QL"In your present and/or past relationships, are you the one who wears the pants? Have you been consistent in your relationships to date, or does your partner’s personality influence your behavior? Does wearing the pants equate to sexual dominance in the bedroom? Are you the type who likes to sit on the fence, or the one who falls into the “yes dear/whatever you want to do” variety? Do you harbour silent frustrations at your partner’s indecisiveness or control? Either way, are you content with who wears the pants in your relationship? Your thoughts…" In a past relationship , yes definetly I wore the pants,and it was frustrating to be the decision maker,provider,entertainer etc I didnt harbour any recentment,I was very bold with them..perhaps why the poor faraax buried himself at the maafrish..AHA! thanks that was an AHA moment, just there. better go lick my wounds now..

Shehe, lord!! you remind me of my mother, the woman can be brutally honest.. Paragon,dude your hilarious! Xanthus,sis have you got your own advice site,you could be very useful to many women..."Women Empowerment",waxaad tirii she ditch the geezer..lol - Me too. Zahir, I trully respect myself enough to get into petty fights,it will really be degrading for me to be involve in any way. For my friend, I wish her luck...as she was fictional!!

Ofcourse not ME, but where is this state? How do we acquire a STATE without the bondages of tribalism? Shall we start with ourselves in here, especially in the politic forum..men and their ancestral names!! kalee garoo wexee faidaa kuleeyn

I know the tittle is cheesy, heck am supposed to be working ,and couldnt come with an origional. Last weekend,my dear friend found out her hubby had been cheating with XXXXXXX.My friend was obviously very upset,but what was suprising was that she was furious at the other woman more than her hubby. I couldnt understand her way of thinking,and couldnt tell her that,as I made a vow not to ever interfer with friends/relatives love lives. I dropped hints here and there,tried to come up with theories, known cases..etc etc, nothing worked the woman was ademant it was the other womans fault and they [our women] had been trying very hard to steal her husband...oh please the faraax is so annoying anyway..lol Is she right in think so, my opinion is and was she should have been absolute furious with him..The other woman got seduced just like she was by him..so the blame should have been on him. This weekend we have a party at my local town, and I am not going with her, because I know she would start a fight...and am not one to participate in brawls. What ya all think?

Xanthus, you can imagine the gelbiis he is in now,after returning to his homeland with all his 12 kids in the west...dee waxaan kuleyaa odaygii walaa gelbiyaa habeen iyo maalin..lol [hope my somali make sense- got complex being a 4th generation born out side somalia..]

Abdi, you think so?? Oh boy, got much to learn dear..lol Jacaylbaro, its not only old fashioned, its the male ego speaking..lol

So very true, Jacaylbaro!! If it werent for men,we would have peace and bliss!!

^^^true

Loool Xanthus, I seriously, am doing alot of soul searching, it seems thats all I do, does it mean am getting older? heck!! am still spring chicken...lol Lool @bam chicka wow wow factor!!

^^^^Good for you Zahir. My poor father was brought up far from his tribemen, so in the late 70's during a severe draught most of his tribesmen found their way , all the way to the east african rift valleys.Where by then my father was a very established business man, and ofcourse they used the munipulative inaa adeer crap on him, and poor him bought it in droves.After milking him almost dry, the unfortunate happened to my father he become ill, and ofcourse his businesses suffered great deal, we his children were young and couldnt help much. My father lost his wealth, and guess what the so called inaa adeers did, they turned around and called him "Mid isheegayaa" inuu reer heblaa kudashee. Thats what my qabiil did for me!

Bob, it seems we do have alot in common...My daugher teases me for being too indian..lol, I spent most of my childhood with Anita timaa deer,playing badminton, reading mill& boon and eating penda[ indian sweets].Thats after I overgrew the climbing of walls to steat fruits, which was just being naughty as our back yard had pleanty of fruit trees. We did the evening walks, lol, more like checking out the guys playing cricket/basket ball at the gymkhana club.. thanks again for reminding me of what it was like once upon a time..

^^^I thought this was a discussion about qabiilism...when did it turn to afsomali tutorial session...lol Anyways! I can’t stand the non individualism in tribalism mentality, one achieves and its automatic a clan achievement, hell the clan wasn’t there when one was struggling with fees, living cost etc...Lol. One kills, his innocent relatives pays the price...How is this justifiable is a mystery to me. I know of a guy killed as soon as he got of a plane from the west, because his cousin killed someone from another qabiil.This poor man and his family had to endure such an act just because he happened to be related to the killer? How do we entertain such acts of savagery, I am still mystified… I am for eradicating this back ward mentality, can’t stand this otherness, why be so fearful or suspicious of others all the time. We know we have committed crimes against each other in the name of ancestral name, what had we gained, nothing but more fear! To fight a conflict of this nature is only by cultivating security in individuals and in the nation. Don’t ask me how, at this point…I got no clue where one would start..lol :confused:

Looooooooooool...Ouch for the guy..lol

Loool clever woman wallahi, thats called high expectation Dab, not gold digging..Lol

I think there is something peculiar about Somalis. I work in a comprehensive secondary school with a population of 1400 pupils and 500 of those pupils are from Minority groups.. guess who are the most popular one, who is the most talked about group...Yep! The Somalis.Every fight that happens on the campus, always there is a little faraax involved, statics of permanently excluded pupils of minority ethnic, yep, the little faraaxs lead the way.. Outside the school they are well known to the local police, with reputation of gangsterism et And these are kids born or bred in the west, iskaa daa these whom have just joined us from Somalia. So what is it with us?

Inaa lillah wa inaa ilaahi raajicuun. ^^^Amiin

I select Mogadishu[From my aunties tales of the this once beautiful city-How they can never forget their experience working and living in Mogadishu. Berbera: My ancestral home, We got some land by the sea front.. planning hotel development..Inshaallah Lascanood: My other ancestral home, One day hopping to have a ranch[bred horse's]and keep cattle..yep cowboys in LA! Anywhere there is sea, sand ...and blue skies is beautiful to me.

I loved the title, From Dodoma with Love, couldnt imagine anything lovely came from Dodoma..lol [just kidding]!! Bob your story trigger memories of childhood in Africa.How much time I spent swimming in the rivers,climbing over neighbours walls to gather fruits from their mango groves and guava trees..How we used to be chased by dogs...aah innocent childhood..I must have been 15 when I stopped doing all that..lol You guys must have spent hours catching up on the past,I do,whenever I meet my childhood friends..memories of our wonderful childhood comes flowing back.

Sorry Bob for the delay in responding to your question..I hadnt visited this thread since I posted. I should rephrase my comments,I meant my collugues here in UK whom are S.African's.But I have family in former Rhodesia,aka Zimbabwe.

Its very obvious how a man should be treated, like a child!! Apparently the only way they can function is if their male egos get pampered..aaaw!! I expect my hubby to treat me as I treat him..no extra sugar coating for him and salt for me...nah!!equality all the way.

Its very obvious how a man should be treated, like a child!! Apparently the only way they can function is if their male egos get pampered..aaaw!! I expect my hubby to treat me as I treat him..no extra sugar coating for him and salt for me...nah!!equality all the way.

Its very obvious how a man should be treated, like a child!! Apparently the only way they can function is if their male egos get pampered..aaaw!! I expect my hubby to treat me as I treat him..no extra sugar coating for him and salt for me...nah!!equality all the way.

Chubaka, Couldnt you have applied for leave of absence,and had done so in weeks notice, so the school can organise cover for you if in need to. She will probably have a quite word with you if you had more than your fair share of sickies this year.In order to also secure a good reference from her you will need to improve your attendance,this is one of the vital information any new employer would ask your referee. So my two pence of advice is dont risk it, am sure you can say good bye to your mum the night before...unfortunately as adults we do have committed our selves to our jobs as well as our families..

Yaab-Yaabkiisa, Dont tell me you were the dude with the safari suit and a base ball hat on.. looking all puzzled..lol

I believe we do have an issue with intergration, after generations of my family living in a certain part of S Africa, we never intergrated with the locals..We do have a superiority complex over other Africans, this is another topic on its own,but on the view of joining the other African nations in terms of economic,arent we already running million dollar business's in East,South African countries?? I think its about time we ditch the Arab league notion and embrace our African heritage,and intergrate...which will come with its cost.