MIZZ-UNIQUE-i love u too sista. Yep, i am venting out my emotions and how i feel instead of keeping it it. It really helps me. Alhadulilah i am happy that i have great friends among ya and my peeps keeping me my head up and showing me what true happiness is? So yes, i am happy alhamdu and i pray to allah we all feel that way. Happiness! Underdog...lol...is that ur digits...cuz i holla!

Hi guys, sorry i couldn't reply sooner. I was away for the long weekand. Well, i wish i can reply to all of you. Masha allah, ya gave me amazing choices. Silent Sista, thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. Woow, it is his loss. He was a looser. Anyway, girl did he told u he got married or someone else did? Alxamdulilah, i am not any of those girls u said it. I didn't loose anything true is obsession. Which more made me like him. Flying sista- baby girl...u said "Theres this unwritten rule....the ones you want don;t want you and the one that want you..you don't want!" My bestfried got the man she wanted always and she been with him 2years running. I don't know about that statement. It's all about fate. A7LA-MINAL-7ELWEEN-thanx for giving me da tips on how to get over him. I am sure i will use them insha allah. I know i usually talk about him with my friends. Damn..i gott stop that ha? MIZZ-UNIQUE-baby girl thanx for the tips. I know, i started dating early before i got over him. U know what's funny, my date keep asking me why i am sooo quite...cuz i am thinking of that guy. Wallahi, he senses that i don't want relationship. But guys, he is such nice guy treats me like a "first Lady". He aready expects me to call his girl. Don't talk to guys, ur my girl. One day he went down on one knee to ask me to be his girl. His like don't cheat on me......i know i will with the other guy. I don't want commitment right know it's summer i want have fun with the ladies. Have good time without having someone else. Com'n i don't want another problems.....even if he promises he wll never heart me. He asked me not to heart him....and i striaght up told him if u want plz....watch who u fall inlove with. Second date he aready has flowers and he is saying he is madly inlove with me and i am his dream girl....wooow. Second date..i don't belive that stuff..girl i love brother who is my level...take timmmmmmmmmme to know me...don't want no one falling for our looks... by the way i went to another city......and masha allah...brothers were sooo fine and want us to. So who was that guy i liked again his name........oops i dont remember. nuv love. babygirl...wallahi....i am beliver that there are soooo many fishes in the see you just have to get oout and find it.......it's in the rule book....and i did..... uuumuuhha thanx..guys again!

Raxmah, allah is everthing to me. I thank allah everyday and moment for all the blessings i have recieved. Abboyo, i m trying to practice my religion better and get knowledgeble, honestly. I ask allah to save us from this countries that so forth bringing devils work(amen!) Yeah, Raxmah what channel was that? I didn't really understand it.

ProudSista, babygirl i had alwayz had hard time trusting anyone i got that from small stuff but insha allah u'll find some people who are trustworthy. Babygirl, your girl did u wrong,next time you will remember keep ur girlfriends as far from your boyfriend/husband as possible. Men are dogz unless they aren't married and ofcourse that guy was bigest loser of all time. It's his loss sweety, he does not deserve u to even think about him I pray to allah you get over that pain and petrayal. I pray for u sis. Good leg!

All of u are right of every good reason u brought up to my face. SafiaLul thanx girl for letting me know your experience, it hurts to know the truth but what hurts more is waiting and hoping something might change while it is not. Yeah, sweety. The hardest once is tellin yourself something as "he doesn't love you get over it, and your heart becomes a rock that wont ever get over him.....cheez . :mad: Wardi, thanx yeah i know learned a lesson, never give my heart 100%. Sometimes it just happens even if u don't want. U know what, is it me or we sence sometimes which person will hurt us, could it be it's too good to be true or they are loosers . I sensed with him long before i fallen for him, keep telling my self i won't like him tell it hit me hard. Have u ever fighted with your self? Your heart telling you something while ur mind another? What is the saying " Lead with your heart live by your mind"..or something close..if anyone knowes it please say that phrase. How could we lead with our heart when it gives us falsehood? Did you know that people spend more time finding shoes then good mates. While i guess next time i think of prince charmer aprouching me i'll be ready to think critically and try to get one that suites me the best insha allah. Baashi, i pray to god that i do see things in better prospective soon. God, knows i want to. I met great people, i just don't see them. Insha allah i pray to god i do soon though. SimpleWomen, you right. It could be because he doesn't love me back. It is like that challenge when small baby doesn't like you and cries alot till the point you he runs to you and give u kiss on the cheek. Damn, i was waiting for happy ending like the child loving me. And i am good with kids even defficult once, why should he be different. Let's face it, it's just like me, seen wonderful people who want to be with me and i chooce to blind my eyez from them. Oh allah merciful allah help me! Ya get what i am saying. :confused: ...anyway.....i luv ya'll telling the truth. Gals and guys i pray for all of us to be loved by the once we love. AND we love the once who love us.

Hi guys, I fallen for this brother from the first day i saw him. Didn't really tell him though. He is the one who approached me to get to know me. We started dating and i developed strong feelings for him. He keep telling me he likes me and know he says he can't be with me ever. I don't know why? He says he doesn't commit to anyone, he did that before for 4yrs didn't work. He wants as to go out without commitment. Ofcourse I didn't agree to it. It been 3 months since i saw him. And yes, i have tried dating other brothes to gt over him, didn't work. I missed him terribly, can't see me with anyone but him. He completly owns all my thoughts now(dam u). He says he got lots of women who love him to death and stuff if he wanted commitment. I try to get over him, everytime i do, i hear him talking to his father really sweet, him going to the masque every friday. He is everything i wanted in a brother, beyond my wildest dreams. So what if my dream come true in real life that i got to see him, Shoud i just leave it to being dream? Honestly, there are many brothers who wish to be with me, i love the way i look, i know he is attracted to me. There is little age differnce . I always get what i want what makes him different? should i give up on him?. Trust me it's not all about the looks that got me to him ,it's him all around mostly personality and atttraction ! What can i really do to make him turn around. What would u do if u were in my shoes. If u met that person u wanted alwayz? Would u give up on them. How would u present ur self? WHAT would u do defferently? Help plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz wanted? thanx

Thoughfully thinking what i would do if i was ur position. Personally seems ur friend admires the girl so much and in your position i would wanna be the one to break the news to him. It would heart him ofcourse but i dont want that pain cuzed because i had his back thing. Instead i would talk to the girl to let her know u know all of the stuff she been doing....tell her that u'll bring her down if she doesn't come clean with ur friend..tell her it's not ur position ...she needs to do it..no mater what. I thing it be better for herself to confice then someone else tellin him. SHYHEM, brother seems like u are those niggaz who can't get their own girl and tries to steal other menz women. Because u sounded really ofended he something that wazn't his business...it is his business when it comes to friends.....some friends are thicker than blood. By the way what's with the threat..... Underdog..u shouldn't agreed with shyhem seems lack you guys are okay with crimes like wht the lady commited...wazup!

Wazup guys....u know what money ain't a thang jus little paper. I would definatly love to have type A man because i thing he would be better suited husband sisnce he fears allah and wuld make me better woman. peace!

Malika, girl what bad experience did ur girl had with lemond face cream? PM me if u can sis..4reals..thanx. Modesta,,,sis i did get my hair cut short in the solan. It's growing...but went of the Helly Barey style and didn't reach ponytail yet....lol. . so any hair tips.

Wazup ladies, Optionated, girl my hair grew in 5 month it's upto my cheek bone. It almost is same lengh as Kelly Rowland from destiny child. What i do to my hair ofcourse i use hydrating shambo and conditioner. Like the ladies said once a week deep condition it for 30 min. Then i put mouse for volume and "Den Sharme" conditioner and hairdresser> it is light weighted with that i use CONAIR iron with attacted brush and heat to dry it and straight it. I also use the iron to make the straightness stay longer with end touch of ALBERTO V05 ULTRRA HAIRSPRAY> holds for 14 hours with multi-vitamins complex. Ladies ...what to do with forhead that is oily and cheeks that are too dry...imbalanced?

Hey Ya ladies, how are you doing? Okay here is my thang i do. -I wash my hair once a week, but unfortuntaly in the hotsummer i put water to wit to cool me down..a habit. I heard washing it too often damages ur hair. -I know i feel the defference when i eat and drink lots of water my hole face looks life and healthy shine. So we gotta make it right habit i know i am still learning. -I use max foundation/powder it is good. By the way the Mayones and egg on hair is true..have tried it does wonders. I also seen my beutiful friends using egg on there face after sun exposure..it works. ?????? Ladies I heard and seen lots of ladies using "A3:Lemon Fade Cream with Allantoin and Vitamin E+C" the HY-K9 formula. I heard it makes u look more healtheir and have eventoned skin. IS THAT TRUE..? HAVE ANYONE OF U USED IT? Becuase i am thinking of using. ????? I recently cut my hair like realy short like hailey Berry...anyway anyone now how to style short hair?

I like what alot of nomads said especialy Lateafah, Truth set you free and Shyte because : Point one Your past has molded you in some way, for me to understand completely i have to know what you were( meaning went throgh) completely because there has to be reason why you are acting the way you do in some certain stuff(that drives you crazy). Point 2 For ladies I would say tell him lil there and lil that cuz man are Lakads. They find hard to let go your past mistakes and bring it up to hold it against you or they either leave you. Men are such sensitive creatures...they can't handle the truth. They are like little kid with-held their favourite candy. They might not feel same way after you told them u tasted the waters. We women we are forgiving and even care for them alot after confesion. So hell no will i tell him all of my dirty secrets...put i definatly want him to tell me wat he did. Execptional are if he is really understandign..if not let the dogs sleep. ps.very nice topic!

Originally posted by Libaax-Sankataabte: To work for one of the 5 big chemical dogs like Dupont, BASF, Degussa, 3M or Dow Chemical as a senior engineer or researcher. I am tired of working for mid-sized campanies. They aren't a challenge anymore. lol Soon I will Insha Allah. DO YOU HAVE THE EDUCATION THEY NEED TO HIRE YOU BRO? I KNOW INSHA ALLAH U WILL MAKE IT. U LOOK LIKE SOMEONE WHO MAKES THINGS HAPPEN.

3 THINGS DON'T KICK HIM U KNOW WHERE DON'T CHEAT ON HIM DON'T LET HIM SLEEP ON AN EMPTY STOMACH..LOL.

I liked reading the post sis, thanx for reminding to have pride over our shoulder.

Hi sis, I hate jelouse people too...but there are some jelousy that are kinda good....those once are the once who compete to be better at what they do because the other person is doing really well. I like competition especially where i see challenge. so ...there i only get jelouse if someone is succeeding and it only makes me to try harder to achieve success and get ahead. If this is not what u meant..that is my thoughts anyways!

i would definaltly not live without my soulmate. I hope i find him soon . Hey i do belive in that kinda stuff okay....peace. good topic!

I WOULD SAY U ARE DATING SOMEONE...THEN U TALK TO ANOTHER MAN ON THE PHONE...WHY THE HECK WOULD U DO THAT.....IT'S HABIT LADIES LOVE TO DO.

Originally posted by Afrikan.Theory: biggest fear is to have confused feelings ..go or stay ..love or lust ..etc.. I would agree with Afrikan. Theory. How do we really now if it is a lust of Love? What is the difference between them anyway? And I hate being confused!

Wzup Nomads. I really wanted to know what was the psychology behind the people who fall hard for the once who don't love them. " I don't love You"...but seem to think they are playing hard, or they are confused to know there feelings yet so we need to change there mind. I am a sista who wants to know why for so long her battern didn't change..reason i fall for men who don't care much of the time then the once who love me dearly. holla back ya!

wooow, my felow nomads had amazing dream jobs. I am way impressed Masha allah. Well, i know we can't narrow down on all of our dream jobs. It's good to dream and accomplish them. So far, I am getting my business thing going. I hope to take that to a CEO job. I know i am really good at it. Second, I want as i said to become a Registerd Nutritionist. Hey ya'll I am so impressed to all of the people who took this seriosly not as a joke. I am happy. Hopefully i want to hear more intersting postings

What intimidates me is a man who thinks he knows all. One who is full of himself especially those who think they got some stupid degree so they think they can flunt around.....

Hi guys, I see now a days some successfull somali young people which really makes me happy. So nomads what is your dream job or what are you majoring in? And what do you want to do with ur degree or deploma? What actions are ya doing to get where you want? I want to become Registered nutritionist. It is 3 year deploma or degree. Start salary is $25.

hi Belle,Litif, Shyte and Infatue comments kept me laughing. I would say the most important part of getting the guy's attention...check urself out. You gotta look good and confident before you give him smile. And don't make it stare eyed smile, short smile, that u would give to ur bestfriend. 2nd--he gotta see you are busy with friends or watever you doing....i think guys love girl who seems unavailable..they work harder. 3rd. You gotta have that attitude-the WHATEVER! one..guys dig girl with little mistery and devius...they think spices things up....i don't know what they mean...go figure. that' all...and remember.....if the guy...is really mr.cool guy....give him shit...rude attitude...he be runing after you cuz you are the only girl who didn't want him or look at him...he want's to know why and will do anything to have you ...because he can't get u. Good topic! I want the guys to take part in it! [ June 10, 2003, 08:26 PM: Message edited by: FirstLady ]

I definatly agree with all the thoughtfull nomads who took time to respond to me. Yes, i did understood what all are saying. It's really great advices ya but in here for me and all the sista's. Yeah, parents could be hassel when it comes to weddings. Men can give hassel too cuz...ya know when both attaractions come together..god knows it's hard to resist..well that is what i am feeling...it's very hard.....and i don't want to dispoint any of my family in secret engagement...i gotta finish school...but damn guys...how can one resist..something that soo atractive and temting? How do you keep ur hands together and think of allah? when all you do is think about that person 24/7 ...there u go..so maybe with that delema ....might secrete marriage be exceptable...cuz plain simply u can't resist.. hey, don't take my writng offensive..i am just playing devil abvicant (both roles..pros and cons)..aight...just a thought.... holla! [ June 10, 2003, 08:04 PM: Message edited by: FirstLady ]