you've been given a choice to either fast or marry, 1,2 3 or 4.. (assuming that's what you're on about)

^^lol I dont like him either..

Originally posted by Jacaylbaro: I don't know what i'm doing here but lemme say this: Mantra, by saying this i think you have some problems you need to get rid of them: May be you have problems with men as Aisha just said and with this you need some phsycological treatment ,,,,, i could say it is kind of Men-phobia syndrom that can be very dangeraous in the near future. that isnt the issue, it's more about not liking them than being scared.. Allah created both men and women, thus the attraction is there however it is. Not having an interest in men is against Allah's creation which can propably mean you are not human. Imagine someone says he/she never interested in water ,,, is that possible ??? lol awful comparison, water gives life, men destroy, water is vital for survival..men arent.. I don't know if i can say this here but may be some ppl can be more attracted into the same sex. If that is the case then NO COMMENT from my side, it is still against the creation. acudhubillah, that isnt an idea a muslim should entertain.. As said before, may be you don't dare to change your situation as it is the case for many ppl icluding me. Some ppl worry a lot once they decide to move from one situation to another and can even harm their brain. If that is the case then you need to be brave at least once and change your life into a full family, i assure you'll never like to come back to the lonely again I'm always open for change, that's not even an issue May be there is a JINN in you that is prohibiting you to get married. This can happen and happened to many ppl that i already know. You simply need to see a Sheikh and he can recite Quran on you and give you some herbals against the JINN. i've seriously considered this, but I dont see how this should be an issue, I read the Quran on a daily basis and I have absolute faith that im protected by Allah....and i've checked myself for symptoms too nothing there... May be you have bad friends who is making you hate men and at least not interested in men. You just need to leave them and make new friends as there is always ppl. Never be a friend to a divorced women ,,,, this is my warning ! ! lol my friends are all men loving creeps, they make me feel so strange, in fact an argument with one yesterday made me post this thread Well, that is what i have in mind for the moment, will be back if any other thinks ,,,,, lol jazakallah kheyr

Originally posted by *Aisha*: quote:Originally posted by Mantra: ...but I quite honestly find the idea of getting married to be absolutely terrible. This never quite disturbed me before, but now i've started to question myself..is this normal? OMG!!!! I'm going through the same thing! ok.....I work with lebanese and Albanian girls. They all got married at a very young age(16yrs & 18yrs old, now they're 25yrs old). The other day at work they were asking me if I have anyone in mind, blah, blah, blah & when I'm going to get married(mind you I'm 22 yrs old). I said to them I'm happy being single and love living at home with my family and I also told them that I'm scared to get married. Man............you should have seen the looks on their faces. They were like :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: One of them said to me that I'm sick and need help (she ment it)lol!!!!!!! She also said that I'm the only girl to ever say such a thing. So ever since then I feel soooooooo abnormal. I think the difference b/w me and you Mantra is that I don't like the whole life changing aspect of marriage rather than "finding nothing desirable in men". Maybe you have similar fears to me about marriage but in your mind you think you "find nothing desirable in men" when really thats just an excuse your using. There just has to be an underlying issue. Or maybe you've just had a bad experience with guys in your past and so thats what's causing you to feel this way. I can't think of anything else :confused: Try and get a different mentality about marriage. Just think that when you get married, you will be completing half your religion.....WOOHOO!! Doesn't that sound good? Well...thats what i'm trying anyway I hope I helped you out a little Mantra. My heart goes out to you Salam Thanks for your input sis, thing is im not scared nor have I had any bad relationships...i've actually had none...which begs the question...im I normal? As for completing my deen, im still working on the other half.. This is quite frustrating, lol don't let your work mates get to you, tell them you're looking for a married man and ask whether they mind sharing their husbands with their sister in Islam...I dare say they'll never bring marriage up again..

Salaam! Ever since the 'somali women and sex' thread i've realized I can just about post a topic about anything in here... My problem, fortunately isnt about segis (word courtesy of Xalimopatra) it's about my severe dislike of all things male! Ladies (note if you don't fall under this category..see yourself out, excluding you devilangel, you can stay )...before when I wasn't entirely practicing people assumed I was well...of the lesbian persuasion, now that ive donned a tent everyone is waiting for me to run down the aisle..apparently that's step two to attaining absolute hijabi status (bearded husband must come with the look) but I quite honestly find the idea of getting married to be absolutely terrible. This never quite disturbed me before, but now i've started to question myself..is this normal? im not strange, there must be a lot of women out there who find nothing desirable in men...arent there? :confused:

loool here we go again..

the second one refused to load which is just as well.. matag baa iheysa

Originally posted by blue_hefner: Ibtisam, you're just biased, so you can't rule. U see what I said, but NOT what she said. I know it's not a good thing to disrespect someone or tell them u hate, but frankly, I don't know how to be nice when someone is rude to me. She's mentioned she doesn't wanna learn somali coz of me, referring whatever she meant, therefore I have the right to act upon it. I am entitled to have my opinion posted here, if anyone doesn't like it, I could careless but one shouldnt cross his/her limits and insult me. omg! you feel insulted? try sleeping with a woman just to have her turn to you and call you a used bathroom and run off to look for a virgin man, now try picturing her entire gender doing the same over and over and over again to your pathetic sex and have them retain an infuriating "moral than thou" attitude! I said it before and i'll say it again, you and your likes are sick people. My question is if you found a woman (I refuse to call her a girl) who is a brand new bathroom why bother yourself with questions about used toilets, isnt it demeaning for you to even associate yourself with them after your repentance? :confused: I urge you to remember that one day you'll have daughters, would you want anyone looking down on them as you are looking down on other people's daughters?

lol Devil, your last comment went right over my head im afraid... she is not beautiful nor is she talented and quite frankly her frame doesnt look like it can support a pregnancy...I therefore declare her useless... unless of course her fans can come up with a better use for her...

lool Devil why I believe I do! honestly the lyrics! and after going through her pictures I take back my beautiful comment...

the lyrics! mashallah shes beautiful..

Originally posted by Socod_badne: Browny, You desparately need to be disabused of a mistaken notion. I've seen woman have orgasm without intercourse. While shopping, gossiping, scheming, conniving, trimming nails, eating, cooking even talking... you just have to find what works for you. Besides you say you're married. You should know on the menu for couples are: getting the mail orgasm , studying your utility bills orgasm , doing the laundry orgasm , vacuuming orgasm ... don't limit orgasm to some exclusive act or set of acts. Don't be so parochail and regid. There's plenty of leeway. Know a whole array of sources exist that can induce orgasm, you just have to find what works for you. Just the other day I witnessed a woman faint from seismic orgasm after being frisked at the airport. loool! you just made my day! no really..something funny happened to me as I read this...

lol vomited? maybe you're not feeling well.. I felt immense joy at the very thought! if only..

Originally posted by cynical lady: NO it waz his shaft and other stuff talk wht kinda crap is that to state at this hr. VILE MAN if i could shot him now i would i am £3.50 poor now coz of him. im female thank you very much.. and that wasnt vile, it painted a lovely picture actually .. if only

Here's a little something I stumbled across, food for thought... To get a grasp on the difference between the two practices, imagine if (instead of the foreskin being carefully removed) the entire head of the man’s penis were simply lobbed off! Or, as with the most extreme versions of FGM, imagine if -- after lobbing off the head of the penis, the remaining shaft was shoved between his balls and his scrotum stitched up over it so that it was completely unreachable. Then, years later, imagine a woman whipping out a dull knife, slicing open the now fused flesh of his scrotum, pulling free his bloody rod and then hopping aboard the remains of his dick for a short, self-gratifying ride while he tried to choke down his screams.

Salam sis, I can't really answer your questions, I can however say that not having an orgasm has less to do with genital mutilation and more to do with your partner.. I have relatives who have undergone FGM, they enjoy sex as much as the next person, maybe you should try to spice things up a bit...

Originally posted by Che-Guevara: LoooL@Mantra...You are doing just fine. Continue learning it. Remember, you are doing for yourself, not for the rest of us maryooleey. And roughly translated, I was saying the man cared about what people think than God expected of him. And about "Iam Somali thing", that ain't good excuse. I think Hefner thought we will just join the chorus, and sing his tones.He didn't expect people calling on him to explain himself. lol wa mahadsanid! he did the disappearing act did he? Somali men..they're quite the runners..

Originally posted by Che-Guevara: ^^^^I think Bila Aadan Caabud waaye, not Alla caabud. And how does remove religion social issues? maku fahmin my somali isnt that advanced, it's coming along, after this man I dont think I want to learn any more Somali...think I liked my cadaanimo more.. the deen is quoted only when it's appropriate for him you see, when he talks of his supposed repentance for example..but when it comes to his edeb la'an he runs into a cave and screams "I can't help it, i'm Somali"

blue tell me what's the wisdom behind this 'somali thing', don't simply brush it off..do tell, im sincerely at a loss... why is it that we're so ready to shed our deen but we hold on to our stupid ideals as if we're clinging to life itself? I pray you marry a used bathroom, I really do amin deh

Originally posted by blue_hefner: sorry I meant the private one is better and cleaner than public bathroom YOU DARE EQUATE WOMEN WITH BATHROOMS!!! you are just as used as they are mister! you sick man, you tell me to learn my deen! the hadith you just massacred can be found online..look for it, you missed some vital points. I don't care if you claim to have repented or not, im worried about how you view the repented females, sorry bathrooms, tell me why a man is automatically cleansed of his faaxisha and women, whether they repent or not are called public toilets.. what is the wisdom behind all this? perhaps you can enlighten me..

Originally posted by blue_hefner: Matra, I am not promoting Faaxisha here, but it's just a hypothetical question. Az zaani Laa yankix Illaa Zaanin or Mushrik. it's true, but don't forget Allah gave Muslims a chance to repent for their past sins as long as they meet the requirements. Therefore, anything past will not be accountable and since you clear your self out of Faaxisha, you still have a hope to look for the best person. To Puja, that's why I will never commit a sin (sex) with the person I love. And I seriously told her str8 up that she is gone the min she does that with me despite the fact that I know she will never think of that for herself. blue I find it absolutely disgusting that you would use the "repentance" card, you can not simply 'clear' yourself of your sins...and badaboom run off and marry a virgin... It's amazing how according to everyone this wonderful chameleon outfit is only available to men, would you consider marrying one of your ex sex buddies if she too claimed repentance?

3. The fornicator shall not marry any but a fornicatress or idolatress, and (as for) the fornicatress, none shall marry her but a fornicator or an idolater; and it is forbidden to the believers. Surah Nur I say good luck to those who brag about their sins as if they had accomplished something truly great..

funny, he was singing the praises of the UIC just the other day...

hardly anything to applaud..but kudos to them anyway

Originally posted by Castro: At this point, I hope not. For if he is, we're stuck with the Ethiopians with no lubrication. Ouch! ouch indeed!