Well Capital Z, english is not my native language, I´m not going to fuzz about your comment, but I don´t think that the jive you are using is quite proper either. I went to this site since I thought I could get some useful information from africans since there are not many africans in the neighbourhood. See?

Well Capital Z, english is not my native language, I´m not going to fuzz about your comment, but I don´t think that the jive you are using is quite proper either. I went to this site since I thought I could get some useful information from africans since there are not many africans in the neighbourhood. See?

Well Capital Z, english is not my native language, I´m not going to fuzz about your comment, but I don´t think that the jive you are using is quite proper either. I went to this site since I thought I could get some useful information from africans since there are not many africans in the neighbourhood. See?

Well Capital Z, english is not my native language, I´m not going to fuzz about your comment, but I don´t think that the jive you are using is quite proper either. I went to this site since I thought I could get some useful information from africans since there are not many africans in the neighbourhood. See?

Hi there, thanks for your advises! He is 17 and at the moment he is feeling better and are acting as any other normal kid. It seams like he is not aware of his behaviour. Our smaller boy, aged 6 noticed when he was sad and made him a drawing and put it on his bed. When he came home he got really angry and throw the drawing back yelling to him that he should stay out of his room. My son got sad of course. I told him about this incident now when he is in a good mood when we are able to discuss things with him and he got really ashamed. It´s just that he don´t know better, I don´t know. We would ground our own kids, but its hard to ground a teenager I think, what we do is that we denies him access to the internet and/or the computer, the thing is that he don´t understand what that has to do with his behaviour. He knows that I´m visiting a site asking for advices, but he has not the url, perhaps should I give it to him, but I won´t change my identity too much, It would not hurt if he knew about our worries. We do ask all these questions since we love him. If we didn´t care he would have been thrown out a long time ago. What I have learned through you all is that the problems we are having with him is more of a teenagerproblem than a "somali"problem as I thought at first. Kind regards, Pete

Hi there, thanks for your advises! He is 17 and at the moment he is feeling better and are acting as any other normal kid. It seams like he is not aware of his behaviour. Our smaller boy, aged 6 noticed when he was sad and made him a drawing and put it on his bed. When he came home he got really angry and throw the drawing back yelling to him that he should stay out of his room. My son got sad of course. I told him about this incident now when he is in a good mood when we are able to discuss things with him and he got really ashamed. It´s just that he don´t know better, I don´t know. We would ground our own kids, but its hard to ground a teenager I think, what we do is that we denies him access to the internet and/or the computer, the thing is that he don´t understand what that has to do with his behaviour. He knows that I´m visiting a site asking for advices, but he has not the url, perhaps should I give it to him, but I won´t change my identity too much, It would not hurt if he knew about our worries. We do ask all these questions since we love him. If we didn´t care he would have been thrown out a long time ago. What I have learned through you all is that the problems we are having with him is more of a teenagerproblem than a "somali"problem as I thought at first. Kind regards, Pete

Hi there, thanks for your advises! He is 17 and at the moment he is feeling better and are acting as any other normal kid. It seams like he is not aware of his behaviour. Our smaller boy, aged 6 noticed when he was sad and made him a drawing and put it on his bed. When he came home he got really angry and throw the drawing back yelling to him that he should stay out of his room. My son got sad of course. I told him about this incident now when he is in a good mood when we are able to discuss things with him and he got really ashamed. It´s just that he don´t know better, I don´t know. We would ground our own kids, but its hard to ground a teenager I think, what we do is that we denies him access to the internet and/or the computer, the thing is that he don´t understand what that has to do with his behaviour. He knows that I´m visiting a site asking for advices, but he has not the url, perhaps should I give it to him, but I won´t change my identity too much, It would not hurt if he knew about our worries. We do ask all these questions since we love him. If we didn´t care he would have been thrown out a long time ago. What I have learned through you all is that the problems we are having with him is more of a teenagerproblem than a "somali"problem as I thought at first. Kind regards, Pete

Hi there, thanks for your advises! He is 17 and at the moment he is feeling better and are acting as any other normal kid. It seams like he is not aware of his behaviour. Our smaller boy, aged 6 noticed when he was sad and made him a drawing and put it on his bed. When he came home he got really angry and throw the drawing back yelling to him that he should stay out of his room. My son got sad of course. I told him about this incident now when he is in a good mood when we are able to discuss things with him and he got really ashamed. It´s just that he don´t know better, I don´t know. We would ground our own kids, but its hard to ground a teenager I think, what we do is that we denies him access to the internet and/or the computer, the thing is that he don´t understand what that has to do with his behaviour. He knows that I´m visiting a site asking for advices, but he has not the url, perhaps should I give it to him, but I won´t change my identity too much, It would not hurt if he knew about our worries. We do ask all these questions since we love him. If we didn´t care he would have been thrown out a long time ago. What I have learned through you all is that the problems we are having with him is more of a teenagerproblem than a "somali"problem as I thought at first. Kind regards, Pete

What does Habash or something similar mean?

What does Habash or something similar mean?

What does Habash or something similar mean?

What does Habash or something similar mean?

Well Seweet_gal, the rules we have is that weekdays we want him to be at home from 10pm and in weekends 1.30am, this is bacauese we live 8 km from the city and has to get him, weekdays we also want him to be fit for school. If he wants to stay at a friends house (weekends) we want to know that some day ahead and with whom he is staying. If he invites some friends to visit him over the weekend we also want him to notify us so we can plan for the food(at times he brings 4 or 5 friends at home). When he calls to get picket up we just want him to ask us in a nice manner, its not fun to pick up the phone to hear: "come and get me!" instead of: Hi, it´s xxxxx can you pick me up at this and this time? He gets quite frustrated when we won´t pick him up at the very moment when he calls. Regarding money and things. We know that his aunt allways could´t provide him with cool things and money. We can, and do without trying to spoil hom. Everything we get from the social services for keeping him do we give back to him one way or another, and more. Like cell phones, CD walkmans, phone cards, clothes, etc. And we certainly don´t feed him pork. I have to go, my smaller kids want´s to play LEGO. Take care for now.

Well Seweet_gal, the rules we have is that weekdays we want him to be at home from 10pm and in weekends 1.30am, this is bacauese we live 8 km from the city and has to get him, weekdays we also want him to be fit for school. If he wants to stay at a friends house (weekends) we want to know that some day ahead and with whom he is staying. If he invites some friends to visit him over the weekend we also want him to notify us so we can plan for the food(at times he brings 4 or 5 friends at home). When he calls to get picket up we just want him to ask us in a nice manner, its not fun to pick up the phone to hear: "come and get me!" instead of: Hi, it´s xxxxx can you pick me up at this and this time? He gets quite frustrated when we won´t pick him up at the very moment when he calls. Regarding money and things. We know that his aunt allways could´t provide him with cool things and money. We can, and do without trying to spoil hom. Everything we get from the social services for keeping him do we give back to him one way or another, and more. Like cell phones, CD walkmans, phone cards, clothes, etc. And we certainly don´t feed him pork. I have to go, my smaller kids want´s to play LEGO. Take care for now.

Well Seweet_gal, the rules we have is that weekdays we want him to be at home from 10pm and in weekends 1.30am, this is bacauese we live 8 km from the city and has to get him, weekdays we also want him to be fit for school. If he wants to stay at a friends house (weekends) we want to know that some day ahead and with whom he is staying. If he invites some friends to visit him over the weekend we also want him to notify us so we can plan for the food(at times he brings 4 or 5 friends at home). When he calls to get picket up we just want him to ask us in a nice manner, its not fun to pick up the phone to hear: "come and get me!" instead of: Hi, it´s xxxxx can you pick me up at this and this time? He gets quite frustrated when we won´t pick him up at the very moment when he calls. Regarding money and things. We know that his aunt allways could´t provide him with cool things and money. We can, and do without trying to spoil hom. Everything we get from the social services for keeping him do we give back to him one way or another, and more. Like cell phones, CD walkmans, phone cards, clothes, etc. And we certainly don´t feed him pork. I have to go, my smaller kids want´s to play LEGO. Take care for now.

Well Seweet_gal, the rules we have is that weekdays we want him to be at home from 10pm and in weekends 1.30am, this is bacauese we live 8 km from the city and has to get him, weekdays we also want him to be fit for school. If he wants to stay at a friends house (weekends) we want to know that some day ahead and with whom he is staying. If he invites some friends to visit him over the weekend we also want him to notify us so we can plan for the food(at times he brings 4 or 5 friends at home). When he calls to get picket up we just want him to ask us in a nice manner, its not fun to pick up the phone to hear: "come and get me!" instead of: Hi, it´s xxxxx can you pick me up at this and this time? He gets quite frustrated when we won´t pick him up at the very moment when he calls. Regarding money and things. We know that his aunt allways could´t provide him with cool things and money. We can, and do without trying to spoil hom. Everything we get from the social services for keeping him do we give back to him one way or another, and more. Like cell phones, CD walkmans, phone cards, clothes, etc. And we certainly don´t feed him pork. I have to go, my smaller kids want´s to play LEGO. Take care for now.

Well, what shall I reply.... he was sent to Europe by his mother and was taken care of an aunt. In the long run that didnt work and finally he asked the social services if he could be placed at another family. I know that it is a tough thing to be separated from family (we have that experience in my family) but he has allways kept a contact with his mom. I think that the frustration he is going through is beaccause he cant be living with his mom now when he can experience how a loving family works. We giver him lots ov love. Telling him that we care for him in words and action, but also that we have a hard time putting uo with his behaviour in the long run. As for my own kids, I will never accept them behaiving the way he is doing at times. We just want a working social relationship, we know that we never kan replace his family and that is not our goal, we have encourige him to invite relatives, but with no result, well in fact another aunt of him was visiting us for a week, wich he had a very hard time to accept. Well take car efor now

Well, what shall I reply.... he was sent to Europe by his mother and was taken care of an aunt. In the long run that didnt work and finally he asked the social services if he could be placed at another family. I know that it is a tough thing to be separated from family (we have that experience in my family) but he has allways kept a contact with his mom. I think that the frustration he is going through is beaccause he cant be living with his mom now when he can experience how a loving family works. We giver him lots ov love. Telling him that we care for him in words and action, but also that we have a hard time putting uo with his behaviour in the long run. As for my own kids, I will never accept them behaiving the way he is doing at times. We just want a working social relationship, we know that we never kan replace his family and that is not our goal, we have encourige him to invite relatives, but with no result, well in fact another aunt of him was visiting us for a week, wich he had a very hard time to accept. Well take car efor now

Well, what shall I reply.... he was sent to Europe by his mother and was taken care of an aunt. In the long run that didnt work and finally he asked the social services if he could be placed at another family. I know that it is a tough thing to be separated from family (we have that experience in my family) but he has allways kept a contact with his mom. I think that the frustration he is going through is beaccause he cant be living with his mom now when he can experience how a loving family works. We giver him lots ov love. Telling him that we care for him in words and action, but also that we have a hard time putting uo with his behaviour in the long run. As for my own kids, I will never accept them behaiving the way he is doing at times. We just want a working social relationship, we know that we never kan replace his family and that is not our goal, we have encourige him to invite relatives, but with no result, well in fact another aunt of him was visiting us for a week, wich he had a very hard time to accept. Well take car efor now

Well, what shall I reply.... he was sent to Europe by his mother and was taken care of an aunt. In the long run that didnt work and finally he asked the social services if he could be placed at another family. I know that it is a tough thing to be separated from family (we have that experience in my family) but he has allways kept a contact with his mom. I think that the frustration he is going through is beaccause he cant be living with his mom now when he can experience how a loving family works. We giver him lots ov love. Telling him that we care for him in words and action, but also that we have a hard time putting uo with his behaviour in the long run. As for my own kids, I will never accept them behaiving the way he is doing at times. We just want a working social relationship, we know that we never kan replace his family and that is not our goal, we have encourige him to invite relatives, but with no result, well in fact another aunt of him was visiting us for a week, wich he had a very hard time to accept. Well take car efor now

Dear Nefertiti and Kool_Kat we are of swedish-german-swiss origin and our fosterkid has lived here for 12 years and in our family for 2 years. We are having our ups and downs, he is a lovely kid very intellegent. The big problem with him is still that he won´t communicate with us on an adult level. He is very egocentric and thinkt that the wirld is spinning around him. I guess he is not that different from other teenagers, but it gets so frustrating at times. The webpage is just a hobby, our kid is not placed with us through that organisation, but through the social services. Pete

Dear Nefertiti and Kool_Kat we are of swedish-german-swiss origin and our fosterkid has lived here for 12 years and in our family for 2 years. We are having our ups and downs, he is a lovely kid very intellegent. The big problem with him is still that he won´t communicate with us on an adult level. He is very egocentric and thinkt that the wirld is spinning around him. I guess he is not that different from other teenagers, but it gets so frustrating at times. The webpage is just a hobby, our kid is not placed with us through that organisation, but through the social services. Pete

Dear Nefertiti and Kool_Kat we are of swedish-german-swiss origin and our fosterkid has lived here for 12 years and in our family for 2 years. We are having our ups and downs, he is a lovely kid very intellegent. The big problem with him is still that he won´t communicate with us on an adult level. He is very egocentric and thinkt that the wirld is spinning around him. I guess he is not that different from other teenagers, but it gets so frustrating at times. The webpage is just a hobby, our kid is not placed with us through that organisation, but through the social services. Pete

Dear Nefertiti and Kool_Kat we are of swedish-german-swiss origin and our fosterkid has lived here for 12 years and in our family for 2 years. We are having our ups and downs, he is a lovely kid very intellegent. The big problem with him is still that he won´t communicate with us on an adult level. He is very egocentric and thinkt that the wirld is spinning around him. I guess he is not that different from other teenagers, but it gets so frustrating at times. The webpage is just a hobby, our kid is not placed with us through that organisation, but through the social services. Pete

Well, we have a fosterkid at home with somalian origin, I wish he was a little bit more like you. We live in Europe and are a multicultural family (swedish german swiss). Indeed we like to respect his way of life, but the problem is that he is quite selfish We have some reasonable rules in the family of which he thinks "what the **** does that concern me? I don´t belong in this family anyway" Well, he wanted to live with us in the first place, do you have any ideas? :confused: