Quote by Thugged but cant feel feet: "in fact its to your (not you personally) deadbeatsomali arms they sometimes run to. people, look at the other side of the coin." You calling me a deadbeat somali?

How he convinced them to marry him on the same night.

As you suggested there Camiir i might not have knowledge about ethnic groups around the world but what i do know is that tribalsm is no longer an issue in Europe, it was an issue once but not anymore. Look at Ireland, its a religious conflict and not tribalism.

Quote by Ma´wa: shouldn't we also respect our sisters who choose to go for non somalis I know some people would rather critise and make them look bad but, its their lives and who knows they might be better off with non somalis. what do you think? What i think is that somali men are not lagging behing in any way but that somali girls are expecting too much from a relationship. Watching hollywood movies and indian one have surely had some bad effect on some of you i would assume. Its incredible and hard to swallow thatwhen somali girl marries a non somali her demands is close to zero, no dahaab, no mehr, and she will even send money to her parents and say taht it was from her husband.But the scene changes when the guy is somali, he must pay all the expenses single handedly by his own. I know this somali girl who got marrried to an ethiopians fella who aslo happens to be a christian, she literally told her family if you dont accept this guy then i will marry him no matter what. So if somali girls since coming to Europe have this perception that somali men are non romantic, dont live to expections amoung others then help yourself and marry a nigerian if you like. Ma´wa sorry but why do i get the feeling you are dating a non somali? If you decide to marry him then i wish you happy life, a one where you get to fulfill all your expections that a somali man wouldnt be able to provide.

Waxasaa lagadahaa corruption iska dhaaf.

This problems or political disaster is caused by tribalism, a problem Asia, Europe or America has never had. So i allways wondered why is there many different tribes? I am convinced that had their not been different tribes in somalia then the civil war would never have happened in the first place. This is exactly hwta is happening Kenya right now. So my quesion is why is there tribes in Africa and not Europe?

I surely was, but Uma can you guess what trick the guy used to convince the girls to go on the dual marriage?

Quote by Modesty: "Seriously, I'm giving up on Somali men" What a relief there, this is by far the best thing i heard like ages. Thank god

Check this out. A somali man marrried 2 somali girls at the same night. He must be a master persuader.I would love to know how he did it.

Originally posted by umu zakaria: cuduradaas maxaa ka mida? Uma good one there, it shows that you care alot about somali men and women who chew qaat. I noticed that here in SOL people only say somali men chew qaat but in the real world somali women rival men in that department so much that its close to call who chews more than the other.

Enlightening is the word i wanted to write in my previous reply.

Job well done Northerner, thanks for enighetening us

Originally posted by Dj Mad_MaN: Hi every1 Im new to the site, massive welcome for me plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz Big UP Dj Mad Man in da house, where are my beautiful Somali queens, Happy new year to you all. I am not sure if there are any queens in here other than ordinary civilians from different part of the world, but anywayz feel at home and be a good SOL. citizen

One more thing malis, living under the same roof as your parents is not the problem here but albeit living with them and staying jobless.

Quote by Ngonge: At any rate, I think Northerner is exaggerating a little. There aren't as many of these guys as there used to be in the past. Most nowadays are out there taking care of business. This is indeed a major problem that only the somalis have and its more and more visible in Africa. In Europe the married xalimo will become single mother allowing her farax to stay jobless and be able to chew qaat on a daily basis. I personally think that North is not exaggerating, if anything he held some back.

Advice to Young Men from an Old Man Date: 2007-02-15, 9:08AM PST Advice to Young Men from an Old Man 1. Don’t pick on the weak. It’s immoral. Don’t antagonize the strong without cause, its ******. 2. Don’t hate women. It’s a waste of time 3. Invest in yourself. Material things come to those that have self actualized. 4. Get in a fistfight, even if you are going to lose. 5. As a former Marine, take it from me. Don’t join the military, unless you want to risk getting your balls blown off to secure other people’s economic or political interests. 6. If something has a direct benefit to an individual or a class of people, and a theoretical, abstract, or amorphous benefit to everybody else, realize that the proponent’s intentions are to benefit the former, not the latter, no matter what bullshit they try to feed you. 7. Don’t be a Republican. They are self-dealing crooks with no sense of honor or patriotism to their fellow citizens. 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Quote by almumina: Those who lack deen and dhaqan. Is it too much to ask for someone who prays five times a day (these days)? Subhanallah, no one hides their sins anymore and on the Day of Judgement, for doing so, Allah will reveal your sins to everyone. Almuminah what you said there was right. But i can assure you that on the day of judgement the last thing you will care about is what other people think of you. That day evevryone will try to blame someone else for the sins he/she has done. Its getting closer and closer as the days goes by and that thought freaks me out.

I wish somalia was built like that. But i dont think it will happen in a bazillion years.

I can almost swear that the ref was blue through and through. He gave man city free kicks that shouldt be awarded while liverpool got nothing. Manchester utd supporters were saying all yesterday they lost the game to westham coz rooney was not there, i am saddened to hear man utd are dependant on a single player when alex ferguson went out publicly and said man utd are stronger than ever.Liverpool will win the title, i just know it

Thre a couple of funny people around here but the masters are Rudy and Jacaylbaro, there are on a different comedic wise. Here is what Rudy wrote in one post: lol! wow xalimo gets stares...! aint that a wonderful day. enjoy while it at lasts...cuz, out here gals get mad if they dont get stares...lol.. and after our eyes clash, i have to send a smile nod my head. thats i be wearing my shades!! Modesty, next time they stare at you, offer some sun glasses and tell him...homie..its on the house!! I allwaysd pay speacial attention when i see post or replies by this 2 SOL legends, very funny indeed.

JC was the changes positive or negative? Not all somali fathers are ideal fathers, they dont bond with their kids the way fathers of other cultures do. Somali men have a different mentality and they belive that staying home abit and spending quality time with their family is seen as a daciif by other people.

Northerner is that a contest? As far as i am concerned there are none whatsever. As history suggests arabs were the ones who started slavery and selling the african to the west, does the name Bilal sounds familiar to you? He is named in the holy quran.

Pujah that was unnecessary to be honest. If analyst took the time to educate us you should not go on and unravel his sources and make it public. Analyst thanks, i learned alot from it.

All i know is that Kolo Toure is what his name is regardless of what some racist arabians said. I have never been to any arabian coutry but i am told by those who have been in saudia arabia that they call somalis as adoon, slave and so on. They are way behind the rest of the world

Quote by The point: I bet that 'accountant' was also your mother Regardless of what that was supposed to mean i will take it as a compliment. Lazygirl i guess we are all people who live from paycheque to paycheque, and if we skip one pay cheque then then the outcome is quite bad. So lazygirl do you consider yourself as financial independent? By that i mean you dont depend on your monthly salary to live a very good life.