Mire, Thanks for the praise. More poetry on the way. Thanks again.

It was late Sunday night when we said good-bye I knew right then that my heart would cry... You felt so cold, and it hurt me so... I loved you so much, that I let you go... A love so true, it felt so sweet... For a year of my life, you swept me off my feet... I tried everyday, to remind you of my love... For I knew you were precious and sent from up above... I held you every moment... I held you tight... Praying you would always love me every day, and every night But time went on, as it tends to do... And with times passing, I fell even deeper for you... Your love grew tiresome... it tore me apart... I couldn’t stop crying, it hurt me so much... For I longed every moment to feel your gentle touch... I gaze into your eyes, to see only gray... there was no need for words... I knew what you had to say... I held on to you, in the depths of my heart... Regardless of how it tore me apart... I still love you, but time’s mended my heart... But never shall your memory part... And you will always have a special place within my heart... You will always be the first, who touched me so deep... And in my heart, will I always keep... memories of you and me... together for eternity... You taught me how to love and, darling... You will always be my first love.

Faridah, Were you analytic ?...Well, no I thought you were cute ...LoL..Lol... Hope did not offend you by calling you a shrink. I am hardly a polite guy...

Rageh Omaar Correspondent NEWS Rageh Omaar was most recently BBC News' Africa Correspondent, based in Johannesburg. Previously he was Developing World Correspondent from 1998 and covered stories ranging from drought in Ethiopia to devastating floods in Mozambique. Rageh began his journalistic career in 1990 as a trainee at The Voice newspaper in Brixton and then moved to City Limits magazine. In 1991 he moved to Ethiopia where he freelanced as a foreign correspondent, much of his work being broadcast by BBC World Service. In 1992, he returned to London as a producer for Focus on Africa for the World Service at Bush House. Between 1994 and 1996, he worked as a broadcast journalist for the World Service and then became a producer and reporter for Newshour. In September 1996 he undertook a three-month sabbatical at the University of Jordan, where he studied Arabic. He was appointed Amman correspondent in March 1997. Rageh Omaar was born in Mogadishu, Somalia on 19 July 1967. He is the youngest of four children. Educated at Cheltenham Boys College, he went on to Oxford University where he gained a BA Honours in Modern History in 1990.

Faridah, I can see why you are unique & matchless, you do analyze things to death. The same way you would, perhaps, analyze your better half. After all, we do have something in common, we are both SHRINKS. LOL.... See, this topic was never meant to be your ultimate guide for relationships/love/break-ups. Love ya all,

"A mighty pain to love it is, and 'tis a pain that pain to miss; but of all the pains, the greatest pain is to love, but love in vain." -Abraham Crowley "So much of what we know of love we learn at home." -unknown "You don't marry someone you can live with - you marry the person who you cannot live without." -unknown "Love is blind, but friendship closes its eyes." -unknown "Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction." -Saint-Exupery "A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous." -Ingrid Bergman "Love built on beauty, soon as beauty, dies." -John Donne "He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals." -Benjamin Franklin "I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love." -Henry Ward Beecher "Woe to the man whose heart has not learned while young to hope, to love - and to put its trust in life." -Joseph Conrad "True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen." -La Rochefoucauld "Who ever loved that loved not at first sight?" -Christopher Marlowe "Tell me whom you love and I will tell you who you are." -Houssaye "We perceive when love begins and when it declines by our embarrassment when alone together." -La Bruyere "Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all." -St. Augustine "To love another person is to see the face of God." -Les Miserables "Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition." -Alexander Smith "When we are in love we often doubt that which we most believe." -La Rochefoucauld "Sympathy constitutes friendship; but in love there is a sort of antipathy, or opposing passion. Each strives to be the other, and both together make up one whole." -Samuel Taylor Coleridge "Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship - never." -Charles Caleb Colton "The richest love is that which submits to the arbitration of time." -Lawrence Durrell "There is no disguise which can hide love for long where it exists, or simulate it where it does not." -La Rochefoucauld "A very small degree of hope is sufficient to cause the birth of love." -Stendhal "There is no remedy for love but to love more." -Thoreau "Blushing is the color of virtue." -Diogenes "Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time... It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other." -Leo F. Buscaglia "Love cures people - both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it." -Dr. Karl Menninger "Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor... Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting." -Mother Theresa "To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best." -William M. Thackeray "Don't forget to love yourself." -Soren Kierkegaard "If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don't, their love was never yours to begin with..." -Unknown "Love is hard work; and hard work sometimes hurts!" -Unknown "True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime but lust just pushes away." -Alicia Barnhart "You call it madness, but I call it love." -Don Byas "Who says love never lives? Maybe we've never lived." -Unknown "He who loves 50 people has 50 woes; he who loves no one has no woes." -Buddha "Some love lasts a lifetime. True love lasts forever." -Unknown "Love is not blind - It sees more and not less, but because it sees more it is willing to see less." -Will Moss "If love is great, and there are no greater things, then what I feel for you must be the greatest." -Unknown "The eskimos have 52 words for snow because it is so special to them; there ought to be as many for love!" -Margaret Atwood "Love is like playing the piano. First you must learn to play by the rules, then you must forget the rules and play from your heart." -Unknown "Within you I lose myself Without you I find myself Wanting to be lost again." -Unknown "Love is not love that alters when it alteration finds." -Shakespeare "If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you've made me smile, the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand." -Unknown "We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a moment, an hour, an afternoon. But that doesn't diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives." -Unknown "Relationships--of all kinds--are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost." -Kaleel Jamison "Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another's personhood." -Karen Casey "If you judge people, you have no time to love them." -Mother Theresa "If you would be loved, love and be lovable." -Benjamin Franklin

Doctor Phil can you please respond to FARIDAH. KIDDING....... I would agree with Kool_Kat. Although it was mutual decision to end the relationship, they may still be bitter about the failure of it. CAPISH...

MM.... Let me think. I don't want to brag yet the truth must be told. H andsome (In Looks), onest (In Relationships) A micable (Socially), lone (in Companionship) N asty (Only in bed) S ympathetic, incere, ophisticated (In Life) O pen (In Friendship) M ethodical (In Work), uscular (Physicaly) E livated, nduring (In General) There you have it. When I look back I must conclude I am some piece of work.....KIDDING... but it is all true. Love ya all....

Faridah, I never said it was that linear. Consider the preceding sentence "For most of us who experience a breakup a normal grieving period will occur" This means most of (Not all of us) us will go through that process. I, however, agree that there are cases where individuals concerned mutually cease their relationship. Kool_Kat, Nothing is easy and straight in life. BTW I like your nick. :cool:

Unless you are one of those fortunate few who met their soulmate in grade school, married right out of high school, and spent the next 60 years in wedded bliss you are going to go through what millions before you have gone through, and what millions after you will go through - a broken heart. The pain experienced during a breakup is as individual as the millions of people who go through it. While some simply shake the dust off and get right back into the dating game, others are left so devastated that they never date again, spending the rest of their life in bitter solitude. Why the difference? Could some of us just be stronger than others? Do some people love harder than others? Are some loves more connected than others? For most of us who experience a breakup a normal grieving period will occur: Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and finally Acceptance. But for some, the grief and devastation are so severe that they end up hospitalized, and even suicidal. Others remain either bitter or so afraid of getting hurt that they never date again, closing off their hearts to just about everyone. Yet, some don't even grieve at all, subconsciously choosing to simply transfer their feelings for one person immediately onto that of another person in what is called a rebound relationship. Why the variation? Well, a lot of it has to do with our loving style. There are many loving styles ranging from the very healthy, to the desperately needy. While one person may love another in a supportive and healthy way, another person may cling onto their mate simply as a way to fix what they imagine to be wrong with themselves. They use their partner as a method of dealing with their own imagined inadequacies or feelings of unworthiness - feeling good only as long as they are in the relationship. Others simply like the 'high' of being in love. This high becomes addictive to them and they hop from one relationship instantly into another - often times head-over-heels in love by the second date. They recklessly seek 'love' much as an addict will seek a 'fix', and are often so in need of being in love that they imagine their partners to have all the qualities they are looking for in a mate - whether their partners actually possess these qualities or not. Still others simply surrender themselves into their relationships quickly losing themselves and their own sense of individuality, becoming 'the relationship'. Should the relationship end, then shall they, too. A healthy view of oneself, one's partner, and one's relationship is essential to withstanding the ups, and downs, in our eternal search for that special someone to share our lives with.

Here is another favourite song of mine. It is by the artist Bryan Adams. It is called "Everything I do I do it for ya". Enjoy.. Look into my eyes - you will see What you mean to me Search your heart - search your soul And when you find me there you'll search no more Don't tell me it's not worth tryin' for You can't tell me it's not worth dyin' for You know it's true Everything I do - I do it for you Look into my heart - you will find There's nothin' there to hide Take me as I am - take my life I would give it all I would sacrifice Don't tell me it's not worth fightin' for I can't help it there's nothin' I want more Ya know it's true Everything I do - I do it for you There's no love - like your love And no other - could give more love There's nowhere - unless you're there All the time - all the way Don't tell me it's not worth tryin' for I can't help it there's nothin' I want more I would fight for you - I'd lie for you Walk the wire for you - Ya I'd die for you Ya know it's true Everything I do - I do it for you

I don't know how many of you guys like the band ROXETTE. I used to listen to them alot back in the late Eighties(80's). Here is one of my favourite songs by them. It was one of the sound tracks for the movie PRETTY WOMAN. It is called "It must have been love". Enjoy it. Lay a whisper on my pillow, leave the winter on the ground. I wake up lonely, there's air of silence in the bedroom and all around Touch me now, I close my eyes and dream away. It must have been love but it's over now. It must have been love but I lost it somehow. It must have been love but it's over now. From the moment we touched, 'til the time had run out. Make-believing we're together that I'm sheltered by your heart. But in and outside I've turned to water like a teardrop in your palm. And it's a hard winters day, I dream away. It must have been love but it's over now. It's all that I wanted, now I'm living without. It must have been love but it's over now, it's where the water flows, it's where the wind blows