Hi guys, thank you both for the advice especially Ibtisam. (I thought everyone would start saying 'you should have settled down by now') Anyways You are right, I'm at a stage in my life where I'm very happy, got a lot going for me and a man / husband would just be a plus or an addition to my life. In all honesty, I would not settle down tomorrow if the right guy came along. I believe relationships take time I would give it at least a year. plus I would not want to burden the poor guy with financial worries for a wedding. Marriage is the least of my worries. Meeting a guy who i want is priority; with the right qualities and most importantly there has to be an initial connection or spark between us. If not then there is nothing there. Sorry to say this Ibtisam but I do not see any 26/above yr old guys who I have an instant attraction towards, in fact I have only seen a handful of average over 25 guys - i do not know where you spotted them. hook a sista up lol jks.

Hi everyone, I believe this my first post. Sorry in advance about the seriousness of my topic :confused: But here goes.. Ok im 25 years of age; a quarter of a century as they say but thats not the issue. Its just that our culture assumes girls my age should have been married years ago. I myself USED to be very stubborn towards settling down when I was younger however just like everyone else I believed there should be a deadline and that unfortunately was: at 25 years OLD! Now that i have reached this "landmark" I cannot think of a worse time to settle down. This is due to one reason and one reason ONLY: There is abosuletly no1 that takes my liking, Im very picky I just cannot settle for sorry to say this: below average looks/boring personality or a comibination of both. I tend to meet a combination of both lol. There were also more options and varities of guys back in the good ol' days bt now as the years seem to go on there are less and less guys who are available. This is mainly because they are taken or they are too young / old. It might seem like Im in a bit of a rut; however in my heart Im 100% content with myself and Im happy to be single; problem is everyone around me i.e family are not happy about this. Im under pressure to get married asap; as if it's that easy to find a life partner. There are already a bunch of old women talking about "why can't she find a man, she's so pretty". These ppl have no clue what love is probably and just chose to settle for the nearest geel jire in the 50's Anyways my question to all you intellegent, notable people is: Should I get serious about marriage and rush/ speed up the process because im 25 now? Or inshallah wait and see what the future holds (26 aint that bad as ppl give up bugging you to settle down since you failed to achieve it at 25) lol I mean if it was up to me (by that I mean no nagging somali old women/ neighbourhood talking/gossiping about "she might never get married") I would gladly get married at 27 inshallah and a baby by 29/30.

Have tried lying in bed till 2pm on a saturday/sunday? Gal i think you do too many things that you could do without.. e.g. Th gym aint particularly important.. I aint never been 2 a gym in ma life! Getting up at 5am.. for fajr prayer.. understandable.. lakiin cooking for haajiga? looool U've gotta be joking right? How on earth can one "cook" or "make" breakfast sweetie? The average joe's breakfast is probably cereal- 2mins to prepare toast-4mins to prepare shah-1.5 mins to prepare Its either one of them.. so.. why stay up from 5am 2 prepar that? It literally takes 3 mins average... Cant he make it himself.. I understand the role u must play as the new wife and that involves primarily cooking (lunch/dinner/supper/feasts/ali-bari).. but dont mistake it for "breakfast".. everyone makes their own breakfast..Maskiinad.. damn! Everyman for his own I say

Originally posted by JUSTICE: I THINK YOU ALL GONNA THINK AM MAD BUT THIS IS WHAT I FOUND LONG AGO . BEAUTIFUL IS THE WORD AND THIS IT'S ALL ABOUT COLOUR COORDINATION Only my figure can carry that off. size 10 lol

Hi Nas, Im new here.. but nevertheless I'll give the best advice around (no offense peepz lol). Anywho.. You said your wife asks you alot of questions about your whereabouts which in turn leads 2 arguments right? Its so simple.. next time she does just tell her exactly where you've been or better yet ring her and tell here 'babe, Im @ so n so's house' etc etc. pLEASE DO THAT OUT OF THE BLUE .. I promise she'd be so surprised and taken back that she'd get happy on the inside cuz she knows you're thinking of her even when you're out with your friends. However i think the ROOT of the arguments is not because she really wants to know ur whereabouts, I think most of your arguments are because she's irritated and annoyed by you because there aint as much ROMANCE as she was hoping for. If you guys were married for only 1 year.. then u guys should be in honeymoon years.. the first 5 or 8 yrs are da best they say.. She might be feeling neglected, so she will pick on silly lil minor things as a result of that. she needs to know you still love and need her in your life. Organise romantic nights in or out..go all da way.. trust me do that once a week or 2 weeks and you will see your relationship reach sky-high. Above all.. keep your communication open.. and be positive whenever u speak to her..remember you'r in da honeymoon period.. so make the most of it.