^Don't worry about it hon. there are some nice ones out there, they tend to appear when you're not too fussed so find something else to worry about. Ngonge, You can be nice about it, silly Faarax. :rolleyes: Dhudhuc, It has it's many uses babes, just look at the WAGs. I won't say anymore.

Ghanima, Lol. You are so kankanoos, it’s scary. Valenteenah, I meant you have to want a serious relationship, which in our case translates marriage to commit to someone for that long. Everything else is circumstantial.

^I am. Fatuura Kuusey is my co-wive but I like her. :cool:

Yada, nada, bada. A forum is based on user generated content. A man that was here since the inception of SOL and only offered 389 posts shouldn't be pointing fingers. Markaa, walaal spare us the ‘smarter than thou’ mantra oo ama meesha qayb libaax ka qaado, ama shib dheh, ama kabohaaga ilo. We’re not going o start threading the path of pretentious intellectuals just because Faahiye is feeling lonely and left out. P.s Why are most of your comeback posts filled with ridicule? PPS. Some of the finest threads that stimulate both debate and respecful dialogue can be found in the section that you only visit in Ramadan.

Salaams sister, Jizaak Allah for your effort, but I think that memorising the Quraan for price money is just wrong. We've become way too materialistic walaahi. Memorising the Quraan is something that should be done for the love of Allah and His religion. Allah also promises a reward that is much, much more precious than money - that will be spent and forgotten. I'm for a Quraan memorisation group in SOL, I'd even join but please walaalyaal, Quraanka Ilaahay yaan la qiimo ridin.

Dahina, You're so correct. Haha. Thanks, sis. Lily, Whatdayaknow, you're in my 'must have Xaliimo' list, muwaah. Ghanima, You're not the first to have made that mistake. *smirks* KoolKat, Does that mean that you want attack me? Tweety doesn't trust cats. p.s My list would look Ghanima and Lilys.

Lool@Taanad, *dhag, dhag, dhag* Dhiigaa i kacay, dhiiga. Buuxo, I'm afraid that's all that I can remember for now, haven't been to many weddings for a long while...

Mujahid, I've dug topic up for you, newbies should update...

People, there you go parking up the wrong geed as usual. The girl didn't ask how long it takes to get know someone, as we're always learning new things and changing - it would take forever or never to really get to know the person. You’ll always discover a new layer of a person, even your parents. I think that makes all the more interesting. What Chuba, wants to know is how long she needs to give a Faarax to do his thing (impress) before she decides to introduce him to Aaabo or the answer machine. And, I’m afraid Ngonge has a point here, when you start listing his pro and cons and thinking about how long you need and balaayo – know that you need to start thinking about a sweet let down speech. No need to force it. Ghanima, Honey, if a Faarax is not amazing enough to have you dreaming and wanting the white picket fence and some cute minis of him in 3 -6 months, and he the same of you, then he is just not worth the air-time.... *winks*

Adigu maxaad dhigataa, inaar? I'm currently doing Somali Studies combined with the Art of aging gracefully.

This has been playing on my mind for sometime now, I feel that there is an unnoticed confusion surrounding this concept. Is Somalinimo merely Somaliweyn [the unity of the former Somali Republic] or a wider concept similar to the Pan-Arab, Pan African movement? Some of you might have noticed me asking a few nomads in the politics section and I’ve only got what you get in that jungle [which is why this thread is here]. I’ve just googled the word to see if there was an agreed upon version. Bah. I know I am rather ambitious for our Somalis at times, but I wasn’t prepared for what was thrown at me; links to other Somali sites where this very concept is largely getting tossed about as either nonexistent or a social construct that is played up in qabiil politics. Hmmmmm! I’m not entirely sure. What does Somalinimo mean to you? Can Somalinimo exist if politics wasn’t involved, how? How does the clan system relate to Somalinimo? ... and Islam? I'm not looking for a discussion on the Somali unity in the political sense alone, although I'd welcome it if it was used to backup your ideas about Somalinimo. If you really want to get into the Somaliweyn debate, I recommend the topic next door by Warmoog. I only want to get at the very core of the concept of Somalinimo and see if we're at all talking about the something when this word is used in dialogue. Thanks.

Nur, Ramadan is a time for spiritual develoment, so less of the politics walaal and more of the tazkiyah related articles, please. p.s I like your tag.

It depends on how open and honest you are to each other and the circumstance of your relationship, i.e do you know his friends, family? The more you know about the other persons background the easier and quicker it would be to analyse them in terms of trustworthiness, responsibility etc. As far as time limits go, everyone is different but I personally wouldn't spend more than 6 months wondering about a guy. Any time beyond that, I'd either be forcing the idea of him being right for me or he just wouldn't get my hints and bugger off.

^looool. Nice one! *ROTF*

According to French writer, life would be all the more sweet without children. What thinks you? YOU CAN WAVE GOODBYE TO ALL THIS ... 20 REASONS NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN — Childbirth is torture — You will become a mobile feeding bottle — You will struggle to continue having fun yourself — You will lose touch with your friends — You will have to learn a language of ****** to communicate with your children — Your children will kill your desire — Children sound the death knell of the couple — Having children is conformist — Children are expensive — You will be duped into thinking that there is such a thing as a perfect child — You will inevitably be disappointed by your own child — You will be expected to be a mother before you are a professional and a woman — Families are a nightmare — Children will put the seal on your childhood dreams — You can’t stop yourself wanting complete happiness for your progeny — Staying at home to look after children is breathtakingly dull — You have to choose between motherhood and professional success — When a child appears, the father disappears — There are already too many children on the planet Children are dangerous. They will take you to court without a second thought. I wonder how her parents feel about this. Read extended interview, here .

^LOL! You better not be sending her anything... *evil look* But errr. yeah, yaad luuqa la istaaktaa, huuno? Lol. Yep, true about Somali naago. I don't really go to Somali talks and when I do their qaylo makes it unbearable. Our wadaadads (maybe it's our language) aren't very high on the xaraarah factor, I like passionate speakers like Amr Khaled and Khaaled Yassin.

Masha Allah, it's a sweet dua. Thanks for sharing, sister. May Allah accept it of him, sallaAllahu alayhi wassalam? The individual would still need to do their own repentance for it to be effective. I know, am stating the obvious. Sometimes you need to. Haha. Does anyone know the Arabic version of this? Can you post it. Jizaak Allah.

I understand the need to curb qabiilist sensitivities but changing a region names is way over the top. We need to have a bit of respect for history. I’ve nothing to say on the matter that hasn’t already been said by the sensible amongst us. May Allah grant the people of that region victory. Ameen, Insha Allah.

Here goes, Self explanatory, I think. The Old Sock A wise and saintly rich man, sensing his approaching death, called his son to his side and gave him these instructions: "My son, I shall be leaving you very shortly. On the day when I die, and they have washed my body and come to wrap it in the shroud, I want you to put one of my socks on my foot. This is my final request of you." Soon after this, the old man did indeed die, leaving behind his goods and property, his children and his dependents. Family, friends, acquaintances and neighbours attended his funeral. The body had been washed and was almost completely wrapped in the shroud, when the son remembered his father's wish. Finding one of his old socks, he handed it to the washer of the dead, saying, "In accordance with my father's last request, please put this sock on his foot." "That is quite impossible:' Said the man. "Such a thing is utterly impermissible in Islam. I cannot act against the Shariah." Despite this valid objection, the son insisted, "That was my father's final request; it must certainly be carried out." The washer of the dead was unmoved. "If you won't take my word for it," he said, "go and ask the mufti. He will confirm what I tell you, that it is not permissible." Holding up the funeral, they consulted the mufti, preachers and scholars, all of whom declared that this was not permissible in Islam. Just then, an aged friend of the deceased interrupted the debate with these words to the son: "My boy, your late father entrusted me with a letter which I was to hand over to you after his departure. Here, this letter belongs to you." So saying, he gave him an envelope. Taken by surprise, the boy opened the envelope and read out the contents of his father's letter. "My son, all this wealth and property I have left to you. Now you see: at the last moment, they won't even let you give me an old sock to wear. When you yourself come one day to be in my condition they will also refuse to let you keep anything but your shroud. Eight yards of shroud are all you will be able to carry over from this fleeting world into the Hereafter. So pull yourself together and be prepared. Spend the fortune I have left you, not for the satisfaction of vain desires, but in ways pleasing to Allah, that you may achieve honour in both worlds." Taken from Inspirations Volume 4

Salaams, I’m often getting sweet, insightful emails with an Islamic theme in my box every other day. I’m sure I’m not alone, so how about we share them on here, not in a trash bin sort of manner. Share those that make you go hmmmm and perhaps impact you in a way. And post here. No silly manipulative chain emails here, please, just the good stuff. Speaking of silly chain letters, like the one about the Imaam in Mekkah who dreamt about the Prophet (saw) last Friaday… How do you deal with them? Do you pass on just for the hell of it, or send back highlighting everything that’s wrong with it – hoping that it gets back to the author – or do you simply stick in the dustbin?

^LOl! *beeb, beeb* dheh...

Haye, I see your nods. I wanted to share news of two new ventures that allow you to study Islam from the comfort of your home / office and in your own time. 1. The Islam Online University has been started by Abu Ameenah, Bilal Phillibs and is currently offering free short courses and you can also get a degree in Islamic studies. It’s fantastic, if you’re interested in learning the fundamentals of Islam based on the Quraan and Sunnah. 2. The DiscoverU project is a branch of the famously sophisticated AlMahghrib institute and Sheikh Muhammed Shareef has finally gave in to the request of those of us that cannot attend North American seminars by introducing the Saturday Night Live events. Learn more. So, you want to study Islam. Well now you have one less obstacle. Go on; knock yourself out with some ilm.

Mash'Allah this is the best annual Somali event. It's really great I hear. They're collecting for charity this year too... so pls spread the word. Ghanima, They have to sections for women and mothers are usually asked to stay in one room - so as not to disturbe others. p.s empty your pm box, love.

^LOL! Anyway, Ummmm, this is a lovely topic. *clicks fingers* Can you meet someone once and know they are your other half? I don’t think that I’d get the opportunity to analyse the person enough in one sitting. However, you can get a feeling that this person could be someone that you can maybe introduce Aaabo to; merely from the way they carry themselves. I personally would need to research how much of the vibe is real or a put on before making a decision. Love is truly selfish, a person would have to gain it some how. Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you? I believe it’s true for some but not everyone is that blessed. In the end, it depends on what Allah has planned for you. Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them? Yes definitely, everything else would either be described as lust, infatuation or subtle insanity. Is love a necessary ingredient for marriage? A marriage may survive without love but for a successful marriage? Yes, absolutely, otherwise one party in the relationship would be unhappy or shortchanged. Love is what makes you go that extra mile, what turns the 'you' and 'I' in an ‘us’. In the Quraan, Allah links love to the tranquility He blessed in marriages. I’m not sure how some people here define love, but for me it encompasses many qualities such as kindness, affection, admiration, lust (in marriage) that can be good on their own but together make up love. In this context, I’d say that love is rather the hot water in tea.

Brawn, mayee hada waxay bilaabeen inay dadka ku karbaashaan, or maybe I'm a bit slow.