LOOOL @ some of your responses! Good to know some people here are walking freakshows ....I thank you all for letting me know who to avoid Anyway, Somali trait you say? I don't even remotely resemble a Somali, forget that, I don't even resemble a human being. I've long given up trying to cope with the fact that I'm "different"....now I thrive on it. Kids don't come anywhere near me, so forget about babysitting. But hey, am I complaining...no! I'm perfectly contend wearing this mask that oddly resembles the one Hannibal Lectre was wearing in Silence of the Lambs....do you think they're trying to tell me something??...Or is it me being paranoid??? * scratches bald patch on head * * wipes drool off with her duck fingers * Dinner is ready...byyyehaayyy

Sista in the beginning you have raised the issue that such disorders not being apparent in our communities, then you continue to elaborate that indeed there is a problem "NOT BEING ANOREXIC" Maybe I got it all wrong-sorry-I probably been viewing this topic from one dimension Raula, never mind viewing this from one dimension, at least you have A VIEW. Let me explain what I meant. True, eating disorders are not that frequent in our community. These disorders are developed when a person considers themselves to be fat. However, African cultures celebrate this figure instead. The difference here is only the one culture viewing being big as beautiful and the other despising it. Thus, the pressure is nevertheless present in both cultures meaning that one person could develop eating disorders to slim down, while the other one could develop it to get a more voloptous figure. Hope this makes my point clearer. Nevertheless thanks for your response Ameenah, thanks for your insightful response. You hit on some home truths, and if we need to look at eating disorders it's best to start at home. Though, 4 people responded to this topic so far? Does this mean the rest of the nomads have not got an opinion on this? :confused: Selaams

Posted by Mutakalim: Wail away good Moralists. Should you persist in your ever-loud moral lamenting and howling, then you are bound to effect a desirable outcome. this was probably the most sensible reply i have read in all the 4 pages devoted to this exhausted topic.

Salaam Nomads, I'd like to discuss the phenomena that surrounds eating disorders . Alright, that might be putting it strong since eating disorders have long lost their facination and were put back on the dusty shelves. Nevertheless it never ceased to amaze me how many people actually succumb daily to this fatal addiction. I'm guessing that most of you are aware of the two biggest eating disorders namely Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa. Just in case, I will give a quick summary of the main clinical characteristics/symptoms: Anorexia Nervosa (meaning literally nervous loss of appetite):- Person sees himself or herself as overweight even when extremely thin Compulsive behaviour around food Amenorrhea in females (menstruation stops) Impotence in males (yes! it does affect men!) Person sees himself or herself as overweight even when extremely thin Obsession with food and weight Bulimia Nervosa:- Consumption of large amounts of food (bingeing), followed by purging or exercising obsessively Obsession with body weight and shape Bingeing and purging from once or twice a week to several times a day Low self -esteem and fear of failure is typical Strong need for acceptance and reassurance What makes these disorders fatale is the fact that the sufferer is too stubborn to see what it's doing to them. They have low self esteem and a sense of worthlessness. People diagnosed with these disorders often go back to it because of the ritualistic way they used to do things. They don't know another way of life anymore. Thus, because the body is not putting on any weigt it starts to eat up itself burning vital organs and other bodily fluids in the process. You might think to yourself why would anyone in his/her right mind refuse the wonderful nimcah of food? Could it be the media? Supermodels rocking a waife figure making skelleton silhouttes a "sexy" figure or the constant reminder of this NEED to go on diet, displayed to you nicely and in big letter on billboards everywhere. Or could it be more closer to home? It has been speculated, debated, and researched that anorexic or bulimic sufferers have endured abuse in their early childhood, thus the low self esteem manifesting into a eating disorder. Or maybe it could be just sheer loneliness? What I find more interesting is the fact that these type of disorders are not all that frequent in our own Somali community. Is it because we're Africans and share a culture that promotes more well rounded figures and frowns upon skinnyness? If so, is this not a problem in its own as this will consequently mean that the person who is not gifted in certain department, meaning hasn't got a shapely bottom or round hips, will develop an eating disorder to achieve this figure just to satisfy the masses? Or is it because we as muslims know how grateful we should be for the little piece of bread we have, knowing that tomorow that little piece could well be gone? Or is it that this culture also conveniently doesn't believe in this sort of "taboo" and would dismiss it all too easily? Having said this, do we feel sorry for those who suffer from it? Or are they to blame? What about the victim's families, friends etc.? Too many questions and not a lot of answers. Having said all this, I would like to know what your thoughts are on this. Please bear in mind that this is a serious issue so try to stay on the topic and keep funny remarks to a minimum. Salaamullaah

Happy New Year Everyone

"Home to over 60.000 Somalians" :eek: :eek: Acuudu Bilaah

^^^ easy with the sarcasm dang! Xu dont waste your time, Tofu is seriously disgusting, it should be made illegal, don't pollute your stomach with that rubbish...ugh I actually have a childhood nightmare relating to Tofu *shudders* anyway ney year solutions of mine: Actually sleep early for once, so i can wake up on time for work ( I can't afford to come late anymore) Buy and Alarm Clock to make the above happen ( I dried up the excuse that my mobile phone is always out of battery in the early mornings ) Stop taking too long Lunch Hour Breaks Stop spendig money like it doesnt have a value Learn more about my diin Be nice to the neigbours, stop kicking their dog when they're not looking ( I seriously hate that thing) Save up so I can go visit the Motherland this summer - havent been back since 1989 Some nice resolutions some of you got Salaam

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wow, that's quite inspirational sis! Keep up these sort of posts

My perfect honeymoon would be under the bright moonlight in the highly remote regions of the somali bushland with the soft scent of radiation flowing in the breeze all the way from iraq while laying on top of a rusted 1980s tank listening for the echoes of gunshots from the borderlines of ethiopia...NOW thats a perfect honeymoon ...now that should Whoo the pants off any Girl...i know just what to give you for wedding present now...A bullet proof vest for him and her Now to my honeymoon....I'll be going to Fiji...or one of those other remote islands of Tahiti

^^^ Wiilo...waxii carabka ii saarna baa dhahday Dabo dhaqda sii wad Checkmate...waa laga yaaba iney kaa naxaan ee temboreery "ilaaliye" kaa dhigaan Bai Bai

I came accross this poem, its quite nice, read it for yourselfs! TO A WESTERNized WOMAN Courtesy: Najaa Salman WHEN YOU LOOK AT ME ALL YOU CAN SEE IS THE SCARF THAT COVERS MY HAIR. MY WORDS YOU CAN'T HEAR BECAUSE YOU'RE TOO FULL OF FEAR, YOU THINK IT'S NOT MY OWN CHOICE, IN YOUR OWN "LIBERATION" YOU REJOICE. YOU'RE SO THANKFUL THAT YOU'RE NOT ME. YOU THINK I'M UNEDUCATED, TRAPPED, OPPRESSED AND SUBJUGATED. YOU'RE SO THANKFUL THAT YOU ARE FREE. BUT WESTERN WOMAN YOU'VE GOT IT WRONG- YOU'RE THE WEAK AND I'M THE STRONG, FOR I'VE REJECTED THE TRAP OF MAN. FANCY CLOTHES-LOW NECK, SHORT SKIRT, THESE ARE DEVICES FOR PAIN AND HURT, I'M NOT FALLING FOR THAT LITTLE PLAN. ALWAYS JUMPING TO THE MALE AGENDA, COMPETING ON HIS TERMS. NO JOB SHARE, NO CRECHE FACILITIES, NO FEEDING AND NAPPY CHANGING AMENITIES. NO TIME OFF FOR MENSTRUAL PAIN- "HORMONES" THEY LAUGH "WHAT A SHAME." NO EQUAL PAY FOR EQUAL SKILL- YOUR JOB THEY CAN ALWAYS FILL. NO PROMOTION UNLESS YOU'RE STERILISED. NO PROMOTION UNLESS YOU'RE SEXUALLY TERRORISED. AND IS THIS LIBERATION? I'M A PERSON WITH IDEAS AND THOUGHT, I'M NOT FOR SALE, I CAN'T BE BOUGHT. I WON'T DECORATE ANYONE'S ARM, NOR BE PROMOTED FOR MY CHARM. THER'S MORE TO ME THAN PLAYING COY. LIVING LIFE AS A BALANCING GAME-MOTHER, DAUGHTER, WIFE, NURSE, CLEANER, COOK, LOVER- AND STILL BRING HOME A WAGE. WHO THOUGHT UP THIS MODERN "FREEDOM" WHERE MAN CAN LOVE 'EM AND MAN CAN LEAVE 'EM THIS IS NOT FREE BUT LIFE IN A CAGE. WESTERN WOMAN YOU CAN HAVE YOUR LIFE MINE-IT HAS LESS STRIFE. I COVER AND I GET RESPECTED SURELY THAT'S TO BE EXPECTED- FOR I WON'T DEMEAN THE FEMININE I WON'T LIVE TO A MALE CRITERION. I DANCE TO MY OWN TUNE, AND I HOPE YOU SEE THIS VERY SOON, FOR YOUR OWN SAKE-WAKE UP AND USE YOUR SIGHT! ARE YOU SO SURE THAT YOU ARE RIGHT?

i just bought the Da Vince Code, can't wait to read it

Checkmate...dream in vain mate ...moderator baan ahay kulahaa :rolleyes: anyway...ujeedeedda topic kaan wxaey aheyd to discuss the absence of moderators in this room. Some of you agree with me, however i have to disagree with some of your nominations. To nominate the nomad you can get along with the most is wrong. Its called favortism. Besides i think it's up to admin to allocate someone, and if he does eventually i think it has to be the people who contribute to this forum in a postive and constructive way. Waad kumahadsan tihiin laakin, inaad fikir kiina soo sheegateen.

aaaaww....you sweet thing, seriously i feel for you. cheer up! well there is a thing you could do...go back to the shop, see if you can refund it, if they say no...try the Winona Ryder style, result guaranteed thinks of what she could do with 200 bucks...

^^^ ...i salute you! HEIL SHEH! i love shouting the odds...especially when i'm talking on the phone and in the bus. i love to see people getting annoyed all because of little me..whoopie...swells me with joy to know i have made yet another person's day a misery...drink up mate! it's in our blood...well in mine at least, who cares about yous ta-ta

Oo horta kaalaya, aniga waxaan is weydinayaa forumkaan maxeenan moderators u heysanin? Meeshaan shukaansiga iyo sheekada bila micniga ah baa la yaabay. Ma fiicna waxaan ee forumka baa "bollutid" naga noqanaayo. Marka waxan aniga "broboos gareenaya" ina si dag dag ah moderators loo sameeyo qolkaan. Ok ok...don't get me wrong and get all stuffy on me...i was just making a jiniral oobsarvashan But seriously...you (whoever is reading this) agree...yes or no?

^^ wareer badana eh!...i was going through the same thing as you, until a helpful moderator showed me the path (?) Oh yeah...btw good observation admin regarding logging out whenever you get off the computer. Last week i caught my lil brother reading my PM's...needless to say, I have to pay him a horrendous sum to keep him from spilling the beans on my horrid affair

^^^ ...maxaa la'is faaniyay AJ...you have no shame! Making business deals maalin cadeey Cadde, wilkommen!

ilahey haa u naxariisto, iska samir AJ

"Now that it gets dark quite early my own shadow scares me"...that is spot on sis. I start shivering and shaking, whenever i'm alone on the street in the dark, and not only because it's cold! Let me tell you about an incident that happened to me last year. I was then doing my last of year of College, and you know how hectic that last year can be. It requires that you eat, breathe and sleep your text books! So being the stressed out chicken that I was, I was always staying till closing time at the library in town, and by then you have to wait for the bus another hour. Anyway to make a long thing short, on one of those nights, as I was making my way to the bus stop, which was, mind you, like a good 10 minutes walk from the library(if you were walking fast that is, and me i like to take my time ), I heard some footsteps approaching behind me. At first I didnt think anything of it, i mean it was usually a busy high street, so there were bound to be one person or another walking on the street besides me. Just to be on the safe side, i crossed the road, and what do you know, they crossed the road after a second or so. Still i was thinking that maybe, just maybe they needed the cornershop that was around the corner. I crossed the road again, and sure thing, they crossed with me. I was so scared by now that i started running back again to the library. When i got there, i found that the library was still open, to my relief, and i told the librarian what happened. I was really surprised when she told me that these two men are known in the area. They harrass the girls on a regular basis, and even threatened her once. Needless to say, i stopped going to the library there and then. I was just lucky that i didn't get confronted by those men. Anyway, what i meant to say is that us women need to be more vigilant and careful, especially nowadays. Rape, murder and robbery happen on a regular basis. Always carry some sort of a weapong with you, read the fatixa and make sure you don't take un-necessary risks.

damnn...that was the nicest fight i had seen since i discovered WWF was fake. that bloody eye did it for me, i was pushing the repeat button again and again! Nowadays that so-called boxing is nothing, they're beating eachother with cusioned hands...this was the REAL THING! :cool:

will it do anything to my computer???

^^ Hear Hear!

^^ Hear Hear!