^ lol. I got Mother Teresa too.

What a beautiful day! I hope we've seen the last of snow but I'm also not looking forward to that unbearable summer heat. Spring is just right. It should last a little longer.

Just viewing a list of the topics at the conference... Causes of Youth Perversion Imâm al-Madîna al-Munawarrah 'Abdul Muhsin Al-Qâsim How Muslims Should Deal When They Differ? by Shaykh Mohamed Ibn Uthaymeen The Seven Under the Shade of Allah (SWT) by Yahya Adel Ibrahim Advice To The Students of Knowledge by Shaykh Mohamed Ibn Uthaymeen Tarbiyah: The Key to Victory by Shaykh 'Alee Hasan al-Halabee Seems like it's going be to an interesting conference....as these youth conference usually are. I really wish I heard about 2 days earlier tho...no worries still. I plan on making it to the first two days at least, insha allah....and I'll be dragging along a certain somebody...girl, you better clean your calender for that wknd... it's been a while since we both been in that environment...er together at least.

BMW= Black Man Working... OB/GYN = Oh Boy, Got Ya Naked ...

Originally posted by runaway^virgin: That's deep!! they were really old, I wonder who changed their teeth or anything that needed to be changed? Lol! She prolly did all the changing & cleaning till she croaked. And they say the guy had it bad :rolleyes:

I've never actually seen the Bachelorette before the Monday night finale. I was just flipping through the channels when I came to it...I saw the poor guy getting out the ring saying, "so what should I do with this?" ... What a bombshell she dropped on him. I felt sorry for the cutie. I don't follow AI either. I think all these reality tv shows are getting out of hand. I might enjoy the first one ... but I won't sit around for the following series. It's just the same thing with a little twist thrown in.

Inaa Lillaahi Wa innaa Ilayhi raajicuun... Allaha u naxariisto, samir iyo imaane Allaha ka siiyo cideeda.

Originally posted by Nin-Yaaban: Wuxuu go'aansaday inuu naftiisa badbaadiyo oo uu abuurto nolol cusub. Nin rag ah keliya ayaa go'aankaas gaari kara. Wuxuu furay islaantii. Don't refer to him as 'nin rag ah', becaus nin rag ah doesn't pack his things and leave his family when things get rough. Otherwise, couldn't help but at the rest of your story. It's rather amusing. You probably meant for us to take offense, but it's nothing new. There's always a sucker lamenting about Somali girls online....isn't it exhausted? :rolleyes: Now I think it's time you followed in your friend's footsteps.

Hasna I agree, that was a very powerful and moving film. I don't think I've ever cried at a movie, but I couldn't hold back the tears while watching this particular film. I guess because it has opened old wounds, knowing that our people have faced a similar circumstance.. One question still rings in my mind and that is, how can people be so cruel? The same question asked once by Paul's friend. Pay special attention to the scene that the Nick Nolte is talking to Paul "We (the west) think you're dirt, less than dirt, you're worthless. You're not even a nigger — you're an African." Sadly, that is the answer as to why the world turned a blind eye to this massacre.

Salaams, I came across this quiz in a Islamic site and figured it'd be a good thing to try here. Hopefully, this will help you to learn about yourself and your behaviour as a Muslim woman. Anyways, try the quiz and also read about ways to improve yourself. What Type of Sister are You? Imagine yourself in each of the following situations and answer truthfully what you would do, choosing the answers a, b, c, or d. Then score yourself to find out what type of sister you are. 1. While walking down the street, you see a sister-in-Islam, who is unknown to you, coming your way. Do you: a) not give salaam (greeting of peace), instead you go about your business. b) smile at her then if she says salaam to you first then you will say salaam to her. c) agonise over whether you should say salaam then wish you had given her salaam because it is too late - she is already gone. d) say salaam to her. 2. You are sitting in your car and are about to drive off, when a sister-in-Islam whom you don't know, knocks on your window. You wind your window down and she desperately asks if she can get a lift to the next suburb. Do you: a) ascertain how desperately she needs to go and only then if it was on your way that you give her a lift. b) give her a lift but you notice how far it is and you keep checking the time. c) without hesitation you give her a lift. d) not give her a lift, afterall, she could be some mad woman - you can never be too sure these days! 3. Your sister-in-Islam, who is in some sort of financial difficulty, says to you, "I need fifty dollars", and you have in your possession $50. Do you: a) asks her what she needs it for. b) give her the $50. c) pretend you didn't hear because she didn't actually asks you for it. d) tell her, "here, take $25." 4. You have bought a favourite food which you have been craving for. Just as you are about to eat it your favourite sister-in-Islam knocks at your door. You open it to find that she has brought another sister-in-Islam that she wants to introduce you to. Do you: a) invite them all to share your food. b) put your food away but when they are leaving you call your favourite sister-in-Islam aside to give her some of your food for her to take home. c) excuse yourself for a moment, then eat as much as you can of the food to satisfy your craving, then invite them in to share the remaining food. d) wait until they all leave so that you can sit down to enjoy your food. 5. Your sister-in-Islam has been admiring your new dress. Do you: a) give her one of your old dresses that is similar to this one but not as nice. b) wait until you have worn it a few more times then give it to her. c) wait until she asks, yet hoping that she doesn't. d) give it to her as soon as you can. 6. Your sister-in-Islam wants to ask you for a favour. Do you say to her: a) "What can I do to help you?" b) "It depends on what you asks me for." c) "I don't know if I can do it." d) "If I can then I'll do it." 7. You have just done your sister-in-Islam a favour. Do you: a) feel good that you were able to do it for her. b) thank Allah for your good deed. c) feel proud that you have done a good deed. d) feel that now she owes you one. 8. Someone has just praised your sister-in-Islam. Do you: a) rush over to tell her immediately. b) tell her when you next see her. c) forget about it. d) tell her when you remember about it. 9. Your best sister-in-Islam is unmarried but she really wants to marry. However, she cannot find anyone. Do you: a) tell her when you know of someone available. b) offer your husband to her (for her to be a second wife). c) console and commiserate with her. d) go out of your way to find her a husband. 10. There is one fault that you notice in your sister-in-Islam. Do you: a) tell other people about it. b) confront her with it. c) make excuses and allowances for her, as we are all human and very few of us are without faults. d) become suspicious of her character. 11. You have been entrusted with a secret from your sister-in-Islam. Another sister-in-Islam asks you about it. Do you: a) admit knowledge of it but refuse to divulge it. b) hint at it without giving it all away. c) tell her, but also tell her not to tell anyone else. d) deny any knowledge of it. 12. Your sister-in-Islam has angered you. Do you: a) tell everyone about her faults and secrets and never forgive her. b) refuse to talk to her at all because you will never forgive her. c) seek refuge with Allah and refuse to talk to her for 3 days. d) seek refuge with Allah and forgive her immediately. 13. While discussing the correct way to raise children, you disagree with your sister-in-Islam's view. Do you: a) insist that you are right and she is wrong. b) tell her your viewpoint then keep silent on this topic. c) tell her that you are right then change the subject. d) have a heated debate about who is right. 14. You have been told, "So and so said that you are not a good Muslim! She said......." Do you: a) find out who said it then say some things about that person. b) ignore it and immediately change the subject. c) listen to all of what is being said then ignore it. d) listen to all of what is being said and find out who said it then ignore it. 15. Someone is saying nasty things about your sister-in-Islam. Do you: a) stop them from saying anymore. b) listen to it but you hate what is being said. c) go somewhere where you can't hear it. d) join in the discussion. 16. Your sister-in-Islam insists that you tell her her faults because she sincerely wishes to improve herself. Do you: a) recount all of her faults including the ones she already knows of then and there, regardless of whether you are in private or not. b) advise her then and there, regardless of whether you are both in private or not. c) recount her main faults then and there. d) advise her gently when you are both in private. 17. Your sister-in-Islam comes to you and advises you in private. Do you: a) get annoyed because she noticed your fault. b) thank her and accept her advise and try to improve yourself. c) become offended and angry at her and tell her her faults. d) listen to her advise, accept it then ignore it. 18. Your sister-in-Islam needs to use your telephone but is too shy to ask. Do you: a) insist that she uses your telephone after you have found out who she wants to call. b) insist that she uses your telephone. c) pretend you don't know about it. d) insist that she uses your telephone to make a local call but if it's a long-distance call you ask her to pay for it. 19. While walking down the street, you see a sister-in-Islam fall down. Do you: a) rush over to offer help. b) wait to see if she can get up by herself, if she can't then you offer her your help. c) wait to see if anyone will help her, if no-one helps then you offer her your help. d) go on your way because you don't know her. 20. When you agree to meet your sister-in-Islam at a certain place and at a certain time, do you usually: a) arrive an hour late. b) arrive 1/2 an hour late. c) meet her at the appointed time. d) arrive 5 to 10 minutes late. Scores: For each answer that you have chosen, write the corresponding score for that question, then tally the total to find out which category you have scored. 1. a=1, b=3, c=2, d=4. 2. a=2, b=3, c=4, d=1. 3. a=2, b=4, c=1, d=3. 4. a=4, b=3, c=2, d=1. 5. a=2, b=3, c=1, d=4. 6. a=4, b=2, c=1, d=3. 7. a=3, b=4, c=2, d=1. 8. a=4, b=3, c=1, d=2. 9. a=2, b=4, c=1, d=3. 10.a=1, b=3, c=4, d=2. 11. a=3, b=2, c=1, d=4. 12. a=1, b=2, c=3, d=4. 13. a=2, b=4, c=3, d=1. 14. a=1, b=4, c=3, d=2. 15. a=4, b=2, c=3, d=1. 16. a=1, b=3, c=2, d=4. 17. a=2, b=4, c=1, d=3. 18. a=3, b=4, c=1, d=2. 19. a=4, b=2, c=3, d=1. 20. a=1, b=2, c=4, d=3. Now read the category that you have scored (scoring totals are based on the Chi-distribution curve): 71-80 = Excellent Sister Praise be to Allah that we have a sister-in-Islam like you among us. You know the true meaning of sisterhood. You are an excellent sister to everyone. To you, a sister is any woman who is Muslim, regardless of race, nationality or whether you know her or not. If a sister needs your help, you will tirelessly help, even if it means you will have to forgo something just so your sister can have it. You prefer your sister to yourself because you put her needs before your own. Once you have helped your sister, you thank and praise Allah for giving you the opportunity to do a good deed. You are humble and are patient towards your sisters. You do not pick faults with them nor do you gossip about them. Everyone wants a sister like you! Al-Ghazali calls this the 'third degree' of brother/sisterhood, which is the highest level. There is limited counselling at this level since you are content with Allah and whatever He has given you, and you are at peace with people and yourself. The main recommendation is to continue to make duas (supplications) to Allah to keep you on this true path, and to continue to praise and thank Allah. 51-70 = Good Sister Praise be to Allah that you are a good sister. You treat your sister as you would yourself. Whatever you have you share it with your sister. You feel upset because she has not got something and so you share it with her equally. Al-Ghazali calls this the 'second degree' of brother/sisterhood, which is the middle level. What stops you from attaining the highest level of sisterhood is your inability to place yourself second to your sister. Something else which stops you from being an excellent sister is that although you treat your sister as you would yourself, you limit this treatment to the sisters whom you know closely. Those sisters whom you do not know, you treat as mere acquaintances. How, then, to overcome these two obstacles? As to the first, use the affirmation, "My sister's needs come first". Also, always ask yourself, "What does she need that I may give it to her?" If you constantly have these thoughts foremost on your mind then you will remember your sister and her needs and will try to fulfil them as if they were your own. That is, you will fulfil them 100% and not merely 50%. Similarly, as to the second obstacle, say to yourself whenever you see a sister that you do not know, "She is my sister-in-Islam. I must say salaam to her". After you have said this to yourself then immediately say "salaam" to her. The reason for this is clear in the following hadeeth: Abu Huraira ® reported in Sahih Muslim that the Messenger of Allah (saw) said, "By Him in Whose Hand is my soul, you will not enter Paradise until you have iman (faith), and you will not have iman until you love one another! Shall I not guide you to something which if you do it then you will love one another? Spread the greeting of salaam amongst yourselves." Once you say salaam you will begin to love each other, and once you love one another, you will begin to treat her as if you have known her all your life. Finally, like with all other things in your life that you want, you must supplicate to Allah to strengthen your sisterly love to others. Ask Allah to make you selfless so that you can put your sisters' needs first. Now go on to read what it says under 'Excellent Sister' so that you may learn from it. 21-50 = A Sister Praise be to Allah that you are a sister. You treat your sister to whatever you have in excess. That is, if she needed something and you have more than you need to satisfy your own needs, then you will give it to her. Sometimes you are a good sister and at others you are not so good - it depends on your moods and needs. Al-Ghazali calls this the 'lowest degree' of brother/sisterhood. Obviously the one thing that stands in your way of becoming a full-time good sister is the satisfaction of your needs. To overcome this shortcoming, you need to learn to give your sister what she needs spontaneously without consulting your needs first. Ibn Umar ® said that a sahaba ® was given a sheep's head to which the sahaba ® said, "My brother so and so needs it more than I do". And so he sent it to that brother. That brother then sent it on to another. Thus it was passed from one to another till it came back to the first sahaba ®, after it had gone through seven hands. Although the sahabas ® were all hungry, each one had thought of the others first. This is how it should be. To get into the habit of thinking like this, whenever you have something, say to yourself, "My sister so and so may need it more than I do," then pass it along to her. Now read under 'Good Sister' and learn from that, then make supplications to Allah to help you to reach that level of sisterhood. 1-20 = Not A Sister You should learn to praise Allah so that He will purify you. The minimum requirements of a Muslim female is to be a sister to other Muslim females. If you come under this category then you are not a sister. You do not understand what it means to be Muslim. Being a Muslim means to be concerned and caring for others' needs, especially your sisters-in-Islams'. Prophet Muhammad (saw) said, "When a companion accompanies a companion, if only for one hour of the day, he will be asked to account for his companionship, whether he fulfilled his duty to Allah therein or whether he neglected it." To overcome this deficiency in your character, you must convince yourself firmly that, "I am a Muslim. And as a Muslim I must give my sisters-in-Islam their rights because I will be accountable for it." Next, start reading books on 'Brother/Sisterhood in Islam' and 'Muslim Character and Personality'. Then make supplications to Allah to help you to become a better Muslim, and therefore, a sister. Lastly, read what it says on being 'A Sister' from above. This will guide you to the next step of being a sister.

Good list of topics. Sister becoming Mentors like big Sisters for our youngsters..Programs Anyone involved in such activities now? I volunteered with this Somali youth group nearby and I was told I'd be needed in their big sisters program. I haven't done anything like this before - so I'd appreciate any tips from anyone who has done such programs.

Amiin to the Ducas. Qori, I pray Allah gives you great health and the strength to overcome your troubles.

Originally posted by Legend of Zu: U replied to a Post that is three years Old.... How Silly???...and U even give an advise?...what a silly wiseman?..ur wisdom has transcended beyond time and space huh?... See what, eating Fried worms in a Cambodian cinema, could do to you!!! ..just what I was thinking

Tam, I'm still trying to clear my calendar. I opted to work on Xmas day when they asked if I wanted the New Yr's or Christmas day. Now I realize I need to free my schedule for that weekend. There also 2 weddings that came up the 24th. .. Don't give up on me yet tho, I'm still looking into other options. I'll be in touch. ps, I already registered (a good sign)

Nomads… What your re-action will be if someone asked you this question: Somalia?! Where is Somalia on the world's map? Is it a silly question or a normal one? I get asked about my Country of origin alot as of late. In all honesty, it does not bother me if the person questioning me doesn't know where in the world Somalia is located. Heck, there are some countries I never heard of myself, so why would I assume the person is ****** because they've never heard of Somalia. I've also met people who know alot about Somalia. This one guy surprised me, when he started talking about the different tribes we have and which were the largest...he had some info I didn't even know of. And then he asks me, isn't it enough you share a language & religion, why divide yourselves into little tribes? I told him that is a question I ask myself too. The next time he saw me, he was reading the newspaper, he cut off a page regarding the new Presidential election in Somalia for me to read.

Hey, Welcome back eh... Can't blv they wouldn't let you take those pics, I mean, really, 2am isn't that late to be sight seeing. I guess the Brits don't know how to have fun

Tx for the info Tam.

Lol @ you too.. Meenah Sure, it can be fun & there are usually some hilarious incidents happening - but there are also times I feel like strangling someone and it's almost always some snobbish dude in a lab coat

CON: Sometimes I am mistaken for a nun. SILVER LINING: I get to hear non Muslims refer to me as "sister." ... this just happened to me yesterday. Poor lady thought I was a nun and wanted to talk to me about this traumatic news she received. I thought she was gonna attack me by the way she was staring...but I was relieved to know she only needed me to comfort her. Needless to say she didn't quite believe me when I said I wasn't a nun but a staff person. I've also been mistaken for a ghost ... :confused: ..and been complimented on my supposed halloween costume Tx for sharing FF - it was a good read.

Fortunately, I have not suffered a severe illness that required hospitalization, nor have I dealt with Somali patients as a healthcare worker. But I'll attempt to answer some of your questions. 1) Who should a nurse go through to get accurate information regarding health regarding Somali's? If you're asking about health information about Somalis in general I would suggest you seek the help of a healthcare provider who is familiar with Somalis...or maybe even the aid of Somali community organizations. Perhaps they can provide you with health stats regarding Somalis (if that is what you're looking for). But if your question is about obtaining health information from a Somali patient, I would say the best way to get this info is to get it directly from the source - the patient. If there is a language barrier, the help of an interpreter can be obtained through the hospital. (As far as I know) 2) What are Somali people's views regarding taking medication, and pain medication? I think there is a problem of non-compliance with the medication regimen. Although the patients know they must take the medication, they might not follow prescribed dosages and frequency, i.e., the onset of the pain has worsened, so the pt increases the dosage. Or the patient has forgotten to take a dose at its prescribed time, so he takes it when he remembers instead of waiting for the next dose and carrying on from there. So in order to avoid such errors, more patient teaching about the medications, disease process and other treatment procedures are needed. As for pain meds, there could be a fear of addiction or dependence on these medications. If you, as a nurse notice your patient's pain is not being well controlled with the current medications, but the patient is not voicing any complaints of pain - you should investigate what is going on with this particular patient. The patient may be thinking he is already receiving a maximum dose of the pain med, while he may just be receiving the minimal dose. Also, explain to the patient other forms of pain meds can be explored. 3) In cases of domestic abuse, what is the best way to get correct information, and what is the best way to help the vicitm? -I guess the best way is to interview the victim alone (away from their abuser) ...I guess this is how you would handle similar cases. 4) What is the best way to get information across? (verbal teaching, pamphlets, pictures?) - Everyone learns different. There is no just one proven way to get information to us. Use a variety of teaching methods that way there is a more likely chance your information will get across. 5) What other cultural tips would be important for nurses to know in order to help take better care of Somali patients? Somalis follow the Islamic faith. Islamic law prohibits the consumption of pork or pork products. This dietary restriction should be included in the patient’s chart/kardex. I also think this restriction should be included under food allergy, this way it is certain the patient will not receive anything containing pork from the kitchen. As you know, hospital food isn’t at all appealing. Tell the patient, family members can bring him familiar dishes from home, as long as the patient isn’t to follow a certain strict diet. Modesty is very important to Muslims. Muslim women cover themselves (from head to ankles). Men must be covered from the waist to knees. Therefore, the typical hospital gown isn’t considered decent. Please provide them with at least two gowns (one to cover the front the other for the back) if possible. Muslims pray 5 obligatory prayers daily. If a patient is able to pray despite their illness, (i.e., not bedridden) they may want to observe these prayers. Provide them with a quiet place to perform these prayers if possible. The Somali community is a very close knit community. If a person among them is hospitalized, be aware there might be many visitors (usually more than 2 at once) for that patient during his hospital stay. I think these are some important tips to keep in mind if you want to facilitate your patient’s well being and aid them in their road to recovery. Hopefully, others will be able to add some more information and correct whatever info that needs correcting from my post. Good Luck. Salaams.

Beautiful poem. I can definitely relate Jazakallahu khairan Meenah ...

Inna lilaahi wa inna ilayhi raajicuun... Underdog, May Allah grant your mother jannatul fardowsa insha allah. Samir iyo iimaan allaha kaa siiyo walaal. & Jazakallahu khairan for the reminder. Totti, Bro, my condolences goes out to you also. May Allah grant your grandmother jannatul fardowsa and may he give you the strength to cope with this insha allah. Sheh, I'm sorry to hear about your state of health. I pray that Allah gives you speedy recovery insha allah. I'll keep you all in my prayers. Salaams

Salaaams Nomads... Wishing you all a very happy Eid. EID MUBARAK!! Gosh, I think I'm more excited than my younger siblings this Eid. Have a wonderful day.

Ooh I love word games 9) double dice (?) two dice (?) 10) 3 degrees below 0 11) Neon Lights 12) Sand in a box (?) 13) An eskimo painting a wall / man's face (?) 14)7 faces 15)I see a lady facing the other way - Im sure this one's wrong & aaaahhhhh You killed my head with the last one...I gotta lay my head down. :eek: Sorry I'd have posted some, but I can't think straight after the colour test!

If I'm working a night shift (as now) - I make sure I arrive @ the workplace early so I don't have to break my fast on the subway. And if it's a day shift, I break my fast @ work. The days I'm off I'll break it at home (my fav days )