^Your saying Allah is responsible for this man's despicable actions? :confused: I hope she gets better and gets justice. A man is in jail after he admitted to St. Paul police that he sexually assaulted his estranged girlfriend, beating her unconscious and then cutting her face and genitals so "she would never mess with another man again." Only they and Allah know the whole story - but it doesn't get this far without some serious signs along the way. I hope its a lesson or wake up call to other women who stay in relationships because they 'love' him or it's scary to start a new life alone or that he would change. I have a hard time believing this is a man who snapped - to get to the point of mutilating someone's genitals & face...that is some pent up rage & jealousy. Illahaow dadkaas oo kale naga qabo. Ameen. wax aan dheer nahay ninkaas ma jirto, it could be any one of us. You really think? I don't think I want to live with the fear of being mutilated by the men around me.

Yesterday was the scariest day of my life. It was the only time I seriously thought that I was going to die. A pan boiling with oil in the stove exploded and caught on fire that even burned as high as our ceiling and as far as out of the kitchen door and into the hallway. Suffocating smoke was everywhere and my mom refused to leave the house. So many things flashed before my eyes: (they lied..it wasn't my life) - I thought about running back upstairs and getting my wallet Just in case we needed to stay at a hotel and food and I need my ID & cards, I also thought shit! we have no insurance on anything...were going to be homeless. And I also remember thinking...damn...how can I continue school if my house burns down. All that in a space of seconds. Alhamudulliah my mom, against my pleadings and threats...picked up the pan, holding in with a couple of wet towels and set it down on the rug. It immediately burned through the rug and the flying oil burned her on her hands (she had huge blisters the next day). The scariest thing of all was that our gas tank was only inches away from the stove - it's a miracle the house didnt explode - or mom didnt severly burn her hands and face. It was backbreaking cleaning up - we eventually had to paint alot of it because the black soot wouldn't come off no matter how we tried. Anyway, have you ever thought - this is it - I'm going to die? What was it about? And if a fire did happen at your place, and you could take only one thing out safely (excluding people & pets) what would it be and what value does it have?

oOoH. Now Valenteenah is rich enough to hire bushy haird bodyguards. How much did she pay you to say that? ....and if I don't?

Somalis watch porn? :eek:

I don't know why any mother wouldn't want to stay with her kids until they start grade or preschool - then she can work around those times. But if it's a newborn to 4-5 yrs old, what's the point of letting someone else raise your baby? I would gladly stay home, then work when my child(ren) start school. But someone asking me to stay at home forever has some serious issues he needs to raise with his therapist. Anyway, if you bend backward for a man, he's going to shove you down and walk all over you.

^And you, the ugliest avatar. Don't shoot the messenger. :cool:

Less chatting, more pics.

My favourite beach - downtown to one side, the ocean spread out in front, and in the distance the mountains. It's breathtaking. I love coming here.

^Thanks for the somali lesson, but you didn't answer by q. And why should I task my lil brain cells when you always come to the rescue? Viking, true...but as human's we're not blessed with an endless well of patience, neither can we compromise without feeling that we got the bad end of the deal. I know some of the points I mentioned are trivial - but add them up and one can pretty much make mountains out of molehills. MC Xamar, good point. But what consitutes as 'too far apart'? At what point does it become a problem that threatens the relationship?

You're liberal - he's conservative. You're a vegetarian - he's a meat eater. You hate horror movies - he absolutely loves horror movies. You love romantic movies - he can't stand romantic movies. You're an extrovert - he's an introvert. You're a morning person - he's a night owl. You're a homebody - he enjoys the outdoors. You want a big family - he wants a maximum of 3. You're organized - he's messy. The list can go on - different tastes in movies, clothes, books, tv shows, drinks/food, hobbies, sports, temperature of the room, colour of the walls, furniture styles and how to spend time and money. In the short term, people can work around these issues - but long term wise, can opposites have a successful relationship, keeping in mind that what can in the begining of the relationship attract you can also bug the heck out of you later on. Would you be able to overlook or work through the differences or would you rather spend your life with someone who likes, does, and wants similiar things that you do?

I'm going to ask my future hubby to get breast implants so I can see why people fuss over a couple of fat pockets. :rolleyes: My aren't we going to have fun.

How fun is being single when you can have a permanent shopping/eating out/movies/travelling/etc. buddy that can't refuse you (when all ur other buddies are busy or boring)?

The sun shines unmercifully down your back. It's getting hot, unbearably hot. Sweat is running down your face and your clothes uncomfortably cling to your body. Your throat is parched and it feels as if you could pass out from the heat. You come across an ice cream palour - heaven, absolute heaven. Grinning madly, eyes shining in hope you walk in. Cool air hits you on the way in and you float to the counter. You can't believe your eyes...99 different flavours. Some you thought never existed. You want to try them all but have only change for one very large scoop. You happily ask the guy to give you a scoop of...? Mmmmmmmmmm...Ice cream.

Thanks for the reply Hizb & Nur, although I'm still confused about some parts, I think I get the big picture.

Whenever something bad happens or someone wants to reassure themselves of the future, ease themselves of worry, or explain a particular circumstance...'it's calaf' is always on their lips. I don't really get this whole calaf/destinty thing. I know that everything we are going to do is already written when we are in the womb...but does that mean that we have no control over the future...no responsibility for our actions? No power over our destiny? (Of course not, I would think)Then why is calaf used as an excuse for choosing bad partners, being in bad situations, or making bad mistakes? It almost seems as a way to deflect responsibiliy of their lives from themselves & their choices to Allah! It's very confusing...and if our lives & actions from birth to death are already written & set...why are we being tested or punished for what we do? *To the collective groan of SOL folks..Shuddup!* Let's use the marriage example. I've seen a couple of threads where people keep on repeating 'don't worry, it's calaf' or 'no one knows who they will end up with, waa calaf' Huh! or 'no one will have control of when or how they will marry, it depends on your calaf'...& a bunch more variations of that. What does that mean exactly? I'm read over this and I don't think I got what's in my head across in this post...hope someone understood anyway. Salaam

I'm not going to say my age and embarass myself...but I don't even have my learners (my brother got it on his 16th b-day ). Mom was teaching me when I was 15 and I almost crashed into a parked car...since then I wasn't very interested in learning. I looooove crazy drivers. Nothing like being scared out of my skin to get me into a good mood. Love them!

Is your Ghusul Correct? IS YOUR GHUSL CORRECT? - CHECK THESE FACTS: - ALL YOUR PRAYERS ARE INVALID IF YOUR GHUSL IS NOT CORRECT. - CLEANLINESS IS HALF OF FAITH. - HERE IS THE METHOD OF GHUSL ACCORDING TO SUNNAH. Before making Ghusl one should make Niyyah (intention) thus: - "I am performing Ghusl so as to become Paak." Without Niyyah, there is no Thawaab (reward) although Ghusl will be valid. Ghusl should be made in a place of total privacy and one should not face towards the Kiblah while making Ghusl. Ghusl may be performed standing or seated, preferably seated. Use sufficient water, don't skimp nor be wasteful. One should abstain from speaking while performing Ghusl. It is better not to read any Kalimah or Aayah while bathing. Be aware of these rules whilst making Ghusl. PROCEDURE FOR PERFORMING GHUSL: Wash both hands up to and including wrists. Wash the private parts. The hands and private parts should be washed even if one is not in the state of Janaabat or Najaasat (after intercourse, mensturation, wet dream, etc.). If there is Najaasat elsewhere on the body, it should now be washed off. Perform Wudhu (Read separate pamphlet for Wudhu according to Sunnah). If making Ghusl on a stool or platform where water will rapidly flow away, and then perform the complete Wudhu. If there is fear of the feet being immersed in wastewater during the Ghusl then postpone the washing of the feet to the end of the Ghusl. Ensure that the mouth and nostrils are thoroughly rinsed thrice. After performing Wudhu, pour water over the head thrice, then pour thrice over right shoulder and thrice again over left shoulder. Now pour water over entire body and rub. If the hair of the head is not plaited, it is compulsory to wet all the hair up to the very base. If a single hair is left dry, Ghusl will not be valid. If the hair of a woman is plaited, she is excused from loosening her plaited hair, but it is compulsory for her to wet the base of each and every hair. If one fails to do this then the Ghusl will not be valid. As for men who grow long hair and plait them, they are NOT excused from leaving their hair dry. If a woman experiences difficulty or is unable to wet the very bottom of her plaited hair, then it is necessary for her to unplaite her hair and wash her entire head. It is Mustahab (preferable) to clean the body by rubbing it. All parts of the body should be rubbed with the hand so as to ensure that water has reached all parts of the body, and that no portion is left dry. Rings and earrings, etc. should be moved so as to ensure that no portion covered by them is left dry. Ensure that the navel and the ears are all wetted. If they are not wet Ghusl will be incomplete. On completion one should confine oneself to a clean place. If, while performing Wudhu, the feet had been washed, it is not necessary to wash them again. Dry the body with a clean towel, and dress as hastily as possible. If, after Ghusl, one recalls that a certain portion of the body is left dry, it is not necessary to repeat the Ghusl, but merely wash the dry portion. It is not sufficient to pass a wet hand over the dry place. If one has forgotten to rinse the mouth or the nostrils, these too could be rinsed when recalled after Ghusl has been performed. The three Faraa'ids (compulsory acts) of Ghusl are: - 1. To rinse the mouth in such a manner that water reaches the entire mouth. 2. To rinse the nostrils up to the ending of the fleshy part. 3. To completely wet the whole body. When one performs these Faraa'id intentionally or unintentionally Ghusl will be valid.

Duufaan, did you enlarge the image so u could make that comment? Ameen baa kugu filneed ninyahow.

Allah is always there to help those who turn to him. Alhamdulliah I'm so incredibly happy. I hope that Somalia truly changes into an Islamic State in every sense of the word. Mashallah.

Husband Battering I read an article about husband battering a couple of days ago and I was a little puzzled and skeptical - I know there are some violent women but since majority of men are physically stronger than women, does the woman really beat him or does he let her? I know that most battered men will never report for fear of ridicule or their masculinity being put to question - we do tease men whose women control them and tell lots of humourous stories and jokes on that subject. But I wonder what the real statistic for this case is. What do u think? Does it happen in the somali community? I have a real hard time believing that.

bump Since we're all in a jolly cooking mood! I might as well benefit.

Whenever I think back to when I was 6 and younger and living in Somalia - my memory is in patches and blurred. I am surprised when people say they have vivid memories to as back as when they were 3 years old (is it possible or are they pulling my leg?). The clearest one was walking for hours in the desert in Shalambood with my uncle and then coming across the ocean sparkling in the distance. It was beautiful and a great place to rest after the exhausting journey. I wonder how my neighbourhood looks now - heard it was bulldozed to the ground. So, what's your best/happiest childhood memories and are there any that stand out?

Cooking is a bargaining tool - you have what he doesn't. Therefore, use it wisely, to your greatest advantage.

Nin Yaaban, Calling women NAAYAADA is sexually arousing, walahi. I always found it to be sexually arousing. source Still laugh at this. True comedian

Is the black dumbness gene hereditary ? And you can honestly tell us with a straight face that your in University? And oh, you forgot your swastika dear.