Kaafi..what the brotha is referrin to is the old sayin 'the ends justify the means'..which essentially means that it doesn't matter what steps u take or methods you use to get to ur desired goals as long as those goals are attained... for ex. if my objective is to become CEO of a major corporation, and instead of using my business savvy, intelligence, and hard work, i sleep around with some important ppl...it wouldn't matter cuz my desired goal..i.e. becoming CEO..has been gained...

habibti..instead of cuttin and pastin off of Cosmo. magazine, i agree with pearl...why don't u create ur own lil ideas... somethin that we as somalis can relate to...sorry to say but pettin reindeer and skiing isn't somethin somalis would flock to on any given day...u know how we black folk get in the cold...

Just out of curiosity, did you ever resolve this issue? I myself am in sort of the same situation. Although, in my case im 97% sure he doesn't know I like him.