Subhax khery yaa Che,the rolling eyes are for all men and their theory on "she threw herself at me scenerio" Now CL,you just shattered my new found trust on men..Lol

Lol,..CL is this a case of "huku ataka huku ataka ankula huu" Men!!.. :rolleyes:

^Okay hon,will ease off the women But hunno that kinda of dysfunctional way of dealing with issues in the marriage is tough on the kids. Imagine the trauma that those children go through every time she throws that baac madoow out along with him,the shouting,taunting..its unsettling for the children.But will call him back when she wants a babysitter to go to a wedding,or his pay day is approaching..hunno,I just find the whole thing a tad bit nausiating.

CL..Lol,did they scare you? Honestly they give it all,but once you get to know them they are kittens,desparate for someone to nurture /guide them. The most effective way to reach out is to be a volunteer in schools.Nothing beats that feeling of seeing a troubled young man change his ways and embracing his future.There is a great demand for interventions are in schools,that is where you can do the most.You become an advocate for them,the voice that stands for their rights,their needs etc.A helping hand that stirs them to the right path by counselling,advicing etc.

There is a civil way to dealing with misunderstandings,if the man is violent then ofcourse he deserves nothing else but to be treated as garbage.But if its the usual maritial challenges its degrading to threat the father of your children,the man that you have accepted as worthy of you in the first place as garbage.. The baac madoow,is demeaning and Somali men shouldnt accept such a treatment by coming back again and again..its nauseating wallahi! I find the annoucement about her husband the women make to the whole world quite offensive and very ****** because only a week later she calls him back..honestly these are signs of lack of self respect and self esteem. :mad:

Lol..Lily your right we have been focusing on the negative far to much of lately.There is definetly some positive and goodness in us. CL,I know some women do have these many children as a means to obtain more benefits as they see no other means of supporting themselves and their families back home,which ofcourse creates a catch 22,a vicious circle of dependancy all round.

Ghanima did you receive that 3am phone call.. There is nothing wrong with extending a helping hand to your extended family in time of need. But with remittances there is a negative fact attached with that especially for the young people, when the money sent is not used for investment nor is it saved but instead is used for phone calls, cell phones, unnecessary luxury goods and unrealistic lifestyle for people living in a non existence economy that bothers me. I am sure there must be small business that can be run to generate income. For example selling Ice, baking bread to sell, a small chicken farms to sell eggs, opening up a tailor shop all these small business would have generated some sort of economy . A remittance in theory is easy money by those receiving them and is mostly treated as allowances and thus many have little incentive to work, again hindering economic development. I hear even sweeping brooms are imported from abroad in Somalia, with a work force coming across from Ethiopia and Djibouti how do we expect self reliance. Although this phenomenon is not inevitable, however I am in support of when a group sends a collective remittance to their home communities and the fund is used for a variety of investments, such as building schools, mosques, dealing with local emergencies such as when a displacements of people occurs e.g currently in Mogadishu and other places. Ah well, will still be sending that money, even thought I know my cousin has married a second wife and has darn better looking cell phone then mine.

@Ghanima,Please share the money making scheme,the over draft is getting ridiculous out of hand. Lily,you were just being humane,dont worry the sin lays with her now. Ngonge,it explains alot.

@ 15yr old virgin..alla! kadaa wilka!

@Ghanima,am good hon..Nice to see you here,that goes to Ms DD too!

^^Exams?

^Is there a Somali politician that is cleaner then clean in this day and age? Let me re phase that are there true politician's in the Somali politics? Why are we going backward to the 15th century,why does the president have to be of a certain clan or area..surely we want someone that can do the job regardless of his ancestral lineage. Can a Somali born outside Somalia given a chance to lead?

Parenting is one hell of a task to undertake,one is responsible to teach,nurture and fend for their children until off age.So these 16-50yr olds that seem to be lost didnt just wake up one day and decided to be what they are,along the line somewhere someone let them down. I believe re educating the community in parenting skills is essential.Parents need to understand what it would take for their children to be sucessful in life. One of a greater crime a parent can commit against his/her own child is never to teach the child responsibility.A basic household chores are a great tool for teaching children responsibilities,they are responsible for making sure dishes are washed,food is cooked.Allowing your child to be a productive member of the household isnt an act of abuse but one that your child will one day be thankful for.Giving your child responsibilities to take part in budgeting,planning for the future of the family give the child a greater insight into reality. I am grateful for my mother's tough love policies she had on all of us,it didnt matter if you were a boy or a girl.By certain age you had a responsibility in the home and you better had taken it.By the age of 15 she made sure we understood what it took for us to have all the luxury we had,she made us work in her hotels..I owe her big time,through those lessons in her household one had been able to cope,survive and sucessed in living a productive life. Ofcourse for the case in the west,the more children you have the more welfare benefit you reap,unfortunately nothing comes for free in life along the line your bond to loose.

^^

Madrassa was scary,we had to attend the only Somali madrassa in our area,the macaalin was merciless.I hated going there,so I spent most of my dugsi going years wondering into embassies collecting literature on then most communist countries embassies represented in TZ.I gazed into horrific images of the war in Iran& Iraq..China and its colourful pictures,chubby cheeked children in red..aah! I got away from being whooped as my mother used to donate rice/flour/oil etc to the macaalin and his co workers..

Darn,that is one scary woman,she must have hated his so so much.

Ha Ha Ha..@Ngonge your first post was cute,aaah..Lol:D I liked J11.response..

Indeed it worries me sometimes as I get more reclusive due to supposedly busy schedules which at the end still leaves one feeling empty and lonely..but ofcourse you numb those feelings by indulging on couple of hours of TV,Internet etc.. A sister I know [may Allah rest her soul]passed away last year in similar circumstances.Her neighbour reported her missing after not seeing her come in and out of her apartment for a week.He knocked and there was no reply but the tv was on.She used to say hello to him as he was the only other Black living in that apartment complex.What was sad was she had family and friends whom didnt physically go and look for her after her not returning their calls.They just assumed she is within her episodes,mood swings as she was someone battling the western disease of "depression".

^^ I praise the Kenya media for refusing to broadcast any politicians speeches as they are just adding fuel to the already burning fire in peoples minds and hearts...

^^Lol,yeah right. I dont think anyone tell Ghanima what to do,the girl is a tough cookie!

CL,hiyo stori ni ya kuwatisha wasonjo.. Jac,unamtaka nani?

Today,Ghanima has been in my thoughts,where are you girl?

Bob,vipi tena hebu lani shetani..

Oh my,thank you all for your birthday wishes,I had a fine and joyful day yesterday.I kept on smilling and laughing,it freaked my daughter..Lol.Could it have been just am in shock am this old now..hmm perhaps! Thanks Jac,I am touched... I enjoyed the attention[the attention seeker I am] and did actually reflect alot of how good my life has been so far and counted my blessings..Alhamdulillah! To all of you,best of everything

Oh why,thank you Cadaan! You remembered. Actually am celebrating my real birth day today,darn where have the years gone..I hate growing "older" nothing much to look forward to,the excitment of being 15,18,21,25,...are gone now embarking on being elderly isnt cool.But Alhamdulillah!