Valenteenah: Coincidently, I attended an Islam/Family/Career/Education Life planning Seminar 2 days ago. The speaker was an Egyptian brother, Vice President of the Muslim Student Association of the US & Canada, 25 yrs old and doing his PHD in Computer Science (Mashallah). He has a family, hectic school life, job but also flies around the country on weekends giving seminars and lectures. The point he was trying to drive is that we make excuses that we have no time - but it's all a big fat lie that's hindering you from achieving your goals. He really made me think and look back at my short life - and I've accomplished NOTHING. Absolutely nothing except alot of dambi (school not included - most pple go to school). Anyway, he was talking about setting goals down on paper - 10 yrs from now, 5 yrs, 1 yr, this month, this week. Work from then to now - then write down the obstacles that might stop you from getting to ur goal and lastly tasks to do NOW to overcome those obstacles. It was the best, most inspiring seminar I ever went to and I only hope my motivation does not disappear as it usually does, Inshallah. One tip he gave was: The quickest way to achieve ur goal - talk about it to everyone (that forces you to go ahead with it since pple are expecting you to do it), write it down, and force time in your schedule to work towards it. Keep your goals all over your workplaces, journal, room, etc. so that your always aware of it - 2 reasons pple procastinate and let opportunities get way is 1. they forget and 2. they think they have the time. Interesting sidenote, he asked all of us when we thought we were going to die (he said 'I know as muslims we believe were are going to die anytime and that only Allah knows, but just guess a year'). People had 80, 70, 60 - very old. He smiled and said 'the companions of the prophet ruled such an empire and achieved great personal successes because they honestly thought that they were going to die tomorrow, therefore they did not want to waste a minute'. I wrote down 80 - and that was true, I thought I was going to live long enough to do all that I wanted. Goals in the next ten years? - Graduate and become a nurse - Get into medical school (Inshallah) - Get married, have bio children and adopt - Travel to Somalia & Spain - Send mother to Hajj - Prayer Fajr and Isha on time ( ) P.S. We worked it out - and we can honestly memorize the entire Qur'an in 10 yrs if we just memorize three verses (ayahs) a day! Wow! But who has the time and drive that is the billion dollar question.

I haven't bought anything for myself (except shirts) for close to three years now. Family outside Canada sends me stuff - love 'em. If I was to buy anything that fit me - it would be those $175 skirts. I wouldn't pay that much if I had the money - sadly I'm broke. P.S. Covering your head doesn't make you any religious than a girl without a headcover walking down the street. In fact, that same girl might be more knowledgeable, and God-fearing than you Maybe you meant it the other way around? If that person is religous, knowledgable of the deen and God fearing, they would obey the command (not suggestion) to wear the hijaab, no? Don't want to bring an arguement, but I kind of see a trend where people are giving the benefit of doubt to non hijaab wearing sisters but so quick to insinuate undercover activities with covered sisters (not saying u are).

Whenever a boy is born I suggest Galleyr (eagle) as a name but the mother's give me an evil look and banish me out of the room. It's a lovely name though....fine...I'm gonna name my future baby boy that...the most unique boy in the playground. I like Samatar, Ilyas, Warsame, Kayze and Guleed too. Girls - I like Suban, Sahoor, Sagal & Waris. P.S. I never heard of it...do u know anyone named Galleyr? I hope not.

La ilaha illalah. Will their suffering ever end?

Cruel side of the Arab world. Why are we surprised or shocked by this? Every nation has their cruel and inhumane side. Quick, someone tell me about how ethnic Somalis treat the Bantus and other minorities (& used to).

Justice, I was kidding about the throwing it in his face part. That was an awful advice (given jokingly!). Never do that - as long as it's in the past, keep it there. Red Sea: L0L. Hey, you never know. Castro: How I wish I knew your wife. War iga daqaaq. :rolleyes:

Always thought Zu, Castro and Brown were superior in the skirt-chasing business, Meow! Don't let your jealousy....

Congrats. I wanna be married now. Anyone want a temporary union so I can judge for myself what's so good about it? Hey, Justice. Let him keep on thinking he's the one and only. Only pull out the truth when ur mad and throw it in his face. Sweeet.

Ok, the guy is more comfortable asking other men. What's wrong with that? :confused: Piss off. :mad: Maybe this site will help: Condoms: (Sex & Sexuality in Islam) Edit: Opps. The page won't show - go down the list to sex and then look for condoms.

They found her body. May Allah rest her soul in peace and extend his mercy towards her. Ameen.

So much alike that the mother had to mark one of the two boys by cutting a small piece from one of ears. Talk about child abuse! :eek: I love multiples. I hope to have twins at every birth. Cuteness overload.

LOL. I wish. I do have kids - and every weekend morning, no matter how much I threaten them with death, they jump into my bed to sleep with me. I can never go back to sleep. They're watching cartoons now downstairs. :rolleyes:

...and that's supposed to make sense to me? :confused:

Damn - that guy is funny walle. Did you see how he moves around? Ha ha. Is there more of him?

^ Is number 9 your girl?

Violent Somalis. I LOVE you! The girl is Chinese by the way. Yeah, I laughed too.

Help me out with this - u guys are unbaised and objective. My grade 5 sister came from school yesterday very upset. When I asked her about it, she said that her friend called her 'nigger' at which point the other kids nearby copied and called her that also. I was surprised and asked how that came about. She said that they were playing a game where they make up names that start with the first letter of their names. Since my sister's name started with N the girl said 'nigger'. Now, my response was smack her in the face the next time she says it and report that to the principal. Of course, I was joking a little. I told her to tell the teacher about it and not to play with that girl any longer. But do u think it's better if she just talked to the girl about how upset and hurt that made her feel? They were friends after all. It wasn't done with malice I think.

These are things we see or do on a daily basis - how well do u retain info? Take a piece of paper and jot down the answers quickly and without peeking at the answers below! 1. On a standard traffic light, is the green on the top or bottom? 2. How many states are there in the USA? (Don't laugh, some people don't know) 3. In which hand is the Statue of Liberty's torch? 4. What six colors are on the classic Campbell's soup label? 5. What two numbers on the telephone dial don't have letters by them? 6. When you walk does your left arm swing with your right or left leg? (Don't you dare get up to see!) 7. How many matches are in a standard pack? 8. On the United States flag is the top stripe red or white? 9. What is the lowest number on the FM dial? 10. Which way does water go down the drain, counter or clockwise? 11. Which way does a "no smoking" sign's slash run? 12. How many channels on a VHF TV dial? 13 On which side of a women's blouse are the buttons? 14. Which way do fans rotate? 15 How many sides does a stop sign have? 16. Do books have even-numbered pages on the right or left side? 17 How many lug nuts are on a standard car wheel? 18. How many sides are there on a standard pencil? 19. Sleepy, Happy, Sneezy, Grumpy, Dopey, Doc. Who's missing? 20. How many hot dog buns are in a standard package? 21 On which playing card is the card maker's trademark? 22 On which side of a Venetian blind is the cord that adjusts the opening between the slats? 23. There are 12 buttons on a touch tone phone. What 2 symbols bear no digits? 24. How many curves are there in the standard paper clip? 25. Does a merry-go-round turn counter or clockwise? . . . . . . Did you write down all of your answers? Did you cheat? Here are the answers. (Apparently the average score is only 7) 1. BOTTOM 2. 50 3. RIGHT 4. BLUE, RED, WHITE, YELLOW, BLACK & GOLD 5. 1, 0 6. RIGHT 7. 20 8. RED 9. 88 10. CLOCKWISE (NORTH OF THE EQUATOR) 11. TOWARDS BOTTOM RIGHT 12. 12 (no #1) 13 LEFT 14. CLOCKWISE AS YOU LOOK AT IT 15 8 16. LEFT 17 5 18. 6 19. BASHFUL 20. 8 21. ACE OF SPADES 22. LEFT 23. *, # 24. 3 25. COUNTER

I'm feeling ill with all this. Someone quick, hand me a bucket!

I never walk alone in the dark. Ever. Doesn't matter if it happens to be 8 pm or 12 pm. Watched too many crime shows to risk it. Yeah - cellphone always comes in handy. Which reminds me...is it worth it? Also mase and a small swiss army knife & ur all set. Oh yeah...camera too. Evidence.

^Why would u want to leave mummy's cooking and luving? Is there any way that you can photocopy the references before you give it to them or it has to come officially sealed from the reference person? If your going ahead with it - photocopy everything. And if they step a toe out of line...sue their @sses. P.S. That really seems like TMI; unless you being Muslim and black scared them somehow.

I don't use it often, it's far too greasy and it completely destroys pillow-cases Not if you wear Ilyar or malqabad or masar (whatever name u know it by). If you don't have one, go through your mom's drawer and I bet you'll find dozens.

^It's boiling here. I'm stuck home cause to venture outside is to court suicide. I'm craving for a large slurpee. *please God* You made me hungry now...I could go down to the fridge but I know nothing cool is down there. Modesty, How about fasting two or three times a week? No exercise there and you get ajar. No? Okay, how about swimming or riding a bike ( yes, you can ride with a skirt or dress...I've done it often enough)

Olive Oil? My mom keeps at me to try but I'm like 'Now way. Olive Oil is for my food'. Besides, I don't care for the smell. Whats so good about it? And about the hair washing thing, it depends on what kind of hair you have. Some people it's a couple times a week and others twice a month. I'm somewhere in the middle - too much work.

My afro is so thick, it's been mistaken for a nest a time or two. ( no, really!) I like the smell of Herbal Essense and Garnier Fructis Shampoos...but I really can't tell how one shampoo/conditioner is better than the other. All I care about is that it cleans my hair - I don't see any other benefits. If only shaved head on a woman looked good. :mad: P.S. Sheh - I've never tried rollers...they looked awfully painful. But I do sometimes (when I'm not too lazy) duubduub (roll?) it into four or eight corners and cover it with a masar. In the morning, it's curly and gorgeous.