. adiga cadaanaa is mooday haye. aniga meelahaa wareegaayey confused with choosing between careers and guys. good old days.

Aaliyaah thank you and may Allah accept your prayers for all of us. aameen. Nephy it kind of boils ur blood isn't it? but as you said urs is not a big one . thank god. and for the record, she is my full simbling otherwise i would have understood her resentment. Hunguri. Lool. war waa la qabaa wali and i do not believe in the man from the family crap. that one is also a very close member but they choose each other and it hurts that he is just using her instead of loving her. Malika u seem to understand where am comin from. sometimes i think iam doing alot of advicing and all which she clearly doesnt appreciate but she is a very stubborn person and feels she is always right. i normally stay away from telling her anything and let her decide what is best for her but sometimes, she just skrews thing up and it allways goes against her wishes. see at the end she ends up being the victim. And it breaks my heart to see her suffer, it also breaks my heart that i she wont let me be there for her and comfort her as a sister. she complains alot about being lonely and stressed and i think alot about her but now i just will keep a very low profile and see how things go. am really upset with her, am also very much worried about her and wish all her problems will go away insha Allah. Thanks all, u were all helpful in different ways.

i have a younger sis and we did not grow up togather. we have a very large family and when ever i do something little for a family member, a perent or a relative, she gets annoyed and feels that she is not as important or helpful. the thing is i have been doing this kind of service for the family for a very long time and she, coz she was young until now started earning money and all of a sudden am the bad one, undermining her existance and according to her am giving people money becouse i want to comptete with her. This is the younger sister who i practically raised and bought her every single thing she asked me including sponser/boos. when a family member contacts her and asks for help, she says she cant afford anything and if i talk to her and advice her to be nice to the relatives and the family she blames me and even insults me. It hurts me deeply and i want her to feel secure and confident with her self but she literally hates me what should i do? she married a man whom she left in Africa and wedding took place months before her departure, i adviced her that it was not a good idea with distance marriage and all but she refused to hear anything now, they are at logger heads and awaiting divorce becouse the husband demands alot of money and that she should take him to Europe which she cant do now, so he married someone else and she devastated now. i really want to be there for her especailly when she is going thru all this trouble but she wont answer my calls, will not reply to my mails and some times, i just want to cutt of all relationship with her but she is a teenager and i want to be the big sister iam to her. aaaaaaaah, am just dissappointed.

GIGI ur right. age doesnt matter and the earlier u marry the better especially when ur a girl. so no u didnt rush so longer it was someone u concented to marry. May Allah bless ur marriage sister. Kook kat naa gabadha maxaa ku saaray gumees aan ku dhihi lahaa hadaanan kugu ogayn inaad married mom tahay. waad iga baxsatay marka. NG five year old is way too young for making shaah. i tried when i was five and the kirli full of shaah poured on my poor fragile legs and was hospitalised for weeks. I got the scars to proof it. pls do not rush ur little doughter into household chores. she is just not there yet. laakiin let her clean with u or the with mom. ask her to assemble dirtly loundry and utensils but not let her use a washing machine, dryer or any gadget. start with the little safer things and she will be interested to learn when he is old enough.

was this thread not years ago. ma gadaal baan hadana u soconaa awal waa cirle baan u soconayey.

Nuune ooh i cun i calaanji goormaa iigu danbeeysey.waayo waayo dheh. waabaan gocoso iyo quuleba guray. i dont like the quule laakiin dadbaase ku dhinta. wonder if ur one of them? It is been along time since i had a federation. walee waa u xiisay isku walaaqaas. yummy indeed. Anybody uses BARRI anymore?

ramadan kariim all. Alla maxaa dhuuni meesha isugu yimid. Cuntada ha la iska yareeyo yaan taraawiixda lugu daaco qurmine. I hate hate, hate people who burp at the mosque line while praying taraawiix. Ceeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeec, caaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaac, jac, what a smell and you can't scape from it until taraawiix is offer. But it is ramadan. cuntada badan horay iyo gadaalba way u darantahay. hamuun gorgorka maad qabtiin. NUUUNE. You are a true somali man. Bulunqo it is.

here is something completely crazy and may scare normal men away from this special corner of ours others naaga shaneeyaa tihiin. After natural child birth the muscles of the vagina loosens making contacts with ur partner less ...... so do the kegel excercise regularly. The befits are it tightens the inner muscles thus increasing your libido, decreases the risks of unrine leaking and prepares you for an easier child birth afterwards and quick recovery. to those unmarried girls. learn that habit now so you can have a tighter muscles when u must use them. bwaahahahahahahahahaha.

Thank you poster. May Illahay reward you bountly. To those calling the major sins stuff and nonsense, repent to Allah. if you want clarifications, search it yourselves or ask for help. Naden mushilaa tahay. waad iga qoslisay.

Originally posted by Kool_Kat: Faynuus, sheekada hada wexey kusoo biyo shubatay ninkii hore oo qabi jiray bay nabsi ka gashoo ishiisaa kasoo baxday...O-H P-U-H-L-E-A-A-A-A-A-S-E!!! And that isn't the highlight of the story, wait wait it gets better: ninkii hore qabijiray nin fiican buu ahaayo, out of nowhere bay one day ku tiri 'war guriga iiga bax'...Wait wait, it doesn't end there: apparently the imaam who supposedly married them boqol dollar aaloo laabay to lie... If you ask me, they put the National Inquirer to shame... This is Kool_Kat reporting live from Toronto, back to you Faynuus... Naa ayaan daraa qofta dumara. taloow ninkii hore ma awliyuu ahaa nabsi kulahaa.malaha reer fiqi buraaluu ahaa.(sorry no intension of offending any one) . Waxaaba iiga daran imaanka la laaluushaayo. dhuunta lugugu dhag dheh Illahay laf baas kugu istaaji hadaad waxaas samaysay. Kool-kat wariyaadba ku fiicnaan lahayd. thanks and update us incase there is juicy stories out there. Toronto waa lugu turraanturooda aa la yiriye wax dhiiqo iska dhex gala ma laga waaye.

The man as said is irresposible jerk and the woman should have known better but she is just a human. xoogaa dhaxanta ka dugseey lahayd. Here they make an agreement. waan is guursanaynaa but the goverment will not know, we will have kids, i will be their father but i wont take any resposiblity. The woman agrees to it becouse she gets to have kids, be a single mother and have a man in bed. I dont know why, but the first wives we have around here are very nice. they dont mind sharing their men. all win. MMA. haye xageey sheekadii ku danbeeysay?

was there a time u weren't a victim. ninku calaacal badanaa maxaa hindi u galay.

Jacayl hada unbaa u fiirsada avatar kaaga. acuudka goormaad waalatay inaad soo wadatay waanba ogaaye?

-Am hoping to give more, -forgive everyone who ever wronged me and seek theirs too - read the the whole quraan -do some community service insha Allah -try to keep intouch with qaraabada.

thank you so much for your kindness,Illaahay ha idinka abaal mariyo wanaagaad samaynaysaa.

Salaamaad kuligiin. Dear brothers and sisters. There are so many starving people in every corner of our country. Somalia/land, NFD,Ogaaaadenia, Djibouti and all refugee camps around all neibhouring countries. Please send something home this month. If you normally send money add a little extra for another person. He/she could be a relative, a freind or a total stranger but bonded by brotherhood and sisterhood. Today we are better off but we don't know what will happen tommorrow. Try to make a kid smile, try to reduce the suffering of mothers and fathers who can't feed their kids. try to make the lives of the old starving somalis bearable this month. Most of us can afford something as little as 5 dollars which can feed a family for some days. anagana meel nooma buuxinayso ayagana wax wayn bay u qaban. I appeal to all of you from the bottom of my heart. I know you are generous and i know that many would not have survived without your help back home but i just want us to be alittle more giving. Ramadan is around the corner so give and make people happy so that Allah sw can take away ur sorrows and protect you from sufferings and misfortunes of this world and herafter. show ur gratitude to Allah so he can be more kind to you. Let us all know that we too could have been in their shoes. Please help ur sisters and brothers in need. Iam sorry for the long writing but it was very important to me to share with you. Thank you.

also if some kids turn out to be saqajaans but i would never blame ur mother. a parent especially a mother can have a considerable influence and can shape the future of her kids like our beloved BUKHAARi's mother. at the same time, there are some outside influences like the society in the west that breed drug addiction and other malbehaviours of so many kids.Kids need both parents as good role models unfortunately our families are mostly broken families. Mothers have been the backbone of the somali community especially after the civil war. they became both bread winners and homamakers so be fair and give credit where it is due. I also wouldn't like you to base ur judgement on a crazy- supreacist- somali hating wacko's- views about somali woman. he included ur owm mother and ur a living proof that he is wrong right?

Originally posted by Saqajaan: Geel_Jire I don't agree with the bad mothers, because my mother was top notch, laaking there are some bad somali mothers. see how u contradict here. you don't agree that there are bad mothers laakiin there SOME bad mothers haye? for the record, am a mother too NOT a bad one ask my kids, ask everyone here if they have a bad mom

i receieved a gift for my son oo garan iyo surwaal ah. the garan says BAB AL HARA. i love it and he just makes me remember all the days i used to waste.

awalba saqajaanbaad ahayd. what makes your mom *top notch* and others *bad mothers* when she raised a saqajaan? ma inaad amaantay hooyadaa baad hada u qabtaa? loser baa tahay ee never ever insult a mother.

A£T if you must share something with us, let it have some emotions and meaning hadii kale naga daa wararkanoo kale horay daaco qurun noogu rideene. jah