Underdog...my dear Nomad...good luck interviewing those other "candidates" because as of now I've suddenly become unavailable...fancy that! How strange...hhhmmmm... ~QoxootiMammi~

looooool @og-moti, thats funny dude, I got that email too... QoxootiMammi

Hi sis, that was really good, felt those words deep...and truly, may allah grant him jannah... Nabad QoxootiMammi

Salaam, Here is a list of the rituals preceding an exam.....for me anyway! 1)PRAY 2)HAVE SHAAH WITH A LOT OF XAWAASH 3)PRAY 4)AND THEN HAVE MORE SHAAH WITH XAWAASH And not to forget.... Revise, people!!! Good luck y'all, just dont stress!!! ~QoxootiMammi~

loooooooooooooooooool,Ahahahahahah @ underdog you recognized brother No, no,but you 'ave it wrong (excuse ma cockney)...not the universe...just a few galaxies...that'll do... ~QoxootiMammi~

BMW????? underdog step into 2003 with the Jaguar XJ type... Apartment????? benefit????? waryaa, I am suber woman....and your "closet" wouldnt even hold ma dacas let alone my daruuc!!!! ~QoxootiMammi~

The concept of DHAQAN CELIS has proven unsuccessful in the most cases. As rightly said before children who have been disposed of in Somalia have found ways to come back to the West. Also being in Somalia has not benefited the majority of the youth who have been there, simply because they are there for the wrong reasons: First and foremost “DHAQAN CELIS” should be taught at home were the parents should engage in cultural motivated conversations with the children. Those young ‘uns (excuse my cockney) should be told about their heritage and their ancestry. They should be taught about traditions and religion, they should be taught about the Somali way of living and the way Somali culture operates and not to forget the meaning of Islam and its relevance in life. However sadly, this is just NOT done. The majority of those families are enmeshed in petty arguments and quarrels. What is missing from these families are the sense of structure, stability and the plain sense of emotional support that is needed, and which is not received. The hard truth of today’s life is that most of the Somali youths have not formed a maternal bond with their parents, and cannot talk with their parents about things that may be troubling them. When they got older, start to hit their twenties, then the children talk to the parents more often, but by that time, many have been led astray already. In today’s fast world, where social acceptance is everything to the average teen, adopting Western ways soon becomes the norm. Peer pressure is the downfall of many Somali youths, and only few resist, keeping to their Somali ways. Those that do not resist, that adopt the style, clothing and talk of their Western peer, are looked upon with scorn by their parents and this is when “DHAQAN CELIS” often sought after. Because the children have missed the guiding hands when growing up, now they feel justified doing whatever. The sense of religion that the parents are so firmly trying to install upon the young Somalis is not working, because as soon as the parents turn their heads, the youths are off doing whatever. Meanwhile, the father is off chewing in the mafrish and sleeping all day, the mother is off hanging out with her girlfriends, leaving the oldest daughter to do her job. A different approach should be introduced here: parents should engage in their significant roles of being parents, instead of taking on all these extra-curriculum activities, which have no positive impact on their children whatsoever. The parents should take time to simply communicate with the child, showing they care and are there for them. Now do not get me wrong, I am by no means saying that one should deprive their children from the mother land, but the reason why the child is there in the first place should be evaluated prior to bringing them there. Being able to go back to Somalia should be seen as a proud achievement by both parent and the child in question. However this is often not the case and going back home is viewed as a form of severe punishment in order to provide the much needed ‘reality check’. The youth of today should be conditioned with positive thoughts instead of those irrational negative ones they have picked up from hearsay about the functioning’s of the motherland. Personally I would love to go back home Insha’allah in the next couple of years. And I am proud to say that it is not for DHAQAN CELIS reasons, or at least I won’t define like that. It’s purely because I want to go and visit all those relatives I have not seen in all those decades that I have been in the West. Alfa soup ruun ayaad sheektay!!! , sidaas ayaa loo bahanyaahay. Well said, luv. PS: I dont mean to generalise, so please dont be offended by the above statements. ~QoxootiMammi~

Consequently, if I tell you my age, I'd have to beat you with dacas and kill you by feeding you bariis qarax... ~QoxootiMammi~

Waryaa, didnt Momma tell you NEVA to ask a Woman the three DEADLY questions: AGE, WEIGHT and HOW MUCH SHE EARNS? Consequently you just broke one of the rules...although my Nomad sisters seem quite nice....I'd still run if I was called the brother Somealian .... ~QoxootiMammi~

Underdog: I must inform you that I've abandoned the western financial system, so I'll pay with a goat, 2 chickens and a bag of salt. Miyaa?? Sheekooo!! Niinyahoow, wabaan radiinayey sidaas...but if you're willing to throw in a non-cariish semi-detached house, then we have a deal. But hurry with your reply, because offer is subject to change... Kind regards, QoxootiMammi...

You got ma vote, underdog..... Heard there was a vacancy for speech writer...I think I should be it...I even started one for you... "Here we have Underdog...a well-admired, well-known candidate for the Jokes Moderator. The reasons to choose him are many...one of the main ones being he's funny..." If you want me to carry on, you're gonna have to employ me...oh, and did I mention the fees??? ~QoxootiMammi~

Tamina: Qaxooti Mami, well said. Excellent questions you've posed there. I don't wanna sound redundant, so I picked mami as my spokesperson. Why thank you, sista, thank you. This comes across as a sensitive topic and it needs to be addressed sensitively. Khayr: However, a little reality check for these 'Qurba Super Halimo's' I see a lot of sisters who are aging and passing their prime yrs, b/c they have been so busy calculating what 'man' they should marry. If this keeps up, those sisters will lose out and become '2nd wives' b/c they have become too old to settle down and have children. Scream and cuss at the screen all you want to, but if I where a Halimo in the Qurbo lands, I would worry! Dear Khayr...I am touched because you seem to be so worried for us and our future and "mental" status. Thank you for trying to look out for us... :rolleyes: However, much of your comments seem to be wildly speculated and without any trace. Maybe us "Qurba Halimo Sisters" are waiting so long for a reason. Maybe we do not want to be married as soon as we experience our first hormonal changes. Is the thought of us persuing a career a little bit too intimidating for you? Do you mind a wife that can engage in a mind stimulating conversation, a wife who's got the best of both Worlds? If you make the road to what Allah has made Halal to you, very difficult for yourself, then Allah will make the road for you to travel 'Harsher' and you might this time, fall into 'Many Harams' b/c you were so rigid about what Allah had made Halal for you in the first place. Never take forgrant Allah's Kirema!!! Do you mean by this that we sisters, when tired of waiting, we will "offer" ourselves to anyone? If so, then let me fill you in...any sister who is educated, decent and true to her religion and heritage, most defintely would NOT engage in such acts. We "Qurba Halimo Sisters" prefer to spend our days with someone who cares and is on the same wavelength; that is why we prefer to wait. If that's a rare concept to you, I suggest you look around...there's plenty of educated fish in the sea...Oh and by the way, The PhD is for OURSELVES...not anyone else.. :cool: And just as a last bit of advice, brother...the words "Qurba Halimo Sister" may come across as offensive to some of the female somali population, so before you come under the heat of dacas slaps...I suggest you change the phrase... Of course, the above comments are only my opinions...No offence, just trying to help... ~QoxootiMammi~

Salaam, Inaa Lilaahi wainaa Ileyhii raajicuun... Death is a natural event. We shall all die. That is the Haq, nevertheless it is and always will be a tragic occurrence. We are human and it’s only natural to mourn. I extend my deepest condolences to the Family and Friends of the departed. Xanuunkii Aduunyada uu Daafee Ilaahay Su'asha Aqiira Ha Ufuudideeyo…Amiin. SUBHANAKALLAHMUMMA WA BIHAMDIKA WA TABARASKUMA WA TA ‘ALLAH JADDUKA WA JALLA THANA’UKA WA LA ILAHA GHAIRUK ALLHUMMA SALLI ‘ALA MUHAMMADIN WA ‘ALLA ALI MUHAMMADIN, KAMA SALLAITA ‘ALLA IBRAHIMA WA ‘ALA ALI IBRAHIMA INNAKA HAMIDUM MAJID ALLAHUMMA BARIK ‘ALA MUHAMMADIN WA ‘ALA ALI MUHHADIN, KAMA BARAKTA ‘ALA IBRAHIMA WA ‘ALA ALI IBRAHIMA INNAKA HAMIDUM MAJID ALLAHUMMAGHFIR LIHAIYINA WA MAIYITINA WA SHAHIDINA WA GHA’IBINA WA SAGHIRINA WA KABIRINA WA DHAKARINA WA UNTHANA. ALLAHUMA MAN AHYAITAHU MINNA FA’AHYIHI ‘ALAL ISLAMI WA MAN TAWAFFAITAHU MINNA FATAWAFFAHU ALAL IMAN. O Allah, glory and praise are for You, and blessed is Your Name, and exalted is Your Majesty and Glorious is Your Praise and there is no God but You. O Allah, let Your blessings come upon Muhammad (SWT) and the family of Muhammad (SWT) as You blessed Ibrahim and the family of Ibrahim. Truly you are the Praiseworthy and Glorious. O Allah, bless Muhammad (SWT) and the family of Muhammad (SWT) As You blessed Ibrahim and the family of Ibrahim. Truly You are the Praiseworthy and Glorious. O Allah, forgive those of us who are still alive and those who have passed away, those present and those absent, and our young and elderly, the males and the females. O Allah, He whom You wish to keep alive from among us, make him live according to Islam, and he whom You wish to die from among us, let him die in the state of Imam. ~QoxootiMammi~

My good Nomad friends, there seems to be some confusion regarding the Dutch Language Ich--->not Dutch Ik----> Dutch Here is a lil story to help out.... (dont worry I will translate it ) Dutch: Op zijn niewe school wordt Olaf voort durend gepest door Derk en zijn trouwe volgelingen. Hij begrijpt het niet waarom die eigenlijk gepest wordt. Misschien het is omdat hij zwart is. De school is voornamelijk blank, maar ja jammer genoeg moet die hier belijven voor goed. Maar ja pech gehad!!! English: In his new school, Olaf is constantly bullied by Derk and his faithful followers. Olaf doesn't understand why he is being picked on. Maybe its because he is black. The school is mostly white, but, too bad, he has to stay there for good. But oh well...thats life!!! I hope this cleared up the confusion between Dutch and German. ~QoxootiMammi~

My good Nomad friends, there seems to be some confusion regarding the Dutch Language Ich--->not Dutch Ik----> Dutch Here is a lil story to help out.... (dont worry I will translate it ) Dutch: Op zijn niewe school wordt Olaf voort durend gepest door Derk en zijn trouwe volgelingen. Hij begrijpt het niet waarom die eigenlijk gepest wordt. Misschien het is omdat hij zwart is. De school is voornamelijk blank, maar ja jammer genoeg moet die hier belijven voor goed. Maar ja pech gehad!!! English: In his new school, Olaf is constantly bullied by Derk and his faithful followers. Olaf doesn't understand why he is being picked on. Maybe its because he is black. The school is mostly white, but, too bad, he has to stay there for good. But oh well...thats life!!! I hope this cleared up the confusion between Dutch and German. ~QoxootiMammi~

I am majoring in International Business Management simply because I like a challenge and I would like to be possibly the first Somali lady to manage a big congolomarate...*fingers crossed*... ~QoxootiMammi~

I am majoring in International Business Management simply because I like a challenge and I would like to be possibly the first Somali lady to manage a big congolomarate...*fingers crossed*... ~QoxootiMammi~

Lakkad Qaxooti-Is this An experiment for a psych class? so many cognitive this and that! Well...I have a degree in psychology and sometimes the degree runs away with me... ...but to answer your question...its a Debate ~QoxootiMammi~

Shiiirdh...no one is ugly, but what a BIG difference make-up can make!!!! Can someone tell me whether this pic is b4 she got famous.... :confused: ???? ~QoxootiMammi~

Darman, Although the story was quite funny I am sorry to say that I do not see anything between the lines :confused: . But perhaps you meant it on a higher comical level... QoxootiMammi

I completely and utterly agree with ma sis Psycho_Sue.I mean no offense to you bro, you possess talent and are a good creative writer but shouldn't that be all the more reason why you should engage in more meaningfull issues? The idea of a roach conversating with a human is quite revolting which automatically makes me wonder what kind of a psychological state you are in.The accumalation of irrational comments are pretty offensive and flawed. And as far as the moral of your story is concerned I have made a slight adaptation, all free of charge and it goes a 'lil something like this: NO ONE SHOULD SMOKE WEED ~QoxootiMammi~

OG_Moti, with over 3000 members its invitable that some of the previous discussed issues will be repeated simply cos the newly joined NoMaDs are not aware that these topics have actually been through the thread mill before. Instead of the general constructive criticisms you could perhaps compile a list of previously exhausted issues together and put that forward in one of the forums. That way new comers like me can view those and take them as a guideline. No offense, just tryna help. ~QoxootiMammi~

Phrases such as ‘Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder’ and ‘Beauty is within’ are commonly used whether it is genuinely meant it or not. However, is one able to define beauty and doesn’t the term brainy actually depend on how well one is able to use the grey mass between the two cortex’s? Would you form a relationship with someone purely based on looks, someone that you can’t have a conversation with, and listening to the barking of the old lady’s dog next door is more interesting—that being the high light of your time together. (You can even recognise the different types of barking a dog can produce, you reckon it is between 5 and 7 depending on the situation ). The only possible reason why you would put up with them is because you receive positive reinforcing comments about their appearance and all your peers are green with jealousy. "You would be out of your mind to dump him/her", is what you constantly hear when you complain to a friend about the lack of inspiration and interest in your relationship. Of course above assumptions are over-simplified and things are never as they seem. But what is it that really attracts us to each other? Are beauty and brains co-dependant variables i.e. we need bit of both for a healthy relationship, or can beauty never be matched with brains? Can that gorgeous model-next-door make you laugh like the big teeth-big pimples individual can? Do you think that you could exchange stimulating conversation for the sound of a "dog barking", just for visual convenience and social acceptance? So on that note, feel free to chip in and express your preference. ~QoxootiMammi~ ‘I am the face, the voice, the key, and the global link for…La Familia Nomad’ -----QoxootiMammi ( )-----

I wish to eat bariis with that NICE sauce my mom makes...*lol* Here's mine: If I could fly away into another world, it would be one where...

Hhm, interesting topic. Its been in my mind for a while, actually. I've got my own theory on why us women have such a high standard. Its because we see our parents struggling to provide for us and give us a better life. For this reason, we dont want to repeat the same mistakes our parents did. Thats the reason we go to Uni, to get a high-powered, high-paying job, so we can afford to give our children a better life. As for the brothers who are going back home to get a wife, I suppose its a personal choice, but have you thought about the consequences? Like it has been mentioned before, what will you do with your wife once she gets back in the States? Because of the large educational and communicational difference, how will you ever carry on a deep conversation with her, apart from the "naa, cashadii awaay?" Because of the restrictions put on her, she may have a narrow-minded attitude, which may not benefit you in any sense. And once the down-home sisters are thrust into this whole new world, they may feel alianated. It will take them time and energy to learn the western ways, and maybe they may launch into clinical depression. When your family is enlarged by the arrival of your newborn(s), will she be able to sustain their growing needs for emotional and intellectual support they need? Remember, she will have grown up in a completely different society, and she may not yet have shaken off the rules and regulations a down-from-home sister has to live with. Then again, the sisters from the West are all different. Yeah, we have our lists, but thats only to ensure a fruitful future with the man we love. Now how are we supposed to do that, if some our brothers are running away from us, dating African-American/White or anyone thats not Somalian, because apparantly we dont meet their "needs." Also, who says that a Western sister does not have roots? We may have grown up in the west, but we have by no means lost our roots. We still know our traditions, and are willing to carry them out, so long as they dont harm us. Then again, when you step off that plain onto Somalian dust, you may look up and find your perfect wife. You never know... Just remember...the grass is not always greener on the other side. QoxootiMammi PS: Just my oppinions/assumptions.