Tuujiye goofkaan mataramaakis nuur badanaa ka shidayee see camal duqa? Waxaanoo wara ma kugu aasnaayeen? Walee war badnidaada waan moodayey inay sidan keeni, laakiin daandaansigaan maxaa ka danbeyn doona hee. Widaayoow armaa sabaaxad laguu taagaa? Igaar cirka biyo kaala soo cabaa iman minaad warka deynweydo. Aryaa kan naastaro ordeyduu labo jir ku liqday? Buugii aakhiro buuxsimuu ku dhow yahay.

Originally posted by Aeronwen: That's just morbid, Ducaqabe. What’s morbid about working in a funeral home? Somebody's gotta do it right? May be you should try out at your local mortuary? You may get more satisfaction than what you do now. You never know until you try it.

Voting? What's the point of voting? Does the admin pick/choose mods based on the votes they receive?

Any Qabri qode in da house? Enjoying every bit of it.

Sad story indeed. Waraa Castro, inanta yar maxaad naar ula aaday? Allow Muslinka umuurahooda u sakhir, Anana na waafaji inaan wax la baxno bisha barakeysan.

Originally posted by Baashi: Islaantu been-boodka iyo cidla isku qaadka yey aad u taqaan. You’re on fire man! Have a look at another angle. Some Arab singers wear Qamiis while performing in public. Somalis generally perceive this particular robe to be of a religious dress, and expected to behave as such. No question our deception is wrong but can we conclude men that dress these garments have more or less Iman?

To tackle the problem well, I think it would be a good idea for both of you to pay a visit to your local mosque and speak directly with the Imam. You both need to hear it from someone that’s respected in the community in which you live in and is in a better position (than we are) to give you the right answer. It’s possible the Imam might tell you the same verse Muhammad posted above but your husband needs to hear from someone other than ‘internet’ or ‘some Muslim newspaper’. The Imam might just be enough for your husband to give up the idea. I have to tell you though this name change is not Somali culture, assuming you’re one. Asking or expecting a Somali sister to take your name gets you nothing but a big slap in the face, that’s if you are lucky. Some sisters will speak of your ‘hidden agenda’ of erasing her identity, history and that of her family, and owning her. It is their ‘hot button’ methinks. Good for them. I personally can’t image having someone else’s last name. I can’t speak of your particular situation but marriage is (or should be) all about compromising, respecting one’s thoughts, disagreements and all those good things…right? What is with the pushing? If I can ask. And I agree with WOL, there're more important things in marriage than a name change. May Allah be on your side and good luck.

I think there are many things a woman can do to stop her husband from marrying another wife. She can talk to him out of it. She can seek a divorce. I think women can seek divorce in Islam. There was an instance where a woman came to the prophet scw seeking divorce simply because she didn’t like her husband and could not live with him. Although there were no complaints of his treatment, the prophet scw granted her divorce. So yes, it’s permissible for woman to request a divorce. I’m not a learned person and I don’t know if the Qur’an encourages or discourages polygamy but I think the Sheikh was mentioning a hadith that goes like this. “Al Muslimuuna calaa or cinda shuruudihim†Meaning Muslims are bound by their stipulations, shuruut, a compolosy condition. My translation isn’t that good and I hope some will correct if I made error. The other Sheikh brought a similar hadith but different view point. The other hadith said,"Kullu shardin leysa fii kitaabi Allahi fahuwa baadil wa in kaana mi'atu shar-tin." Every stipultion which is not in the book of Allah is void even if it be one hundred stipulations. So I think the Sheikh was trying to point out that this particular shart, condition makes something permissible (polygamy) forbidden. I wrote this in a hurry so I hope it makes sense.

I’ll try to give a piece of advice, not a fatwa, so please correct me if I err. Islam permits polygamy under strict condition of treating all wives with equal fairness and justice. Marrying more than one wife requires fairness and justice of all. If one is afraid that he won’t be able to treat them equally & justly, then he’s forbidden to marry more than one. However, the fairness and the justice that’s obligatory is in the areas of (his control) spending, clothes, food, staying overnights, and other materials & financial matters. It’s my understanding that fairness & justice in regards to love isn’t required as it’s something that’s not controllable. The verse in Sura Al-Nisa states that no matter how hard we try; it’s never possible to be fair with women even at our best. I think the Mufasireen said the verse is speaking of fairness with love, which is impossible. One won’t be held accountable for loving one wife more than the other, so long he’s equally fair to all in other aspects of life. As for asking for consent, I asked a Sheikh this very question while attending a Muslim conference years ago. The question was forwarded to a panel of Uluma. One Sheikh said that if you make a contract agreement (either verbal or written) with your wife that you won’t marry another wife with her, it’s obligatory to keep such contract. The other Sheikh disagreed. He said such contract would violate the very basics of Islam. He cited a hadith that state any contract that’s contrary the Kitab of Allah is Baadil. In the end they concluded that it’s not permissible for a woman to ask for a contact that violates the Sunnah and it’s not permissible for a man to sign a contract knowingly he’s going to break it later. Hope that helps.

Sad story. May Allah ease their pain. Cid walboo waxaan habooneyn ku hadaaqda jawaab ma mudna.

7 of Nine, Believe me I didn’t have any motive. It could be a coincident of some sort And I sure hope I didn’t cause any waves. As a general rule, we should avoid preconceiving the notion that some are to the rescue of others. The notion ‘us’ against ‘them’ is a recipe for conflict. And let me add, such conflict would be a BIG turn off. Where’s Fidel Castro, that everyone is speaking on his behalf??

Ramadan Mubarak to all. We’re all happily anticipating the arrival of Ramadan, the month of fasting, Qur’an, towbah, prayer, & sadaqa. May Allah reach us in good health and bless us to do more Cibaadah. Walaahi this is a gift from Allah and we shall not waste a minute of it. How many people do you know that lived last Ramadan but aren't here this year? Does anyone have any plans? Change of a bad habit or a bad life style? Read more Qur’an? Or do some Hifz? More Sadaqa, or helping others? Shut off that TV and/or put away those CDs? What are we gonna take away from Ramadan? A great opportunity is on the horizon. Fasten your seat belt and get ready to make some changes.

Tuujiye maxaa ku helay saaxiib. Haweenka si edab ku jirtaa loola kaftami jirayee see kaa noqotay?

I don’t dig your abrupt judgment my dear. I was merely making a general statement regarding the topic at hand. Neither was I patronizing Kheyr, nor annoying any participant of the discussion. Personally, I don’t indulge myself to cast label at someone’s faith. Not in my nature. My intent was to simply state my humble opinion. Perhaps you misunderstand it and thought I was involved in a rescue operation. I concur. It’s absolutely inappropriate to toss up verses to undermine one’s faith and ability to participate a discussion. It’s despicable act the least to say. However, I still hold my stance. One can state or paraphrase a verse or hadith given it is relevant to the topic, fits well and explained thoroughly. I must admit I haven’t read the whole thread. Though I read the verses in question, I couldn’t quite understand the point Kheyre was trying to get across so I ignored. Those verses didn’t come to my attention until your post. I had to look them up in the Kitaab. Usually when I read quranic verse in English, I try to come up the verse in Arabic right at that moment. If I couldn’t and no Mus-haf is near, I simply pass. I would never disrespect, or call a Muslim a kafir or make hypocritical assumption as you presumed. Never have done so my dear friend. Hasty judgment isn’t part of my routine. Ma meel la isku hardinayo ayaan mijaha la soo galay? I better go back to my Mustamiciinal Kiraam status.

Although it’s not a habit of mine, I see no harm in throwing in ayah or hadeeth which fits the topic well.

Originally posted by La Femme: 5 Animals I wish I had as pets: - Horse - Cat - Monkey - Snake - Man Man as a pet? I don’t think they can be domesticated

Adinka maskiinkaan hadda la jecelyahay shaatiga ha ka wasakheenina nooh. MMA: Mabruuk. Abuu suxul inaad SOL ka noqotid iyo maskiinimo isma raacaanee ogaaw hee.

Of course, I strive to do every sunnah of the prophet within my ability. I’m not in doubt of the sunnah my brother. If I were I would also be in doubt of the Qur’an and Islam. Logic tells me I received both from the same messenger. I’m afraid the ayah Baashi mentioned won’t do any good for you. It’s in Surat Al-Hashr. I hope your next argument won’t be the verse does not clearly say ‘follow hadiths’ although it clearly commands that we follow whatsoever the prophet brought to us. Like it or not, whatever the prophet spoke of was revelation from Allah. In sura Al Najm, it states the prophet does not speak of his desire. There’s another Ayah Al-Nisa that goes beyond this. The ayah indicates we would not be believers if we don’t let the prophet scw judge our disputes and be satisfied with his decision with no resistance. Such resistance shows lack of faith in Islam. Such thing would nullify our Islam. The Quran time and again uses these words ‘follow’ & ‘obey’ the prophet. Perhaps, they mean or sound different to you. Malak Jabriel (as) read the Quran to the prophet and the prophet read it to his companion and so fourth. Same thing with ahadith, the companions of the prophet are trustworthy and loyal to this deen. Allah praised their truthfulness in the Quran. If you doubt them, why not doubt the authenticity of the Quran? The order is which the suras are listed? Remember your earlier claim, hadith were written by men, thus not reliable. So does the Quran? Another claim of yours, sharia can’t be implemented due to some countries abusing it, so is democracy. The so-called developed nations at times abuse democracy and alter it to their advantage. Your simple logic falls apart. Would you happen to doubt that you’re the son of you parent? How could you be sure? You don’t know for a fact you are theirs? We all simply depend on what our parents and others tell in this matter. The companions of the prophet are more credible than our parents. They are indeed. Allah in the Quran endorses their trust for the prophet and the deen. How can one dismiss them and their successors (Culumaa)? And to answer your question regarding the permissibility of music in Islam, find the answer in the surat luqman. Read the tafsiir of the ayah very carefully. Separation of religion and state is contrary to Islamic teachings. As simply as that. Saluugla: Ina-eedo, waxaan kahday doodaan marba waji yeelaneysa.

SB, I really don’t know what we’re debating here. I think I lost track of the discussion. Let me see. Your initial argument was that Sharia law is outdated, unfair, and accessory to Islamic living. You went ahead and brushed off the importance of the meaning of the term. Surprisingly enough, you still claim Sharia is a man made law, contrary to modern day society. How can one debate about a subject that’s he/she has no knowledge of? Can someone with no science education dismiss the value of teaching Biology in schools? Worst yet, does not know the term Biology. Likewise, I could not engage a debate with Fidel about communism for I’m ignorant about the subject. Such debate would be useless for Fidel, you might agree. It’s said that a Quadratic equation formula won’t do any good for a student that can’t do a simple multiplication, so let get back to the basics. Fact: Quran is the word of Allah, addresses all aspects of life, including the past, present, & the future. It deals with legal issues, gives solutions for day-to-day problems, ife after death, etc. It ain’t only about praying and doing charity work. It’s beyond that. Fact: Quran and hadith are inter-connected. It’s impossible to take one and leave the other. Qur’an does not show us the method to pray and give Zakat or Hajj, thus we rely on hadith. Qur’an directs [us] to obey and follow the prophet. It states the prophet does not speak of his own desire. The hadiths, prophets words, action & things were done in his presence that he approved of, are all revelation from Allah. Quran calls us to take whatsoever the prophet (read: sunnah) gave us. It goes beyond that and commands us to follow the prophet (read: sunnah) if we love Allah. Some hadiths are the words of Allah. They’re called Hadiisul Quds. You probably disagree but any Sharia law that is not in accordance with the Qur’an and Sunnah can be challenged. If I remember correctly, Imam Shaafici once said, if my words are contrary to the Kitab (Quran) sunnah, throw them into the wall. Hadiths are the words of the prophet. They are also a revelation from Allah. Hadith are almost as sacred as the Quran. Would you deny Quran and Hadith come to us through the prophet scw? Why take one and reject the other? Is it not safe to say Allah spoke to us through the tongue of the prophet scw? If not, why not deny the Quran also? By the way, there’s a group that negates the Ahadith of the prophet scw at all. This group is considered to be out of the fold of Islam. Perhaps you happen to agree or belong to them. And please don’t reply in quote. It distracts the direction of the discussion. You may play with words, but the prophet was MACSUUM.

Better late than never right! Congrats to all. Please bear with us, as our shortcomings are endless. Inoo naxariista Alle ha idiin naxariistee. Be kind to us and have your patience and humbleness.

Baashi, I could not agree with you more. She’s being used and given much attention than she deserves. I only watched the first clip and honestly, I could not see the rest. Somehow something was telling me I was wasting my valuable time. She needs some serious mental evaluation. Her life is a waste. What a great loser she is. Is that her voice reading Faatixa? It sounds like Somali.

War Baashoow miyaan laguu waramin. Waayadaan dambe raggii xiniinyey muujiyeen. Sheikh baa laga sheegay ka bilaaba Alle meeshuu ka bilaabay. Waad garatay ayaan filayaa Marka reerku labaduu ku barakoobaayee Xiin wixiisa wax Alle ha ugu daro. Adigana guuleysato sadexaad & mid afaraad Alle ha ku gaarsiiyo.

SB, With all due respect my friend, your knowledge of Sharia is limited. I don’t know what you have been reading but your interpretation of Sharia is not accurate. The term Sharia means Islamic law, the law of Allah. The primary source of the Sharia is Quran and Hadith. A small portion of Sharia comes from Ijtima' of Ulumaa, the consensus of Imams and most knowledgeable scholars. Men leaving 1000 years ago didn’t write sharia. Believe me sxb the laws of Allah are applicable in every situation, every place and every time. As a matter fact, Quran tells us that Allah has neglected nothing in the book. It’s us; humans that neglect to learn and apply the laws of Allah. The trouble with the Muslim countries isn’t the Sharia itself, as some want us to believe. The problem is the way it’s applied. Most of the Muslim countries accept Sharia in certain areas and refuse to follow it in other aspects of life. They allow courts to use Sharia laws when dealing with marriage but the government maintains a secular system in dealing with other important issues. This dual system isn’t gonna work. Suprisingly enough, they complaint Sharia can't be applied. The Qur’an itself criticizes those that take parts of Qur’an and leaving other parts. Same thing with Ahadith. One can’t simply pick and choose what Ahadith to take and what to drop. I think there’re over a million ahadith including the sahih, the weak and the fabricated. Only authentic hadiths can be taken as a source. Figuring it out which hadith is authentic and which is fabricated is a study of its own. My friend, corruption is a human nature. It happens everywhere. You’ll see corruption in your local school, library, city hall and cinema if you will. Almost every country in the world sees some type of corruption. It does not happened because of Islam or Sharia. It happens because of lack of morals and values.

My average qabees--and it isn't a bath--takes at least 35 minutes minimum and one hour maximum. I ain't a girl either. That's too much time in beytu-raaxa bro.