Rudy you are a living legend sxb. Your comments are short and to the point. Its a joy to read them

Uma thanks for praising me sis. xalimopatra gave herself that nickname maybe because she either looks like Oprah Winfrey or she is good at talking.Being a somali myself i just hope the latter is the correct one. xalimopatra i understand from what you said that you went through a rough long distance relationship and that made you hate everything that has to do with long distance relationship. But xalimopatra i fear that the relationship that you had was with a guy who you met over the internett and not in real life, a cyber relationship if you like. No disrespect to anyone who is involved in a cyber relationship but the chance of a cyber relationship succeding is as slim as surviving from a plane crush. Having said that i think the diffrence between long distance relationship and cyber is huge. With long you are into a relationship with someone you know and who you have been in a relationship with.

I seen a xalimo who wrote something here earlier that her husband bought her a baquet of flower. Since when was giving flowers been a form of showing you love someone amoung nomads? Or are we nomads adapting western culture? Never the less Uma has come up with issue´e that somali women are struggling with. A married guy was telling me the other day that if he stays home too much then he risks being hated by his wife.What a lame excuse. Imagine he is a father of 5 and still counting. Our Prophet Mohammed (saw) used to do house work so who are we to run away from it?

KK i am touched that you offered me to finance my wedding. KK thats very generous indeed but i would very much prefer if you keep the money in your piggy bank just for now. KK i am a big fan of you sis. KK congrats i didnt know you were married. "may be u have not loved yet so wait n see hope he will be dariskaaga so u wont have to suffer". Uma that line is the most classiest line i have ever seen,well done.

Kool kat you are a piece of work i must say. Kool kat is this some kind of contest? What is the score so far? I bet you are winning. I decalare you a winner by a small margin. Learn the meaning of soul mate and we will discuss the rest. Ok.

i refuse to consider any guy outside my xaafad" ahahahahahhaha. Warsan that is quite a point there. What happens if that guy from your xaafad moves to a different country? Would you replcae him with another local or what? If the answer is no then be my guest and dont be shy to sk for advise if that happens.

The beauty of advertisement is they force you to buy things you never intended to buy in the first place.

Hold on folks. I vouch for anyone who said "it´s their life they can do whatever they want" But if they have the right to do a certain thing or not is not for us to discuss. But what we can discuss is the motive of the deed. As i hear the nomad girls are advertising poker. In my humble opinion i think the girls are tying to introduce poker amoungs somalis living in Birmingham. I am not sure but i would assume the casino is owned by a somali.

Kool kat it would be better for you if you just change your role from participater to an observer. You will learn lots of things i assure you. So you reckon one can find soul mate wherever he/she is? About everything you said earlier is dead wrong dear. I said so because if that was possible i wouldn´t spend a third of my life waiting for someone. Anyone in a long distance relationship has basically 2 choice. The first one is to hold on to his sweetheart or he can break up with her and start dating. The latter is the option which you recommend and i simply refuse to take it. By the way i didn´t ask for anyone´s opinion.I brought this subject up to see if there are other member at SOL who are in the same sitution as me.

Zafir and Kool kat are still teenagers i assume because they have no clue what they are talking about. Kool kat says to dump her is the best option!!!!! i did´t know we were dealing with garbages here. Anyways what i should do or not do has nothing to do with you. With the exeption of few most of you don´t know what soul mate is. Zenobia and LLPP you 2 makes me proud to be somalian.

Zafir you are vividly describing what i am going through on a day to day basis, but you are not quite there abtii. Zafir are you one of those iling from long distance relationship?

Mademoissel thank you very much indeed for your hospitality.

Uma Zakaria you are my favourite sister. Your experience and innteligence is shinning brightest of all. Thanks god you exist.

Ala somali yaab badana. Nomads i thought my quesion was crystal clear. "Is there anyone who is in a long distance relationship and how are they handling the situation?" was all i asked. Instead of answering the quesion some of you nomads are on a fishing expedition on a personl territory. You are asking quesions that are too personl to be answered. I dont remember asking for advice but i appreaciate those who took the time to bestow me with some good advice.

Nephthys and everyone else i appreacite your advise. Who else is dating someone who is far away other than me?

Nephthys so you are one of those who believe that every person in Africa is poor and are dusty feeted huh? I can tell you have been watching too much CNN coverage. Why doont you visit Africa for a change and i am sure you will be blown away by it´s beauty and the good life people are living in, even those with modarate income. Back to the subject. Serenity i know from talking to her on several occassion and staying in contact through text message that we have the same mind set even though we have been away from each other for 7 years. There is something inside me that is saying "Dont give up this girl, because if you do give up you will live to regret for the rest of your life" We agreed to meet up in december and we will discuss what we should do from there.

Thanks for the reply nomads. Tahlil what are yu getting at adeer? Uma Zakaria so you ended up marrying your long time sweet heart. Woow that is fairy tale stuff and i am happy for you.

Hi everyone. I am currently engaged in a long distance relationship with my sweetheart who was also my girlfriend when i in Africa. She has everything i would want in a woman and maybe a little more. I love her more than i can say but long distance relationship is really tough. My pacience is being put under the microscope every single day. To say long distance relationship is very hard is indeed an understatement. It is exceedingly hard and tough to have yourt other half at the other side of the world. So my quesion is is anyone of you in a long distance relationship?

så utrolig morsomt LLP. Aalborg er det nære Kobenhavn?

Rudy where do you work now?

LLP takk for det. Er du i Sverige? Buuxo and JB Thanks to you too.

Rudy the point you made are very entertaining but also unfortunately very true. When a nomad fella wants to marry a xalimo then he must buy the xalimo some gold, pay some generous money to the in laws, finance a big shiny wedding and also the poor farax is expected to forward some top dollars to her parents every months thorough dahadshil. Now dont get me wrong because i would love to marry in the near feature but to be expected to shoulder all those responsibilities is a burden to say the least. Khalaf i like your offer but i have the experience and the innteligence to keep my xalimo close and my wallet even closer.

Chubkah and AAliya i thank you both.

JB i like your intentions and i am willing to offer my help in any way possible. Needless to say i think somalians and politics dont go hand in hand as proven by the instability that has been ravaging Somalia for the past 2 decades. Off the topic does any one of you know someone who is employed in United Nations who is a member here at SOL?

Lilly i am new here so why dont you tell me about Rudy´s law?