Originally posted by bint hamid: she'll find someone and wont be lonely anymore Define loneliness. :confused: Clearly her sheeko is testament that one can be married AND lonely at the same time. Marriage isn't the cure for all personal problems.

The ladies vote was a tough one.. as for the lads 'go, ina abtiyo, go'. p.s Ina abti in the qabil sense, bal car ha is garto. LMAO. Yes, I was influenced by Sayids thread. Edit. And because my ina abti really is all that.. LOL.

@ Sayid..I bet only your sub, sub clan lives there and I can find out exactly what you are from wiki. Thus it's code name for qabil, only reason people big up their awoowos villages in SOL, runta hadii la sheego. And, most have never been to advertised villages.

Qabil is a self-serving social network. It means nothing when you're self sufficient and everything when you're not. I've seen the clan pull together and help a needy individual out / build schools and that's an aspect of it that I personally would like to be part of.

I'm sorry, I don't get your point. I think you're missing the context in which the verse you quoted was revealed and perhaps should go to back to the Arabic Quran. In the Quran, the word that has been translated to mean veils is Khumurihin plural for khimar . khimar is a head covering. The women of that age wore a head covering as a cultural practice, this only covered their head so their hair would not appear ordinarily and would not fit into the exception of ila maa dahara. That part of the verse means draw your head covering over your bosoms and only reveal that which appears ordinarily. The ahadith support this, Aisha (RA) describes the change in the believing womens appearance as something that resembled crows, imagine a woman who has a head covering that's tied at the back and falls behind her head, this is then drawn so that her neck and chest are covered - from a distance is does resemble a crow and then the hadith of Asma where the Messenger (SAW) spells out the awra.. Her hair wasn't revealed, her cloths weren't thick enough. In short, the sister is therefore not making false claims. The Quran tells us to not only cover our hair but to go a little further. As for your second question, I believe what I previously said on wigs in light of hadiths on the subject. I know Qardawi says different, I don't agree with him. Anyway, Eid Mubarak

Ciid wanaagsan. Illaahay khayratkiina ha idinka aqbalo, I'A.

Still dangerous though, see the commotion it caused a few times - can't fake that with fast forward. They drive like maniacs in the gulf waa inaad dimasho isu diyaarisid on certain roads.

Originally posted by Valenteenah: My most vivid memory of Eid in Somalia was when my beautiful pet goat, Shacni, was slaughtered and her liver was served to us for breakfast. I can still picture the sparkling red blood and green gooey digested grass on the ground below a headless Shacni, hanging upside down. After that the kurdado and xaqal ciid meant nothing. Allah, that's awful! I had a pet goat called Kureed, God, I loved her. Anyway, the qalitaan business waa la iga qariyey but I remember feeling super depressed when I couldn't find her. Come to think of it I probably ate her without realising.

New cloths.. new toys!!! The night market in our city was so amazing - i think this has started my love for shopping.. they would close off the whole street in Ramadan and after taraweeh the place which was otherwise boring came alive. My favorite thing was that the the nights before ciid, more xalaawa vendors would appear and they used to invite us to taste the sweets sayin g 'halaal, halaal'.. Xagal ciid which we got without having to ask and at the time seemed like a lot of money to spend on anything..!! Sweets, ice cream. All the families getting together for lunch and then driving up to Soodah mountain to take pictures. We used to get the whole Ramadaan off and our friends used to stay over for the month and we'd stay up the whole night playing silly game talking of shaydaan stories. Aah, life was good.

^Where is your source? Since you're making a claim that counters the view of the Jamaacah; that the hair is part of the womans cawrah and needs covering. Allah also didn't give us great detail about the manner of our salah amongst many other issues in the Quran but the basic command is in the Quran - the interpretation and explanation in the sunnah. Daanduray, 1. My nice hijab / car or whatever is not MY AWRAH. My hair, legs etc are. You're argument is completely off but that's not the only issue here sis / bro.. 2. Wigs are not permissible in themselves, the messenger (saw) cursed those who make / wear them. So wearing them even amongst mahrams a sin. 3. The wig is often designed to add to the womans beauty, would this not be counter productive? 4. We're not permitted to imitate none-Mulims and wearing a wig for a religious purpose belongs to the jewish faith. Lets be a bit creative, at least eh.... If stuck, sisters can instead wear hats, turbans etc and ensure as much of their awrah is covered. I've seen sisters do this in countries where hijab is banned. Finally, in very dire situations where wearing hijab could lead to loss of life or livelihood, Allah in his Rahmah has given us the permission not to be so outward in our faith. And off course, there's always the option of hijrah. p.s As a literate and apparently educated person you have the means to dig into the books of tafsir, hadith and fiqh and fataawa to research the issue on your own and do away with the difficulty in believing 'some sheikhs'. Alhamdulilah, we're so blessed to be able to access knowledge easily on the on the web.

Ameen, wa jazaak Allah. Taqabal Allah minnaa wa minkum, walaal.

^Saudis-kaa ku jaba. For their movie fix more than anything. I feel sorry for masakiinta. I don't know why prostitues in Arab countries is news- meel walba ay rag baas jooogaanba waa laga helaa.

Dadka because the country sucked for as long as I could walk...

Errr. Dubai is NOT in BAHRAIN. :rolleyes:

The first is a mistress, the second a wife. Hahaha. Nuune, Once children come into the picture your a*se is delegated to second position, JB knows that. Waxa jira rag caruurtooda ka masayra. LOL.

^We're not puppets dancing to our fate- that would imply that Allahs punishment of reward of us not just. The Prophet (saw) summed up it's complexity in his advice to the Bedouin 'tie your camel and rely on Allah'. In another hadith which is relevant to this subject, a man asked him on how to best raise his unborn child islamically (the wive was already pregnant)- The Prophet (SAW) said - that his asking of the question was late - i.e choosing the right partner is the first step in planning for successful parenting. Anyway, the issue of Qadr is a contentious issue with so much confusion surrounding it and I would suggest more reading around the subject. I hope I don't come across as condescending, it's an area that I've struggled with myself and I'm still reading around it myself but I think that I'm finally on the right track. Would love to help you with book suggestions and links if you like. As for do I dare- Girl, am the type of girl to check how clean his socks are a blind wedding baad ka hadalaysaa. Xaasha!

Me, Iman and to win a nice car at my local mall. I got this good tip a few Ramadans ago. Make a list of what you really want and then shorten it to the ten things that you really, really want and find ducaa from Quraan and hadith and add them to your qiyaam.. Insha Allah. Anyway.. here are some useful links on the subject.. 25 Duas from the Quran Dua Power Ramadan Dua Series Heard Shaykh say the other day in tafsiir, Allah accepts ducaa of those who do righteous deeds You might want to read up on the story of Zakaria, allayhi salaam. p.s The car didn't make it to my top ten list.

A timely reminder. Jizaak Allah, my thoroughbred Islamic, Somali tribesman of noble cushitic and possibly Arab origins.

I have heard of quiet a few British Somali brothers that have relocated and set up businesses in Africa. Africa seems to be in vogue at the moment. Allahu Yaclam for me. I'm all for adventure and would love to live in as many varied places as I could but it's all about the sort of opportunity, schooling, security.. etc. In all honesty, Africa is not an easy place which is why you the 'tahriib' phenomena..

The guy that usually does my abaayas told me back in August (before Ramadan) that people already put in their orders. I thought it was crazy but now I wish I got in early- they won't make me one now. Bah.. at least the babies will be sorted. p.s I seriously hope the positive feedback o those hideous suites are made with tongue very firmly in cheek.. :eek:

^Aww, a new mummy. Congrats, hon. True, your plans do get cloudier when you become a parent and moreso as they get older and develop their own personality and independence. Our basic mission is to raise them on Tawheed and they will be right Araweelos - karate trained to boot. Everything else we will explore and learn together - Insha Allah.

^A lot of things that many Somalis don't have: Peace, Security, Food, Water... Being from the same country / family doesn't give us ownership over someones heart or choices. Some faarax / xaalimos marriage is not important or interesting to me unless I was engaged / married to said Faarx.

So some Faaraxs are into Indian girls.. Good for them! Why is it a problem for the rest of us? Live and shaqo yeelo.. yeah? p.s The constant repitition of arguments and scaremongering over interracial marriages in this forum, you'd think Somalis didn't have more important issues to worry about.. :rolleyes:

She can try treating him how she wants to be treated. Why does the man have to be the one to be / initiate romantic gestures? If that's her only complaint then she's just being boring and uncreative. Personally though, I think there are deeper issues - well there must be if she's considering divorce... and your mate needs to be honest with herself - isla hadal ku dheh and her man.

Originally posted by Somali'centric: Start talking to yourself next time; bring up a situation that could've been handled better. And then confront yourself, preferably the mirror *oooh the suspense is killing me* When the argument escalades, and becomes unbearable, storm off to bed, and give yourself the silent treatment! Works like a charm! Genius!