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in my opinion i do not see nothing wrong if both sides agree the dowry to be expensive, if he can afford it, why not.i have seen woman asking their mahr to be ice_tea, and few months later they get divorced, and thrown out, they have no skills to live on and can not even support themselves for few days, do not you think if they had asken something valuable,things would have been different, if Allah did not set a limit for the dowry, who has the right to do so. if your wife-to-be asks you more you can afford, you can negotiate with her and come up with something that you both agree on.and to those who say mother of the believers' dowry was so little, i think they were marrying a prophet, so they were sure, he would treat them well, unfortunately we can not say the same thing about all men.