Hello, Didn't read the whole thread so don't know if it was discussed - but what do you guys do about product build up? I have recently switched to a new shampoo that made my hair oily & flaky - and when I switched back to my stable 'Head and Shoulders' it did nothing for it. I'm at my wits end and I need help. I did some googling and it said to use clarifying shampoo - do you guys use it and which ones do you recommend? All other tips are welcome! BTW, I have thick, Thick, THICK hair. A crazy afro.

I can't express how disappointed I am that it's not available in Canada. What am I supposed to do now? It has been a life long dream of mine to be a humble servant to my lovely future husband. If only stup!d universities would offer important courses like that instead of useless crap like medicine and education.

^Wow, you're still around old woman? How have you been?

Also, I find that a lot of people who complain about 'difficult' nurses have lack of education about what goes on in the hospital. I don't know where you are, but in Canada, the nurseries for healthy babies are dying out. They are being replaced with 'family friendly' single maternity rooms - meaning that babies room in with the mother from birth till discharge. Only premature/sick babies are kept in special nurseries away from mom with critical care. So, a nurse CANNOT take your kid while you sleep. She has other pts to see. She is not a babysitter. That's why it's recommended that someone come and stay with you during the hospital stay - be it spouse, family member, or friend.

^LOL. Good luck coming in with that attitude. And NO, the customer is not always right. Remember, this is not Burger King, you can't always have it your way. If a femaledoctor is not available, tough cookies. What are they supposed to do? Are they supposed to anticipate the time of your birth and make sure to have a female doc? If they want female care - midwifery is an option. A midwife can deliver in hospital too - so that covers the safety issue. We can't accomodate everyone's request. BTW, I'm not a maternity nurse.

Nope, not passionate. It's just a job. It's wrong to assume people in health care have a 'calling'. I do my job well but the moment my shift ends 'Adios baby, I'm out' and I've already forgotten about everyone and everything. Anyway the thread was about Somali patients and I'm not really talking about them specifically but patients in general. Patients are often times rude, familys are nightmares from hell, doctors are arrogant fools, and managers were created purely for entertainment. Wow, another diversion. *coming off a nightshift and can't sleep* El Pulno, what experience are you talking about? I hope you realize in that in every profession, there are good and bad. And to be honest if a perfectly able bodied pt calls me in for ****** reason *pull up my blanket, hand me the remote, help me sit up, etc* yeah I'm going to take my time coming to the room. I don't need that bullshit when I have six billion other important things to do on a very busy, acute floor. P.S. I don't have a problem with people who are rude to everyone - but if you are rude to nurses but are sweet as sugar to the doctors, your visitors, family members etc. Then yeah - that's a big NO NO.

Good points & if people did more talking and truly getting to know each other and less giggling/flirting in the 'courtship' stage then maybe some of the future marital surprises/problems could have been avoided. Allah knows best.

Juxa;733563 wrote: well beentood maaha umadaan somalida ah are very difficult but nonetheless waa shaqadooda so they should get on it. ps: hooyo somali wont refuse to hold her baby grrrrrrrrrrr how dare they? You really believe that Juxa? I bet you won't tolerate difficult/rude people at your workplace but nurses are supposed to suck it up and "get on with it"? My job is not to coddle pts but to help them get better. Che, it's not violating HIPAA as long as there aren't any pt identifiers. They are talking in general terms and no personal information has been given. Anyway - I find that a lot of people, Somalis or not, are getting very rude and entitled. There is no respect anymore and people view the hospital as a hotel and themselves as customers instead of patients. If more and more nurses leave the bedside in the coming years I wouldn't be suprised. I certainly would not be staying there.

Hello, I sometimes read a popular nursing board and recently came across this thread discussing Somali maternity patients. I highlighted a few points: The issues seem to be regarding infant bonding and also the mother's self cares after delivery. None of the patients we have had are interested in holding their babies. At all. In fact, they act almost angry when you ask them to hold the baby. Then, the nurses feel like the patients are very demanding and rude to them in the postpartum area. I feel like that probably relates to the language barrier, but it is leaving a very bad taste the nurses' mouths. The patients also do not want to get out of bed and very dependent on the nurses for every little thing. They were very loud also, and even screamed, wailed, closed their legs and grabbed the caregivers hands with extremely gently cervical exams. They would refuse male caregivers which sometimes meant a very increased workload if the only female available was a postpartum nurse because the other was a male CNA. They will refuse even for males to enter their rooms. And here they don't move or do things for themselves either. They are often very vocal in labour and wail throught labour very loudly. They will remove the hijab whilst in labour but the rest of the long gons they often keep I have worked with Somali pts in the chronic outpt hemodialysis setting and they are the same way- angry, rude, demanding, push staff away from them. This happens with pts who are strong and pretty healthy not at all acute, so I don't think it's related to the pain/stress of birth. I've wittnessed Somalis hit staff and spit at them. I just think that their culture is very different- very unique.. Wow. Doesn't sound very good does it?

Check this out - it's pretty new and the selection isn't great (hate florals) but imagine where this could go! For fellow diric/dirac wearers out there

I'm sorry, I have not read the responses here, but I wanted to post a quick reply because this post kinda hits home (not my experience but a very close friend's). If it doesn't work out buddy, just let it go. Don't make her choose. Because if she chooses you against her families wishes, maybe you guys inshallah will be happpy and stay together til death. But what if, like 50% of marriages, it doesn't work out? Who is she going to run home to? It's not worth it. My friend is still paying for her decision years later and it's not something I would wish upon anyone. Good luck and remember - there is no such thing as a soulmate. Dust yourself off and try again.

The only make up I wear is eyeliner and once in a while maybe a light lipstick. My skin started breaking out recently and I'm confused with all the options out there. I don't want to go to the makeup shops and ask the salespeople for recommendation because I tend to be easily pressured to buy stuff Which cover do you think is best? I especially need your thoughts on tinted moisturizer. I think that sounds like the perfect option to me so far, a 3 in one for the lazy people like me who don't like the cakey makeup look - a moistruizer, sunscreen & light foundation. I did some googling but wanted to know what worked best for other somali ladies!

That was amazing. Thanks for the best laugh in a while.

I'm trying to convince my friend to name her son Galleyr (eagle). She, unfortunately, thinks it's ******. If we name kids Ubax (flower) and Canab (grape), what is wrong with Galleyr? I happen to think it sounds very masculine. Anyway, I didn't want such a pretty name to go to a waste, so any pregnant woman reading this can steal it. You're welcome!

And I thought my mother was strict!

Why all the hassle when you can just pay for a prostitute? You are looking for the same ending anyway.

Someone told me about this and I'm so excited to start Inshallah. Just wanted to share. http://www.islamiconlineuniversity.com/index.php "About Us The Islamic Online University (IOU) is the brainchild of Dr. Bilal Philips. He envisioned an institution that would offer online intensive, undergraduate, and graduate courses in Islamic Studies completely tuition-free. Dr. Bilal Philips, Founder and Dean, Islamic Online University The IOU was launched in 2007 from Qatar with an offering of completely free diploma courses. Alhamdulillah, although we began with 1,500 students in 2007, by the end of 2008, the number of registered students tripled, reaching 4,500. And now, as 2010 draws to a close, Allah has blessed the IOU with a student body of over 30,000 students from over 177 different countries. In 2010 the IOU launched the world’s first tuition-free, online Bachelor of Arts in Islamic Studies. This path-breaking initiative utilizes the worldwide presence of the Internet and advanced open source online learning technology to bring low-cost, university level Islamic education within reach of anyone on the planet who has access to a computer and the Internet. Thus the IOU Now has two separate virtual campuses: the degree campus and the diploma campus. Each campus is hosted on its own dedicated server There are two branches of study on the IOU, the diploma courses and the degree program. For the degree, there are no fees for the courses. However, there is a fixed symbolic registration fee and examination fee each semester which is calculated on a sliding scale (from $20 to $60) depending on the student's country of residence. The diploma courses are completely free. There are no fees involved at all." Amazing isn't it? No excuses people. The only requirment is high school graduation. Wish I knew about this earlier. May Allah bless those who started IOU.

Under the username. Are we invited to an exclusive somaliaonline club if we reach a certain point? I don't think I've seen anyone over a hundred....who has me beat and why? I think I'm part of a competition that I'm not even aware of.

the last ten years went by crazy fast. hopefully time slows down a bit in this new decade.

What in the world?!

I've attended quite a bit of weddings and what I remember are not the dresses, decorations, or even food, but how much fun I had with friends and family. Honestly, just plan a good time - don't stress out too much over it. P.S. I've always found the shaash-saar to be more fun than the wedding day. It's just a smaller group of close family/friends, the bride is happy/relaxed and finally cracks a non-posed smile, and everyone lets their hair down.

^Ma aragtey Of course anyone doing a 'great' job should be acknowledged and appreciated. But doing a great job means going above and beyond the usual expectations. But men routinely get rewarded for just doing the basic minimum. That's what I'm talking about. However, that wasn't the point of the thread...go on.

I am always surprised when men are patted on the back for providing for their family or looking after their kids. What else were they supposed to do? That's expected of them as men, fathers and husbands - they're not doing any of us a favour.

I notice that I don't recycle paper, cans, plastics etc. but I am pretty rabid when it comes to water. I can't stand anyone being wasteful with it. I stopped taking baths long ago and I make my showers 5-10 mins. I yell at my family if they take too long with the shower or have the faucet on while brushing their teeth. I also like using the least amount of water to wash dishes. I get pretty annoyed when my brothers leave the faucet on for a full minute just to have really cold drinking water. I also hate seeing water sprinklers on lawns. I always knew that there were water shortages but I noticed this change when I saw a documentary about 5 years ago on people dying from lack of water. It was really eye opening how much we wasted water. Anyway, I'm trying to care about recycling but I don't know why that's so hard. The recycle bins are literally a few feet from my house but I just head right on to the garbage. Our household also wastes a lot of food - may Allah forgive us. I sometimes try to feed the birds instead of throwing it out. Other ares I'm trying to improve in: stop using plastic grocery bags and just one one of those cloth bags try switching the harmful cleaning chemicals and make homemade all purpose cleaners Anyway, this rambling post, was to ask about your experiences in trying to be good to the environment.