Salaams, Try.... www.aswatalislam.net

^Alhamdulilah brother. I've had a hectic week so I didn't watch the show and don't know what the response to my question was. Silly, xaliimo! In any case, the first link to my last post clarifies the Sharia law on rape and witnesses. I was confused with the whole debate because I remembered reading a hadith where the Prophet (saw) has taken a woman’s testimony without any witnesses. During the time of the Prophet (saw) punishment was inflicted on the rapist on the solitary evidence of the woman who was raped by him. Wa'il ibn Hujr reports of an incident when a woman was raped. Later, when some people came by, she identified and accused the man of raping her. They seized him and brought him to Allah's messenger, who said to the woman, "Go away, for Allâh has forgiven you," but of the man who had raped her, he said, "Stone him to death." (Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud) I don't know where the Pakistani muftis and Khayr got their sharia law from but it appears that it isn't from the authentic sunnah. Now, unless Khayr has evidence to support is position, I strongly advice the he puts the budh down! You can only accuse people of opposing the Sharia when there is clarity on the law in question. Read the links. Salaams.

Salaams, Beautiful! Do they still do O-levels at Sheikh?

Mabruuk sister. May Allah bless you with a union filled with love, compassion, friendship and beautiful healthy babies.

Salaams, Ayoub How ya doing? I'm still waiting for a response from an email I've sent to a shaikh that explains things really well but I've found this which is a response from Ahmed Kutty and this clears the misconceptions presented by Socod badnes article. P.s is Tami, Tamina? The Mukhtar case is absolutely disgusting. Muslims have alot of work to do. Fee Amman Allah.

post edited This is weird. I don't want to sart fitnah here, going to ask a scholar...

^I like to be very clear about my 5 year plans. The whole labour regulations and laws in that country really, utterly and totally stink. I hear that there is light at the end of the tunnel though. So says, the 'Shaikh'. Guess, we'll have to wait another 11 months as hols have just started. Insha Allah.

Salaams, This is an odd little topic. I'd ask people who make such claims to tells us when has anything Islamic come about as a result of an intellectual effort at local level? All the Islamic methodologies from sufism to 'wahabiya' and all that's in between, past, present and I dare say future have been and will continue to be imported! Any concerned Muslim would question the validity of the Islamic practices that are pravelant and those that are supposedly being introduced in light of the Quran and sunnah.. and take it from there!

^Woooohooo! Slow down princess, you might hurt yourself! I was merely sharing information not starting another 'yeallow teether' bashing session. *yawn*

I remember reading somewhere not long ago that most young girls in the UK aspire to becoming glamour girls because of the exposure and glamorizing of sl**ts get in the media. I believe that ads, MTV and porn all contribute to the formation of disrespectful ideas about women and womanhood. A few years ago, during the Abu Guraib photo scandal, Some very disturbing image of what was said to be the abuse faced by Iraqi female prisoners (use your imagination!) was doing the rounds on the net. This was obviously met with great anger from many of those who have seen it. However, it soon emerged that those weren't real photos but rather excerpts of porn videos. There’s actually whole genre that caters for such fetishes. What I question is, why would any one produce such inhumane films and call it entertainment and can a country that legalizes the production of such videos and call itself civilized?

You can fit any job in with your childs needs. For anything else there's Faraxs Mastercard :-D Do you guys know how much maternity leave women get in Carabta. 40 days! 40 bloody days! Can you imagine! Most women haven't even shaken off the laughing gas in that time.. let alone be ready to get back to work.

^It's actually nice to have another mummy on board. Originally posted by NGONGE: ^^^ Have you not hired a nanny yet, ayaayo? What a glutton for punishment you are! Why pay when I've a free manny like Angelina.

Assalamu Alaikum, This is really heart-breaking. May Allah have mercy on the bother.

Beerlula. Salaams sister, I don't post much these days but welcome to the yummy mummy club, I hope you're enjoying your new bunddle of khayr. Idon't think there are many mothers in SOL, you know how somali women drop off planet earh when they start a family lols. I do know a really good sisters forum with a an amazing section for mothers with babies. Le me know if your interesed. In any case, feel free to pm me, if you fancy a chat or a rant.

Bisinka, why waste time and loving energy on someone that you’re not sure about, or vice versa. I mean think of all the danbi, time, energy, heartache and headache and not to mention the air-time that's caused and lost. I'd say give the farah 6month- year, and if he saying nathing .put him on your divert list. As for the money...I think Fraha’s should throw out that Jagged Edge CD they keep playing to their potential xaliimos and sing this jingle; Xaliimo, xabiibi give me your answer true I am half crazy, over my love for you It won't be a fancy marriage, I can't afford a gaadhi but you'd look sweet, on a bicycle made for two

Salaams, I'd do my job for nothing! I was in the process of meeting those requirements of another career path when I found something that really moves me, even if I'll never be able to get rich. For me, the fresh, innocent and creative thinking and energy of children appeals to me. Everyday, I go home with a funny, cute story to tell. Knowing that you’ve helped them achieve those millstones is worth all the glitter that money can buy you.. and they keep you young. :cool: Sister, if you are blessed with the luxury of choice, don't work. If not, I suggest you find a job that you love. Everyone has a passion for something. I think you should let that guide your career choices and if you don't want to work, you can always take it up as a hobby. It's also good to check your attitude about work and your job. If you only think of the negative aspects, you'll never enjoy it.

Salaams, A belated Eid Mubaarek to my peoples from me too.

Salaams! Early Childhood Studies, eh? We've got something in common. Congrats sister girl. Kids are so interesting, hard and exceptionally rewarding to work with. I trust, that you'll be having a twinkle time in your new job. All the best.

Salaams, Eid Mubaarek ayeeyo. I pray Allah blesses you and the family at this special time. Sorry about the late reply. You say it’s a weak argument yet you don’t point out the weakness, ayaayo! I didn't see the need dear. Next time you listen to the radio, send an email or right now as you read my words ponder on Mr. Straws argument. Is communication with a 'faceless' person that difficult, have we become so fickle that we need to see every frown and smile to understand spoken word? There is great power in words and the human voice and one can totally express emotion without the need to be there or in this case unveiled. Jack Straw is a politician and politicians are naturally opportunistic. Everything to do with Islam is the ‘in’ thing these days and he’s only doing what every other politician is doing. So what do you suggest that Muslims ignore it? As an elected politician who serves a Muslim populated constituency he has a responsibility to maintain community relations, not attack one group to please another. If you consider the reaction and attacks made on veiled women as a result of Mr. Straws views, you’d appreciate the influence enjoyed by a man of his status. Further more, the majority of Muslims in Bradford are from the Subcontinent and as you know many are Hanafees- one of the schools that maintain, that the face and hands are part f the awra. It doesn’t matter what the average Ali or Laila say or think. Firstly, our religion is not open to opinion (Mr. Straw and co know and should be reminded)and secondly worship is a personal matter and no one should explain the reasons for a sisters veiling but herself and a person of knowledge. It would be nice if Muslims supported each other but that I guess is too much to ask considering a cultural and sectarian diferrences. However, on the actual issue of the veil, it’s very clear that many non-Muslims are uncomfortable with it (nothing to do with being lazy). You and I may be used to it and have grown to accept it as the norm. Mr Straw and others are not. You’re contradicting yourself here. We're accustomed to it because we got exposed and used it. They are not. So, the sisters have to consider removing it to accommodate a people who don't have the will to understand it. It's lazy on both fronts dearest. As I said, a discussion is necessary my disapproval stems from the antagonistic nature of Mr. Straws approach and the subsequent attacks on Muslims as a result. All gaalos need to do is to approach Muslims and ask about their faith and why those girls are covered. I've a few niqabi friends and have seen this in practice. It’s really that simple. If that's the only concern British society has, but it isn't. This is as much about re-interpreting and secularising Islam to fit in with British culture, instead of allowing British culture to expand beyond the pub. Now, are we discussing this here from the angle of the veil and the West’s perception of it or from the angle of propaganda against Islam and our natural defensiveness against it? Well since Mr. Straw claims his concern is community relations, we have to look at from all those angles and beyond. As you're well aware, niqaabis are a very small minority within a minority. To say that they inhibit community relations to the point that it requires a nationwide debate and action is laughable. That is to give them far too much credit. There are other forces at play here. However, to stay on the issue of veiled women, they are forced to segregate from society because people are unwilling to employ them and colleges because they are seen as a security threat. They want to be part o society but society but how can a society move towards understanding the niqaab and niqaabis – if they are not given the chance. Removing the niqaab doesn’t sole anything, It just takes the focus away from issues that a far deeper then mere aesthetics.

Salaams, It’s not at all wrong to say that the veil hinders integration. Facial expressions are powerful tools in individual communications. How can you tell if the person you’re talking to is interested in what you say if you can’t see what their face looks like? Are they sad, happy, indifferent, bored? They eyes of course help in conveying some messages, but, so too do the lips, the nose and the facial muscles. Zooooooms back to the 1920's . In the age of telephones, text messaging, collaborative online work, that argument is weak. I'm not agiants a debate on the issue as there is a need for explanation and (a willingness) to understand, but that's a two way street. What's wrong with mr. Straws approach is his assumption that the veil is so trivial, it can be dropped to accomodate the lazy :rolleyes: Hijabis and veiled women in particular are excluded from society by being barred from work and even some educational institutions. What's left is a society that relies heavily on representation provided by hostile tabloid media and politicians that make unhelpful asinine remarks. Community relations or the lack of it runs far deeper than the veil, Islamic schools. The sooner the government realizes that, the better for all. *glad to be out of the shidhhole*

It's amazing how Somali women can look like super models at weddings and her jaariyad the next day

Salaams, If you want to nourish your relatioship with Allah and learn about the prophetic traditions that will get you there, read this. . Ramadaan Kariim in advance.

Xoogsade and co. I don't know how things are in other Western countries, but in the UK there's still a very strong family system. Pre-school children with working / student parents are taken care of by aunts and ayeeyos. My cousin got married, had her son and went through med-school, my sister did the same in her career and so do many, many other Somali women. I think most Somali women are smart enough to know what's good for their children and usually take a career break and work flexible hours untill the child is in full time schooling. Anyways, looks like Michael Noer got served. Counterpoint: Don't Marry A Lazy Man By Elizabeth Corcoran Studies aside, modern marriage is a two-way street. Men should own up to their responsibilities, too. Girlfriends: a word of advice. Ask your man the following question: When was the last time you learned something useful, either at home or work? If the last new skill your guy learned was how to tie his shoes in the second grade, dump him. If he can pick up new ideas faster than your puppy, you've got a winner. I'm not usually a fan of dipstick tests, particularly when it comes to marriage and relationships. But a downright frightening story written by my colleague, Michael Noer, on our Web site today drove me to it. According to the experts cited by Michael, marrying a "career girl" seems to lead to a fate worse than tangling with a hungry cougar. OK, call me a cougar. I've been working since the day I graduated from college 20-odd years ago. I have two grade-school-aged children. Work definitely takes up more than 35 hours a week for me. Thankfully, I do seem to make more than $30,000. All of which, according to Michael, should make me a wretched wife. In spite of those dangerous statistics, my husband and I are about to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. You'll see us snuggling at a mountain-winery concert this month, enjoying the occasion. I don't think I'm all that unusual--so it seemed like a good time to test Michael's grim assertions. The experts cited in his story think that professional women are more likely to get divorced, to cheat and to be grumpy about either having kids or not having them. But rather than rush to blame the woman, let's not overlook the other key variable: What is the guy doing? Take, for instance, the claim that professional women are more likely to get divorced because they're more likely to meet someone in the workforce who will be "more attractive" than that old squashed-couch hubby at home. Women have faced this kind of competition squarely for years. Say you marry your college heartthrob. Ten years later, he's working with some good-looking gals--nymphets just out of college, or the more sophisticated types who spent two years building houses in Africa before they went to Stanford Business School. What do you do? A: Stay home, whine and eat chocolate. B: Take up rock climbing, read interesting books and continue to develop that interesting personality he fell in love with in the first place. Note to guys: Start by going to the gym. Then try some new music. Or a book. Or a movie. Keep connected to the rest of the world. You'll win--and so will your marriage. There is, of course, the continual dilemma of who does the work around the house. But if both spouses are working, guess what? They've got enough income to hire someone else to fold laundry, mop floors, etc. Money is a problem? Honestly, the times money has been the biggest problem for us have been when we were short of it--not when one of us is earning more than the other. When we have enough to pay the bills, have some fun and save a bit, seems like the rules of preschool should take over: Play nice, be fair and take turns. In two-career couples, Michael frets, there's less specialization in the marriage, so supposedly the union becomes less useful to either party. Look more closely, Mike! Any long-running marriage is packed full of carefully developed--and charmingly offsetting--areas of expertise. For us, the list starts with taxes, vacation planning and investment management. My husband likes that stuff, and it leaves me yawning. Bless him for doing it. Give me the wireless Internet system, the garden or just about any routine home repairs, and I'm suddenly the savant. Tear us apart, and we'd both be pitiful ****** trying to learn unfamiliar routines. Michael is right that longer work hours force two-career couples to try harder to clear out blocks of family time. When we do, though, we get to enjoy a lot more. We understand each other's career jokes and frustrations. We're better sounding boards on what to do next. And at dinner parties, we actually like to be seated at the same table. The essence of a good marriage, it seems to me, is that both people have to learn to change and keep on adapting. Children bring tons of change. Mothers encounter it first during the nine months of pregnancy, starting with changing body dimensions. But fathers have to learn to adapt, too, by learning to help care for children, to take charge of new aspects of a household, to adapt as the mothers change. So, guys, if you're game for an exciting life, go ahead and marry a professional gal. Source

Pierre-Faarax, Be a man and start dropping names. Lols@ Serenity. I’m still very syrupy but on a more sedated level. You still don’t bug me, in fact I'm starting to think you cute, just might develop a crush on ya... Latest trend seems to be an obsession with guur and minyaros. *yaawn*

^just smile and say salaams. You might be surprised. Masha Allah Nur, I've been to many diners but this is by far the best. Just what a girl needs on a Friday. Honestly, I'm salivating just reading about it. It's has to be your best business endeavour thus far, a meal so delicious, yet unlike other meals I won't have to worry about the undesired effects of over indulging. Laziness and extra unshakable calories Jizaak Allah. With your permission, I am going to forward this invitation to a few friends- inshaallah.