Calypso; Really, really believe it? Or are you saying this because your already black, have no choice in the matter, and its much better to accept than wish for something you will never get? I'm asking because when people tell me these lines of 'black is beautiful' and 'the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice' I keep asking them questions till they admit that they'd rather be any other colour than black. I'd ask if you could be any race which one would you be, they'd say somali. Don't you wonder why no one says 'I'd love to be sudanese, or west african'. Trust me, deep down inside people are terrified of being pitch black with kinky hair. The true black look. Hope that makes sense. I read it too and I got confused, the point is though---people generally say that to make themselves feel better. Aight. And when you ask them to choose between the african races they always say either 'somali, ethopian' or some other people that are closer to the caucasion features than real 'black'. Ok?

Yeah I know what your thinking, NOT ANOTHER MARRIAGE TOPIC! *blood curdling scream* Relax, this is different. Does anyone share my addiction of the Dr. Laura program? I love the show; callers call in, tell her their problems--children, household, friendship, school, marital, career etc--and she gives them some really good advice. She has written a couple of books one of which is the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands . This book has riled so many people up. The author is a little biased but basically sums up Dr. Laura's views on marriage and the relationship between a wife and her husband. What do you think? Reading The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger was like stepping into Superman’s bizarro world. Hellos were goodbyes, gravity had us all walking on the ceiling, and the year 2004 had become 1950. Needless to say, it was a difficult adjustment. However, after I began digging in and reading through the book, in a Nancy Drew-like fashion, I began to figure out its inner workings. The following are my discoveries. Firstly, Dr Laura has decided that certain assumptions about gender are true. All normal women want to be in nuclear, heterosexual, married relationships. They all want a husband, and they all want children. Men are different; they want someone to have sex with them and feed them. That is all. Therefore, I soon realized the rationale behind the book comes out of these basic assumptions. If a marriage is not working, and all is well with the actual institution itself, then it must be someone’s fault. The blame falls by default to the woman, because they are the selfish ones. Also, keep in mind this selfishness is due to us growing up with the influence of feminism. Now, assume you are a woman in a failing marriage who believes marriage is supposed to work. You want the problem solved. You are Dr Laura’s target audience. How marital problems are to be solved is a little more confusing than the basic assumptions you start out with. Being a woman, you are already subject to “mercurial moods, hypersensitivity, and interpersonal slights.†It would seem lucky that anyone would want to be around you. However, you are also a woman living in a society which encourages you to have ambitions outside the family, and for the above described “normal woman†this situation is not going to work. This dilemma has a technical name, in case you ever need a topic at a cocktail party, which is the “White Rabbit Syndrome.†Women are living lives that are too rushed to keep their husbands happy. Some even (brace yourself) forget their husband’s birthdays. This is where we begin to warp back to 1950. Women being out of the home means no one is baking bread; and there is not always someone there to welcome home the breadwinner (there are no female breadwinners in this world, unless they are horribly bad wives). Men should have a mini-cheerleading team waiting at home for them when they return from work. After all, as badly-functioning as women are, at least we all have a strong tendency for “nesting and nurturing.†Men play an equally bizarre role in this book. In the words of one of her callers, “Men are only interested in two things: If I’m not horny, make me a sandwich.†Marriage on these terms seems very simple, women just need to be sexually available and cook. However, most marital problems used as examples seem much more complex. Dr. Laura’s men seem confused as to what their roles are in the real world; they don’t seem upset about sandwiches and sex. To me it seems the men seem to want the same things that women want: love and respect. Feminism is attacked several times in this book. Undeniably, this is a brave move on Dr Laura’s part. She is not, however, the first conservative woman to play this tactic. Camille Paglia, Christina Hoff Sommers, and Ann Coulter have all at some point blamed feminism for any women’s unhappiness. The “blame feminism†argument is not followed up, nor is it the central argument of the book, so there are few new ideas to come out of this addition to the women of the right bashing other women. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands is not a difficult book to read, it is accessibility written and full of entertaining snippets of radio dialogue. You can buy this book literally anywhere (including www.drlaura.com). And, if you live long enough in bizarro world, it might start to make sense. The idea of a wife starts to sound pretty good- having someone do your laundry, cheer every time you walk in the door, have dinner waiting for you when you get home. In the words of a female friend of mine: “Who wouldn’t want one of these wives? I’d like a wife!†The problem is, who wants to be one?

Originally posted by Callypso: Black is beautiful! Do you really believe that or your just repeating the line?

Who cares about Britian? The worst customer service I've seen is at Tim Horton's. Do you know how long I have to stand in line just to get my iced cappuccino and lemon-cranberry muffin? Torturous really.

You know what I find funny? The danes produced these pics but the people whose properties & lives were lost since then have been muslims. :rolleyes: Pathetic.

Sayid, I'm very impressed. The prophet (scw) said that toward the end there would be 73 sects of the Muslim Ummah and only 1 would enter Jannah. I suppose you had a personal talk with him and found out your safe! Gormaa la hadashey? And what makes you call another muslim (no matter what they follow-the shahadhah is enough to become a muslim) kafir? Does this make you feel better about your own beliefs and faith? Mida kale, do you know your not allowed to even say a non-muslim person will end up in hell? Even after they die? Do you? So what makes you think in qof muslim ah wax ka sheegi kartid?

The reason I joined SOl way Back was because of you mostly sxb.. you are truely the leader of CIYAALKA XAAFADA............. Hey Tuujiye, Your talking as if he's still here, magac kale muu laso galey meesha? Yeah, he sure was a classy man.

Oh, great: People across the world already believe Africans are a bunch of savages and you post pictures that depict "Somali soldiers" who look like they belong on a World Vision TV commercial! Wow. This is really sad runtii. Do you let how other people's opinions about your own people shape how you view them? Does it really matter? As for 'savages'; would it make you feel any better if they sported a fat gut, lighter skin, western attire, and a rifle slung across their shoulders? Is that the right 'civilized' look? Hmmm. And what are we to make of such images? Be proud of our violent culture? Make of it what you will; I'm not going to tell you how to feel; but as for me I think those pictures depict handsome, strong, courages, dignified, honourable men. Uncomparable to the worthless excuse of men today. Kuwaas waa ragii runta ahaa. Same people, same mentality, different period of Time. Your mistaken.

Talk about knowingly planting the seeds of hypocrisy in your heart. And what's that supposed to mean? I have alot of powers thats for sure, but reading minds aint included!

It's okay to applaud with glee when a predominately Muslim country makes a movie depicting Americans as terrorists and savages They arent? Hollywood and its likes are light years ahead of the muslim world when it comes to movies depicting terrorists, east vs west theme, yada yada----so give them a break and let them enjoy it. :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Zero: Hey, are these questionierres only for females? I want to post a personal Ad too, you know. lool Alignment of Xaliimo and Faarax's Marriage requirements: That's the title of the questionaire. Go head. Knock yourself out. Wlcm Back Nur.

Ahura, I must say that you have a horrible taste in men. But to each her own so maha?

Originally posted by Jafarel.: Mockery of the Islamic system will not lead to any good.. There is difference between mocking a muslim person's way of thinking and mocking the religion of Islam. If you read it you would've seen that & BTW you missed the moral of the article... 14. Why online macking won't work out in the end... In the end, it's not going to work out. Why? Because she lives in Alaska and you'll never even seen her. It won't work. Lesson: : Don't waste time macking online. Bishaaro, Tell me. I'd love a private chit-chat with U. This is too funny.... If she IMs you first, then you pretty much are going to father her children.

Ameenah, Goodness me! In the midst of my indignation that just slipped my mind. Which is odd ~ I don't tend to forget these types of things... ---------- At the World Women's Conference, the first speaker from England stood up: "At last year's conference we spoke about being more assertive with our husbands. Well after the conference I went home and told my husband that I would no longer cook for him and that he would have to do it himself. After the first day I saw nothing. After the second day I saw nothing. But after the third day I saw that he had cooked a wonderful roast lamb." The crowd cheered. The second speaker from America stood up: "After last year's conference I went home and told my husband that I would no longer do his laundry and that he would have to do it himself. After the first day I saw nothing. After the second day I saw nothing. But after the third day I saw that he had done not only his own washing but my washing as well." The crowd cheered. The third speaker from Somalia stood up: "After last year's conference I went home and told my husband that I wanted equal share of the money and financial decision-making. After the first day I saw nothing. After the second day I saw nothing. But after the third day I could see a little bit out of my left eye."

^ I can see your not a fan. *sniffs* For your info little woman, Angelina Jolie gives a third of her paycheck to charity. Can you say 'generous'?

^Not really, supply and demand baby. If there is a cap of ten million on everyone, prices of these luxury good have to drop to be sold. Aight. And I would never think of giving to a leader---it should be a reputable charity (which is owned by the governemnt and subject to regular checks of staff and services) which gives it directly to the people who need it the most---those people also undergo regular checks of expenses---so they don't waste it on drugs or useless crap. Cuban Castro, It's appealing to me day by day ninyahow.

Bill Gates, the multi-million & billion sheiks, and the Google boys should be stripped of their money. Honestly if I controlled the world (one of my many fantasies) I would put a limit on the amount of money one can have! Why the heck would any one person need hundreds of millions or billions sitting in the bank, not needed or used, when people are starving all over the world? I never understood that. There should be a cap of ten million. Honestly. The rest should be taken and given to charity.

^ Yes atheer. let talk about cavemanism when you quit contradictionism. I'm not contradicting myself, if you read carefully, you would've realized those are two different situations. You can claim its YOUR money & spend as you see fit when your wife is has her own i.e. works and is financially independent. Laakin, if she is a housewife (no easy job mind you) than you can't have that ownership stamp iyo xaasidnimo iyo fuqurnimo. Ma fahante?

^Oh! Don't turn Ngonge on me. I'll kill you. I really will.

^Dependent as in a child you control and manupilate and give an 'allowance' I meant. That makes me sick. I'm not pointing fingers, I sincerely hope your just jesting, but I've seen it happen.

Excuse me? Why are ya'll acting like its YOUR money? Doesn't being in a marriage equal partnership? Just because one person brings in the money doesn't mean it BELONGS to them. By the 'simple' act of staying home, taking care of the food, children and the unending chores---that money is BOTH of urs. :rolleyes: Or do you consider her a dependent? Underdog, I guess your joking, but just in case someone shares that caveman mentality--- I just want to reinstate the importance of a woman being financially independent of her man---that way your aren't treated like a retarded, helpless child begging for lacag. Ewww.

Originally posted by JaWaRiYa: it seems the age difference is something that is somewhat always alluring in the air in relationships. but do people consider a reasonable age difference partners i personally give it four years maximum. You mean to say if you met someone who's older than you, say 5 or 6 years, that you wouldn't give them the time of day? Why set yourself on such a restricting limit?

LOL@stump. Next Q; What's up with all the 'good *insert name*' flying everywhere. It's starting to really annoy me. :mad:

^There you are always bursting my bubble. I was trying to make excuses for being out of shape. :mad: mmmmmmmm Bananas.