underdog Somalis are not the only people who chew khad the Yemenis are facing a similar problem. Somalis everywhere plus Yemenis I'm not mathematician but that is a big number. If you live an isolated place with few or no somalis around its hard for you to take in this since you never seen the affect nor the increasing number of chewers. come to the UK and you'll see what we're talking about here.

Originally posted by *Blessed: quote:Originally posted by Ma'wa: I wasn't generalizing I was talking about the ones I came across who had everything going for them which made me wonder if the wife had something to do with their success. Err. Perhaps, she married him because of his success? These men didn't have all the formula for success priory to marriage either Missy used her magical wand or they realised the need to change either way marriage was the cause for the transformation.

why are you misspelling my name, if there is one thing i can't stand it's people who misspell/mispronounce names. if you're doing it to annoy me congratulations you've won. I wasn't generalizing I was talking about the ones I came across who had everything going for them which made me wonder if the wife had something to do with their success. Originally posted by umu zakaria: Iam married to a somali man and never in my life before and after marriage have i thought of marrying foreigner not that i have anything against those other brothers in islam, but i found my love from within and alxamdulilaah it gets more blessed by the day. Originally posted by umu zakaria: Iam also tired abt all these somali lacking this, somali men lacking that. yes they r far from perfect and may not be the best husbands but they r the best fathers atleast to me :cool: One minute you telling the world how you found your love but the second comment you're saying he's just a good father and nothing more than that is that why you seeking a second wife for him in the hope things will change. You need to attend a marriage counselling sessions ASAP, you've got so many issues to deal with. what's with the continous double standard and contradiction who are you trying to impress abaayo its ok to be different, a pat on your shoulder and wow comment from the opposite gender isn't going to make you popular. we're not in high school no need to seek for approval.

Originally posted by underdog: I doubt khat will be banned for a very simple reason: There is no scientific proof to suggest that it is hazardous to health. In addition to that khat does not impair user to a degree that they become unaware for their activities. Why don't you pay quick visit to marfashka with your digital camcorder and record khad chewers' behaviour when they're high. You don't need a scientific proof or an expert to tell you how khad is destroying the lives of millions of people throughout the world.

Originally posted by *Pujah*: Ban jaad in the UK, the price goes up to 50 pound and all the addicts still consume it just the same. What did that solve except criminalize it. to get that 50 pounds means they would have to earn it so if anything else fails they'd atleast secure a job. miracles don't happen over night give them some time and they might quit khaad althogether because of the prize.

Originally posted by xiinfaniin: I am sure some of us are involved in worthy causes; education, sponsoring orphans, digging wells, providing health services to the needy, participating awareness campaigns about AIDS, and other productive efforts. These are agreeable and valuable efforts. But the reality (the need) that necessitated simple individuals to take up these initiatives is more worthy a cause! It’s the collapse of Somali republic a republic that never had a good leader since its inception that emboldened our enemy and encouraged those amongst us with bad impulses to lead! The challenge, as I see it, is to get this shield back so our people can feel secure within their borders… Who can get us that back? I find all the players badly ill equipped for that task! Not because they don’t try. They do. But simply because they lack realistic goals and strategy! Aboowe forget about other stuff i'm more interested to know those projects that you're involved. tell me more i want to get involve too our people need us more now than ever. A penny spend on a close relative in this case somali is better than that which is send to other muslims. although both cases a reward is guaranteed Insha-Allah.

as for the rest of you, you need to enrol in an anger management class, i feel your negative energy is flooding around bisinka take it easy. actually some people understood the topic better than others. is not about somali men in general its about the practsing brothers and whether or not we have enough to accomadate the need for the growing market.

Originally posted by umu zakaria: Almuminah what I call desperate is not the effort these girls put to get married from other races, that is ok becouse i dont decide whom they should but..... what I call desperate is bashing and insulting all somali men in the process. really :eek: Would you mind explaining your previous comment: Originally posted by umu zakaria: That despearate. Going to local mosque to look for men from other races whom they dont even know yet? I expected better from somali woman. Now i can understand why pple like modesty n da'wa r ranting against somali men. Ps.I wish ladies could be fair with their expectations and admit that we too have our owm shot comings. Iam married to a somali man and never in my life before and after marriage have i thought of marrying foreigner not that i have anything against those other brothers in islam, but i found my love from within and alxamdulilaah it gets more blessed by the day. I was talking about the type of girls who practise the deen and perfer someone they think could measure up to their expectations (not the half tradition half deen that sort of brothers, but wadaad to the core. If you disapprove of their choice thats your problem and by the way i never said anything bad about somali men, infact if you read the second paragraph you will see i was more leaning towards them and asking if we're expecting too much from them but anyway next time make sure you read and re-read if you have to before you jump on someone's throat. One last thing why would anyone want to wreck someone else's home by marrying a married man. think about it if a man has a wife and a child/children and he somewhat suffers from mid-life crisis syndrome do you think wife number 2 can provide him what the first wife couldn't. Maybe in the honeymoon period things may seem to look fine but once they pass that or if they're lucky when the first child comes into the picture he'd properly regret his decision and divorce her without a second thought. by then first wife has lost the respect she had for hubby and may insist divorce. so you see its unwise to settle for a married man. PS you're married right so I'm assuming you're one of those raaliyo type my advice to you is be careful what you wish for

This guy is really funny.

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Thanks for sharing this wonderful conversion I love brother Khalid Yasin he's very humble and funny. check these two converts/reverts they are really funny. Part 1 part 2

so many somali girls are going for converts/reverts for marriage these days do you think somali men are lagging behind. some of these girls are practising and they find reverts to be compatible in every way or so it seems. Are we giving up somali men just because they don't live upto our expectations? most of the sucessful or good looking men i came to know are married men so is it not possible that their wives had alot to do with their success. shouldn't we also respect our sisters who choose to go for non somalis I know some people would rather critise and make them look bad but, its their lives and who knows they might be better off with non somalis. what do you think?

We've got more pressing issues to deal with as a community and all you come up with is this i'm a bit dissapointed in you. by the way its ok for you to go for non somalis you dont have to have an excuse just go easy on somali men. Do you think we're cursed as people I'm begining to think that. No place to call home, no people to be proud of i'm talking about the majority here Ya Allah forgive us for whatever wrong we have done and make us the strong nation we once were.

Blaming others is the somali style isn't it why cant we for once take responsibility for our actions. The somali youth get themselves into all sorts from selling drugs to armed robbery and murder and you expect the police to stand back and do nothing just because we're somali, the only sad thing is the good citizens like you and I will properly get caught in the middle. Its easy to shift the blame to someone else but, that doesn't solve the problem. every one of us is capable of doing something for the our community but we often choose not to so when things start to go wrong we have the guts to point the finger to others very hypicritcal of us dont you think. :rolleyes:

May Allah make your new year resolutions easy to achieve them. I hope its not all talk as it is for most people, remember Allah helps those who help themselves so put 100% effort and Insha-Allah one day you'll reap the fruit of your hard labour. Good luck with Number 9, each step on the way you'll get reward Insha-Allah. amiin to the dua.