^^^Lol,nice try!! You make the dude sound like a dummy,wasnt he the one that made the decision to cheat[assuming they were in contact prior to the marriage], Second he didnt inform his wife of 18yrs his decision to marry another women,that shows he is gutless..Third,the other xalimo already got him,he went volunteerly!! Its not about the MINYARO, its about the man,his disrespect,thoughtlessness and sheer audicity to impose such a situation to his wife of 18yrs! Oh well, its life!

^^Lol,you have it easy so mahaa Jacaylbaro..

I havent experience anything in that scale,but had been involved in dealing with cases like Malik's.I would never forget the look on the eyes of 15yr old african boy,after he was chased,and beaten up by a gang of 25 white boys after school..His eyes will haunt me forever,subhanaallah! He was beyond himself with fear,anger,disappointment,hurt and all I could do was comfort him..I could not do anything!!The police,came and all they did was take statements,but if the shoe was on the other side,there would have been arrests, any black boy would have been a suspect. Honestly I dont have faith in any authority when it comes to dealing with racism. I think as an adult, one learns to deal and avoid situations,but for the children it is a tough world out there.

Originally posted by Nur: Dahia sis Taking someone for granted is the first crack on the wall of a household, this Halimo's concern, compaably benign to your example, is indeed an alarming whistle to maintain an othewise existing good relationship. Pleasing an existing wife is far more cheaper than risking a divorce and the emotional and financial cost of her replacement. This particulat person works full time too, she does not wait around the phone, but she does not get calls neither at work nor at home, and when she calls and leaves a message, he is forgetful always. What is more valueable than family? Nur Salaam aleykum brother Nur, I hear her concern and feel her anxiety, I trully have empathy for her,but..Had she expressed these feelings to her husband? and what was his reaction? If she,expresses her feelings toward his neglectful actions of not calling while at work or on business,in a constructive manner,without making him feel like he is doing something wrong.He is probably clueless on her feelings,and not know the seriousness of the situation.She needs to creat an opportunity,where she can confront him on his actions.But divorce is a huge step to take,for a reason that can be solved with open communication. Inshaallah,all will be Khery!

Oh, a poor woman was recently been informed by her, 17[sell out] of a daughter that daddy has taken another wife, as he was returning back from Somalia..You would expect this woman to throw a tantrum,nah she actully went to the saloon ,did her hair,did the qataab and wore her fav dircaa and awaited for his return...! raliyaa or in denial? all in all, there are some very nice,kind women out there..Lol

^^Lol A friend used to work in Saudi, in one of the palaces,as a nurse.She says, when examining the women they would insist you wear cotton gloves,because they dont want to be touched by the nurse..bisinkaa, alla kibiir badhaana! Slavery is still alive and kicking in many countries,other human beings still believe another human being is a less of a person..subhanallah! If they follow the guidelines of the sunnah of the Prophet[saw] on how to treat your servant they would understand the responsibilities that lies with having hired help..It sure isnt a simple thing to have servants..its a luxury with consequencies.

Originally posted by Jimcaale: Islaantu caadi maba aha. Lily, Ifraax is liberated open-minded kind of girl for the twenty first century. Lol@ liberated and open mindness of Ifraax, why bother to share a house with a man that isnt your husband? corruption!! Is this true,I heard in the era's gone, if a girl in miyi liked a guy,she just takes her tooth brush, comb and sits near the xeeradaa reerkuu leyiin, , wilkaa reerkodhaa...the elders will ask the boys in the family whom she is there for,the one that knows she has the hots for, comes forward ..they wed the love birds...is this true?

^^^^Lol, alla bisinkaa!!

Dabshid, we need to find you a wife..!

^^^Do you mean spiritual? In our local town,where there isnt a mosque we have hired a hall for the whole of ramadhan for salaati jumcaa and taraweeh, but also this year we will be having aftaar together..the whole local islamic ummah eating aftaar, together every friday,saturday and sunday..this will be trully an amazing experience, as our Islamic ummah consists of many nations.[Oh yeah ,am thinking of all the variety of food too, oh am a mere human..Lol]

Nur, tell your family friend she needs to count her blessing, this is a minor thing compare to those abuse and neglected wives,even when the husband is in sight. As for her getting bored around the house, she can volunteer, the local madrassas[assuming there is one near her]is crying out for volunteers. I agree with Yoniz, some men feel underpressure if they constant have to report back home...as long as there isnt anything to worry tell the girl to find what fulfils her..

Alhamdulillah, yet another year! praises to Allah! The month of Ramadhan kareem is very dear to Allah[sWT].It is the most august of all months,pure,generous and merciful..We should not let its nights go waste in slumber,nor its days in careless omission or loss of remembrance of Allah! Subhanallah, the joy of ramadhaan can not be expressed in writing,I miss fasting in an Islamic country, i get homesick during ramadhan despite being here for so long.

That is one modern Hoyo,the old traditional hoyo's would have had a fit...with form coming out of her mouth, if she ever finds her beloved little faraax with a xalimo, sharing a house, how dare this xalimo corrupt my little faraax , she would rant!

^^^Lol Hadee waruntisii,the noise level would be excruciating for those on the ground so close..[me think!]

Yep there is a cross on the camel's behind,but waryahee "me" adii maxaa waxaasii kutusee..Lol You must have been having a staring competation with the pc..Lol

Northerner,its all about"show me the money", when it comes to selling the country,its beyond qabiil,dont you see that in Dubai,where the fat cats resides..,when it comes to deals,they all have each others back,but ofcourse fool the peasants,sell them some crappy qabiil ideology while you rob them blind..

This is tragic,beyond any sense,walle we have crossed boundries of sanity long time ago,what is happening in Somalia is senseless,utter senseless! I am sick and tired of this nonsenses,baal ragaan yaa nagaa qabta! you men,with your bollocks! :mad: :mad: Inaa ilahii wainaa rajcuun!,may allah rest their souls in peace..amiin

Iman Abdulmajid!

^^Oh why dont you take the faraax to the gym, I bet he would look 100% better then soon to be wrinkled Brad..Lol ps.The brother on your signature looks darn hotter then Brad Pitt..or could it be the uniform,the rugged look...hmm anyhow!

^^^Walle your hilarious,shall I say you got an old soul,hence the confusion with the bag boy!!

Originally posted by Faarax-Brown: quote:Originally posted by *BOB: Overrated, Overhyped and DEFINITELY overpaid! Peace, Love & Unity. why do you think he is the only player in the world that is overhyped? wat makes him so special? luck? There is nothing called luck in the world of business,he is the selected one! did you know he is a jew?, he probably is making someone alot of money too..my theory!

Originally posted by Nephthys: If you were to ask my nieces and nephews what clan they belong to, you would probably get a laugh, a giggle, and smiles, and hopefully "I'm Somali!" Should kids know the answer to such Q?A fellow schoolmate of one of my nieces (a 14 year old) told my niece that she's from "the most feared tribe in Somalia!" [waxaan ahay qabiilka Somalia laga cabsado - it sounds better in Somali L0L.] So question is, should we teach our kids about their tribe as a survival tool, as to not have them seem sambac, too timid or weak amongst their hardcore tribalist peers? I see this among the kids in my school this almost cocky attitude amongst themselves,it sure is disturbing..I always tell them it doesnt make a hoot of a difference what clan you come from to being a good decent human being. I think this issue need to be addressed, adults with their own complex issues brainwashing young children should actually be jailed[my opinion]..its child abuse in its own form...why blacken a heart of a pure soul? for what? so they can have a sense of false confidence? why not teach them to be better people, those whom fear Allah and have mercy for others? If its a family tree, then they should be taught that its rare to find a somali that was born from only one clan..most of us are enmeshed of many clans..why not my mother's father and great grandfather on my maternal side..surely their blood runs through my veins too! argh :mad:

Originally posted by Zenobia: Great Minds Discuss Ideas; Average Minds Discuss Events; Small Minds Discuss People. Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeehaaaaaaaaaaaa!!, baal usheeg, what's her jacket and hair got to do with anything FGM, the seriousness of the issue is beyond Ms Dirie!

^^^ This is my two cent of opinion and observation on the issue.. There is a real problem with boys in general across all communities, and nobody seems to know what to do with them. With the demise of the traditional model of the male breadwinner, in regular work, bringing home a ‘family wage’ , the old incentives to become a respectable, working man – status, pride, security- are collapsing. Most raised in single parent household with lack of male role models. They are faced with uncertainty within their day to day living .Being in school isn’t the same as it used to be, it can be quite an intimidating place. So what is there left but to turn to lawlessness, aggressive culture of masculinity. Unfortunately through this culture, boys often prove themselves men through criminal rather then work activities. So the task is re evaluating how we raise our boys taking into account all the challenges they encounter in a foreign environment with its alien culture, plus the core reality of the fragmented home culture, were the core values aren’t instilled. Also how they are educated, statically boys are underachieving in schools this too contributes to “I don’t care attitude”. Despite all this the education authorities are now shifting their focus from Black boy’s underachievement and focusing on white working class hooded boys. In recent training session, the topic was how to tackle the hood culture which consists mainly of white boys and girls. So our children are not on the agenda anymore. Despite having so many Somali organisations, very few actually reach out to the youngsters. There are few Somali outreach workers, career advisers, counsellors, Youth workers etc, these are desperately needed. As for the role models, kudos to people like Raghe Omar, Waris Diriye and many others...There ought to be a light at the end of the tunnel for our youngesters..

Originally posted by peacenow: He was known for liking young men and getting buggered by them and after a few of them, he got the bullet, as one would. Anyone who knew him would vouch for that. Sad to blow away your cherished thrid world freedom fighter tosh image away, he was anything but a good man. He died a failure. He was a filth bag. His prostidude wife holed up in a apartment in Paris. Showered with Chanel while his people starve. Typical how everyone goes to Paris to die these days. Oh my dear Lord, when writing this you must have been high on something Peacenow….its clear you cant distinguish a difference between political life and personal life of any leader and acknowledge the work done by Arafat for his nation and people. It is sad that you bought into the propaganda..but again, its Arab affairs, this is where you go blind. In which sense do you want peace now!!! Arafat was a mere human being, that comes with its flaws. Arafat never manifested personal weakness or love of luxuries. The reality is the death of Arafat has removed an easy excuse and simplistic explanation from the arsenal of Israel Propaganda just like Hajj Amin Husseini before him. The united States and Israel will have to find another Palestinian to blame and hold responsible for all Palestinian political violence. It is easier for People to blame one man for Palestinian violence than blame what Zionism and Israel have inflicted upon the Palestinian people. The Palestinian political arena is one that is so complex but yet some how very transparent, it is certain that no one man or woman whom will emerge as the sole undisputed Palestinian leader in the near future, all its potential successors have been killed. A few other possible successors have been either undermined by the Israeli and American preferences for them…Its very clear, Palestinian people are under political, social and economical oppression and also being played as puppet by Israel and USA. As for Arafat, may Allah rest his soul in peace…Amiin As for the Palestinian people , may Allah ease their struggles, may they unite against the forces of evil that lingers upon them, may they learn to stand together and fight for their rights..Amiin