I remember my first encounter with the tolka. I was young, living with my dad, when we would suddenly get a call from some random person from africa, that we had never heard of and as soon as they mentioned who they were and their laf, my dad would pick them up from the airport and they would stay with us until eey isdhiiban ee dowlada qaabisho. It would all depend on what laf they were. If they were from a different subclan, wexeey la degi lahaayeen qof kale eey isku sii dhawyihiin. This close network always intrigued me. But this has to have a disadvantage. What about the tolka that collects money for weapons to be used in somalia? Believe you me, they do that.

Originally posted by J.a.c.a.y.l.b.a.r.o: What is the origin of this phrase horta ?? A man that wanted to check out a womans "trunk".

Meeqaa jirto oo their ancestry originally from ethiopia or yemen that happened to migrate to somalia long long time ago. Haddane afka iyo dhaqanka kula taqaanto, oone somali sheegto. After all , they were born there, so were their fathers and fore fathers. But since they have "nice features" ,they LOOK somali, no one questions their somaliness. But these somali "bantus" that were born there as well, as their fathers and forefathers oo afka iyo dhaqanka kula taqaanto are not somali miyaa. Since they have "Afrikan features". So, in eey magaca somali sheegtaan ma´ahan miyaa? It seems like some people are going to lengths in eey ciddaan iska riixaan. Why? Is it going to be hard to explain to your colleagues why there are some somalis that have "African features"? (as some would put it, especially kuwa carabta isku moodo ooba afrikaanka kale iska riixa)

Originally posted by money: AGAIN, the beautiful ladies and children in the pic are 100% Somalis and proud of their Somali-ness. you can't take that away from them. Afkaaga caano lagu qabay..

"Jamie spears was sooooo totally cool having a baby, i want one too " mentality meel hageeyso I think that the media has recently been shoving in our faces how babies in hollywood are proudly carried by the celebrities like it´s the accessory of the year, the newest "prada bag". But then again, if hollywood does, me do too masoconeeyso. I feel sorry for the parents of these young girls, that will probably start raising a grandchild they haven´t asked for yet.

Waxaan naagaheey xoola kadhigeen. As if a woman can be forced to stay married to a man against her wishes.

I was actually a victim of xan about seven years ago. The memory is still fresh. I had just gotten contact with some distant relatives of mine ( two sisters), and we started seeing each other. I started visiting them but the meetings were very wierd, I felt that they weren´t speaking much. After a few weeks of getting to know each other, by this time i became close to one of them. That is when she dropped the bomb. Telling me that her sister´s husband heard something from the suuqa, and that she didnt beleive it since she got to know me on a personal level. (She probably said that to make me feel better) Walaahi I remeber like it was yesterday, i was standing by the kitchen table when she told me what she heard, and tears started rolling down my face before i even blinked. My knees became weak and my world started spinning. I was shocked and couldn´t beleive people would say something that ugly and evil. These were some serious stuff. The ironi was, i was the type of person that always said, " timir laf ayaa ku jirto" or "there is no smoke without fire" when I heard a rumour. And this was actually happening to me, and there wasn´t Any truth in it. I had mixed emotions, mostly anger. That I was walking around my relative´s house, anoo daacad ah oo wax uurka ku haaynin, and there they were sitting with this false information that they had heard. God knows what they were talking about when I left their house after our first visit. I was also very hurt, that they had actally let weeks go by without telling me anything, and that they actually kind of beleived it, because thinking back now, i noticed that their dabeecad was very wierd when i started seeing them. The older one was actually haruufing me. Walaahi it is very sad that you are being judged before being given the chance of in lagu barto. Walaahi somalideena don´t know what character assissination can actually do to a person´s well being. I didnt know a lot of people and yet they "knew" me well. I became paranoid and started avoiding somalis and became qof xer xeran. Because at that time the wound was still fresh, and i felt very alone. After some time, runtaa soo baxday and the rumours were put to death. But imisaa ee rumours daba socotaa to their graves. And people, im not talking about light rumours that you can just brush off. Walaahi my view has drastically changed now when it comes to xanta, because i have actually been a victim. Soomalideena dabeecad waxaan u qabnaa in aan ku fikirno " There is no smoke without fire." We say that to claim there's always some truth in a rumour, since they supposedly don't start for no reason. I dont´t think so, because gossip can take the weirdest forms without any need for true sources.

Shocking and disturbing. :mad: Watch the video below: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/05/27/iraq-soldier-discusses-hi_n_103698.html

Cadaan,don´t mind khalaf, he´s just jealous Nop,I wouldn´t mind marrying a white man, as I wouldn´t mind marrying a somali.

Lol, That girl is strong. Btw, what´s up with the website, it looks like a whole other territory. Wat u been up to.

Where: Malta, Golden Bay When: 2002

A view from my kitchen.

Originally posted by SCORPION_SISTA: In marital relationship, couples do find certain things about their partner to be most pleasing to them…Whether it be a physical characteristics such as the long hair in this case, or inward characteristic such as kindness…If that was the case in this relationship, where the husband expressed partiality to her long flowing dark hair, she should have definitely discussed it with him…I think it is common curtsey, I mean anyone of us thinking of making changes such as that we would talk with our friends, siblings, or parents about it before acting upon it…So why not husband too!!!...As to his reaction, there could be many reasons, maybe her making such a decision without referring with him, made him feel like he wasn’t important or needed…Maybe he felt his likes and dislikes weren’t big deal for her…It’s really hard to pinpoint a reason when I don’t know the individuals personally…But all I can say is when you married you are one half of a team and decisions must be made collaboratively…Hopefully things would work out and he would return home...bee bye Afkaaga caano lagu qabay If i´d go to get a haircut not only would i ask my husband, but also which hairstyle he found to be hot. It´s common curtesy

Cadaan ,make that 5.lol Seriously you can do it. My father as well stopped smoking when i was young.

scorpion sista, Do you mean the community section?lool Alla mexeey masawiradaas dad waaleen. People were registering in flocks. I wonder though, why that section was taken away.

Oh My God, i just joined facebook and i found people that i havent seen or heard from since 19971998. And classmates from year 7,kkkk And and also a neighbour i used to have a little crush on when i was 13. *still shocked

Originally posted by Cadaan: I think I should be nice and just say that this is one of the st*upidest threads I've ever seen. :rolleyes: Couldn´t agree more.

Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his book Al-Mughni: “If he married her on the condition that he should not make her move from her house or her city, then this condition is valid, because it was reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘The most deserving of conditions to be fulfilled are those by means of which sexual intercourse becomes permissible for you.’ If he married her on the condition that he will not marry another wife, then she has the right to leave him if he does take another wife.” In conclusion, then, the conditions of the marriage contract are divided into three types, one of which must be adhered to, which is of benefit to the wife, such as her being able to stipulate that he cannot make her move from her house or city, or travel with him, or take another wife or a concubine. He has to adhere to these conditions, and if he does not, then she has the right to annul the marriage.” (Al-Mughni by Ibn Qudaamah, part 7, Kitaab al-Nikaah). Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked this question and he replied in Al-Fataawa al-Kubra: “Question: a man married a woman and she stipulated that he should not take another wife or make her move from her house, and that she could stay with her mother, so he married her on this basis. Does he have to adhere to this, and if he goes against these conditions, does his wife have the right to annul the marriage or not? Answer: yes, these conditions and similar ones are valid according to the madhhab of Imaam Ahmad and other scholars among the Sahaabah and Taabi’een, such as ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab, ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas, Shurayh al-Qaadi, al-Oozaa’i and Ishaaq. According to the madhhab of Maalik, the condition states that if he marries another wife, (the first wife) has the choice of what to do, and this is a valid condition. The woman has the right to leave him in this case. This is similar to the idea in the Madhhab of Imaam Ahmad. The basis for this is the hadeeth narrated by (al-Bukhaari and Muslim) in al-Saheehayn from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): ‘The most deserving of conditions to be fulfilled are those by means of which sexual intercourse becomes permissible for you.’ ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said: ‘Rights are in accordance with conditions.’ The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) dictated that the conditions which make sexual intercourse permissible are more deserving of fulfilment than others. This is the ruling on conditions of this nature.” CONCLUSION: Yes you can state in your marriage contract that he can not have any other wives but remember, he does not have to agree to it. Few men are willing to give up this right so you need to consider that. You can ask it to be a condition but he does not have to agree to it and that thus could end your marriage plans with this man.

loooool caadi ma´ahan duqa. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xb63vhC7WxE

Not suprised at all. Did someone else see that? After she shared pictures of the saudi woman in a bruised and battered state, Oprah said, "Thank God we live in America." Wait a minute! Is that the same America where Oprah herself had a horrible childhood and was raped by a relative during the years when she was 9 to 14 years old? The link below is about the women that she showed including the saudi woman. http://www2.oprah.com/tows/slide/200504/20050425/slide_20050425_101.jhtml

looool@ the last guy.kix kix

This is so heartbreaking

As a child, I used to dream about becoming.... dont laugh.... A SCUBA DIVER !! aaah^^ beautiful I´m now working at a laboratory so, it´s not even close to my dream

Originally posted by Dabshid: Anyone of them planning to withdraw troops from occupied Iraq? Ron paul http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z_gKOCb4QBA

I just watched this. This is the only guy that makes sense!!RON PAUL. http://au.youtube.com/watch?v=herUw6FX4MI&feature=related