When the light is gone and the darkness comes, When the night is here and the day is done. When you feel the need to hold me close, and that my affection is what you need the most. When you feel lonely and silence falls around, when it feels like your world is falling down. Just call to me and I'll be there, To show you love and that I care. When everyone seems to be coming down on you, and you feel there's nothing that you can do. Just call my name and you will see, that I'll be there to set you free. I am here with you L.L so don't you worry.

I have recently broken up with my long time girlfriend. And since she was so dear to me, I decided to dedicate this song to her. The song is my all time fav and it is called "Let us just kiss and say goodbye". This has got to be the saddest day of my life I called you here today for a bit of bad news I won't be able to see you anymore Because of my obligations, and the ties that you have We've been meeting here everyday And since this is our last day together I wanna hold you just one more time When you turn and walk away, don't look back I wanna remember you just like this Let's just kiss and say goodbye I had to meet you here today There's just so many things to say Please don't stop me 'til I'm through This is something I hate to do We've been meeting here so long I guess what we done, oh was wrong Please darlin', don't you cry Let's just kiss and say goodbye (Goodbye) Many months have passed us by (I'm gonna miss you) I'm gonna miss you, I can't lie (I'm gonna miss you) I've got ties, and so do you I just think this is the thing to do It's gonna hurt me, I can't lie Maybe you'll meet, you'll meet another guy Understand me, won't you try, try, try, try, try, try, try Let's just kiss and say goodbye (Goodbye) (I'm gonna miss you) I'm gonna miss you, I can't lie (I'm gonna miss you) Understand me, won't you try (I'm gonna miss you) It's gonna hurt me, I can't lie (I'm gonna miss you) Take my hankerchief, wipe your eyes (I'm gonna miss you) Maybe you'll find, you'll find another guy (I'm gonna miss you) Let's kiss and say goodbye, pretty baby (I'm gonna miss you) Please, don't you cry (I'm gonna miss you) Understand me, won't you try (I'm gonna miss you) Let's just kiss And say goodbye

Darman good question. When it comes to choosing husband/wife, you need to seriously consider the person you are getting married to, for you will live with this person for the rest of your life. Good sex, good looks, and wealth do not last forever. Moral values, diin, and solid education will not only last but will come handy in raising kids with proper values. Looks and Sex both fade away with age but morals and education stay with the person for the rest of their life. Agreed that most of us blind ourselves from the fact that our partner has some serious problems, when we are attached to them emotionally. However, if we ignore these early signals, I am almost certain that it will lead to divorce. Perhaps it is not surprising to see the rate of divorce increase at alarming rate lately. I don't mean to be sexist but when it comes to this issue, men are more cautious than women. Women, once they fall in love, usually ignore these signals. I personally have seen a number of women with people who smoke, drink and even worse womenizers. Despite all these, they get married to them and have kids. This usually results the new phenomenon known as SINGLE MOTHERS. Men, on the other hand, will not mind having a good time with women who has drinking and smoking problems but they won't consider her to be his future wife. Men are usually after these sort of women for sex only. In some extreme occasions, they won't even consider her for sex. Having said all these, there is always the exception and all women do not settle for badboys. Finally, one needs to consider heavily the consequences of his/her action, particularly when the matter in hand is your future.

One heart alone, makes but a single beat A sound so low and incomplete A heart all alone, waiting to be heard Knows not the beauty or songs of singing birds One heart all alone, knows not love or tenderness It feels nothing, but has emptiness A heart alone, searches for its mate It waits, trust fate, contemplates Until by chance another beat it hears That sound it has longed for all these years Like the timbre of a bass drum It hears an answer, another thrum Two hearts are beating, strong and true The sound grows louder, waiting is through Two hearts are beating, within one another Searching is over, they have found that lover Two hearts are beating, they grow and grow Together forever, never wanting to go Two hearts are beating, as the sun goes down A love true, a love strong, both are bound And as the sound gently fades into night Two hearts are beating, this they know is just right thump thump, thump thump ...

I would tell you today That you are the one that fills my life Whose smile I cannot wait to see Whose arms I long to have wrapped around me Whose lips I live to kiss Softly, passionately, in every way. I would want you to know That you make my heart skip a beat You fill my soul with contentment You brighten my dark skies You fill my days and nights With stars, hopes, and cascading dreams. I would want you to see How beautiful the world looks with your eyes through mine Your eyes light up the sky Your touch paints the Heavens Your kiss creates amazing rainbows Of beauty, sunshine, and life. I would want you to understand That I have always loved you Before I knew there was you Before our eyes ever met Before I found in you Happiness, completeness, and passion. If there were no tomorrow I would tell you That you are the greatest gift in my life Whose love I cherish above all else You sustain me with Your laughter, love, and friendship Before there was no knowing I'd tell you I love you infinitely, without boundaries, and beyond time.

Just to clear the dust...I wrote this so that it will serve as a deterrent(Prevention) for the young somali generation. Our young generation are our future and therefore, is the responsibility of everyone of us to help build a healthier, better, brighter generation.

Sensual, Thanks for sharing this article and I do believe it does exist among somalis. Though there are some somalis with HIV, their number does not compare to the sub saharan African countries. Places like South Africa, Uganda, Kenya have far more AIDS patients than we do but if we continue this unislamic life style our whole nation is doomed. Please visit the following link and see the map of Africa and you will notice that all the muslim African countries have less HIV-infected people than those of Sub-Saharan Africa. http://www.census.gov/ipc/aidsdb/Map2p.gif

Darman, I am neither racist nor a hater but this is a reality man. If you think I am lying visit the following link. http://www.tgsrm.org/HIV-AIDS.html Remember the folks who maintain this site are African Americans and they always mention it in black channels such as BET. They do it in order to save their younger generation. This is real and there is nothing racist about it but you are incapable of understanding reality I suppose. Read my lips again. I said this is not intended for the religous and people who are responsible for their sexuality. I doubt if a muslim african american will ignore the reality, besides they are not the intended audience of my message. I gues you have not read my last posting fully.

Latiif Somalis, before coming to western countries, were very concervative and islamic except for a few bad ones. Sex was not as prevalent (widespread) among young people as it is today. Now to answer your question, I am not suggesting to mess around with somalis, but if you do, you probably have less chance of catching HIV than you would if you had sex with African American women or somali with previous sexual encounters with African American. Remember this statistics is not from my pocket. This is from and Internationally recognized organization called CDC (Centre for Desease Control). Bambina, According to CDC, you have 1 in 50 chance of catching HIV if you have sex with African American without condom and we all know Girls prefer sex without condom. So it has everything to do with race. Read the study again. The reality is, there are alot of somali girls who are having sex outside of their race, specially with black men and might, as result, get infected. If you think I am lying just look around you. How many girls do you hear or see with kids from other races. Equally there are alot of young somali men who are having sex with a lot of white/black chicks. If these trend goes on, We will be doomed as the rest of African American people. I respect anyone including men/women who wait to have sex till they get married but their number is decreasing. One thing to remember, Somalis will never reveal or admit if they are infected with the desease for a fear of being isolated. So be carefull with who you are dating. P.S This message is not intended for those who are religious and more responsible for their sexual acts. This is just a warning but ultimately it is your decision whether to risk it all or not. Remember this is a matter of life and death.

Since there are alot of somali women and men who are shamelessly dating and having sex outside of their race, there is something you should really consider before your wild side takes over. 15 minutes of sex with HIV infected person will kill you. - 1 out of 50 of African American men are infected with HIV. - AIDS is now the leading killer of African American men between the ages of 25 - 44. So before dating or marying any women/men, make sure that they test themselves. Particularly if they were messing around with other races. Or you will lose your dream of happy family and kids for 15 minutes of sex. Please read the article below to see the real scope of this problem. In the United States, the impact of HIV and AIDS in the African American community has been devastating. Through December 1999, CDC had received reports of 733,374 AIDS cases–of those, 272,881 cases occurred among African Americans. Representing only an estimated 12% of the total U.S. population, African Americans make up almost 37% of all AIDS cases reported in this country. Researchers estimate that 240,000-325,000 African Americans–about 1 in 50 African American men and 1 in 160 African American women–are infected with HIV. Of Those infected with HIV it is estimated that almost 118,000 African Americans were living with AIDS at the end of 1998. 21,900 cases were reported among African Americans, representing nearly half (47%) of the 46,400 AIDS cases reported that year. Almost two-thirds (63%) of all women reported with AIDS were African American. African American children also represented almost two-thirds (65%) of all reported pediatric AIDS cases. The 1999 rate of reported AIDS cases among African Americans was 66.0 per 100,000 population, more than 2 times greater than the rate for Hispanics and 8 times greater than the rate for whites. Data on HIV and AIDS diagnoses in 25 states with integrated reporting systems show these trends are continuing. In these states, during the period from January 1996 through June 1999, African Americans represented a high proportion (50%) of all AIDS diagnoses, but an even greater proportion (57%) of all HIV diagnoses. And among young people (ages 13 to 24), 65% of the HIV diagnoses were among African Americans. Prevention Efforts Must Focus on High-Risk Behaviors Adult/Adolescent Men. Among African American men with AIDS, men who have sex with men (MSM) represent the largest proportion (37%) of reported cases In 1999, more African Americans were reported with AIDS than any other racial/ethnic group. To fully see this article please visit the following site. http://www.tgsrm.org/HIV-AIDS.html

Nice one sis...Keep up the good work...Me give you a thump up..na'mean...

Contrary to what you believe, I love educated women. I feel I can understand them better.

Hibo, Not only your food sounds yammy, you too are yammy....lol Is any of the ladies taking note....You will need this that big night....ok Bye...

Sorry I meant I am glad you liked it.

Thanks Bella, I am that you liked it.

1) For all The guy says i love you you belive its true 9 months later, he says to hell with you the baby is a ******* (love child) the mother is a whore all this wouldnt have happened if the rubber wouldnt have torn 2) For all If you think life is bad imagine being a chicken egg You only get laid once You only get smashed once And the only bird that sits on ya face is your mum 3) For Ladies Sex is evil Sex is a sin Sins are forgiven So stick it in 4) For Ladies Men are like public toilets Either occupied Or full of shit! 5) For Guys Smells like fish Tastes like chicken Shut your face And keep on lickin’!! 6) For Guys I like your style I like your class but most of all i like your ass 7) For all Roses are red, violets are blue... I'm in love but not with you... When we broke up you thought I cried But all it was... Was another guy, You told your friends that I was a trick, I told mine that you had a weak dick... I said I loved you And you thought it was true, But guess what baby?! You got played too!!!!!!! Enjoy, These poems are just for a jokes. Do not take the seriously....

Xafsa, For once, I thought you were refering to the SARS, but then I realize SARS only leaves you dead not tired. Good one I liked it.

Scorpion_sista, Please do share with us. I think young people can benefit topics like this. They need to be aware of the risks involved in premarital sex. BTW, I am scorpion too /()()/ / / -/ / --/ C ( ) c C( )c ( ) ( )

Jamilah, I got this through email from friends that I work with. It is simple yet powerful.

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.. 2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.. 3. Follow the three R’s: >Respect for self, >Respect for other’s and >Responsibility for all your actions. 4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. 5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly. 6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great relationship 7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. 8. Spend some time alone every day. 9. Open arms to change, but don’t let go of your values. 10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. 11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time. 12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. 13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past. 14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality. 15. Be gentle with the earth 16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before. 17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. 18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. 19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon. Share these with your friends and relatives and your life will improve for the better. Love ya all.

Here is an article that I find very interesting. You guys might find interesting as well. Do you know that islamic countries have the lowest rate of HIV incidents. This is apparently due to the strict culture that forbids sex before marriage. They applied the same thoery to african countries whose number of AIDS patients is growing at an alarming rate. Please read the article to get the full picture. True Love Waits News Media Center Feb. 25, 2003 AIDS/HIV rate slashed in Uganda after 10 years of True Love Waits Barbara Brake for Baptist Press "I've saved myself for you," Carol and Daudi told each other during their 1999 wedding ceremony. As they exchanged wedding vows at Kampala Baptist Church, this Ugandan couple also exchanged the True Love Waits commitment cards each had signed, promising to postpone sex until entering a biblical marriage. Carol and Daudi met at the Baptist Student Center and fell in love while enrolled at Makerere University in Kampala. One of their common bonds was that both had decided to be sexually abstinent until they married. Daudi decided to remain a virgin until marriage and to marry only one woman despite having a polygamist father. When Daudi's father died, 98 of his children could be accounted for, while other children's whereabouts were unknown. "I want something different," Daudi said. "I want one wife and the number of children I can care for. I want a better life." The couple's first child was born last year. True Love Waits' message is making a profound impact in Uganda where people like Carol and Daudi are saving sex for marriage. The sexual abstinence campaign is receiving credit for a remarkable drop in the AIDS rate in this East African country where the rate of HIV/AIDS has fallen from 30 percent of the population in the early 1990s to around 10 percent today. Government leaders and some HIV/AIDS activists in Uganda cite True Love Waits for much of the success. Sponsored by LifeWay Christian Resources of the Southern Baptist Convention, True Love Waits got its start in the United States in 1993. Word quickly spread not only across America but also to other nations, due in large party to a barrage of worldwide media coverage of the emerging movement in which teenagers sign pledges to remain sexually abstinent until they marry. Uganda is a country where Christian leaders see True Love Waits as a God-sent way to combat the growing menace of HIV and AIDS. Joining with other Christian leaders, husband-and-wife Southern Baptist missionary pair Larry and Sharon Pumpelly led the way in 1993 for True Love Waits in Uganda. They launched the campaign in Kampala on July 29, 1994, with a large public celebration and parade to coincide with the first national True Love Waits celebration held the same day on the National Mall in Washington, D.C. Complete with banners and police escort, the parade of between 400 to 500 youth marched from the city square to Makerere University for the last session of the Central and Eastern African Students Conference. True Love Waits has the attention and support of Uganda's first lady, Janet Museveni, a Christian who is outspoken in promoting sexual abstinence until marriage and the recipient of awards and accolades for her work in her country's struggle with HIV and AIDS. She spoke at the 1994 parade. Last year when addressing the International Christian Conference on HIV/AIDS, she said her husband, President Yoweri Museveni, has set the tone for his government by emphasizing a return to time-tested cultural practices which emphasize fidelity as opposed to premarital and extra-marital sex. With True Love Waits' success in Uganda with the support of schools and religious organizations, some HIV/AIDS activists see abstinence as a prevention model that can be successful in other African countries. In a recent CNSNews.com story, a study by development expert Rand Stoneburner says the Uganda prevention model, which also has included condom use and HIV testing, if used elsewhere, has the potential to reduce the AIDS rate in Africa's worst-stricken countries by 80 percent. Uganda is one of many success stories in the worldwide reach of True Love Waits: • The Baptist World Alliance has carried the campaign's message to its membership of 44 million Baptists in 200 countries. • Campaign materials have been translated into Spanish and French. • More than 220,000 international True Love Waits covenant cards representing countries on every continent were displayed Aug. 1-6, 1995, during the Baptist World Congress in Buenos Aires, Argentina. • As part of the national youth ministers' meeting during Atlanta '96, 350,000 commitment cards gathered from all 50 states and 76 countries were pulled to the roof of the Georgia Dome. About half of the cards represented commitments from young people living outside the United States. Christian leaders from others countries visit Nashville-based LifeWay to learn more about and share their experiences with True Love Waits. In 1995 Fano Sibisi from the Zulu nation in South Africa met with Richard Ross and Jimmy Hester, co-founders of True Love Waits. At the time, Sibisi reported that True Love Waits had been introduced to several cultural groups in South Africa, including the English, Afrikaans, Sothos, Zulus and Xhosas. People from 79 countries around the world have contacted LifeWay about the sexual abstinence campaign. Next on the horizon for the international focus of True Love Waits is an event being planned for Athens, Greece, with informational updates being posted at

If beauty is measured on shortness with light-skin colour and black-greyish gum then I must agree with twisted notion that Eithopian women are the prettiest in Africa. But, if beauty is measured on the unniversal rules, then I must be bias and say Somali Women are the prettiest bunch around. I only need to look at my mom & sisters to prove it to my self. It is true when they say..Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Another yet interesting topic about love. Much has been said about love, much remains to be said about it, but what is clear is that love is still as ambiguous as the day Adamn & Eve fell in love with each other. The word love is broad and it encompasses many things. Lust is a subset of love and Love can exist independent of lust. One can love his/her children, one can love a location or a place, One can love a friend, Just to name a few. In the case of Cilmi & Hodan, It was what I call irrational love. In other words, it is the kind of love that grows without partner. What is irrational about it is the fact that it may lead to stalking, extreme obsession of the other person, or poor health due to insomnia when it is clear that the love is one-sided.

One of my fav... My soul drifts aimlessly in times of hopelessness. It searches tirelessly for meaning and truth ... Yet finds no direction. My heart bleeds quietly in times of loneliness. It yearns to find warmth and happiness ... Yet it somehow eludes me. My eyes seek out visions in times of want. They gaze endlessly through the blackness that envelops them ... Yet they cannot see the light. My ears listen earnestly in times of silence. They search for familiar sounds to comfort and console ... Yet they cannot penetrate the darkness that surrounds me. My arms reach out frantically in times of despair. They seek strength and compassion to enfold me ... Yet they find nothing substantial to enwrap. My mind cries out desperately in times of solitude. It poses intense questions that demand answers ... Yet there are none to be found. My hand reaches out earnestly in these times of confusion. It dials the number of a familiar and calming voice ... And gratefully, my lifeline to sanity ... remains intact.

I wish I could just tell what is in my heart... When you started asking questions from the start... What would you do if you knew? I think of all the signs you've shown... Some were okay, and some were like my own... What would you do if you knew? If I could only say "I am falling in love with you"... What would you do? Would you scream and yell, or run and tell? Or just by chance would you love me back? But still each night when I go to sleep... I'll dream a dream so sweet... It's the dream when I told you "I love you"... And you hold me in your arms and say "I love you too."