caadi maahan lol.laughing @ the ring.found this from somewhere.a little test can you tell what kind of word is this? 1-It is a four word letter 2-It is used for a woman. 3-It ends in the letters U-N-T. it is AUNT! and not what you were probably thinking!

I have bee browsing The women section for an hour and all you Guys seem to mention this MR.RIGHT aka MR.Perfect.Does he exist? why not MS.RIGHT OR Ms.Perfect or Women dont need to be perfect.I would to know your input on this issue.

Dajiye I guess MR.oday Biiqe as call you call him was well endowned in that department.lol war ninku Eng.cadde maxaa u galay.

My Would be WIfe Needs that kind of book.me thinks.

who kisses my feet every now and then and rushes to do my every command, [/QB] No offence To you,But I Think you should look for a sissy or effeminate men there are plenty of of them you know.But hey,your posts were entertaining though thanks for that.

With deep sincerity in my heart,I pray in ilahey amuurahaaga kuu sahlo iyo wax allaala oo aad happiness ku heleyso. On i side note,I would like to point out that Finding a loving partner to share your live is neccessity but unfortunately we usually figure out that much later time.

Arawello was nothing but a myth Created by bitter women to feel better about themselves.It is amazing to see some people really believe such a fairytale.

Originally posted by ElPunto: Curly, I'm sure you misspoke when you compared a book about making a man happy and a book insulting Islam with the claim they may be similar. If you really believed that you have a choice and they have a choice you wouldn't be making the following remarks: "I abhor this woman who's potentially setting us back" "I'm ashamed that it was a Somali woman that wrote this book and in this centry" "I for one will not be humouring this sort of twaddle on SOL" If you really believed her choice was as equally valid as yours - you wouldn't be heaping these derogatory remarks at her. Ergo, you are being hypocritical. I don't know why you think it's funny that a man might have an opinion on what he thinks may be right or wrong for a woman. Equally - I wouldn't be bothered if you had an opinion on what is right or wrong for men. In your mind - a sacred threshold has been crossed if a man ventures to give his opinion on women and women's issues. I think it's I who has wasted my time. With someone who is defensive, unreasoned and unwilling to hear let alone listen. Adios. Nice sxb,She also believes that NO one should have a family since a woman is likely to be abused sometimes in her marriage life.if this doesnt shock you then you can easily get the massage that she considers those ladies who sacrified their lives to raise their children as being enslaved!

double post.

Originally posted by Curly: So let me get this right you opposed a statement you didn't even fully understand...Mmh interesting. What is roles you say? Would you like the word defined or the context? Never mind let me define both for you to avoid any further misunderstanding as you're so big on those. The word role are the functions, actions and activities assigned to or required or expected of a person or group. In this case the context is women's role in the Somali community. Now having cleared that up do you still believe that we're all born into a role that we are expected to fill? and who expects this? Islam ultimately gives us choice and in Islam the tasks performed by a woman looking after her family is described as an act of charity rather than a duty. As for the cultural view of woman's role? I say BAAH! No,The Question simply stems from the fact that it can be misinterpreted differently. However,No need to call names to score some silly cheap shots.lol As an illustration and make the point home let me say that My role as student is Temporary but not permament likewise my role as a dear brother,caring husband and loving father is a permament role which i have to fill for the rest of my life as i grow. Man and women have different roles which they have to play and no one refutes that fact except radical feminists whose attempt for genderless society backfired but sadly still continues to wreak havoc on the young generation today. It is simple,A MAN Is a father,The Primary bread winner and protector of the family,WOMAN nurtures and takes cares of the kids and home. It is also important to note that femininity(the qualities and behaviors related to females) Are completely opposite to masculinity thus they are different in roles and in tastes. If someone wants to find a hubby to breastfeed their children and stay at home then i gladly suggest they go for sissies. One more thing,what is cool about maamo goes to work and aabo goes to work (Like a competition lol)and the children are left at the mercy of predators? such is sad the status of many of our society to day,No wonder high divorce rates and single moms are rampant in the community. Our calture defines what we are and i am proud of my calture .

Curly Sis,Lets Not make a circular argument that might waste our precious Little time. Your straw argument is abvious and can be easily detected but that is not what i want to address it right now. You can stay single as much as you like and work till the age of spinsterhood for all i care.As i have previously stated i am not here to tell people how to live their lives. so,I would gladly appreciate if you can shed some light of what you mean by roles? Thannks.

Originally posted by Sue: It isn't about gender in all honesty. Abuse is committed by men and women alike, although the higher percentages of perpetrators are male. Sorry to put you on the spot light,but one questions comes to man.Since the hairy macho-male is violent according to your own opinion,Did some kind of abuse happened in your family? again,sorry to ask such personal Question it can only be justified by your constant nacnac about the so called males abuses.lol

Yeah,It all pours down to making the MAN happy?.huh,Intelligent Ladies Know that already,they learn it at an earlier age.lol

Actually we are born into roles and we are expected to fill these roles otherwise we become failure.Ilah baan ka maqangalay. I have a respect for any traditional lady who sacrifices to be with her children and ensures their safety,welfare and their pyschological upbringing.How ever,If a mother can both work and take care of her childs emotional upbringing that is should be Applaudable. I am not Going to take sides on the Issue,But i would like to Throw some facts out there. I think there is a high pressure on women to have children and marry because of Physiological reasons-The fertile age for females being 20-40.A very short time compared to males who can still play the games into their late 70s. Anyways,If a lady sacrifices to be with her children provided the family enjoys aa decent living we shouldnt be critizing it but regard it as a personal choice. But putting emphasis on career and totally forgetting your family isnt a good idea and if someone thinks so then they should try it and see it for themselves I would be more than happy to hear their stories.lol Culturally,We somalis have this attitude of letting down women when they postpone marriage,A girl past 28 is looked down as an outcaste(Gumeys),I Dont condone it but sadly that is how the things are and I firmly believe no amount of enlightment can change that. And the stories continues................

That is a good Choice sis,And I as a Male Confrim to it. We have casese of women being fed the feminism trash agenda who put emphasis on work ahead of their children.A really responsible man will not marry unless he is able to afford a comfortible life for his family. There is a difference b.w a full working mom and part time working mom and we should be careful not to generalize.If a man Goes to work and comes back to find NO food on the table,dirty house and further worse,children being molested by the so called day care experts then there is really something wrong in that marriage. Going to college is a cool thing but when you get the degree at the age of 28 there comes the dilemma,would you pursue your career ambitions and work hard as a man to become indepedent at loss of finding a suitable husband and loving children. We men are selfish in nature,why? when we become successful,we dont care about the educational achievements of our would be wifeys,our main priority is if she can cook a good delicious food and can become a loving mother who raises her kids accordingly.

No comment.Lool

Topgirl Yeah,The horse riding stuff miyaad soo wadaa. Guerilla. Hold on a sec guerilla,I didnt say women are vile or evil.get a grip on your self waxyarba wah.Women are our dear mothers,sisters and wives. we shouldnt be generalizing but it is ok to shed the light on those BAD APPLES.yes! Cynical lady your name says it all.you should be the least to call someone a name. C-H Come on,Dont be naive.have you read her comments and what she wrote right above? If you did,then you shouldnt be judgmental and side with her. So,let me make this clear once and for all,Eng.cadde is not Persuing this issue out of personal Grievance Nor is he interested in telling people how to live their lives ma garatay.Rather,He is exercising his freedom of speech and it is not my concern if i offend some Emotional folks here even though that chance is very slim. Anyway,Can you explain to me why are on my case walalo.If you would like to discuss something with me you shouldnt be trolling me all around.My Pm is enabled you know.

You want us to give advices how to kiss your cousin? wtf man,First all,marrying a cousin is allowed but it is better to stay away because of the possibility of deformed babies due to inbreeding.teeda kale,you should show her some respect and ask her parents to give you her hand sxb you shouldnt be doing such indecent things with her since she is a relative dude.you are treating your cousin like she is some skank. :eek: as ibti pointed out,you are supposed to protect her dignity ma ahan inaad adiga luuqluuqdada ku dhuuqdhuuqo.

Originally posted by oz_girl: I think my fear of men is preventing me from finding a spouse. I know to some that might sound ludicrous but to me it's ruining my life. My debilitating fear is crippling me in the romance department. If a guy shows an interest i immediately withdraw from his company .Everyone thinks i'm being secretive about my relationships but how do i tell them that none exist? How do you tell your friends that you're afraid to be in a relationship with a man? I've had plenty or a decent number of guys who've shown interest in me but once they do i become flustered and put off. If i like a guy i become very hostile and snobbish around him even though my heart is singing a different tune. I think I’ve taken "play hard to get" to a dangerous and unhealthy level. do any of you ladies feel the same way? And how do I go about freeing myself from these shackles? Seems to me you have a BAD BAD childhood experiences,you come across as someone who has been abused in her early childhood.anyways,I am sorry to hear your awkward predicament but you know you have to try to change your attitude towards marriage.your biological clock tickling once a female hits 30 and she couldnt find a suitable soulmate then chances are that she may spend the rest of her life as lonely spinster(alciyadu bilah).majority of men value your young fertility and dont care anything else,the only man in the world who will still love you is your husband,he looks at that wrinkled face and remembers the sweet little shy girl he once married.in this way,a woman grows graciously. having said,NEVER assume that men will marry you if your offer them your goods earlier than expected.some guys arent into marriage,if you stay firm and say "lets postpone sex till we get marry" they will run away and if you give them for free then you are a bad girl in their eyes and still go away.it rarely occurs that a man marry a woman he has already devoured before marriage.who wants to settle for a cheap girl anyway? lets hope you overcome your obsticles and find the man of your happiness.amin

Originally posted by NNC: "Households need structure, you play your part, he plays his part. Having said that, because we live in the 21st century, and living expenses are extremely high - thus it wouldn't hurt if the wife could work part-time. As long as she is still fulfilling her duty in the house" Strange, you think taking care of the children is not a hard work? It is a full time job walaal. You also want the woman to get a part time job?...I say ahahaha....open your eyes and smell the ginger... Reality check...get over yourself...how about you get a second job to feed your family.. As for the bedroom issue, it takes 2 to tango...making love is not a job the woman has to do, it is an expression of love between two people...it is also a healthy exercise... I dont mind cooking and cleaning and staying home with my children because i want to. The best chefs in the world are men..All the men in my family cook and they are not ashamed of it..infact they brag about it...it is 21st century...so get on with it... Cooking is an art, not a job.... Marriage is a hard work. Both parties have to contribute 100%...it is not a one-man show... If you want someone to take your shoes off...buy a slave.... cheers I am in my final years of university(Engineering) .so,dont get offended if i say something out of curiosity concerning marriage.It has been proven that a womens happiness lies in household chore(taking care of her childre,cleaning and cooking and attending to her husband needs at night) etc. I dont want my wife to work unless she is highly proffessional(Doctor) etc. I strongly agree with your view point that males and females have different roles to play.malaness(aggressive) is the opposite of femalesness(passive) and the roles can not be the same. Lool buy a slave kulaha,no thanks. I would advice guys who want to tie the knot to first have a serious discussion with thier would be wives,their past history is relevent because past and future are related somehow. ask her her views on marriage and male and female roles,listen to her carefully as she explains what she expects from this holy union. consider how traditional she is(is she a modest) and remember that religious consideration is a must.if she is beautiful but lacks religious inclination,then you know something is gonna be wrong,after she will be the mother of your kids. oh,ONE important thing i forgot,be in control of the relationship,NEVER let her be in control,that will be the biggest mistake a man can make.!remember women want a REAL Man.

Originally posted by NNC: What if the girl was rapped Eng Cadde? If you love someone you shouldn't judge their past...starting a new life together is sweeter than dwelling on the past... If she aint a virgin it don't she will cheat on you...that is alot of bull... maybe she will cheat because the man can't satisfy her like her previous boyfriend.. Somali men don't know how to deliver anyways.. come on,what are you suggesting? Marry a slut who suffers from extreme low self steem? a woman who probably slept with half donzen men because she thought the only thing she can offer a man is what is hidden between her legs? knowing your soul mates past history is imperative and is the basis for any long lasting relationship.! dont you notice a pattern here? every girl is cool until she drops her panties,then her stocks drop down.! and about a cheating part,why would you ever be in a holy relationship such as marriage with a cheating woman? subxanalah,what are you implying here. Lol,about the last part of your comment,i dont know your gender ,but if you are coming from the female perspective then i would say that you may have not seen a real somali rag rag ah,but hey girl,what ever rocks your boat,buddy but he aware of life threating disease HIV etc as you expriment with different men from other races.

Originally posted by TopGirl: Is degrading and very low for a man to talk about a women’s virginity like that, to describe it in those words, those terms. What ever happened to hard working, soldier like gentlemen in our community? Guys these days became women, they talk about s!!l and boobs just like women. What ever your friend told you should’ve kept in, you don’t discuss strange girl’s virginity in public forums. saying that though I wouldn’t want to marry a non virgin, so I would understand where is coming from. Excuse me,when did talking about something such as "bikronimo" become a feminine thing? so,in your own twisted logic any guy who airs his preference for a girl which is has kept her self clean is a sissy?.*scratches his long beard*

Interesting thread mashalah.

Chocolate. Take it easy sis,I didnt start this thread to offend some of our female members marka hore.My views represent a small fraction of the general somali male population. Secondly,Dont you think this is a public forum where civilized people can write what ever they feel like writing.Yeah,It is true that i hinted my preferences in that other thread.Nothing is wrong with that. Yes they do.We discuss Hi-men Everytime the delicate subject of marriage or shukaansi is brought up.

Modesty It doesnt matter if they claim it or deny it.nimanka alshabab arinta gadaal ayey kal xumaatay.I just listened to their spokesman Ali dheere and You can actually tell how happy he was at the death of somali ministers like Pro.Caddow Shahiidka UAN.ALi dheere said something like {I dont think the somali people will believe me or not but we are not behind this attack.) The only people that use this technique -suicide bombing- are alshabab and the ***** who committed the act was shown to the media His body torn into piece-the lower end-. They can deny all they want but 90 percent of the somali people today agree that alshaba were the culprits.the irreversible damage has already been done!!