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In the end, returning home is the most logical option for any Somali person. No matter how hard you work, study and contribute to society, one exploitative/terrorist gang is all it takes for that host country to treat you like an alien, and for everyone to start their psychological babble; is it their culture?, is it their mentality? blablabla. Islamophobia is rising in the west and Somalis because of a few dumb fools now find themselves in the spotlight of every pathetic right wing gang. Evendo I have never felt any prejudice in either Holland or Britain (since they are in many ways light years ahead of most countries in the west, which in some cases are more tribalistic/ethnocentric than us), I cannot help but feel connected to the backlash Somalis in places like Scandinavia find themselves in(like the Malmo shooter recently, many of his targets were Somali) which makes it hard for me to picture myself raising a family in the west. The saying; home is where the heart is, fits my sentiment very well. When you live in a country where everybody is like you, there is no fear of a backlash because one group/individual sharing your ethnicity broke the law, there is no prejudice, there is no media harrassment etc. Somalia is 637657 sq km in size, around 100000 sq km of that is unstable, which leaves another 537657 sq km for us to return to one day. Somalia is an extremely beautiful country, from her historical heritage, to her epic landscapes, and her many growing cities, the opportunities are endless, if only you manage to shake off all the negative HYPE surrounding it.

Kamaavi: 51 words ---- Disqualified Nuune: 25 words ---- Disqualified Mr.Somalia: 551 words ---- Disqualified

Why do I get the feeling that the both of you will end up with handsome but broke/struggling farahs, that have you completely under their spell. What happened? The best Meher btw is buying a house in your wife's name, meaning if there is a divorce, the house is hers. Its about financial security, £10,000 won't last you very long.

-Pre-Eid: Pinned £450 Cash to purchase a new laptop on Eid day and so put it in my pocket. -Post-Eid: £10 left in my pocket and no laptop. Two thousand little Ali Baba's robbed me, I should have kept it in the card.

btw listen to Juxa please, this mission to suck your loved one dry is probably the biggest TURN OFF for any man. Trust me, I will give mine what she deserves, which inshaallah will be a nice number, and if I were to build a business empire in the next ten years, I would give her half! but if she emulated some of you guys here, I would really rethink what i'm getting myself into, and try 'Go Compare', just incase.

She take my money when I'm in need Yeah she's a trifling friend indeed Oh she's a gold digger way over town That dig's on me http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OaVjVdh_xoE

Some of the best looking sisters I know are 30 something, infact I used to have a major crush on one lol, would have gladly become her toy boy. Time is fake though, be part of this systemised timeline, but don't believe in it!

Let's play a game of writing short stories with a maximum of only 50 words at our disposal. I will start: Today would be the day, finally she would be mine! I picked up the knife, and approached where she was standing. I was nervous, as was she, but I marched on, nothing would stand in my way. I grabbed her hand, and we locked eyes. Together we sliced our weddingcake.

^Marx is your self-depreciation at such a low level? caadi iska dhiig niyahow.

Originally posted by Ismalura: [QB] @ Elegantly sorry abaayo, this things happen. Most men (Somali or not) have gotten away with mistreatment of women for so long. You may not have see one but trust me there are many great Somali men even though the 'bad' ones out number them. Outnumber them??, cadubillah, probably one of the most disgusting generalisations I have encountered in all my years on SOL

Khayr insha-allah.

^^Good luck sis, I hope you have the wedding of your dreams, congrats! Aaliyah, the wedding is just one day, and your right a person is entitled to cherish it for the rest of their lives, but should that come at the expense of the 364 other days of the year that follow? I never stated a person shouldn't have a beautiful wedding, but if you know in advance that spending £50,000 could lead to serious trouble, why ignore it? If your financially stable, perfect go for it!, but if your not, and on top of that expensive wedding are planning on getting a house of your own, new furniture etc etc you could easily see yourself fall in the black hole of a serious debt crisis, this destroys marriages, this destroys families, no amount of staring at that picture album of your wedding that you cherish so much will change that reality. I personally don't believe in this 'a day to cherish for the rest of your life' stuff, it sounds like your throwing in the towel before the marriage has even started; one day being exceptionally wonderful, the rest mediocre? A couple deserves more than that, you should recreate such a day atleast twice a year, and go on a new honeymoon atleast once every three years. Keep it fresh and exciting through calculated planning.

Originally posted by Juxa: lol@ismalura, i agree with you by the time you 30 you should be able to pay 100 geel yourself it is mere $700 each kun lagaa bixiyo beyba aheyd in my view In medieval times you could build an elaborate Castle for $700, so we gave our beautyqueens the equivalant of one hundred Castles.

We like to flirt, its in our genes, our fathers did it back in Somalia everyday, it doesn't automatically mean we want to do more than that, we all have sisters, the majority of us treat you the way we want other Somali men to treat our sisters. It's just an innocent acknowledgement of your beauty, your mothers knew this in peacetime Somalia and didn't mind. Why do some of you strike a playful brother mercilessly with your war hammer and shatter his complex soul? I fear Ibti has turned those twenty brothers into 'Hasbeens', they were going somewhere great in life, but now they have lost the will to live. You did that, now own up.

Dear sister, plan your wedding, but remind yourself that there will still be life the day after. Most soon-to-be-brides I have spoken with are convinced they are going straight to heaven on their wedding night(nada pun intendido), forgetting their real lives begins when everything calms down. You don't want to wake up with a big bill to pay, trust me this was the achilles heel of a lot of couples who loved eachother, yet the money problems suddenly made them spot all the small things they dislike about eachother and their families, and in their minds it magnified a trillion fold, ha!, now their divorced, and the ones losing out in the end are those cute little babbies, may Allah (swt) make the future easy for them. If you can afford it, do it, if you can't, use common sense.

Nanowrimo: 19532 words Can relax for a few days now, lets see whats on the silver screen tonight. :cool: Skyline looks interesting.

I think the mystery person is Sayid Somal. The heavy voice gave him away.

Originally posted by Aaliyyah: quote:That's not fair Aaliyah, there are 100 thousand Somalis in the US, the majority law-abiding, the majority are productive citizens. The ones doing this disgusting practice and the cowards they served probably number less than 100. I am not saying all somalis are bad. And, I am not sure where you got ur numbers abt most somalis being law abiding citizens. Almost anywhere with large somali populations have shown to have negative effects on somali children/youth. So I stand by my comment...and life is not fair Adam lol salaam You are blowing things out of proportion, as disgusting, mindblowing, horrifying, cadubillahi invoking the subject of this topic is, in NO WAY can you use this as stick to beat the entire community with, THE VAST MAJORITY are not pimps, drugs dealers etc. If they were, this wouldn't be a reality: Exhibit A http://www.somaliaonline.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?/topic/6/15332 Exhibit B http://www.somaliaonline.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?/topic/6/7156 Life is not fair, true, many of our people would prefer pressing the RESET button and prevent the civil war from happening that made us spill across the world, but it did happen and the vast majority of us are doing the best we can to succeed, with the resources we have. The Irish immigrants of the past went through the same social ills as we are going through today, there is nothing weird about us. We are an ordinary people in extraordinary circumstances. btw do you live in a Somali community mise Johnson iyo Johnson are your neighbours ?

Originally posted by Ismalura: quote:Originally posted by Agent -12345: Some people talk just for the sake of talking, if a Somali person's mindset, profession and lifestyle in their minds is not compatible with another Somali person, then its simply not compatible. His example - where he eavesdropped into a conversation - is just ridiculous, how does he know these girls have actually gone out and looked for a potential spouse?, instead of dumping all of us in the Khat gang. Waiting for a Somali Prince while locked in your Castle, won't get you anywhere. You gotta make the effort, you have to look in the right places. If you want a religous one go to the mosque, if you want a retarded one go to the club, if you want an educated one go to the library. and take off those blinders + shake off the whispers of your friends. 9 out of 10 girls eagerly sabotage one anothers' chance at luck. So what should a girl do when she goes to the mosque or library? Seriously? You approach your target, if he is interested, cool! If he's not, looks elsewhere.

I think Somalis thrive on negativity, a new trait that was alien before, but now fully ingrained. Viva Negative City!

Ah it has started again, the attack on the Somali fathers. FYI there are plenty of good fathers taking care of their kids. In most cases when the father is absent, he has passed over to the next world, or he is cut off in a different country, city or neighbourhood, or most logically he is at work. I don't buy this nonsense about the fathers being the blame, they are an easy target, it seems. Yet they are most prominently featured in books about Fathers that nurture:

Here is Sayid singing Heal the World, he even has a hat with Somali symbols in his room: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOD5N5Mq2Bg What a patriot

Sayid Somal singing Jailhouse Rock on Norwegian X-factor: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijdR5rqasQY