Salam Alaykum , I think its natural for every woman to adorn herself ,then again it depends on what kind of beautification you are talking about.To me , taking care of myself comes to : taking a shower everyday + hydrating my face with a cream + using a lip balm and thats it , I just go out without wearing any make-up and keep it simple even for celebrations. Women tend to wear make-up occasionnally for weddings , promotions at work or guests coming into their houses , proms and so on. The reason for doing it? I dont know , maybe because the rest of the women are wearing make-up , so they wouldnt look like the ugly ducks because its rare to see a lady with make-up on in her own house unless she's spicing things up between her husband and her.

Salam Alaykum , I hope inshallah Hani will be found , safe and sound , may Allah watch over her.

Salam Alaykum , Hey purple rain not every bollywood movie is bad ,things that piss me off is often the jokes in hindi movies , its so exaggerated and a waste of time. Yasmine recommended you some of the best movies , my favorite actor is Sharukh Khan , you should try his movies such as " Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge ", " Dil to pagal hai " , " Kuch Kuch Hota Hai " , " Chalte Chalte" , " Mohabbatein" . You should also check Amitabh Bachan's movies ,they are the best.

Salam Alaykum , Walaal checkmate , there's nothig to apologize about my winter boots , except when you tried to provoke me on my " Tdot & OT gals topic " I do appreciate your sense of humour , keep on provoking me and you might get my summer shoes prints on your face

Salam Alaykum , Hey tuujiye ,u said u were 17 in real life ? How is that possible if ur attending ur 2nd year at the uni? Isnt it supposed to be the opposite , ur real age should be bigger than the fake one? Confused ,confused & confused

Salam Alaykum , This is not a topic where fingers are pointed towards parents for some of their kids'failure ,its rather a thread where Im asking nomads for advices regarding how mothers should deal with their children specially regarding those who do not respect Islamic principles.My post is quite long ,I need your patience because your eyes might get tired but its worth to read. I believe every Somali girls (even guys) should be deeply concerned because one day or another we will have children and our attitudes towards them , might change the way they will behave in society and what Im about to share with you is from personal experience. I lived once with 2 different aunts , one when I was still living in Tdot , the other here in OT.These 2 aunts have many things in common , their husbands are not in Canada , and no they are not divorced but I will not get into details regarding their husbands'absences because this topic concernes mothers.Both of my aunts have children , one got 5 ,the other 7 , both of their offsprings are aged between 16 to 30. Here comes the problem , some of their kids(including the older ones) got into fights , involved with alcohol and the police , stole money from their siblings, disrespected their mothers by insulting them or did not help with the house chores despite the Islamic way that their mothers brought them up. I know that in Islam , its not recommended to reveal your faults to strangers. So Im wondering if my aunts are applying this principle to their lives by not suggesting their children to get some help outside. But here comes the differences between my aunts , one knows that some of her kids are messed up and complains about their lack of sensitivity , the other prefers to bury her head in the sand and refuses to face the truth about one of her sons and thus pretends that everything is ok in the house. The conlusions that I drew were that both my aunts did not help their kids by asking some of them to leave their houses and get on with their lives. In fact ,I believe that despite their best efforts ,they do not understand that contributing to their children's well-being starts when you distance yourself from your kids. The speeches that I always get is: " my kids need me " or " Besides me , they have nobody else to care of them " . And to be honest ,Im sick , angry and at the same time , Im very sad because mothers are sometimes weak and are willing to believe that their kids need them even though some might not give a damn shit. Im surprised by what some mothers will go through for their children. To me its not fair that a 50 years-old mom will run after her 20 or 30 years-old kids ,specially when their are old enough to contribute in the family by getting a job. You are wondering why Im posting this ,because to be honest since I lived with my aunts ,Im scared of getting married and having children ,because I dont want them to end up like them.Im aware that nobody can predict the future and sometimes despite the best education ,some kids end up losers. But the issue here is how would I deal if my kids had unislamic behaviors ,would I bury my head in the sand or help them by let them face the truth even If I had to ask them to leave home? Does the absence of fathers play a key role? So Nomads how would you tell certain mothers to help their children considering the fact that some will get offended( Im not in good terms with one of aunts because of that) if you advise them with anything regarding their offsprings'manners?

Salam Alaykum , I think the guy was not fair about not telling you from the get go that he was married. And if he didnt , when was he going to tell you? Before or after you talked about marriage? Its very weird but only Allah knows his intentions. Maybe in his mind since you 2 met during summer , your relationship wasnt serious to him and his silence during you 2 went out shockes me. He says he doesnt love his wife so does that mean he wants you to be his wife or does he only want an affair? Sis you gotta ask him lots of questions , this is a serious matter because what do you really know about him ? You didnt even know he was married. Good luck sis :cool:

Salam Alaykum , Sundus , your friend really did a wrong thing by lying to him , its very unethical.Wouldnt it have been easier if she had told him since the beginning that she had no feelings for him? But then again , if she truly cares about him this time she shouldnt say anything to him , because its one thing not to tell someone that you dont love him ,but it would be worse if he knows that the woman he likes is not the same.If he knows the truth , he might feel as if they were playing some sick jokes on him. :cool: "Silence is gold"

Salam , Lol xaraam to u checkmate ,the only reason this topic is reserved to ladies is because I dont want you guys to bother us during summer and tempt us to do unlawful things. Besides , its a pity you are not a gal , we would have probably got along !sniff , sniff You can also do the same thing and gather many nomads as possible in your city but then again it wouldnt be the same without us ladies , isnt it? :cool:

Salam Alaykum , I dont think the Somali culture is fading away nor it is inferior to the western culture. As Careca pointed out , it all depends on each individual . In the same family , you could get a guy trying to learn & understand his roots while his other brother or sister might doesnt give a damn thing! I tend to notice that Somalis get interested in their culture when they get a little bit older ,therefore mature enough to realize that the Somali culture isnt just about the 2 or 3 spoken Somali words or the fact that you go to Somali weddings , but it includes a lot of other things. PS: cant stand those who reply hi to the Muslim greeting :mad: .

Salam Alaykum , Im done with my exams and Im almost ready to go back in Tdot , where I will face again the noise and countless rides on buses and subways.Im gonna miss Ottawa ,at least for 3 months , I got used to live in this quite city ,lol.The funny part is that even though I lived in Tdot , I never went inside the CN tower nor saw the Wonderland park , I know its a shame.Im only good in roaming around the downtown areas . So Im hoping to have more fun , I would like to know which SOL ladies are from Tdot ?Maybe we can get together and do bunch of things. What do you think of it? I also like to know how many girls are from Ottawa too , making friends in those 2 cities are important.

SAlam I posted this topic to be read in an positive and funny way not get the opposite reactions.I always state my gender but I never thought that not stating it will come to that in a chatroom. I do not make a big fuss about it , it was sumthing weird that never happened to me which I wanted to share. I do know its not the end of the world because of that. :rolleyes:

Salam Bravo Lucky clap clap clap !!!

Salam Alaykum , Dear nomads , I need your opinions on this post because I found it very upsetting and funny at the same time , but first let me share my experience with you . There were times in chatrooms ,when I used to state my gender , in this case female , when some people were asking me that question so they wouldnt confuse me with a guy or a girl. But because I stated my gender , some guys wanted to chat in private , which I found normal but not useful at all. Since I didnt want to chat in private , I couldve easily lied and said that I was a guy in public but to me it was dumb to pretend to be a guy , even worst I wanted to avoid girls who would click on my nick to flirt with me by mistake ,lol. So I decided not to answer when people asked me if I was a male or female , I just replied that I was neither a guy nor a female and I just watched the public's reactions.And what a flow of reactions ! Some didnt give a damn , which was cool but others started questionning my sexuality , some called me gay , others called me lesbian and of course some others stated that I was bisexual ,lol. There was a particular guy who spent 1 hour insulting me in public , calling me names and to be honest got on my nerves. To piss him even further,I told him that the only reason he was harrassing me was because he wanted to flirt with me and not knowing my sex was making him mad. Guess the results of me provoking him ? More flows of profanities , he has even forbidden me to write his nick in public because I was discusting him , while it was ok for him to curse me. Some guys were astonished by his bad manners and told him to stop harassing and cussing me , they couldnt figure out why he wanted to know my gender , anyways the guy didnt stop.Oh boy it was hilarious !!! I do understand if a guy wants to ask your gender to flirt with you , but I didnt know it was mandatory for some , even if you're just having a simple chat in public.The reason I posted this was because this incident just happened last night in a somali chatroom , I was surprised by some guys's behaviors even if I laughed my butt off. I'd like to know if some of you nomads did this in a chatroom and what were the reactions of the public ? If not what do you think of my weird experience?

Salam Alaykum , Hey Fey , you cant do nothing but let pass those ignorants because they are losers anyways. What you can do however is tell them that a muslim shouldnt discrimite another muslim because of his or her nationality , I believe they cant argue after that ,unless they are hypocrites. Anyways muslim or not why would you waste your time teasing others ? Unless you are ignorant. Nobody's perfect and some wont act like true muslims. As for the somalis /blacks beef ,I noticed that so many somalis viewed themselves as superiors just because they dont have big noses or afro hair , but they are the same persons who relaxed their thick hair or wore the hip hop clothing style. It could go both ways , many blacks dont see somalis as africans too because of their features. Anyways ,the point is to respect everyone.

Salam I once slapped a guy who tried to kiss me ,I wish another guy attempts this risque move again so I could slap him this time with my winter boots.It must feel great!

Salam Alaykum , I dont think any form of clothing will replace the macawiis and diraac .I mean if its easy to wear other forms of clothing why not incorporate diraac into your everyday life special in summer? I did that once , I wore a diraac with a blouse so it wouldnt be transparent , it was cute it looked like a colorful skirt. Girls ,instead of buying skirts use what you got home , . As for the guys ,why not wear macawiis , a simple t-shirt and your usual baseball/basketball hat? Unless you are scared of being called ladies?

Salam Alaykum , Khayr ,this summer Im expecting you to offer me some gifts when I come to visit you , lol. 1-My sweety should get me some diamonds , that includes a set of ring ,earrings ,bracelet ,watch and necklace . 2-Tons of roses , make sure they are fresh 3-Perfumes 4- Victoria's secrets lingerie to spice things up 5-A bank account always FULL 6-My favorite pastries on a diamond plate ,yammy! 7-A limo that I wont drive (Im lazy) and a driver 8-Saris (Indian clothes for women) 9-Movie tickets 10-Several pieces of lands to relax when Im tired of the same places And at last but not the least , how about my husband wrapped up with a red ribbon preferably wihtout clothes, isnt that cute? That would be a terrific gift

Salam Alaykum , Dear nomads , I have watched you play the lawyers , it was quite funny though , but I believe this topic is getting out of hands. Darman , brother I hope you wont take this in the wrong way but I'd like to question your motives concerning Lakkad's plagiarism. Maybe your intentions were good at the beginning for letting us know that some SOL topics were copied but look at the way things turned. You said you confronted the guilty nomad and since you did that , Im just wondering why you are making Veve's aka Lakkad's name public in the SOL? Is it to discredite someone we dont even know? If Lakkad committed plagiarism and Im sure your confrontation will remind him not to repeat the same mistake but making his name public was not an islamic thing to do because now , half of the SOl is judging him , but what do we know about Lakkad's character in real life besides what he did? OG_Moti , you are the one who started this topic and I have nothing to say against you ,but I just want to know if you knew that Darman was going to reveal the guilty nomad in public.

Salam Alaykum , Subxallah the priest was the lover ? Shame , shame and shame ....lol

Salam Alaykum , Funny indeed ! lol. These are my favorite ones: 1. Only in America......can a pizza get to your house faster than an ambulance. If Im about to pass away I might as well order a pizza and enjoy every bite of it before calling the ambulance 3. Only in America......do drugstores make the sick walk all the way to the back of the store to get their prescriptions while healthy people can buy cigarettes at the front. Very curious indeed ,lol , shall we separate the drugstores from the regular stores ? 4. Only in America......do people order double cheese burgers, large fries, and a diet coke. Why bother with the diet coke if you can get the sweetest version? 5. Only in America......do banks leave both doors open and then chain the pens to the counters. Wallahi lets free this poor pen

Salam Alaykum , Rudy , why do u have to be it so rude ? As for your questions , I had once a crush on a guy in my school and though he wasnt interested in me (it was quite obvious )I told him about my feelings knowing that it wouldn't get me nowhere. And in fact it got me nowhere , I had to face him for a whole year which was a complete mess. Each time , I saw him in the hall , I acted like I didnt see him ( but I was nice to see hi occasionally) ,so I didnt have to remind myself that I was a complete loser , . Anyways , I dont regret that things never worked the way I wanted because I learned some infos about him , not that he was bad , in fact he was a nice guy , but I knew we wouldnt get along.

Salam Alaykum , Brother UD ,thanks for sharing this ,Im sure any somali girl from the SOL wherever she might be ,is appreciating your post.

Salam Alaykum , Im pretty sure the baby was hungry but I wouldnt recommend any woman to expose her breasts to men's eyes. At least , mothers should make sure to bring some bottles and a long piece of cloth to cover her breasts and should be careful not to suffocate the baby with the cloth.I have seen a woman doing it and Im sure it will work for any mother.

Salam Alaykum , I dont know if some of you remember one of Oprah's shows when she was interviewing women who had been spied by hidden cameras ? Some women were spied while wearing mini-skirts outside by guys who had mini cams in their suitcases , since that day one woman swore to wear pants next time she goes out. The worst case was when a woman was spied in her apartment by a mini-cam put there by her landlord.Can you imagine that ? Being spied in your own home ? After that you wouldnt feel safe anywhere.