^ Ever heard of of the saying "a girl only has her reputation whereas a guy only has his balls" (or somewhere along those lines)...anyway what i'm trying to say is since beginning of time these sort of debates have always arisen, and yet there is still no change in the way people percieve a girl's actions as opposed to that of the boys. A girl shouldn't feel she is equal to a guy or will get an equal status if she sleeps around. I don't believe calling her names and the like is productive of stopping other girls from doing the same thing, but having a bit of self-respect wouldn't go amiss. At the end of the day it's up to you to make choices and to deal with the concequences of those choices and actions. If you're not able to deal with them then don't do it in the first place. You can argue all you want at the end that you're not a ...(fill in the blanks), but when you go and destroy the bit of self-respect and reputation you have you shouldn't cry wolf. Baxarka adiga baa lugahaada ku raad satay. We shouldn't look to other people and point the finger and say things like they're doing it too, why arn't they getting any names. Concentrate on what you did and what you're going to have to do to get out of that situation. Note: If this has been said before then I apologise, I didn't have the time to go and read through all the replies. Ciao

Amethyst, you're right, under islamic law that is not permissable. But then again, Malaysia is on a whole new level This is what another court ruling had to say about this new divorce method Malaysia to Ban Divorces Via E-Mail, Fax, Text Messages JASBANT SINGH Associated Press KUALA LUMPUR, Malaysia - Cell phone text messages, e-mails and faxes may be a boon to modern life, but they won't be acceptable ways for Malaysian men to start Islamic divorces. Reacting to an Islamic court's ruling last week approving a divorce initiated with a husband's text message to his wife, the government said Thursday it will tighten religious laws to bar the use of electronic messages in divorces. Under Islamic law, a husband can get a divorce by declaring his intention to his wife and then repeating his desire before a religious law judge . The procedure for women is much more difficult. The issue of using electronic means for notifying wives has arisen in several Muslim countries in recent years, with some religious authorities permitting it and others saying no. Last week's ruling by an Islamic judge in Malaysia dissolving a marriage after the wife was notified by text message angered women's groups, which said that process is demeaning. Some Islamic scholars and government officials said it tarnished the religion's image. Prime Minister Mahathir Mohamad said this week that while text messaging is not explicitly illegal under Malaysia's current Islamic laws, "it is not the way to get divorced." Abdul Hamid Othman, the government's official religious adviser, said Thursday that rules on a wife's notification would be made more strict and explicitly exclude text messaging and other new technology. "Husbands should not be allowed to freely use SMS (text messaging) and other easy methods such as e-mails, voicemail or even facsimile to begin divorce proceedings," Abdul Hamid told The Associated Press. "We must put a stop to it as it is morally wrong and unacceptable to society." About two-thirds of Malaysia's 23 million people are Muslims and subject to the country's generally Islamic laws as well as secular laws. Source -------------------- Diamante

Getting a quickie divorce has taken on a whole new meaning in Malaysia after it was decided that a man can divorce his wife with a text message. The government's adviser on religious affairs, the man who counsels Malaysia's Prime Minister Mahathir Mohamad, said as long as the message was clear and unambiguous it was valid under Islamic Sharia law. "SMS is just another form of writing," Dr Abdul Hamid Othman was quoted by the New Straits Times daily newspaper as saying. The decision follows a Malaysian court's ruling on Thursday in favour of a man who served divorce on his wife via a text message. Sharia judge Mohamad Fauzi Ismail declared that the divorce declaration was valid and that as such the marriage between the plaintiff Azida Fazlina Abdul Latif and defendant Shamsudin Latif was annulled, the Utusan Malaysia newspaper reported. Mr Shamsudin was said to have sent Ms Azida a text message saying: "If you do not leave your parents' house, you'll be divorced". Although such a notification of divorce may seem astonishingly brief to some, under Islamic law men are allowed to divorce their wives simply be saying the word 'talaq' - I divorce you - three times. Source Ilbax iyo nus...Divorcing through sms messages. Imagine recieving your marching orders while your at work.

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^^ silly but funny

BOB....I wonder how many times did you guys seperate and get back together again, I have to count back all the angry, sad poems you wrote this year to come up with a figure. What's meant to be is meant to be and what's not..... Don't write poems about what you could've had or not, it's not worth it as it will just keep reminding you of things that's been. Keep your chin up, and keep writing happy, uplifting poetry

Eye to eye - A poem from Palestine - By Gihad Ali Look into my eyes And tell me what you see. You don't see a thing, 'cause you can't possibly relate to me. You're blinded by our differences. My life makes no sense to you. I'm the persecuted Palestinian. You're the American red, white and blue. Each day you wake in tranquillity, No fears to cross your eyes. Each day I wake in gratitude, Thanking God He let me rise. You worry about your education And the bills you have to pay. I worry about my vulnerable life And if I'll survive another day. Your biggest fear is getting ticketed As you cruise your Cadillac. My fear is that the tank that just left Will turn around and come back. American, do you realize, That the taxes that you pay Feed the forces that traumatize My every living day? The bulldozers and the tanks, The gases and the guns, The bombs that fall outside my door, All due to American funds. Yet do you know the truth Of where your money goes? Do you let your media deceive your mind? Is this a truth that no one knows? You blame me for defending myself Against the ways of Zionists. I'm terrorized in my own land And I'm the terrorist? You think you know all about terrorism But you don't know it the way I do, So let me define the term for you, And teach you what you thought you knew. I've known terrorism for quite some time, Fifty-five years and more. It's the fruitless garden uprooted in my yard. It's the bulldozer in front of my door. Terrorism breathes the air I breathe. It's the checkpoint on my way to school. It's the curfew that jails me in my own home, And the penalties of breaking that curfew rule. Terrorism is the robbery of my land, And the torture of my mother, The imprisonment of my innocent father, The bullet in my baby brother. So American, don't tell me you know about The things I feel and see. I'm terrorized in my own land And the blame is put on me. But I will not rest, I shall never settle For the injustice my people endure. Palestine is our land and there we'll remain Until the day our homeland is secure. And if that time shall never come, Then we will never see a day of peace. I will not be thrown from my own home, Nor will my fight for justice cease. And if I am killed, it will be in Filasteen It's written on my every breath. So in your own patriotic words, Give me liberty or give me death. By Gihad Ali

I came accross this article while reading about the effect of magic, fortune-telling (horoscopes). I thought it was interesting enough to share... By Abdullah K. Abdurrahman For thousands of years people have been fascinated, awed and fearful at the unknown and mystical, being heedless of the dangers and harm that they inflict. As Muslims it is imperative to understand these evil-filled practices and to protect ourselves from them.Magic Having the power to do supernatural and seemingly impossible things is referred to as 'magic'. It can be categorized as either sorcery, which is magic that uses the power of evil spirits for evil purposes; or as illusionism, which is the skill of performing tricks in which you seem to make things appear, disappear or change, as if by magic.Ruling Both sorcery and illusionism are unlawful in Islam. Sorcery can only be performed with the aid of devils whose help is attained when the performer attributes them as partners to Allah in worship. Illusionism does not involve polytheism, but may none-the-less lead one astray. It is a sin because it implies an act of disobedience. Magic is a destructive act, and therefore Islam warns against it. Believers should avoid magic and magicians; take precautions to heed the danger they represent and attempt to expose their false allegations. The following evidence from the Qur'an and Sunnah has asserted this ruling. Allah says: 'And indeed they knew that the buyers of it (magic) would have no share in the Hereafter. And how bad indeed was that for which they sold their own selves, if they but knew.' [The Qur'an 2:102] Abu Hurairah, radhiallahu anhu, related that 'The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said: 'Avoid seven most dangerous things.' The Companions asked: 'O Messenger of Allah! What are these things' He, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, answered: 'Making anyone or any thing a partner of Allah; practicing magic; killing a living being whose life has been declared sacred by Allah without justification; practicing usury; misappropriating the property of an orphan; running away from the infidels in a battle; and slandering chaste, innocent, believing women.' (Bukhari and Muslim)Ordained Punishment According to Islamic law, the penalty that awaits every sorcerer is death. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said: 'Kill every sorcerer, for this is the punishment ordained by Allah.' Umar ibn al-Khattab sent messages to his viceroys in those countries under Islamic rule ordering them to kill all sorcerers. This was later confirmed by Uthman Ibn Affan, Hafsah Bint Umar, Abdullah Ibn Umar, and Jundub Ibn Abdullah, radhiallahu anhum. Fact or Fiction An illusion has an effect on the onlookers that seemingly make things or happen when in reality, they do not. Musa, alayhes salam, said: 'Nay, throw you (first)! Then behold, their ropes and their sticks, by their magic, appeared to him as though they moved fast.' (Qur'an 20: 66). Spells can have a genuine effect that can manipulate the body; even to the extent that it can cause sexual impotence. It may also make the affected person go insane, as it disturbs the emotional balance. Allah says in the Qur'an: ' And from these (angels) people learn that by which they cause separation between man and his wife, but they could not thus harm anyone except by Allah's leave.' (2: 102) Breaking a Magic Spell The best way to break a spell is by reciting assigned verses from the Qur'an and to utter specific invocations specially worded by the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam. Another allowable method would be to use medicines lawfully prescribed for the particular case under examination. What is unlawful, however is to use magic as a means to break a spell because this is likely to be done by the aid of devils. Protection From Magic Holding fast to Allah, seeking refuge with Him and putting trust in Him, can attain protection from magic. Also, we should do what is right in the sight of Allah, and turn away from sin. But more specifically we can recite the following verses and sayings: Whoever recites verse 255 of the Surah of al-Baqarah (No 2) before going to bed, Allah sends him a keeper that protects him against the devils until he wakes up. Recite verses 285 and 286 of the Surah of al-Baqarah. Say: 'I seek refuge with Allah?s perfect words from the evil of what He has created.' Say the following three times: 'In the name of Allah, Whose mention is a protection against whatsoever harm is on the Earth or in the Heavens. Verily, He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing.' Fortune-Telling Fortune-telling is the belief that some people possess the ability of telling other people what will happen to them in the future by using magical or mystical methods. These rulings also apply to people who claim knowledge of the unseen, such as geomancers, palmists, shell-diviners, etc. A fortune-teller uses devils who eavesdrop in the Heavens; Allah says in the Qur'an: 'Shall I inform you (O people!) Upon whom the devils) descend' They descend on every lying, sinful person. Who lends an ear (to the devils and they pour what they may have heard of the Unseen from the angels), and most of them are liars.' (26:221-223) This knowledge of what the angels may have said is then passed to the people who are often prepared to believe what the fortune-teller says. The problem is that what people believe is true, has been embellished or changed, omitting the truth. Ruling: Fortune-telling is considered 'Shirk Akbar' (the major and serious form of polytheism) for two reasons. First, it implies the acquisition of knowledge of the Unseen, which is unique to Allah, (alone). 'Say: 'None in the Heaven and the Earth knows the Ghaib (unseen) except Allah, nor can they perceive when they shall be resurrected.' (Qur?an 27: 65). This means that any one who believes that he possesses such knowledge is certainly claiming the acquisition of a Divine attribute that Allah (alone) possesses. Second, it involves using devils and holding fast to them, a ritual that can only be perfected when the performer is in complete submission to that damned species. This is a form of polytheism. The Danger of Attending Fortune-Telling Assemblies In recent years, the number of fortune-tellers has dramatically increased, only being outnumbered by those who attend their assemblies and believe what they are told. Some people are fascinated and impressed by observing those who cannot miss the opportunity to make fortunes out of imparting their fabrications. People who attend fortune-telling assemblies are divided into three groups: Those who go to fortune-tellers to ask them about the future without truly believing in their falsehoods and without having the slightest intention of disclosing their falsehood to the public. People in this group are sinful and their prayers are not accepted for forty days. Those who believe in the prophecies of the fortune-tellers and go to ask them about the future. These people are regarded as disbelievers since they deny the truthfulness of the Qur'an: 'Say: None in the Heavens and the Earth Knows the Ghaib (Unseen) except Allah.' (27: 65) Those who go to fortune-tellers and only ask them in order to examine the truthfulness of their prophecies; then disclose their deceit to the public. These types of people publicize that fortune-tellers only offer misguidance that can make believers go astray. However, if someone uncertain that he is capable to take on such a task and accomplish it perfectly, he should not attempt it. Such a weighty undertaking could pose a risk to himself, and result in failure that may likely tempt people even further. From: Al JUMUAH VOL 12/13 ISSUE 12/1

A woman awakes during the night to find that her husband was not in bed. she puts on her robe and goes downstairs to look for him. She finds him sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of coffee in front of him. He appears to be in deep thought, just staring at the wall. She watches as he wipes a tear from his eye and takes a sip of his coffee. "What's the matter, dear?" she whispers as she steps into the room. "Why are you down here at this time of night?" The husband looks up from his coffee, "Do you remember 20 years ago When we were dating, and you were only 16?" he asks solemnly. "Yes I do" she replies.The husband pauses; the words were not coming easily. "Do you remember when your father came to know about us .......?"" Yes, I remember" said the wife, lowering herself into a chair beside him. The husband continued.. "Do you remember when he shoved the shotgun in myface and said, Either you marry my daughter, or I'll send you to jail for 20 years?". "I remember that too" she replied softly. He wiped another tear from his cheek and said, * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * "I would have been released today"

Happy B-day girl...take it easy on the cake

Sorry if I sound harsh, but 298 posts later you should have figured out where the land mines are buried. Landmines...I must say you use brilliant metaphors eventhough they might be totally out of concept, but all that hostility is really wasted, since this not a military field nor a warzone. Never did I suggest I was an advocate for reading between the lines, only you found the need to comment on something that didn't need a response. A little less of jumping to conclusions wouldn't go amiss. Should you wish to carry on scrutinizing every word I say, be my guest. I'm far too tired and sleepy to carry this debacle onwards. Amethyst: err...thanks for sharing that lil story with me...i guess Night Night ppl

Sigh ...It's like talking to brick walls...but then again it is Somali men we're talking to here. I will say it again for those who are lacking a bit of the ol' grey matter up there (e.g. underdog) If you would've been so smart as to read between the lines, you would've noticed I was just being dramatic and that was all there was to it. Now really, I must get out of here because right now, I am seriously fearing for my safety, this is too much for my faint lil heart.... Phantasmagoria quick catch me...I might faint :rolleyes:

Brown/Green: and I suppose you are Mr Bright, pointing me to the light :rolleyes: ...you need to get over yourself If you would've been so smart as to read between the lines, you would've noticed I was just being dramatic and that was all there was to it. But no, there you go assuming the worst and poking your lil red nose into places it's not meant to be...War dee bas...I give up with you...I could go on but somehow it would just be lost on you

Horta, what's happening in SOL lately? Everyone is at each other's throat, and don't say this is just a mere exchange of words, because really it isn't. Everything has to be blown out of concept and proportion. I even have to think twice about replying to threads, I fear for my safety and well-being on the net which is ridiculus. Is it the weather change, hormones, boredom...WHAT!? Coming back to the topic...How come my credit is so low eventhough I am earning a neat amount of money every month, haven't blown my credit card in over 4 months, repaid some of those storecards...and believe me I know it's low because I checked.

If You want to earn some money EBAY would be a good place to start

Well hot damn, are you feeling adulturous Ngonge? If I didn't know better I would say you're experiencing the "7 year itch". Perhaps you're getting restless in your old age eh and the hot air in the emirates is proving to be more than you can handle. Instead of looking to embrace someone, go and take a stroll in the desert, without any water ofcourse, that way you can have your adulturous moment in the form of a mirage ....you get my drift. Or you could always marry a second wife, no need to divorce anybody xataa.

^^ such a poor work conduct, you two should be ashamed of yourselfs, skiving off work like that to admire some weak sun...tsk tsk. I'm off to get some hagen dazs icecream...and then pop into starbucks for some hot choclate...anybody wanna join??

Diamante waan ku jeclahay miyaa sheekadaada.. u r the most disliked person kulahaa, duqda af carabiga waan islawada naqaan baan umaleen.. lool...sida la'isku faaniyo bal daya...mister, nothing u say will change the fact that ur still disliked, af ingriis oo clear ah baan kugula hadlaayay, maybe inuu xooga kugu adkaa ciao :cool:

why am I still an "alien" Well i always said that The Admin had knowing eye and they could see through someone right away. Maybe your disguise didn't work for you, so you start thinking about other methods to lose your alienhood. Or, you could aways zap him away in your spaceship, then the real riot would begin in SOL To Qac Qaac You're not helping mister, what sort of advice was that? P.S. leave nuune alone and stop diverting the attention from yoursef. You know that you will always be the most un-liked person in SOL.

Posted by Hebel; Who started this...whoever you are, you need to get laid. A wonder that you could type that with the minisucle excuse of a brain you obviously have. Learn some manners dipshit and get the hell out of my thread. Akhas Caleyk

marvels at FF picture Aww...the guys are feeling left out are they? Well you should be happy you know. If it wasn't for you men, we women would never have had anything to celebrate about. If you would have given us what we'd simply asked for at the beginning of times....but that's another issue on its own. So from the bottom of heart TANAG YUU Ladies enjoy!

War Brownoow...always have to comment on everything eh Sheh...I think the cold is getting to him, maybe a drop of saliid cabasooda will help tick that ol' brain faster eh

Michael Jackson: A King of Pop, or Child Seducer? The trial is well under way and the attorney's are trying hard to prove their cases. I'll give my personal opinion on this later, I want to see how you nomads feel about this, if you have any thoughts on this at all of course. Happy Answering

International Men's Day??? Sort of has a nasty ring to it, besides it would only be wasted on you since you would have no idea what to do with it Amethyst , you should at least give yourself one day in the week off, simply because your a woman. We have needs, other places to be besides behind a desk. Why wait around for International Women's Day to come along Edit: does a double take on FF's picture.....takes another look....drops on the floor unconcious

******HAPPY WOMENS DAY!****** A Brief Introduction It’s March 8, International Women's Day, and time to celebrate being a Woman ! Well, importantly enough, it’s not just about BEING a Woman, it’s also about KNOWING a Woman ! So then, whether you BE a Woman or you KNOW a Woman, you’re licensed to celebrate International Women’s Day and pay tribute to all those women who have through the ages stood courageously against all odds to elevate the status of women around the world- striving towards the goal that one day all women will stand on an equal footing with men. Come to think of it—today, women have come a long way, but there’s still ground to cover. Hope shines bright ! Its flame burns stronger every March 8 on International Women's Day. International Women’s Day is a day for women to reflect upon and celebrate their struggles, their achievements and remember with pride all the women who helped bring women up the ladder to the stair they are on today. And what can be a better occasion to honor them, as much as you honor all the deserving others and make them feel special ? None, in fact ! On International Women's Day, let each woman raise a toast to herself and to all the other women in this world, to their courage and determination. Woman—today’s the day you and your sisters, the world over, take stock of your present position with regard to your equality with men. So be it. Appreciate the efforts, the sufferings and the glory of every small victory on her path to her goal.