Aaaliyah, I am not advising anyone to get a experience, rather i was sharing something that I have scooped from the fraternity. There is all sort of social standards out there these days. In the Western society Somalis (particularly men) often get too conferable with the "gaal" practices- and they think its a + being male because they can get a way with it. May allah put us all on the righteous path:)amiin