^Castration does nothing. The hands and mouth are still there. There is more than one way to skin a cat!

The man knew the law of the land. He broke it. Thought he could get away with it. Didn't. Are we supposed to feel sympathy for him? :confused:

And God said 'Be'. And thats the end of that debate as far as I'm concerned.

Well, I believe whomever deleted the posts this did the right thing. This isn't like any of the other topics...the admin is trying to bring out the audio thingy idea into fruitation and it isn't nice to read a bunch of little spiteful jabs when he/she is looking for suggestions! P.S. This back and forth complaining and justifying should be deleted too. P.P.S (P.S.S.) Seeker that was very nice. Now, would you be able to say that in audio?

Oh please! If I wanted an intellectual discussion I would go sit in some philosophical class or something of the sort! Don't put down people even before they speak. :mad:

LOL Bishaaro. Neither, cant judge cause I havent heard 'em. I love, love, love the deep, deep, deep voice of that Man in Unsolved Mysterious. If you ever watched that show. It used to scare the crap out of me when I was younger.

^ You like being frank don't you? Some people believe that women's voice is cawra and shouldn't be heard Alas, they fail to realise that women, just like men, warm to certain voices. Damn right.

Bishaaro, I know that you adore me and suspect you have a secret crush on me. That's why I'm always on your mind and your constantly dissing my somali- - - remember in elementrary school playground. When a guy spat & pinched a girl...deep down inside he liked her. I understand sweetie. I love myself too. As for the list - Very inaccurate.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh does this mean I get to grace ya'll with my singing?

Well, I never! "Said with a thick brit accent* Soooooo...someone is ruffled. Which part of UK do you live in?

Why the hassle Wordette? Thirty asprins mixed with cough syrup and a dash of rat poison works just fine. And its so peaceful. **I feel apprehensive and sick to my stomach. I'm trying to ignore whats inevitable.**

^ :eek: :eek: I just started this semester. I thought you were living in some God Forsaken place as the UK.

^Very interesting indeed. Do continue please. I never realized the extent of the responsibility placed on women for the perservation of our culture! P.S. What does seeflabood mean? I keep reading it everywhere. If I take it apart seef is sword and labood means to jump out. But I somehow think you don't mean the literal sense.

Alle-Ubaahne, Classic case of 'does my niqaab make my kubk/bari look fat?' You either choose one or the other..cant be sticking both fingers in the pie friend! You of all people judging a woman by her physical assets...in your own words..aint she supposed to be covered from head to foot?

That is a little sad. But you have to realize that even in a seemingly ‘devote’ Muslim country there are going to be their share of many, many, many people who don't care about Islam, those who are atheists, and still many others who view it as a tradition handed down from generation to generation. It has become culture to them, something to claim in name because their forefathers believed in it, they wouldn’t know much about Islam if you sit down and have a talk with them. And that shouldn't be surprising because every religion has their fanatics, steadfast believers, the lazy ones, and the lowly hypocrites. But because it's Islam, and were talking about a country with an 'Islamic' government we tend to place a greater standard when comparing against others and a much bigger expectation on the citizens. Its puzzling and disappointing to us when they fall short of our expectatons. Which reminds me, me and my mum were talking to a lady from Saudi Arabica the other day and she told us that there were many people in her city who have never set a foot inside the Xaram although it might be only be a few hours away. If religion surrounds you 24/7 its easy to take it for granted and not work towards it. Think about it, the countless people in other countries who work hard to scrap enough money to leave their families for a few weeks and make the hajj, while these people who have it right in their backyard couldn’t care less. Furthermore a lot of people are 'forced' into it without their will by either their family or the government laws. Those people are going to hate it and view it as restrictive and oppressive. The lady claimed that she was forced to wear the niqaab and jilbaab in her country and when she came to Canada...she took it all off. She said that although she lived in Saudi Arabia, her whole family were Muslims, and the xaram was only an hour or so away from her...she never really bothered to learn Islam. It was just going through the motions for her, her heart wasn't in it. Religion has to be about personal choice. The people who overcome harships and struggle in their faith are usually the ones who have a firm grasp on it. They people who research it and come willingly to it have much greater faith than those who were born to it I notice. I myself realize that when I remember Allah the most is when I'm sick or in an bad situation. Thats when I pray the most and have Allah constantly in mind. However when I'm well and things are looking bright...it slips my mind and I attribute it to my 'awesomeness'. It seems that I tend to seek his mercy when I'm in need and ignore his wrath. Being content in life can lead to lazyness & forgetfulness unfortunately. I know I jumped almost everywhere but thats what comes to mind when I read your post.

If you want to leave so fadlan leave without saying anything. So nomads I give your a chance to give me your views on me should I leave too? Like you said, maxaa naga galey? Hadaa rabtid inaa baxdid, orod bax!

Hello Mudug, You do realize that there is more to the story than your friend is telling you right? Now if it happens to be true I think you should just leave them alone to sort out their business. You do not want to be in the middle of a marital fight under any circumstances. Help your friend out, but do not try to advice him on any kind of action he should take, thats for him to figure out. P.S. Make sure not to bad mouth his wife as a way to try to cheer him up cause if they go back together...then your toast. Just nod and mumble at the appropraite places.

LOL. You seemed to have answered your own question Khayr. Although I'm a little confused---if you could just add your own comments next to the excerpt you pasted. Shams ud Din, Therefore, my friend, grab your macawiis and get the hell out of there. Simple.

Proud Muslimah & Khayr, If your not in an Islamic country then your religious preferences have to take a back seat. Doesn't matter if your Muslim, Christian, Hindu or Jew. There are some cases in which citing religion as a reason to go against a medical procedure is over-ruled (ex. Jehovah's Witness parents refusing blood transfusions or organ donations for their children---they are not allowed and can be thrown in jail if they interfere). P.S. Does it really go against Islamic teachings? There have been many cases in which autopsies revealed that a person was murdered by poisionous injections when it all appearances it looked that they died a natural death. Wouldn't you want to rule out murder? Or as long as a person is dead...thats it? I believe autopsies for suspicious deaths to be necessary. There are many things you can learn from it.

LOL. Rudy you are so funny I swear. You be our unofficial newsboy and keep on reporting the highlights of each day with your little twists.

Are people really serious when they debate/question the existance of love? Honestly? Shouldn't that be a little obvious? :rolleyes: About the topic, pple fall in love because it feels mmm mmm gooood.

Unless a person died within a hospital, autopsy is performed on the deceased body regardless of the wishes of family/relatives to rule out foul play. They want to know the cause of death and whether it was natural, accidental, or homicide.

Praise be to Allaah. Peace of mind, contentment, happiness and freedom from worries and anxiety. These things are what everyone wants, and these are the ways in which people can have a good life and find complete happiness and joy. There are religious means of achieving that, and natural and practical means, but no one can combine all of them except the believers; although other people may achieve some of them, they will miss out on others. Here follows a summary of the means of achieving this aim for which everyone is striving. In some cases, those who achieve many of them will live a joyful life and a good life; in other cases, those who fail to achieve all of them will live a life of misery and hardship. And there are others which are in between, according to what the means he is able to attain. These means include the following: 1 – Faith and righteous deeds: This is the greatest and most fundamental of means. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Whoever works righteousness — whether male or female — while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)†[al-Nahl 16:97] Allah tells us and promises us that whoever combines faith with righteous deeds will have a good life and a good reward in this world and in the Hereafter. The reason for that is clear: those who believe in Allah – with sincere faith that motivates them to do righteous deeds that change hearts and attitudes and guides them to the straight path in this world and the Hereafter – follow principles and guidelines by means of which they deal with everything that happens to them, be it the causes of happiness and excitement or the causes of anxiety, worry and grief. They deal with the things that they like by accepting them and giving thanks for them, and using them in good ways. When they deal with them in this manner, that creates in them a sense of excitement and the hope that it will continue and that they will be rewarded for their gratitude, which is more important than the good things that happen to them. And they deal with bad things, worries and distress by resisting those that they can resist, alleviating those that they can alleviate, and bearing with goodly patience those that they cannot avoid. Thus as a result of the bad things they gain a lot of benefits, experience, strength, patience and hope of reward, which are more important and which diminish the hardships they have undergone and replace them with happiness and hope for the bounty and reward of Allah. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) expressed this in a saheeh hadeeth in which he said: “How wonderful is the situation of the believer, for all his affairs are good. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks for it and that is good for him; if something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience, and that is good for him. This does not apply to anyone but the believer.†(Narrated by Muslim, no. 2999). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) told us that the believer is always gaining and the reward for his deeds is always multiplying, no matter what happens to him, good or bad. 2 – Being kind to people in word and deed, and all kinds of doing good. This is one of the means of removing worry, distress and anxiety. By this means Allah wards off worries and distress from righteous and immoral alike, but the believer has the greater share of that, and is distinguished by the fact that his kindness to others stems from sincerity and the hope of reward, so Allah makes it easy for him to be kind to others because of the hope that this will bring good things and ward off bad things, by means of his sincerity and hope of reward. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “There is no good in most of their secret talks save (in) him who orders Sadaqah (charity in Allaah’s Cause), or Ma‘roof (Islamic Monotheism and all the good and righteous deeds which Allaah has ordained), or conciliation between mankind; and he who does this, seeking the good Pleasure of Allaah, We shall give him a great reward†[al-Nisa’ 4:114] Part of that great reward is relief from worry, distress, troubles, etc. 3 – Occupy oneself with good deeds & beneficial knowlege Another of the means of warding off anxiety that stems from nervous tension and being preoccupied with disturbing thoughts is to occupy oneself with good deeds or seeking beneficial knowledge, for that will distract one from dwelling on the matters that are causing anxiety. In this way a person may forget about the things that are making him worried and distressed, and he may become happy and more energetic. This is another means that believers and others have in common, but the believer is distinguished by his faith, sincerity and hope of reward when he occupies himself with that knowledge which he is learning or teaching, or with the good deeds that he is doing. The work with which he occupies himself should be something that he likes and enjoys, for that is more likely to produce the desired results. And Allaah knows best. 4 – Live for the present Another thing that may ward off worry and anxiety is focusing all one’s thoughts of the present day, and not worrying about the future or grieving about the past. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sought refuge with Allah from worry and regret, from regret for things in the past which one cannot put right or change, and worry which may come because of fear for the future. So one should focus only on the present day, and focus one's efforts on getting things right today. For if a person is focused on that, this means that he will do things properly and forget about worry and regret. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said a du’a or taught a du’a to his Ummah (community), as well as urging them to seek the help of Allah and hope for His bounty, he was also urging them to strive to attain the thing they were praying for through their own efforts and to forget about the thing which they were praying would be warded off from them. Because du’a (supplication) must be accompanied by action. So a person must strive to attain that which will benefit him in worldly and spiritual terms, and ask his Lord to make his efforts successful, and he should seek His help in that, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Strive for that which will benefit you and seek the help of Allaah, and do not be helpless. If anything (bad) happens to you, do not say, ‘If only I had done such-and-such, then such-and-such would have happened.’ Rather you should say, ‘Qaddara Allaah wa ma sha’a fa’ala (Allah decrees, and what He wills He does),’ for (the words) ‘If only’ open the door to the Shaytaan.†(Narrated by Muslim). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) connected the matter of striving to achieve good things with the matter of seeking the help of Allah and not giving in to feelings of helplessness which are a harmful kind of laziness, and with the matter of accepting things in the past which are over and done with, and acknowledging that the will and decree of Allah will inevitably come to pass. He described matters as being of two types: 1 – Matters which a person may strive to achieve or to achieve whatever he can of them, or to ward them off or alleviate them. In such cases a person must strive and make the effort, and also seek the help of Allah. 2 – Matters where such is not possible, so he must have peace of mind, accept them and submit to Allah’s will. Undoubtedly paying attention to this principle will bring happiness and relieve worry and distress. 5 – Dikir: Remembrance of Allah One of the greatest means of feeling content and relaxed and of acquiring peace of mind is to remember Allah a great deal (dhikr). That has a great effect in bringing contentment and peace of mind, and relieving worry and distress. Allah says: “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest†[al-Ra’d 13:28] Remembering Allah (dhikr) has a great effect in achieving this aim because it has a special influence and because of the hope that it brings of reward. 6 – Eliminate things that cause worry, achieve those that bring happiness Another of the means of bringing happiness and relieving worry and distress is striving to eliminate the things that cause worry and to achieve the things that bring happiness. That may be done by forgetting about bad things in the past which cannot be changed, and realizing that dwelling on them is a waste of time. So a person must strive to stop himself from thinking of that, and also strive to stop himself from feeling anxious about the future and the things that he may imagine of poverty, fear and other bad things that he thinks may happen to him in the future. He should realize that the future is something unknown; he cannot know what good or bad things are going to happen to him. That is in the hand of the Almighty, the Most Wise, and all that His slaves can do is to strive to attain the good things and to ward off the bad things. A person should realize that if he diverts his thoughts from worrying about his future and puts his trust in his Lord to take care of his situation, and puts his mind at rest concerning that, if he does that, then his heart will be at peace and his situation will improve and he will be relieved of worry and anxiety. One of the most effective ways of dealing with worries about the future is to recite this du’a which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to recite: “Allaahumma aslih li deeni alladhi huwa ‘ismatu amri, wa aslih li dunyaaya allati fiha ma’aashi, wa aslih li aakhirati allati ilayha ma’aadi, waj’al al-hayaata ziyaadatan li fi kulli khayr, wa’l-mawta raahatan li min kulli sharr (O Allaah, correct my religious commitment which is the foundation of my life, and correct my worldly affairs in which is my livelihood, and grant me good in the Hereafter to which is my return. Make my life a means of accumulating good, and make death a respite for me from all evil).†(Narrated by Muslim, 2720). And he said, “Allaahumma rahmataka arju fa la takilni ila nafsi tarfata ‘aynin wa aslih li sha’ni kullahu, laa ilaaha illa anta (O Allaah, for Your mercy I hope, so do not abandon me to myself even for a moment. And correct all my affairs. There is no god but You).†(Narrated by Abu Dawood with a saheeh isnaad, no. 5090; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Kalim al-Tayyib, p. 49). If a person utters these du’as, which ask that his spiritual and worldly affairs may be set right or corrected, with proper presence of mind and sincerity of intention, whilst striving to achieve that, Allah will grant him what he has prayed for, hoped for and striven for, and He will turn his worry into joy and happiness. 7 – Think of what could be worse If a person experiences anxiety and distress because of a disaster, then one of the most effective means of relieving himself of that is to think of the worst scenario to which that may lead, and try to accept that. When he has done that, then he should try to alleviate it as much as possible. By means of this acceptance and these efforts, he will relieve himself of his worries and distress, and instead of worrying he will strive to bring about good things and to deal with whatever he can of the bad things. If he is faced with things that cause fear or the possibility of sickness or poverty, then he should deal with that by striving to make himself accept that, or something even worse, with contentment, because by making himself accept the worst-case scenario, he lessens the impact of the thing and makes it seem less terrible, especially if he occupies himself with efforts to ward it off as much as he can. Thus as well as striving to achieve something good which will distract him from his worries about calamity, he will also renew his strength to resist bad things, and put his trust and reliance in Allah. Undoubtedly these matters are of great benefit in attaining happiness and peace of mind, as well as bringing the hope of reward in this world and in the Hereafter. This is something which is well known from the experience of many who have tried it. 8 – Steadfastness of heart and not being disturbed about the imaginary things that bad thoughts may bring to mind. For when a person gives in to his imagination and lets his mind be disturbed by these thoughts, such as fear of disease and the like, or anger and confusion stirred up by some grievous matter, or the expectation of bad things and the loss of good things, that will fill him with worries, distress, mental and physical illness and nervous breakdowns, which will have a bad effect on him and which causes a great deal of harm, as many people have seen. But when a person depends on Allah and puts his trust in Him, and does not give in to his imagination or let bad thoughts overwhelm him, and he relies on Allah and has hope of His bounty, that wards off his worries and distress, and relieves him of a great deal of mental and physical sickness. It gives indescribable strength, comfort and happiness to the heart. How many hospitals are filled with the mentally sick victims of illusions and harmful imagination; how often have these things had an effect upon the hearts of many strong people, let alone the weak ones; how often have they led to foolishness and insanity. It should be noted that your life will follow your train of thought. If your thoughts are of things that will bring you benefit in your spiritual or worldly affairs, then your life will be good and happy. Otherwise it will be the opposite. The person who is safe from all of that is the one who is protected by Allah and helped by Him to strive to achieve that which will benefit and strengthen the heart and ward off anxiety. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): "And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him†[al-Talaaq 65:3] i.e., He will be sufficient for all that is worrying him in his spiritual and worldly affairs. The one who puts his trust in Allah will have strength in his heart and will not be affected by anything he imagines or be disturbed by events, because he knows that these are the result of vulnerable human nature and of weakness and fear that have no basis. He also knows that Allah has guaranteed complete sufficiency to those who put their trust in Him. So he trusts in Allah and finds peace of mind in His promise, and thus his worry and anxiety are dispelled; hardship is turned to ease, sadness is turned to joy, fear is turned to peace. We ask Allah to keep us safe and sound, and to bless us with strength and steadfastness of heart, and complete trust, for Allah has guaranteed all good things to those who put their trust in Him, and has guaranteed to ward off all bad and harmful things from them. If bad things happen or there is the fear of such, then you should count the many blessings that you are still enjoying, both spiritual and worldly, and compare them with the bad things that have happened, for when you compare them you will see the many blessings that you are enjoying, and this will make the bad things appear less serious. See al-Wasaa’il al-Mufeedah li’l-Hayaat al-Sa’eedah by Shatkh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn Sa’di Ibn al-Qayyim summed fifteen ways through which Allah may dispel worries and regret. These are as follows: 1- Tawheed al-Ruboobiyyah (belief in the Oneness of Divine Lordship) 2- Tawheed al-Uloohiyyah (belief in the Oneness of the Divine nature) 3- Tawheed of knowledge and belief (i.e., Tawheed al-Asma’ wa’l_Sifaat, belief in the Oneness of the Divine names and attributes) 4- Thinking of Allah as being above doing any injustice to His slaves, and above punishing anyone for no cause on the part of the slave that would require such punishment. 5- The person’s acknowledging that he is the one who has done wrong. 6- Beseeching Allah by means of the things that are most beloved to Him, which are His names and attributes. Two of His names that encompass the meanings of all other names and attributes are al-Hayy (the Ever-Living) and al-Qayyoom (the Eternal). 7- Seeking the help of Allah Alone. 8- Affirming one's hope in Him. 9- Truly putting one’s trust in Him and leaving matters to Him, acknowledging that one's forelock is in His hand and that He does as He wills, that His will is forever executed and that He is just in all that He decrees. 10-Letting one's heart wander in the garden of the Qur’an, seeking consolation in it from every calamity, seeking healing in it from all diseases of the heart, so that it will bring comfort to his grief and healing for his worries and distress. 11-Seeking forgiveness. 12-Repentance. 13-Jihad. 14-Salaah (prayer). 15-Declaring that he has no power and no strength, and leaving matters to the One in Whose hand they are. We ask Allah to keep us safe and sound from worries and to relieve us of distress and anxiety, for He is the All-Hearing, Ever-Responsive, and He is the Ever-Living, Eternal How to be happy

^You messing with me gurlie? Think again b4 I break those fake nails. :cool:

Alle Uhaabne, Waan ka xumahay inaad waxbarashadii lagu geeyay intaas kasoo faa'iiday. If only you knew.