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  1. Why would I believe that a just and compassionate god would be more likely to throw me in hell just because I was born a woman rather than a man? [/QB] Did you even read the hadith first of all or do you have trouble understanding it? Where in that hadith does it specifically say Allah (SWT) will throw you in to the hell-fire just because you are a "women"? Does it not say more women will be in the hell-fire because of such-and-such? There are many different narrations to this hadith (never heard of the one you have posted though...will do some research on it) It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.†They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allaah?†He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).†It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allaah?†He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’†(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1052) As you can see, the reason for why women will be the majority in the hell-fire is not "just because they are women" but rather because of how they are ungrateful to their husbands and how when they see one undesirable thing in them...they will deny anything good their husbands did for them! Insh'Allah (God Willing) I will try to answer your question in more details next time as I'm in a rush. JB, since you already KNOW that a woman CAN choose to have a hurul'ain if she desires then what's your problem? :confused: So what if it's not mentioned in the Qur'an? If we already KNOW that we can, isn't that good enough? :confused:
  2. Assalamu Alaikum, Ibrahim Al-Jibreen is a good recitor...one of my faourite recitors actually Never listened to Sheikh Ali Al-Houdyfi recitations though, will listen to it now Insh'Allah
  3. Assalamu Alaikum, WOW...Mash'Allah. Is Hussain Somali? Subhan'Allah, good to know I'm not the tallest lol
  4. Wa'alaykum Salam Wr Wb, Is your post in swahil? If so, can you please write what you just wrote in english? We, well I, might benefit from it Insh'Allah Ramadan Kariim Salam
  5. Assalamu Alaikum, Just curious...do kids who don't have any parents or who are homeless live in Somalia? And also, lets say a person travels to Somalia and wants to adopt a child...would they be allowed?
  6. Originally posted by islamtoday: In the name of Allah most gracious most mercifull, first of all sis... Allah SWA does not shy away from the truth... so sis i don't mean to be harsh but u shouldn't be in a situation like the one u r in,, to begin with right,,, 'cause our diin forbids that.. but we r humans and we make mistakes... my advice to u sis.. if this man has good diin and good manners and u know him to be of good nature,, and wouldn't transgress on u go ahead marry with ur families permission... don't worry about the degree 'cause Allah SWA put the responsibility of providing for the family upon the man's shoulder not of woman's if only men could understand that... the reason for this advise is 'cause u r in a relationship with this person,, and as we all know it relationships before marriage are Haram right... so u have to discontinue u being in haram situation to a Halal.. 'cause SAW said "if a man and a woman become alone in a place the shaytan is their third".... something to that extent... so anything could happen between u,, we r human we r not made of iron.. blood runs through us... and like the others have said prayer istikhara also.. May Allah SWA help u... Well put Islamtoday. As for the sister, I hope you make the right decision sis and good luck
  7. Peace JB, A woman CAN choose to have one if she desires just because it's not mentioned in the Qur'an does NOT mean she is not allowed to have one...afterall, people get whatever they desire in Jannah! However, a well known fact is that us (women) will be 10X more beautiful than the women of Jannah! (There is a hadith on this, Insh'Allah (God Willing) I will try to find it for you) what more of a reward could a Muslimah want? Peace
  8. PS: Here is a good lecture to listen to Insh'Allah Lecturer- Shiekh Abdur-Raheem Green Shiekh Green pictures the Moments of Death and the Life Hereafter, He also describes Jannah and Naar (Hellfire) http://english.islamway.com/bindex.php?section=lessons&lesson_id=400&scholar_id=16
  9. Assalamu Alaikum, Brother...people in Jannah do sweat but it will smell like musk. And Allah knows best
  10. Assalamu Alaikum, LOL....this is really funny! The poster...as a Muslim I seriously don't understand how you can actually agree with this person, I mean just look at how he puts it, that Muslims must "emerge from the intellectual ghetto of literalism" this simply means taking reality not for what it is...but rather from an angle of capitalism...where truth is relative and not absolute. If not they will surely arrive at Allah (SWT). Then “rejection of conservative dogmatism†where dogmatism means taking a mullahs word without questioning facts and evidence i.e. blind following. Which is absolutely nonsense to the core, for that’s why we have classifications in hadith according to strength and ijtihad as a method to solving problems, past and present, Above all Islam is applicable through out time, and that’s were the challenge lays… and for equality for men and women, yes we are equal in the SIGHT of Allah (SWT) i.e. when it comes to ibadat, but different when it comes to the role of a man and a women. A great scholor of AlAzhar Shiekh Gamal Qutub once said something which makes perfect sense and at the same time is quite amusing he said " Men and women will be equal when men start giving birth"! May Allah (SWT) guide us all to the straight path (Ameen) Salam
  11. Originally posted by m u h a m m a d: new question: what is the name of the city that is mentioned in the Quran, that had "lofty pillars, The like of which were not produced in (all) the land?" and which people lived in this city? fi'amanillah Iram...? Allah (SWT says, "Saw you (O Muhammad (saw) not how your Lord dealt with 'Ad (people) of Iram (who were very tall) like (lofty) pillars, the like of which were not created in the land?" (Al-Fajr 6-8) About brother Rashiids questions...Eygpt? Oh..I was thinking it was Jerusalem What do we call the Angels who write down what we do?
  12. Originally posted by Rashiid: Proud, that is the correct answer: Answer to m u h a m m a d’s question:: ‘Prophet Huud was sent to ‘Ad and Prophet Saalax was sent to Thamud: What are the two cities and one country that were mentioned in the holy Koran? Please provide the verses if you can. Mecca, Madina and Jerusalem....? Jerusalem “Glorified (and Exalted) be He (the Lord) Who took His slave (Muhammad) for a journey by night from Al-Masjid Al-Haraam (at Makkah) to Al-Masjid Al-Aqsaa (in Jerusalem), the neighborhood whereof We have blessed…†(17:1) Mecca Other names used for Mecca in the Qur'an are Bakka and the Mother of Cities. The first House established for mankind was that at Bakka, a place of blessing and a guidance for all beings. (Surah Al 'Imran, 96) This is a Book We have sent down and blessed, confirming what came before it, so that you can warn the Mother of Cities and the people around it. Those who believe in the hereafter believe in it and safeguard their prayer. (Surat al-An'am, 92) Madina Some of the desert Arabs around you are hypocrites and some of the people of Madina are obdurate in their hypocrisy. You do not know them but We know them. We will punish them twice over and then they will be returned to a terrible punishment. (Surat at-Tawba, 101)
  13. Assalamu Alaikum, "The First Lady and I send" The first lady? :confused: "Ramadan is a special time of reflection, fasting, and charity. "During this holy month, Muslims outdo each other in righteous deeds, showing compassion to their fellow beings. With this in mind, I encourage Somalis everywhere to reflect upon where we have been, urge us all to move toward forgiveness and commit to working hard to implement stability, democracy, and good governance in our homeland," President Abdullahi Yusuf Ahmed added" Hopefully Somalia will head towards implementing the Shari'ah and NOT a "western" based "democracy" because the ONLY way to achieve "good" governance and/or stability is by following the Qur'an and Sunnah of the Prophet (saw)!
  14. Originally posted by Rashiid: Name the only Companion whose name was mentioned in the Holy Quran? Assalamu Alaikum, Zaid Bin Harith...?
  15. Question: How do the first ten days of the Month of Dhul Hijjah differ from other days of the year? [/QB] Assalamu Alaikum, It brings many benefits such as the opportunity to correct your faults and make up for any shortcomings or anything that you might have missed. Every one of these special days involves some kind of worship through which the slave of Allah may draw closer to Him (SWT)! And also Allah (SWT) has preferred this month over all the other days of the year...Ibn Abbâs (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (pbuh) said: "There are no days in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allâh than these ten days." The people asked, "Not even jihad for the sake of Allah?" He said, "Not even jihad for the sake of Allah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing." (Reported by al-Bukhari, 2/457). And Allah (SWT) knows best...correct me if I'm wrong Insh'Allah Salam
  16. Originally posted by Khayr: ^^^^ Salamz, The Battle of Hattin took place in 1187 or 583 A.H. . This is the battle that salahuddin and his army took back Jerusalim from the crusaders. Question quote: The Se7en under the Shade are: 1. A Just Ruler 2 A youth who grew up in the worship of Allaah 3. A man whose heart is attached to the mosques 4. Two men who love each other for Allaah's sake, meeting for that and parting upon that 5. A man who is called by a woman of beauty and position but he says: 'I fear Allaah' 6. A man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity 7. A man who remembered Allaah in private and so his eyes shed tears What do these 7 have that relates them to each other and makes them different from the rest??? Fi Amanillah Assalamu Alaikum, They are all worshipers of Allah (SWT) and what makes them different from the rest is that they don't follow they desires...they don't fall into temptations (i.e. A man who is called by a woman of beauty and position but he says: 'I fear Allah'). LOL...I'm just guessing
  17. Also, the fact that women are known to be more sensitive and emotional than men must not be overlooked. It is well known, for example, that under identical circumstances women suffer much greater anxiety than men. Allah (SWT) has even given us an explanation to why two women as witnesses and hasn't left us in the dark. He says two women because "if one of them errs, the other can remind her." This is taking our unique emotional state and physical difference into consideration! It has nothing to do with how women were uneducated or not as knowledgeable as men during the Prophet (saw) life but rather the physical differences as can be seen in the above article. And Allah (SWT) knows best. PS: Sorry for making different posts...my reply is a bit too long and it wasn't letting me post it as one Salam
  18. --> "Reduced powers of concentration and memory are familiar aspects of the pre-menstrual syndrome and can only be remedied by treating the underlying complaint." This does not mean, of course, that women are mentally deficient absolutely. It just means that their mental faculties can become affected at certain times in the biological cycle <-- Shreeves also writes: --> "As many as 80 percent of women are aware of some degree of pre-menstrual changes, 40 percent are substantially disturbed by them, and between 10 and 20 percent are seriously disabled as a result of the syndrome." Furthermore, women face the problem of ante-natal and post-natal depression, both of which cause extreme cycles of depression in some cases. Again, these recurring symptoms naturally affect the mind, giving rise to drowsiness and dopey memory <-- On the subject of pregnancy in Psychiatry in Practice, October-November 1986, we learn that: --> "In an experiment 'Cox' found that 16 percent of a sample of 263 pregnant women were suffering from clinically significant psychiatric problems. Eight percent had a depressive neurosis and 1.9 percent had phobic neurosis. This study showed that the proportion of pregnant women with psychiatric problems was greater than that found in the control group but the difference only tended towards significance."[5 ] <-- Regarding the symptoms during the post-natal cycle Dr. Ruth Sagovsky writes: --> "The third category of puerperal psychiatric problems is post-natal depression. It is generally agreed that between10 to 15 percent of women become clinically depressed after childbirth. These mothers experience a variety of symptoms but anxiety, especially over the baby, irritability, and excessive fatigue are common. Appetite is usually decreased and often there are considerable sleep difficulties. The mothers lose interest in the things they enjoyed prior to the baby's birth, and find that their concentration is impaired. They often feel irrational guilt, and blame themselves for being 'bad' wives and mothers. Fifty percent of these women are not identified as having a depressive illness. Unfortunately, many of them do not understand what ails them and blame their husbands, their babies or themselves until the relationships are strained to an alarming degree."[6 ] "... Making the diagnosis of post-natal depression is not always easy. Quite often the depression is beginning to become a serious problem around three months postpartum when frequent contact with the health visitor is diminishing. The mother may not present with depressed mood. If she comes to the health centre presenting the baby as the patient, the true nature of the problem can be missed. When the mother is continually anxious about the baby in spite of reassurance, then the primary health care worker needs to be aware of the possibility of depression. Sometimes these mothers present with marital difficulties, and it is easy to muddle cause and effect, viewing the accompanying low mood as part of the marital problem. Sometimes, only when the husband is seen as well does it become obvious that it is a post-natal depressive illness which has led to the deterioration in the marriage."[7 ] <--
  19. It is under these situations that women can experience extraordinary psychological strains giving rise to depression, lack of concentration, slow-mindedness and SHORT TERM MEMORY LOSS!!!! Now lets examine these in more details with medical references from the scientific world! --> Psychiatry in Practice, April 1983 issue states: "Forty percent of women suffer from pre-menstrual syndrome in some form and one in every of our women have their lives severely disrupted by it. Dr Jill Williams, general practitioner from Bury, gives guidelines on how to recognise patients at risk and suggests a suitable treatment." [1] <-- In the same issue, George Beaumont reporting on the workshop held at the Royal College of Obstreticians and Gynaecologists in London on pre-menstrual syndrome, says: --> "Some authorities would argue that 80 percent of women have some degree of breast and abdominal discomfort which is pre-menstrual but that only about 10 percent complain to their doctors - and then only because of severe tenderness of the breasts and mental depression... Other authorities have suggested that pre-menstrual syndrome is a new problem, regular ovulation for 20 years or more being a phenomenon caused by 'civilisation', 'medical progress', and an altered concept of the role of women."[2 ] <-- In its examination of the occurrence of physical and psychological change during the period just prior to the onset of menstruation we read in Psychological Medicine: --> "Many studies have reported an increased likelihood of various negative affects during the pre-menstrual period. In this affective category are many emotional designations including irritability, depression, tension, anxiety, sadness, insecurity, lethargy, loneliness, tearfulness, fatigue, restlessness and changes of mood. In the majority of studies, investigators have found it difficult to distinguish between various negative affects, and only a few have allowed themselves to be excessively concerned with the differences which might or might not exist between affective symptoms."[3 ] <-- In the same article dealing with Pre-menstrual Behavioural Changes we read: --> "A significant relationship between the pre-menstrual phase of the cycle and a variety of specific and defined forms of behaviour has been reported in a number of studies. For the purpose of their review, these forms of behaviour have been grouped under the headings of aggressive behaviour, illness behaviour and accidents, performance on examination and other tests and sporting performance."[4 ] <-- --> The lengthy review portrays how female behaviour is affected in these situations. In 'The Pre-menstrual Syndrome', C. Shreeves writes: <--
  20. Assalamu Alaikum, Allah (SWT) says..."It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger to have any option about their decision: if any one disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong Path." [al-Ahzaab:36] and the Qur'an, the ayah (2:282) says, "...get two witnesses, out of your own men, and if there are not two men, then a man and two women, such as ye choose, for witnesses, so that if one of them errs, the other can remind her..." --> The passage of the Qur'aan (Baqarah 2:282) in which the above-mentioned requirement is made has usury, capital and debtor difficulties as its theme. Allaah grants guidelines in matters relating to monetary obligations. Then business transactions are dealt with. In this section, the requirement to commit all transactions into writing is stated most emphatically (Reduce them to writing...). The section after this describes the responsibility of the scribe, or in modern parlance, the person responsible for drawing up the agreement. The following section describes the responsibility and the obligation of the person incurring the liability. The section after this explains how if the party that is liable cannot effectively draw up the contract - out of being deficient or weak mentally, or being unable to dictate - then his or her guardian should help draw out the contract and choose two suitable witnesses to observe. It must be understood that this situation arises if it is not possible for the liable party to draw out the contract by him/herself. The condition to put things into writing is still supreme. The next section then explains that two men should be called to witness and if two men are not available (And if there are not two men...) then a man and two women. The legislation then continues and reminds most emphatically that one should not be complacent about putting ALL agreements into writing - no matter whether these agreements are major or minor as this is more JUST in the sight of Allaah and more reliable as evidence. The passage of the Qur'aan further explains that for practical reasons it may not always be possible to commit on-the-spot agreements into writing. In this case, it is also recommended that it be witnessed. The section which follows then lays down the guidelines which should be followed in the event that no witnesses are present <--- {Gotten from an article written by Shamshad.M.Khan} Allah, the Creator, with His infinite wisdom gave the directives best suited to humankind. He is the Creator, therefore, He knows man better than a man himself. As women, we are aware of the cyclical psychological strains that a woman has to encounter every month. The symptoms during early pregnancy, ante-natal and post-natal depressions, the phenomenon of menopause, the physiological and psychological problems due to infertility and last but not least the psychological problems faced after miscarriage.
  21. Originally posted by Haseena: Bismillah salamu calaykum fat boy I belive you are maybe referring to the hadith of the rasuul (sallahu alehi wa salam) who said the majority of the inhabitants of the hell fire is women. My thought exactly
  22. Originally posted by Haseena: Nabi Sulayman had I think 99 or 100 wives And doesn't Ilaah mean God? Islam is the religion of All prophets but it was "completed" or "perfected" during the prophets time. I could be wrong. But I am sure that if not all the prophets nabi Ibrahim had islam as his religion. quote: On the Day you shall see the believing men and the believing women - their light running forward before them and by their right hands. Glad tidings for you this Day! Gardens under which rivers flow, to dwell therein forever! Truly, this is the great success." Could someone tell me what sura this verse is from Assalamu Alaikum, Surah al-Hadeed (57):12 OK..my question. The Prophet (saw) told us there will be 7 under the shade of Allah (SWT) on the Day of Ressurection where there is no other shade other than His...who are these 7 people?
  23. Assalamu Alaikum, "Enjoin you Al-Birr(Piety and righteousness and every act of obedience to Allah) on the people and you forget (to practice it) yourselves, while you recite the Scripture (the Taurat (Torah)! Have you then no sense?" (Surah 2:44) "O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is to Allah that you say that which you do not do." (61:2,3) "(Shu'aib said:) I wish not, in contradiction to you, to do that which I forbid you." (11:88) Usamah Bin Zaid (r.a) reported: Messenger of Allah (saw) said, "A man will be brought on the Day of Resurrection and will be cast into Hell, and his intestines will pour forth and he will go round them as a donkey goes round a millstone. The inmates of Hell will gather round him and say: 'What has happened to you, O so-and-so? Were you not enjoining us to do good and forbidding us to do evil?" He will reply: 'I was enjoining you to do good, but was not doing it myself; and I was forbidding you to do evil, but was doing it myself.'" (Al-Bukhari and Muslim) Commentary: This hadith serves a sterm warning for such 'Ulama', preachers and reformers of the Ummah whose own conduct is contrary to the sermons they give from the pulpit!
  24. Assalamu Alaikum, Khadeeja: Narrated Aisha : I did not feel jealous of any of the wives of the Prophet as much as I did of Khadija (although) she died before he married me, for I often heard him mentioning her, and Allah had told him to give her the good tidings that she would have a palace of Qasab (i.e. pipes of precious stones and pearls in Paradise), and whenever he slaughtered a sheep, he would send her women-friends a good share of it. [al-Bukhari] Al Bukhari also reported that Abdullah bin Abi Aufa asked :"Did the Prophet give glad tidings to Khadija?" He said, "Yes, of a palace of Qasab (in Paradise) where there will be neither any noise nor any fatigue." The Black Woman : Narrated 'Ata bin Abi Rabah: Ibn 'Abbas said to me, "Shall I show you a woman of the people of Paradise?" I said, "Yes." He said, "This black lady came to the Prophet and said, 'I get attacks of epilepsy and my body becomes uncovered; please invoke Allah for me.' The Prophet said (to her), 'If you wish, be patient and you will have (enter) Paradise; and if you wish, I will invoke Allah to cure you.' She said, 'I will remain patient,' and added, 'but I become uncovered, so please invoke Allah for me that I may not become uncovered.' So he invoked Allah for her." [al-Bukhari] Ar-Rumaysaa Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah: The Prophet said, "I saw myself (in a dream) entering Paradise, and behold! I saw Ar-Rumaisa', Abu Talha's wife. I heard footsteps. I asked, Who is it? Somebody said, 'It is Bilal ' Then I saw a palace and a lady sitting in its courtyard. I asked, 'For whom is this palace?' Somebody replied, 'It is for 'Umar.' I intended to enter it and see it, but I thought of your ('Umar's) Ghira (and gave up the attempt)." 'Umar said, "Let my parents be sacrificed for you, O Allah's Apostle! How dare I think of my Ghira (self-respect) being offended by you? [al-Bukhari] May Allah (SWT) make us amongst the residents of Paradise (Ameen) Salam
  25. Originally posted by m u h a m m a d: Jazakallah Khair sis Proud Muslimah a beautiful username , for the kind reminder. welcome to SOL May Allah(swt) reward you for your efforts and increase you in Ilm, Iman and Hikmah. Amiin quote: “Allâh has promised to the believers - men and women, - Gardens under which rivers flow to dwell therein forever, and beautiful mansions in Gardens of 'Adn (Eden Paradise). But the greatest bliss is the Good Pleasure of Allâh. That is the supreme success.†(At-Tawbah 9:72) اللهم إني أسألك الجنة وأعوذبك من النار Assalamu Alaikum, Wayakum brother m u h a m m a d...Ameen to your du'a and I wish the same for you