Cute conversation :)I asked my husband one morning a year ago how come he doesn't say I love you anymore. He said 'I made you malawax and shaah for breakfast this morning while you were sleep, if that's not saying I love you I don't know what is'. Walaa waa runtaa intaa idhi ayaan curaacdeydii iska cunay. Sometimes words are not necessary.

cho&Hon quote "My question was why people pretend that they can get over someone faster than lightning when it is other people’s pain but when it is them, they act different." Cho&Ho, Somalidu waxay tidhahdaa "habar fadhida lagdini wax uga fudud". As much as you want to put yourself in that person's shoe, you really can't. Everyone deals with break-ups differently. I myself don't stick around for breakups, cagahaan wax ka dayaa the first sign of trouble. We women have to learn how to Love Smart, never get involved with someone who can potentially hurt you. And don't ever shed a tear for someone(man or woman) who wouldn't cry for you. p.s. "Irreplaceble" by Beyonce should be the breakup anthem for any woman who's going through that.

My friends and I were walking back from school with our dhar jaale uniform. I remember my feet were all dusty and dirty because my mom let me wear dacas that day to school. Anyhow, everyone at our xaafad were outside watching the smoke filling the sky. My mother was going crazy because my brothers didn't get home right away, we found them after and hour. Gather some clothes and went to Madina, lafoole, Kismaayo and never looked back. Alxamdullihal, I didn't loose any immediate family. But I miss home dearly..

Originally posted by Qac Qaac: Glasseyegirl, close born in Madina Hospital.. raised in Hodan near kaase balbalaare, xerta ka soo sokee near the masjid raxmah... Qac..do you mean masjidka Sheikh Cali suufi??? We lived four block(sakado)behind Shalaamada Sh***. Hey do you remember Cali boogle iyo duqii walnaa ee kumi iyo taano la dhihijiray?

Born in cisbitaalka Banaadir and raised in Kasa Balbalaare, near Xartii timaha weynaad.

Ilaahay ha u naxariisto isaga and the other guy...amiin. My condolence to his wife and kids for their lost. Ilaahay ha garab galo.

lol@check Abaaso fuufleh, faraha hala galin Dabadiisa, fùto baciidaas kasoo jadaa Nin iyo qabkiis Nin dheer waxba looma tilmaamo Intii orod jirey, kuftinna waa jirey Balaayo buulkagaa laga galaa Bayac-mustar bur iyo bajiye waaye Car Faruurow ha fooriyo Mukulaal dooliga danteeday u dabataa Abootadaa taag darran ayadoo tabar lahayn aa dadka isku taagtaa.

Qac Qac..inay iska fiirsadaan nooh. What is Soup Operahs with out the fake rehearsed kissings. Originally posted by nafta: Lool GlassyEyeGirl..true said about somali women and soap opera's. Alla maxaa Bold and the Beautiful iyo As The World Turns laga fiirsaday gurigeyga...oona la habaartamay lol@nafta. I call it the love affair between Somali islaamo and Soup Operahs. In high school, iskool markaan ka imaando, i used to say "hooyo maxaa i dhafay maanta in B&B" Naa caabey tacaal, tii Brook aheyd odaygii dumashigaad ahaa bay maanto dhan isku taagaysay, wiilkisana qolka kalay ku shukaaminaysay. loooooool walaahi fixdaas bay iga dhamayaan, you gotta love 'em. But Y&R was our favorite in Toronto, how many years have I tunned in at 4:30..i'm quite embarrased hadaarto

OG_MOTI gabadha ka gambiso nooh adiga, laf dhuun gashaaba ku noqotaye. The kid luckly found the perfect package early. He's one smart kid because he skipped 20yrs of wasting precious time by standing around makhaayado and saying whole lot of nacnac. I just hope he doesn't call her hooyo instead of macaanto.

There is more to life than just having kids. The couples who can't have kids seem to be more gentle and loving towards each other. If the problem were from my future husband's side, I would probably stick with him and look into other alternatives if child is what we both really want. If I were the one with the problem, I would let him have second wife. Why deny him the opportunity to have children of his own with another woman while still being married to me. Waa macalaash. My uncle and his wife had been married for over 25yrs and can't conceive children. I'm not quite sure which one on them is with the problem, but they're as happy as ever. Now they're raising his father’s (who passed away...allahu yarxama) younger kids. The old man was bobbing kids in his 70's, and left his son to take care of them.

Originally posted by Femme_Fatale: What's MUKUR? :confused: Mukur = Mayac, markay nimanka qorfa iyo xawaash iska badiyaan to the point uu kibir iyo nus isku badalo.

How Often do you used these words in your every day somaali, when you are among friends or family. Halis Haraad Hubaal Hami Dhabanaha Dubnaha Fiid Habsaamid Haleelis [/QB] I use about 5/9 of these,but I do know what they all mean. Here are some more interesting words. Lets see if any of you used them daily or even know what they mean. Sarbeeb Shicib Salgaadh Sahan Dufan Tuhun Dacar Dalan baabsi Dharaar Gashaanti

Originally posted by Jacaylbaro: Haye, xabiibi, habeenkii kaama seexdo, hurdo kaama ledo , cadceed soo baxaysaad ii tahay, ubaxeeey, quruxeeey, macaaneeey, biyahaan kaa dhex arkaa, malab soo da'aayaay. Adiga la'aantaa hurdo ma seexdo, dhuuni igama dego, qalbigu iima fadhiyo, maalinta aan ku helo cirkaan ku geyn lahaa, dhulkan kugu soo wareejin lahaa, nolosha ugu heerka saraysaan ku gelin lahaa , waxaad ku noolaan lahayd baraare inta aad nooshahay. Xabiibi waan ku jecelahay, ha iga fogaaan, codkaaga i maqashii, aragtidaadaa ii daran, gacantaadaan u baahnahay ,,, Inta kele idinku ku dara . . . . If only Somali men would say these loving words to their wives in the real world, instead of naa ladabaalo caashaqa.

Why are all the staff member in the conference room and I'm sitting at my desk? Are they talking about me and figured out that I send more time on the net than I do working. Why is every time I try to use my debit card to buy something, I'm afraid it might say declined even though I know I have money in there. Islaamaha Soomaaliyaad maxaa Soup Operayaasha ay ka fiirsadaa inkastoo aaysan aqoon ingriiska. Lakiin Markay arkaan nin iyo naag kissing maxay u yidhahadaa "Naa nacalda naga qabo, gaaladu ilaan ma xishoodan" Hadaysan beentu raad lahayn, why are some people caught in web of lies? Where are the original flight 13's? I wonder if Heaven/Hell got a ghetto. Why do all the cadaan folks share a common smell, even if you go to another country.

Originally posted by STHLM Lady: Diamante , this is for you sis... by the way, beledweyne maad degantahay, if so, fariin baan ayeeydeey kuugu dhiibi lahaa Badda Cas Dhul biyuhu maraano Xareeduna baliga taal Boocamay ku dhalatiyo Dhul barwaaqo ah ood garan Bidhaanteedaan waayo Baadigoob ku waashee Beriga ay ku nooshaa Shimbir buuba igu tiri Barakadoo aan barkadiyo Beesha Gedaan u boogayaa Boqolo soomaan balan ku qaadee Bilaash laguma dhaartee Boqolka soo baxaayey Shan iyo tobnaadeey Baahidaa aan kuu qabo Barniyeey bidhaan araga ha iga tagin Butin dheer bureeqoo Baalasheedii fidisoo Inay buubto bilowdoo Bilciladii ka boodaay Berigaan is baranaa Wadnaha boog ku yeeshee Beerkii bay damqadayoo Boqodoo kuu basaasee ps...there are some texts missing...ill get back to it... Bada cas baan kugaynayaa Biyo janaan kusinayaa Bogayga waan ku saarayaa Boqolo sooman balan ku qaadiyo Bilaahay kuu gu marayaa Buurahan, buurahan jeclaystiyo Baati muuqa...(something, something) Bartankaydiyo Baladweynay ku nooshaa Boqolka soo baxaayey Shan iyo tobnaadeey Baahidaa aan kuu qabo Barniyeey bidhaan araga ha iga tagin weeeey

Two girls: Baydan iyo Barni/Baxsan Two boys : Bila iyo Botaan Girl&Boy: Wacan iyo Waceys Boy&Girl: Warsame iyo Warsan

Like QacQac said, if you know the person's background very well I don't see the need of asking for the test. But, if the person I'm marrying has been around the block, I don't see the problem in asking. It sure is, better to be safe than sorry. Many Somali communaties in the States are encouraging young people who are new comers from Kenya and Ethiopia and getting married to get tested first. Since those part of Africa has higher rates of IADs than the most. Hadaanad Caafimaadkaga adiga ilaalin, cina kuma ilaalinayso.

lol@Shower power. Femme, so this is already happening in NY..cool. I'm thinking of opening Divorce boutiques. One in Rodeo Drive in Beverly hills, and the other one of those Somali malls.

Originally posted by Garab Tuujiye: Glass eye girl (Indho bakeeri)..lol.. Sis walaahi waxaas sad story waaye loomana adkeesan karo..Somalia haduu caruur kusoo dhalo yaa aabo u noqonaayo? islaantaa mise asaga?..walaahi yaab waaye.. wareer badanaa!!! Tuujiye, it's indho dhalo or indho Baliil..lol If that happens, they both be the wives...yikez :mad: Taas waxaaba ka sii daran, these gay dudes are still carrying Muslim names like Mohamed, Abdullaah, Ahmed, etc and say they are still Muslim..inaalilaah. Walaahi aduunyo gadoonkii baa ku jirnaa.

I use to hear about nimoonag iyo labeeb in Somalia, but I've always thought they were men who had feminine tendencies or got in touch with their feminine side (call me naive). But for the first time in my life I can say I've met a gay Somali dude in MN. A friend of a friend, of a friend knows this guy. So, we were uptown few months ago eating at this one place when we saw the gay dude. The friend of the friend said (nayaadha, there goes the qajac Somali guy). He came over and said hello, I felt sorry for him because he looked so lost, misguided and caato iyo jiljilaac. After he left, the friend of the friend told us that he want to have kids someday by a Somali woman. But his plan is to marry one that lives in Somalia, have few kids by her and leave her there...meanwhile he can work and return back to his regularly schedule programs (conducting his homo business) here in the States. Walaa mantag baa ka wareegay. Can you imagine this little qajac khaniis who might be carrying god knows what kinds of diseases going back to Somalia to ruin some poor reer miyi Xaliimo. The thought of it made me wanna write his story in the Somali gossip columns (islaamaha Soomaliyaad aa dariska ah) so everyone would know his dirty little secret….btw, he’s still in the closet. :rolleyes:

Well thank you all for your input, both negative and positive. Maybe celebration was the wrong choice of word for this particular event. I should’ve said gathering or get together. But I don’t believe there is anything wrong with making someone feel better and having family and friends over to cheer that person up, it’s not like we’re celebrating a death of a beloved one. It’s sort of like a support group that will be there for her through the good time and bad, there’s nothing wrong with saying macaanto you’ll be fine insha Allah. And I’m sure sitting around and dogging her ex-husband out will be part of the agenda too…naa kaas fa’ido awalba malaheyna iska dhaaf, you can do better than him…those type pep talks always helps. (kidding). Furitaanka is not the end of the world; it’s natural part of life. Marka you can either feel sad and blue and fall into deeper depression or dust yourself off and say ilaah baa ii maqan oohin iyo baroor waxba iima tarayso. 7&9..It can be therapeutic; having family and friends there to give a person a shoulder to cry on can always speed up the recovery process. Che-Guevan…maxaad tidhi ..too good of a story aa??? What can I say; they had the perfect divorce with no strings attached. ngonge. lol@welcome to London. That happens everywhere maryoolay are at. In Minnesota we had this lady that came from San Jose and she had welcome to MN party. You don’t even have to come from Somalia or another country nowadays. Lakiinsa soo tii makii wadankaanaba la joogay dadka markay magaalo kale ka yimaadan la soo dawaan jiray oo marti qaad loo samaan jiray minus the band? What is the difference? Originally posted by Taqwa: quote: They said it would make her feel like we’re celebrating her failed marriage and put her into a deeper depression. But I really don’t think so. Mansha'allah Your Smart. Celebrating one of the things that Allah dislikes but doesn't forbid. Very smart indeed. Pssst. Hope you pick out the sarcasm in there. Got it Taqwa...very cute. lol@sheb...kilkilodiisa ma halkaas bay ka soo muqataa. Thanks for the input walaashis. I hope, I have not sounded too serious or insensitive toward the issue, but it’s kinda difficult not to be neither, when you don't know your audience. You guys are tough crowd, waa iga cabsiisaan walaahi.

I know you guys are probably thinking what the hell is “divorce showerâ€, but let me explain. In life, most of us celebrate with family and friends important events that happens to us throughout our lives. For example, birth of a child, birthdays, graduations, nikaax or engagements, and weddings…those are very joyous occasions and the need of a celebration is there. So it got me thinking, since 50% of marriages end up in divorce these days and divorce is no longer the most horrible thing that can happen to a person, doesn’t it deserve the same treatment as the happy occasions? Why yes it does. When a person gets divorced, they have new outlook in life, love, and relationships. They know what works for them and what doesn’t. They use their experience (whatever it was) as a guide so they don’t repeat the same mistakes. Basically, divorce can be a second chance to some people. They can learn from their past mistakes and try to correct them, so they can start fresh with someone new, or it can be a guarantee reminder that marriage isn’t for them all together. Now back to the topic. I was thinking of throwing a divorcée shower for a friend of mine who recently got divorced. She’s been married for three years, no kids, and both her and ex-husband agreed that they weren’t the right people for one another. My friend has been kinda bumped about the whole thing for the past 5 months. So I thought, why not cheer the girl up and throw her a party. Get some of our close friends and families together, bring gifts and food and make her feel better about herself. Some of us can chip in a get her an airline ticket to see her mom, gift certificate to her favorite stores, a Spa treatment, and just simple things to boost her confidence. Some of the islaamo can recommend their sons to her and a new hookup can begin. lol When I presented the idea to some of my friends they said it was bad idea. They said it would make her feel like we’re celebrating her failed marriage and put her into a deeper depression. But I really don’t think so. So guys, what do you all think? Do you think it’s good idea to help the poor girl to get back on the horse, or bad idea because it would make matters worse?

SubxanAllah, I couldn't imagine my sister in-laws calling my mother witch, old bag and such a disrespectful names. Walaahi intaan guriga utu tagaan soo rifi lahaa, no joke. S_H,you moved into the woman's house, married her ONLY son, whom she obviously loves dearly; it's only fair she tries to bully you around little. lol Somalida waxay dhahaan "mukulaal minikaada joogto, miciyo libaaxas laadahay" I'm sure mother in-laws can be difficult to deal with, lakiin u dulqaado and have some patience walaal. Don't nitpick and let her behaviors bother you too much, waa qof waayeel ah. I'm sure she only has good intentions at heart for you and her son. But if you continue complaining about her, it will only create frictions between you and your husband, I'm sure he won't abandon his mother for some Xalimo(no offence).

Somali men can want and expect all they want, and wish upon a star on the perfect woman. But are they going to get what they put on their wish list, the jury is still out on that one. I've never really met a Somali man who had the courage or the audacity to said to me, I want a religious, educated, goal oriented, career oriented, who know her culture, language and on top of all that who's going to be a super mom. Dude, I'm just an average Xalimo who's trying to make it on this cold, and cruel world, so you either hop on this ride with me and see where the wind takes us, or cagta wadada saar. I don't think that there is any particular combination of these good qualities men and women look for that are best, since I believe that people come as a complete package and you accept them as such (all the things you like and hope for change for those you don't).

I think it all depends on the situation. If my future husband needs me to work in order to pay some of the bills, than I would work my butt off. But if he's able to take care of us until our children reach a certain age than I would be more than happy to raise the little rascals at home. I would like to have the option though. You don't really have to throw your kids at daycare nowaday(although at daycare, kids learn how to be independent and learn cute songs lol), but you can leave them with relatives or a family members and pay them.