Actually Lady Amity, Islamically a marriage is considered as completing half of your "diin". Thats how highly regarded it is... not a must... just a really big part of being a muslim. Jasmine, I dont know how you can consider marriage an added responsibility and yet want to have kids...since the only responsibility in a marriage are the little fellaz . Personally, I like the idea of having a partner who is understanding and we easily get along. I figure I gotta live somewhere..whether with my parents and siblings, a girlfriend or alone.. so why not with some1 who's company I enjoy and makes my life easier and more meaningful? Its the idea of kids that just screams 'responsibility', and just like you - I cant picture myself being that responsible any time soon. There is a saying that goes 'the decision to have kids is momentous, its to have your heart go walking outside of your body all your life'... now thats mortifying!

^^ Precisely my point.... double standards :rolleyes:

ATHENS, Greece (AP) -- Robina Muqimyar wore a T-shirt and long green track pants for the biggest race of her life. Approaching the 100-meter starting line, she waved and smiled when introduced to the cheering crowd. After a few moments, the gun went off and she ran as hard as she could, finishing in 14.14 seconds, the second-slowest time of 63 competitors. Muqimyar raised her arms in triumph. It was her time to celebrate. Just four years ago, the thought of Muqimyar running seemed laughable in Taliban-controlled Afghanistan. But on Friday, she was joined on the 100-meter world stage by women from several other Islamic countries, all making strides toward the universal acceptance of female athletes. ``I hope I can open the way for the Afghan women,'' the 18-year-old Muqimyar said through a translator. ``And this was the first, I am very happy for that.'' None of the women had blazing times. It was their simple presence that mattered. Danah Al Nasrallah of Kuwait, a 16-year-old who wears braces, stands 4-feet-11 and weighs 99 pounds, became the first woman to represent her conservative Muslim country. She finished in 13.92, third to last overall. Of course, that was a national record. Rakia Al Gassra of Bahrain, competing in a head scarf, long sleeves and long track pants, was fifth in her heat in 11.49. Her time almost got her into the quarterfinals -- 11.43 was the cutoff mark. Alla Jassim of Iraq, also 18, finished last in her heat but 52nd overall in 12.70. She is the only woman in the Iraqi delegation. ``This is a great honor for me to be here,'' said Jassim, who lives in Baghdad with her mother and three brothers. ``I feel I am here representing all the Iraqi people, not just the women. I've had a lot of support from my family and many others to do this.'' Muqimyar and judo competitor Friba Razayee are the first women to represent Afghanistan at the Olympics. Afghanistan was banned in 1999 on the grounds that sports could no longer function under the hardline Taliban regime, which was severely oppressive toward women. Afghanistan was reinstated to international competition last year. It had its first female representative at the world track and field championships in Paris, where Lima Azimi wore long baggy pants and had a hard time using the starting blocks. She posted a time of 18.37 -- a personal best. The International Olympic Committee also told the country that to compete in Athens, women had to be part of the delegation. Muqimyar was one of the first to sign up for the chance to compete at the Olympics, even though there are still many at home who believe women should not participate in sports. ``The majority of the people in Afghanistan do not like Afghan women to run outside with some 20,000 people watching her,'' said 20-year-old Omid Marzban, host of the TV show ``Good Morning Afghanistan.'' ``But she was wearing long trousers that means she did respect her people, even though she did not have a scarf,'' he said. Training in Kabul, Muqimyar didn't have proper running shoes -- Adidas donated some for the games -- and wasn't allowed to run outside or with men. There were bullet holes in her track. It may have been even worse for Jassim of Iraq, who started running in 2003. ``I would have trained five to six times a week, but because of the bombs and explosions I often could not,'' she said. Eventually she went to Jordan to train. Muqimyar is confident she will be able to continue her running career, no matter what people think of her at home. ``I'm going to train harder and I hope to have the facilities in Afghanistan,'' she said. ``I will really get ready for the 2008 Olympic Games. I hope I can win a medal, at least a bronze medal.'' She was far from that in her first Olympics, although she did beat Fartun Omar Abukar of Somalia, who during the final 20 meters cut over from lane four to lane one and clocked 14.29. Officials did not disqualify her. ``At least I was ahead of one person,'' Muqimyar said. ``I think I did pretty well. I will never ever forget this moment in my life.'' Source

Kheyr.. I swear your hypocrisy, double standards and sexism is beyond me. I really wish you'd shut your big gob since you almost never have anything good to say with regards to any woman. :mad: . All the guys who run in the olympics have their 'cawra' on display too...with those short form fitting suits. But do you consider this a sign of doom looming? Didnt think so mate.. :rolleyes: The olympics is a show of ATHLETIC talent... only you were paying attention to what people wear. All the rest of the world cares about is the 'talent'..not what you wear, get your head out of the gutter. I really wish to see more somalis in the next one... Good Job on that girl and I wish the boy better luck.

Originally posted by Xoogsade: Laakiin Ninkaaga wuu kugu leeyahay that you be nice and loving towards him. So whatever you do for him, it is an expected thing. I said I'll treat him like he treats me... so if he is loving and nice, So am I. If he is an insensitive creep, I'll make his life a living hell. Q for the guys . *Trying to add fuel to fire*. Which one would you rather have - a 2002 model Toyota Corrolla or a late 80ties Mercedes Benz? .... yeah... I thought so too.

Xoogsade, I'll do no more than he does for me + wuu ku abaal qabi .... Or else 2Nine8Five wrote: LoL, and who can blame them for being in favor of polygamy. With so many YIBSS (Young Intelligent & Beautiful Somali Sisters) they’re spoiled for choice. And what will YIBSS want with used goods running on low fuel?

^^ What makes you think he hasnt already? If he is this bored with one women... I guess a 2nd is justifiable ..

All I see are married men here advocating for polygamy ... that says much about the lot of you.

Originally posted by NGONGE: It’s really not fair that only one woman can brag about being married to me. . Please stop it b4 ma stomach starts to hurt. Talk about blowing your own trumpet

^^ Yeah.. I thought that was far out too. *considers relocating to HK* ... justice indeed

Originally posted by Baashi: 7 of 9, Shukaasni can be fun, legal, and fruitful and it is not as dirt as you seemed to make it. I wonder how this negative connotation with shukaansi came about...care to share with us. I didnt say shukaansi was dirty. It just depends on who's practicing it. Husbands should have the right to exercise polygamy as an option without the permission of their wives. However, I agree that it is a common courtesy to at least consult with their wives prior the act. Husbands may not need the permission to have a second wife but a woman has the RIGHT to know if her husband is dealing with other women. Its not common courtesy to tell her, its blatant cheating if you dont. I'm tired of hearing and reading this inconsiderate and preposterous notion being perpetuated by men. The manner a man approaches his 2nd/3rd/4th woman should absolutely be different from the 1st. P.S A woman can have it written in her pre-nup that she doesn't wish to be in a polygamous relationship and any breach of this contract grants the women instant divorce. No woman should fall victim to reckless search for new nookies by selfish men. On the one hand, you reluctantly concede that institution of polygamy to be valid. On the other hand, you are throwing so many obstacles in the way of exercising this legal option. I didnt... Islam places so many obstacles as u put it, althought merely stipulations. Lets face it, men dont practice polygamy 'cause of circumstances or they wish to benefit any1 else but themselves. They are always preyin on young defenceless girls. I would understand if a man took a relative who's a widow, a divorced woman, a women in a predicament so as to bring about a better change in their lives.... but getting a new younger model when they have had the best of their wives.. N with that, I leave this claptrap you folks nod heads to.

Originally posted by Baashi: Now if you accept polygamy as a valid act then by logical extention you would agree with me that married man can enter their second marriage the same manner they've attained the first one noh? Absolutely positively NOT. Married men cannot and shouldn't act in a manner a single man would. They have responsibilites towards their 1st wife 1st n foremost. Unless she was completely made aware of this intention to look for another women, no eyeing of even a single woman, let alone shukaansi n da sort. Besides, any women that is being approached should 1st be made aware of the man's marital status. I'm sure not too many will be thrilled As to how you are going to act in a manner accordance to with ur principles...that's fine. But don't you agree that calling " foolxumo" for what other "pious, smart, pettite, confident girls" know is legal and made part of their principles, is uncalled for Mr. There is nothing more disrespectful and disgraceful than a married man hunting for another women behind his 1st wife's back. It shows total disregard for the person and it will make me question his morals. This is foolxumo...not polygamy. P.S quit it wil the pious, petite n underhanded comments. Xoogsade, well said.

^It so happens that ur likes often fall for the guys who are into multiple wivey bizz I can see all the ingredients there... is griirixis iyo annigaa ...and then he is my best friend then he is the best i wish he was single then...whould i mind? I don't know umhhh it depends ...finaly after u put ur cards on the table it would be his call to accept the offer and he might decline Sh*t like that happens u know! Not me walaalo. As long as I've my dignity intact and my sanity in place, I shall conduct myself in a manner in accordance with my principles and that doesn't include entertaining unwanted suiters. Darling, human nature is a force to reckon with and unless u r endowed with "that" inner beauty, self-confidence, and the grace to accept "calaf" and the hand u r dealt, u'll live in rage and "the life is not fair" kinda attitude. True... Mistresses, concubines, and extramarital affairs do exist in this world, no matter of what you think of it these human behavior are here to stay for as long there humans, civilizations have done their best to regulate. In Islam, polygamy is legal provided that u meet the criteria. Now in this context, it is not foolxumo me thinks. So do murders, robberies, rapes etc. Wanna justify these too? :rolleyes: . The fact of the matter is, these actions are plain wrong. If you find it acceptable that married men carry on masquerading as if they were not, thats ur prerogative. However, to me, its purely foolxumo and quite disgraceful. If you re-read my post, i referred to the manner men go about achieving their 2/3/4th wife rather that the institution of polygamy which I do realize is valid. You dont have to be a rocket scientist to realize its inappropriate behaviour.

Seriously people, what businezz has a married man alluring and wooing other women? Ma yar qaab darna? Unless the whole deal was agreed and arranged, are we to accept that our men can keep up the single act and flirt and seduce as many women as allowed despite being married? What would be 'holy' about the whole relationship if it only applies to one partner... Waa foolxumo...

Originally posted by Baashi: I wouldn't be surprised if the "smart young pettite cuties" with the "right mindset" understand that they have that option if their potential husband-to-be dissappoints them Why do I feel like every1 is poking fun at me these days? See Aeryn, you've opened a can of worms! :mad:

Ma inantaada ayaad u quudhi Jumatatu? *nods head* :rolleyes:

^^ I'm gonna loose whats left of my Somali if you keep writing like that. :eek:

I dont think its an ISSUE. We will BOTH get a complete medical, so as to be fair. Its only natural to want to know what you're getting urself into.

Originally posted by Aeryn Sun: Where did you hear that? The local gentlemen's club? Anyway it looks like a good film altho I didnt see the first one, but as usual I have been let down...no-one wants to see it wiv me. :rolleyes: So U do miss me then?

^^ Dont Know. She looked 16-18yrs too. Such a little sweetheart. Maybe DJ was making a bold statement - 'Girl Power'.

Originally posted by Aeryn Sun: Did u see the lone girl holding the flag for Jibouti? Heart-wrenching I tell ya...brought tears to my eyes. Mansha'Allah. I know. Poor Girl. Werent there any other ppl to accompany her in the Entire Country? Such a brave Soul.

^^ Thank you 2 for agreeing and making sense..finally!

^^ Is that SO? And how would YOU know? Did it taste good? :confused:

Originally posted by NGONGE: Waxba ha ii jiisan. Gabadh gaaban en aad tahay waan maqlay..ega liixo yanaan bacdaide jaatka kugo ridin. Dheeridaydu ama gaabnidayda maxaa adiga kaaga jira? :confused: ... Not all so married-n-content eh? ^Johnny? banned? huh! why? Unfortunately thats what happens when you've a tiff with the admin.... * wonders if this is in da Golden Rules :confused: * Johhny B Chick... I dont know who U R... but ur definitely not Johhny B's girl..that place is reserved for NGONGE