Ok, I for one dont think dream jobs do exist. I mean hey,that doesn't even exist in HOLLYWOOD. And you know they get paid top dollars doing virtually nothing. Work is something you have to do-and its the start of a very tiring cycle. You pull 9-5 shift 5 days of the week, come home, take care of the family (or yourself), clean the house, pay the bills, get the car oil checked out, take the computer to the repair shop to get it fixed because you need it to type your reports..its quite endless the responsibilities you have once you have money. And thats the aim of our lives-to make more money than we did last year. I think no matter how much money you have, ITS NEVER ENOUGH.

Its kinda amazing how everyone's forgotten that the CULTURE we come from is the main cause. How so? Well..first off, men's responsibilities back home including taking care of the finance-hence, the breadwinners of the family. Thats where their duties started and ended. The mother and the extended family raised the children. So when the war broke out and we had to immigrate, a culture shock hit our people. Our men didn't know how to hold down the forts anymore. Make the money AND help raise children? Lord forbid. Neways, long story short- their actions, or lack thereof, had a chain reaction causing women to become more independent. Our boys are suffering from lack of proper role models-when a mother is taking on the role of mother/father and the father is absent-the son has no one whose footsteps to follow. Most of us have been raised primarly by our mothers and this has definitely had a positive effect on me because somehow in my life has the standards of how to be a friend/sister/daughter/mother/cousin, you name it. I'm not tryna take the responsibilities off the brothers for what their doing or not doing but I see our culture as having crippled our males..just my two cents. ------------------------------------------------ Money can't buy love, but it sure gets you a great bargaining position

in exactly 20 days..i'll be 20. one step closer to 21 babay..

Maybe the topic shoulda been..WHAT DONT YOU LIKE ABOUT YOUR CITY? lol..I've grown to like my city..heres a hint, its located in MICHIGIAN. I love my campus. Muchos. Ooh and those KRISPY KREMES, uuuumm, they just melt in your mouth. We didnt have those in Canada,uh huh, dont know what you guys are missing out on.

THE C.L.O.W.N- "seducing a somali chick is the easiest part come on Homey, you should know that!" As a somali "chick" if that isn't offending enuff..then you tell me what it is. Jus be able to handle wachu dish out aite brah . And shankaroon-isn't it sad when a brother whos been around tries to settle down with a sistah who hasn't-c'est la vie tho-thats just how it goes. Like jill scott said tho " yo background,it aint squeaky clean..but you put your good foot down and made your soul the winner". So you never really know if that person's changed or if their some hypocrites tryna get with the good sisters.

Libaax- good topic brah-by the way, you are very articualte . Newayz, I believe in the "good guy turned bad theory". As a Somali sistah, with many Somali girlfriends, I can say for sure that we aren't the most..verbally people when it comes to talking about our emotions. See I thought it was just me for a while, but I came to find out..nope, its the whole freaking somali female population. I can see where that could become a problem for males...when we aren't as forward about our feelings and we just lead them on when we're really not feeling for them the way they are for us. See..muchos problems..its just an action-reaction type dynamic. You spend alot of time with him-he starts to fall for you-thinks you obviously feel the same-professes his love-you jus nod and go along-you start to feel trapped-and before you know the relationship is over.Oversimplified? Yes. Mostly true? Yes. (DAMN SHE'S GOOD)

QoxootiMammi- girl dont you know its your RELIGIOUS right not to be responsible for the finances in a marriage? Ok..take a min to let that sink in. Uhm..in case y'all dont fully understand, thats a good thing for US-WOMEN. I look at it like this..in this day and age, its only realistic to have a dual income family, if you want to live comfortably. Thats reality. Howeva, if you were ever so fortunate to love and marry a well-off brotha..the income you get from yo job..is yours. So-in case of anything-why not put your money aside in a seperate account? I mean hey..take advantage of a good things-cuz there aren't too many of those that come our way as women. And jus to clarify- I am advocate of women gettin their education 110%-but I also know my deen .

Superman-miskiin man, I feel for you. You read her a poem? Bad bad move...I mean, maybe you should have started off telling her your name b4 you professed your undying love for her..if that was me, I'd be freaked out..no offense. And for the person who said greet her by her name to show her you care....dont do that either..once again, FREAKY. She'll prolly be thinking"how da hell does he know by name.." 2 strikes against you rite there. Hmm, if you ask me, doesn't sound like you can afford a 3rd one. Sistahs are very judgemental when it comes to first impression- theres a VERY thin line btwn her telling her friends "OH HE WAS THE SWEETEST" and "DAMN HE'S STRANGE" And THE CLOWN.. you come off sounding like you on some drug man-chill on that for a min. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world

i have a very strange laugh (or so I've been told)

muslim sis-sorry i havent had a chance to log on for the past few days..but brotha QaQa answered rite..it was Mansa Musa, king of Mali.

Uhm...graduating from WSU MAY 2005..I cant believe I'm going into my third yr...hot damn how time flies...

Uhm...graduating from WSU MAY 2005..I cant believe I'm going into my third yr...hot damn how time flies...

True, like everyones already said, its hard getting over someone you once cared for deeply..nobody said it was easy. The main thing is DISTRACT YOURSELF. I honestly wouldn't suggest going into another relationship immediately after-give yourself time to heal and truly digest the fact that the relationship is over. In the meanwhile-talk about it with friends-who I bet you being to cherish a whole lot now that your man is gone. I think its something we all guilty of-neglecting our friends when we're in a relationship. But spending time with your friends can help you heal alot faster. Try working out (boxing to get your frustration out lol)or joining some groups..if you in school, I'm sure theres plenty to do on campus...look and you shall find. But just remember you're young and trust me, you'll get past this hurdle like every obstacle you face in life...if doesnt kill it what? MAKES YOU STRONGER...keep that mind girl. One. ___My Two CenTs_____

NuTella lol..wlc to da club girl

Ok..what is this crazy fetish with MACAWIS..god dammit-its a freaking skirt. How is a man wearing a flippin' skirt attractive? Somebody might wanna break that down for us cuz I'm just not getting it. Newayz, I agree wit the sista above-I wouldn't holla at a brotha if he couldn't already dress himself up right-hell noo, just think, you're gonna have to dress yourself, your kids, and your man? That's jus ridiculous. Dark colors look good on anybody, but a brotha that can color coordinate definitely gets a two-thumbs from me. When he can dress betta than me, thats a problem lol...

Always a survivor, since you seem to be more religion-conscious than your friend, it may not be a wise idea to spend too much time with her. For one, we all that your friends have a way of influencing into situations and thigns we may not otherwise be involved in. It may not distort your views completely, but you'll definitely find yourself compromising your beliefs. If what you truly believe is that she's doing wrong and you feel its against how you practice the deen, then let her know. Constantly. If she's truly your friend, she'll listen-she may not act upon it-but she should respect you enough to see that you're uncomfortable giving her advice that may bring you dunbi. I had a similiar situation years ago, sad to say, a time when I was way more religious. A friend who did not wear a hijaab asked to me to take them to a hair salon, a public one if memory serves me correct. I told her that I couldn't because she'd be wearing her hair out after coloring it (dunbi)-and that would be sin onto me for having taken her there to begin with. It's hard but you gotta say NO to your closest friends sometimes cuz your deen comes first. But hey-alot of times it shows your character and they have alot more respect for you in the end. And I'd rather be RESPECTED than be known as a FOLLOWER.

Ok..I dont know if I'm playing the game rite-but it looks like its the sisters turn so heres a question: Who was the Muslim African King who changed the value of gold in the world while making pilgrimage?

Asalaamu calakium Mizz Hurricane-thank you for posting that and Mashallah to your sister for that wonderful piece. Its great to see such an articulate sister looking out for her people. Definitely made me want to examine what I'm doing wrong in my everyday routine. Research, research, research lol.Shukran.

Well..I guess the conceited part of me took control of my fingers when I was signing up..but my nick means QUEEN in URDU. Besides, I think its a beautiful name, I'd probably name my daughter (inshallah if I'm blessed enuff to have one) that name but imagine her grandmother calling her "MOLIKOOOO"- uhm doesnt sound as appealing in somali.

I gotta agree with the sisters- there's definitely too much sin going on in weddings nowadays. Imagine, you going to a mixed wedding. You are only gettin sinned for yourself but the couple having that wedding are getting sinned for everyone else there, as well as themselves. Uhm..i dont think so..I can barely keep up with my sins let alone anyone else's. If I could have any typa wedding possible, I'd probably have an outdoor wedding on a beach by a garden (slight breeze would be perfect-but hey, I cant predict the weather). I think that would be soo butiful. And my ideal number of people attending would include immediate family, extended (but not like my grandmothers cussins step-daughters son lol) and good friends. The smaller, the better. __My Two CenTs__

N..hehehehe...Nura

I was fool because... I was a fool because I gave away my apple pie and im STARVING (aaaargh). My turn- If I could be anywhere in the world rite now, I'd...

LUST---EIGHT PACK (hehehhe)

Well, I think for the major part, its true that the apple doesn't fall from the tree. You have to keep in mind that we've grown up in different times, but I honestly do see some of my mothers qualities in myself (not enuff tho lol). For example, sometimes after I saying somthing, I pause and end up thinking "Man that sounds like something my mom would say". However, its true that there are some God-fearing mothers who end up with some wildass children-but theres a reason for that. Some children, while tryin to establish their own identities apart from their parents, go and become the exact opposites of their parents, like the preachers child becoming a prostitute. So with that being said, not every child takes after their parents-but it definite has a major impact on who they become, or don't become. ___My Two CenTs_____

Just an observation I thought I'd share with my nomads. Why is that all the professinal cooks are mainly male? We'll if you spent every morning, evening and night in the kitchen..are you seriously gonna go out and make a career out of it when u HAVE to cook for your kids, and/or, husband? Heck naaw..you're go something a lil' different from your daily routine. So fellas, y'all still aint better cooks than females-not by a long shot lol..y'all just starting out, we been doing since we were kids.