Saturday of course coz got another day of easing my nerves. Qn. Whats your worst nightmare -Losing your reputation or your pride?

Originally posted by nuune: i never heard of this stuff, metro-sexual, do u mean metro -politan lol Nuune , what world are you in. Its 'the take care of my looks' guy who has his nails pedicured, gets his hair styled smartly dressed you name it. The only difference he has with a woman is just him being a Man-biologically. Dont take me wrong but find this trend good. Really atleast they are taking care of their looks .Hope they will also take care of their morals while they are at it.

Loooooooooooo somalisijui cant beleive you posted it here. Man, have it sitting in my inbox. What a name. God sometimes wonder where in the world do people come up with their names. In this version you dont have the name of the son its also funny. its funny how a name can lose you your job. The names will make them be ridiculed in all swahili speaking nations.Kinda abusive really. Hey forgive me guess somalisijui has already done the translating.

The Prophet SAW has affirmed: 'Let me tell you a device, which will promote love and friendship among you. Say Salam to each other as often as possible.' Sahih Muslim

Rudy, i heard this that if u and the wife dont live together 4 yrs, than that qualifies for an auto-magical divorce!! Yes heard of it too some Ulama have reduced it to three. Something else i remember reading if ur in the Islamic army your not allowed to be away from your family for more than 3 months. Rotations are done was first implemented by Caliph Umar AS if im not mistaken. CAWRALO, What qualifies as a Good reason ? The Holy Quran permits a wife to ask for a divorce only on legitimate grounds, such as fears of cruelty or desertion. It states: "If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and such settlement is best." (Quran sura 4, aya 128). Thus, when a wife feels that her husband is failing to perform his marital duties, she can obtain her release from the marriage by giving up all or some of the dower she received at the time of her marriage. In consideration of this, the husband agrees to the "khul", and the divorce is complete. However "Khul" case has to go to court, where the Qadi must first of all ascertain whether the wife really dislikes her husband so much that she cannot live with him anymore. If the court is satisfied, it will fix as compensation anything that it considers proper, and the husband will have to accept this and divorce his wife. All four jurists are generally of the option that the compensation should not exceed the dowry given by the husband at the time of marriage. Qn: Wondering when you married did you make any clause regarding your marriage status? Islam had also done much to protect the wife's rights and to save her from having to continue to live in an unhappy environment. Among beneficent measures are the following: 1. the wife can insert a clause in the marriage contract ensuring that (a) incompatibility of temperament (b) maltreatment © refusal of maintenance (d) unannounced journeys (e) the taking of another wife without consultation are so provided against that if any of the above five conditions is broken she can approach a lawyer to obtain a divorce for her through the courts. 2. the wife can make it impossible for her husband not to divorce her by being intolerably refractory, vexatiously shrewish or deliberately incompatible in relationships, familial, sexual or social; 3. the wife can resort to the courts if the husband has been incapable or negligent in supplying her with maintenance or has put obstacles in the way of her obtaining it ; or if either partner deprives the other of conjugal rights or fails in marital duties; the Muslim Qadhi, if the woman' s plea is proved, can compel the husband to treat her right, to be reconciled, to disburse the proper sums, to confer her rights upon her in every form : and if the husband proves recalcitrant, or refuses to obey the judge's orders, the judge can then compel him to divorce his wife; 4. the wife can enter a plea in the Islamic court and obtain an injunction if the husband accuses her of lewdness, unchastity or unfaithfulness, or denies his own paternity of her child : if the husband cannot prove his case the judge will order the husband to separate himself from his wife in accordance with the relevant legislation; 5. the wife may, in the case of intolerable revulsion or aversion, in a simple fashion bring about a discontinuance of their union by renouncing a large part of her marriage portion, while freeing her husband from his obligation to pay her alimony during the "Iddat" breathing-space period; 6 the wife, if the husband absents himself so that no news of him reaches her and she falls into financial or other difficulties, can resort to the courts and request a divorce. the judge will then perform the necessary formalities to annul her marriage contract. There are cases in which resort to the court by the wife is statutory . There are also cases in which she can divorce her husband without legal aid, as in cases of certain grave chronic diseases like leprosy or elephantiasis; or because of the onset of lunacy, or of physical defects which prevent marital intercourse, like impotence or castration of the husband. For these Feqh gives the wife haqq-i-faskh - the right to the rescinding or annulment of the marriage, which "faskh" is not the same as the khul' divorce, and does not involve the same financial renunciations by the wife as khul' does. Well this is what i have found out wanted to share. Still advice you to see the Ulamas. Allah YaAlaam.

' The beleiver is the mirror of a beleiver' Sunan Abu Dawud and Al Tirmidhi.

'Temper your love for your friend, for one day he may be your enemy. And temper your hate for your enemy, for one day he may be your friend.' Tirmidhi

We all say its illegal but people still do it. African tribes also do it. Ive heard of a few young girls have bleed to death making the news in the tabloids in africa. Heard of a somali lady being sliced (due to family pressure ie they will lose face) a couple of days before her wedding night, The groom divorced her when he found out. . Its a shame really guess its upto our n the younger generation im excluding our ayeyos coz they still insist on it to try to educate people. Religion knowledge is needed to curb any society from promiscuity.

Love the long walk time to reflect. Raxiil well sis im not into make up. Answered it if im obliged to put it on prefer the mascara coz it maybe unnoticable. Qn would rather be a nutty professor or a historian.

Observer Very interesting link. Glad our people resisted though they risked their lives.I was taken aback by the statement made by Clinton "We're not inflicting pain on these ******s," Clinton said, softly at first. "When people kill us, they should be killed in greater numbers." Then, with his face reddening, his voice rising, and his fist pounding his thigh, he leaned into Tony [Lake, then his national security adviser], as if it was his fault. "I believe in killing people who try to hurt you. And I can't believe we're being pushed around by these two-bit pricks." So he wasnt humanitarian after all. In all of 1991, Somalia got three minutes of attention on the three evening network news shows. From January to June 1992, Somalia got 11 minutes." Proves that when a matter /country isnt in the western favour it is negligible. I guess there is alot to be learned and experienced from these so called UN OPERATİONS. Jazakalah Kheir .

Grin and bear it. Follow fashion dont be the bear left behind. Is it a myth that the other bear's honey is always sweeter. Paws for thought. In a strange place, always take your bearings Wear your patches with pride If you find any loose threads, tuck them in DONT pull them!. Remember,'Hell hath no furry like a teddy scorned! :mad: Never be satisfied with the bear necessities. :confused: Unwind dont be grizzly Never bear a grudge. Enjoj the classics- read Flau bear Dont be shy- a shy bear always get left at the bottom of the toy box. :rolleyes: Respect bears of all colors and sexes- BEARS UNITED. Extracted from Teddy bears little instruction book by David and Tracy Brown.

Winner ..makes time, ..says 'lets find out' ..empowers ..says 'if it is to be , it is up to me, ..is not afraid of losing. ..wants to ..is part of the solution ..does it ..makes commitments ..works harder than a loser ..learns from others ..'I'll plan to do that ..says,Im good , but not as good as I can be.' ..Listens ..Catches people doing things right ..says, I was wrong ..says 'There ought to be a better way ..sees opportunities ..celebrates others ..feels responsible for more than her /his job ..translates dreams into reality ..expects success. Where as a LOSER ..wastes time ..says'Nobody knows. ..controls ..says 'I cant help it' ..is afraid of winning ..has to .. is part of the problem ..talks about it ..makes promises ..is always 'too busy' ..resents others. ..says'I'll try to do it' ..says Im not as bad as alot of other people ..just waits till it's his turn to talk ..catches people doing the wrong thing ..says Its wasnt my fault ..says Thats the way its always been done. ..sees problems ..complains about others. ..says'I only work here' ..translates reality into dreams. ..expects failure . Well upto us to be who we want to be.

Winner ..makes time, ..says 'lets find out' ..empowers ..says 'if it is to be , it is up to me, ..is not afraid of losing. ..wants to ..is part of the solution ..does it ..makes commitments ..works harder than a loser ..learns from others ..'I'll plan to do that ..says,Im good , but not as good as I can be.' ..Listens ..Catches people doing things right ..says, I was wrong ..says 'There ought to be a better way ..sees opportunities ..celebrates others ..feels responsible for more than her /his job ..translates dreams into reality ..expects success. Where as a LOSER ..wastes time ..says'Nobody knows. ..controls ..says 'I cant help it' ..is afraid of winning ..has to .. is part of the problem ..talks about it ..makes promises ..is always 'too busy' ..resents others. ..says'I'll try to do it' ..says Im not as bad as alot of other people ..just waits till it's his turn to talk ..catches people doing the wrong thing ..says Its wasnt my fault ..says Thats the way its always been done. ..sees problems ..complains about others. ..says'I only work here' ..translates reality into dreams. ..expects failure . Well upto us to be who we want to be.

Winner ..makes time, ..says 'lets find out' ..empowers ..says 'if it is to be , it is up to me, ..is not afraid of losing. ..wants to ..is part of the solution ..does it ..makes commitments ..works harder than a loser ..learns from others ..'I'll plan to do that ..says,Im good , but not as good as I can be.' ..Listens ..Catches people doing things right ..says, I was wrong ..says 'There ought to be a better way ..sees opportunities ..celebrates others ..feels responsible for more than her /his job ..translates dreams into reality ..expects success. Where as a LOSER ..wastes time ..says'Nobody knows. ..controls ..says 'I cant help it' ..is afraid of winning ..has to .. is part of the problem ..talks about it ..makes promises ..is always 'too busy' ..resents others. ..says'I'll try to do it' ..says Im not as bad as alot of other people ..just waits till it's his turn to talk ..catches people doing the wrong thing ..says Its wasnt my fault ..says Thats the way its always been done. ..sees problems ..complains about others. ..says'I only work here' ..translates reality into dreams. ..expects failure . Well upto us to be who we want to be.

Winner ..makes time, ..says 'lets find out' ..empowers ..says 'if it is to be , it is up to me, ..is not afraid of losing. ..wants to ..is part of the solution ..does it ..makes commitments ..works harder than a loser ..learns from others ..'I'll plan to do that ..says,Im good , but not as good as I can be.' ..Listens ..Catches people doing things right ..says, I was wrong ..says 'There ought to be a better way ..sees opportunities ..celebrates others ..feels responsible for more than her /his job ..translates dreams into reality ..expects success. Where as a LOSER ..wastes time ..says'Nobody knows. ..controls ..says 'I cant help it' ..is afraid of winning ..has to .. is part of the problem ..talks about it ..makes promises ..is always 'too busy' ..resents others. ..says'I'll try to do it' ..says Im not as bad as alot of other people ..just waits till it's his turn to talk ..catches people doing the wrong thing ..says Its wasnt my fault ..says Thats the way its always been done. ..sees problems ..complains about others. ..says'I only work here' ..translates reality into dreams. ..expects failure . Well upto us to be who we want to be.

Guess Raxiil you bet me at it answer will be mascara with eyeliner . My qns still stands is it afrika or asia?

50 cents of course. One in a life time visit will you go to Africa or Asia?

Man , people sure are sick .Disgusting, havent they heard of incest? What about own sense of morality? If this is the way life is going i beleive there will be more to see. Alhamdullilah, Im a Muslim and intend to follow the teaching all the way.Allah Willingly.May He show us and keep us on the path.Amin.

Can a woman divorce her husband? Yes,The Ulama base it on this ayah of the Quran 2:229' And if you (the judges ) fear that the way not be able to keep to the limits ordained by Allah, there is no blame on either of them if she redeems herself (from marriage tie by returning all or part of the Mahr)........ I've been told that she must have a good 'reason'. What qualifies as a 'good reason'? Good reason i dont know but came across this narration. The wife of Thabit bin Qais told the Prophet SAW 'O Prophet I do not approach Thabit bin Qais in respect of Character and religion , but I dont want to be guilty showing anger to him. The Prophet SAW asked her' What have you received from him 'She answered 'a Garden 'and she was willing to part from it. The Prophet SAW decreed' Accept the garden and make one declaration of divorce'. Im sorry couldnt find the strong reason but do remember being told if your husband becomes unbeleiver you should divorce him. One of my teachers once told me that if he is impotent you may have a case But ALLAH YALAM coz havent read of anything of that sort. Came across another hadith which says 'If any woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of the Garden will be forbidden to her. 'If any woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of the Garden will be forbidden to her. The source i refered from was The prohibited and accepted in Islam (Al Halal wal Haram Fil Islam)written by Yusuf Al-Qaradawi. Allah knows better . hope you can find more info through the net or by asking the Ulama.

Bro Nur Does this periodic doubt bouts slow you down from being the pesron you like to be? Do you feel aimless at times, and confused. Does happen sometimes.I denounce shetan, read the Quran. Sometimes end up miserable in bed so that wont upset anybody else. Looking forward to see the designer eyewear for the heart. Jazakallah Kheir

Shenomad13 walalo thanks for reminding us for what we take for granted are but favours from AllahSWT.Which we are obligated to thank for. Jazakallah kheir

Asalaam aleykum Sundus a thousand apologies sister. Im sorry. Khayr, It is a beautiful dua . This is where i reproduced it from the book titled 'Etiquettes of Life in Islam' written by Mohammad Yusuf Islahi. Published by Markaz Mataba Islami Delhi. A book i would advice to be kept in every Muslims household.

Originally posted by JASMIINE: This is the only skin treaments that they know of since it is so prevalent in the community.... what many of these women and girls need is education that there are other skin care options out there that would not lead to skin deformation. Very true.

Originally posted by Sundus: sade, strange name innit, sister what does you name mean. i really thought you were a man all those earleir times.my bad i guess Plain,simple,original origins lie in the turkish language. No problem bro, my fault coming up with a different name.

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