Originally posted by xiinfaniin: Lets give everyone his/her dues: Valentine: 2 points for challenging Xiin but picking the wrong argument. Very kind of you as it's 2 points more than I would give you for your supposedly victorious 'dead-horse-flogging'.

Originally posted by xiinfaniin: quote: Originally posted by Valenteenah: quote: In that sense men are greedier than women There you go. Less of the 'greedy girls' bull then. ^^That’s singularly selective quote---speak to the lack of variety on your part or aayar with the livid response, gabar!Hardly livid. I wasn't much interested in what men are allowed or not. My contention was with how many times you referred to girls who may not like the idea of shacking up with a polygamous man as 'greedy'. It seemed a bit ridiculous, considering.

In that sense men are greedier than women There you go. Less of the 'greedy girls' bull then.

Who is more greedy: The woman who wants her husband to herself, or the man who desires more than one wife at a time? Yeah, I thought as much.

^ Erm, you know, there are men ka hela women who have kids and look like foostooyin. Some of them are even non-polygamous.

^ Oh yeah? So how old is she? 40? 50? 78?

^^ LoL

Welcome.

Hello X You make some good points. I agree with you in terms of the difference between raising children in Somalia and here. But what you haven't taken into account is that there are plenty of stay at home mums who's children grow up alienated from the Somali culture and everything it entails. If I had to make a rough guess, I would say 90% of Somali mums in the UK are stay at home mums and yet everyone sees the huge problems our youth are experiencing. You can be assured that those mums are not having an easy time of it. The younger generations have little respect for our 'beloved culture', whether their mum is a housewife or a working woman. This furore over working women is a waste of time and a distraction from the real problem with Somali families. Whether you like it or not, Somali mothers, working or otherwise, are at least there for their children. The same, I'm afraid, cannot be said for Somali fathers, working or otherwise, and this is what everyone tends to ignore or tip-toe around. The cancer within the Somali community and the real problem with our younger generations has very little to do with working mothers and a lot to do with the lack of good male role models. A mother can teach her children about our beloved culture and values until she is blue in the face, but it doesn't mean those kids will become productive adults with integrity. Mothers are often forced into playing both the mother and father role, but let's face it, however much she tries, she'll never be a father to her kids. Especially if they are boys. Without the constant support and stability of a responsible, emotionally available father figure, the foundations of family life and the fabric of our society will keep unravelling and we'll be churning out more useless faaraxs and xaliimos, who in turn will become useless parents (working or not). Women, more than anything else, need to be trained for employment because the time of relying financially on your husband is long past. They need to be able to comfortably take care of their children once hubby gets a permanent itch for other women or the local marfish/Cafe or takes leave of his senses. In my view, an educated and employable/employed woman is a huge asset to her family, and more importantly, to her offsprings. :cool:

Originally posted by NGONGE: ^^^^ ^^^ Leave the boy alone, spinster. You bring shame to Somali women folks. Eighteen years old and still not hitched! You must be ugly, you must. :eek: :eek: I. Am. Not. Ugly! *Bursts into tears*

^^ Will do, as soon as you stop looking at the mirror, you vain dandy.

Goodness people, let me have a cup of tea before aad igu bilowdaan. Zu, I don't know about trends but I always cringe at old posts of mine. I was a sap. A sugary sap. A diabetes warning. Sappiness aside, it's interesting to note just how much I have changed in the last 4 years. Posting on SOL is like keeping a diary.

Originally posted by Khalaf: Ahura , first insecure now “expectably†narrow minded :confused: ….u got anything good to say about me :mad: Khalaf, I was trying to tell you, as politely as possible, that your faarax-mentality leaves a lot to be desired.

Wait, am I reading it right? A hormonal teenager has kept it in his pants for five years? Will wonders never cease? Preedy, it's natural for people to grow/drift apart, especially after a lengthy association when so young. You'll be alright, dear. Try to focus on yourself and improve and enjoy your life.

LoL...'course you are! Oh Glamour...the last two issues are still unread somewhere in my room. Just haven't had the time. I'm trying to prepare for Ramadan as well, lessening my food intake, trying to catch up on lost days from last year etc etc. I have also booked the first week of ramadan off, I'A. I hope you've put your faarax on a fattening-up programme.

^ Well, of course. Keeping the same old knickers for ages is unhygienic and nasty. Welcome back, dear. You have been missed. Am I to assume you have gotten hitched to a 'bakoorad' in your absence?

I don't know what worries me more, finding your nephew's answer reasonable (what's the actual answer then?) or finding out you're an abti.

Originally posted by Khalaf: Look walaalshiis a woman should get marriered early why? Cause yall have an expiration date! No hard feelings but its the reality. U may have lots of choices now keep saying uff to every brother….then bam u are in your 30s…still no man…and u will become a charity case…take any dude that wants u! U remind me of my cousin I dont know if u got her beauty, but damn this girl is so beautiful, talented, incredibly smart, professional job, good heart but every brother she says uff to…even tho she wants marriage. Calaf she says she doesnt c the one!….maybe but get moving time is ticking! Naden, that is the ugliest dude :eek: ….monkey looking dude.U like dark skin and big muscles? How about light skin..tall and skinny? U are joking….women specially our women don’t like younger men they want a man to tell them what to do and take control I c it walaalhi….would a 26 yr old Somali woman be with 19 or 20 yr old brother? NO! They c u as little kid!!! This here is a case of you can take the brain out of the faarax, but you can't take the faarax out of the brain. Khalaf, your outlook is expectedly narrow. Bishy, that's a fab age. You should enjoy the fruits of your labour. All too soon you'll be giving up everything good to bear ugly children for a self-deluding man. Just as nature dictates.

Originally posted by Xoogsade: Some men prefer women who earn lower than they do while other men do not share the same views or care if a woman earns millions of dollars. The latter group know no amount of money can be a substitute for their manhood. Urm...so, which group do you identify with?

I'm agog actually. The girl only mentioned having an enviable job and BAM WHAM BAC DHAC...waad xag-xagateen miskiinada. What sort of reaction would her salary garner?

**Hands Bishy a soothing balm for the claw marks on her back** Tut tut...

Oh dear.

Your problem is that you actually listen to your relatives. Big mistake.

^ I'm hoping the boss was female. What's wrong with Rudy these days? :confused:

^^ I would like to see you try. *Smirk*